Or everyone can be adults and stop with the ridiculous bullshit... "If you make x cry, I'm gonna fuck you up" - because that's incredibly mature. Shut up, fucking brats.
I enjoyed this. I knew Eugene was gay when I saw a video that was straight vs gay on buzzfeed and I was, oh, he’s lgbt but I didn’t realize this was going on.
Eugene, I am 57yo - my name is Tim - I did not formally come out to my family but quite a few know now - I wish I had the braveness to tell my Dad and Mom while they were still alive - thank you for sharing your journey
It's different for everyone. Time and place make a big difference too. Hollywood 2020 = Music video fanfare. Most other places and/or other times = Stilted acceptance, rejection or feigned obliviousness.
Eugene(The hardworking son) Ned(The Loving Father) Keith(The Logical Thinking mother) Zach(Grandfather that you get advice too by calling on the phone)
am i the only one pausing the video to read all the docs? -- it's so clear the Eugene and his team spent so much time dedicated to every little detail of the film so that each shot and each little thing has meaning -- and i also feel so blessed that he's sharing his art w/ the world and letting us see the artistic process of the film
@@ziadifrancesco7946 True if it's about someone else, but people are free to joke about their own depression if it helps them cope. What else are you supposed to do, just cry about it?
It’s like they are actually a family😂 Zach-bewildered younger child Ned-rich dad who spoils his kids rotten Eugene-older child who is loved more Keith-mum who doesn’t want to splash out money
CyberSkiesサイバー when it comes to filming a crane is a machine that will hold the camera so that the camera can still move around a set without the room for human error ie camera shake or something
When Eugene talks about his childhood, how he used to cry a lot and was sensitive, but after gave himself a shell so he doesn't cry anymore, and how he always felt he was bad etc. I was literally shouting in my head, me too, man, me too! I am not American, or Korean, or gay, or a man, but that is just like I was and nowadays I am a perfectionist. I never knew I could relate to Eugene so much!
Omg, I just wrote the above in the beginning of watching this video. But that letter he wrote himself as a younger, where he asked, are you happy? I freaking wrote that when it was a little school project actually in lukio in Finland, I guess high school in the Americas. We had to write a little letter to ourselves for when we are 25, and I wrote that have you became over your depression yet and are you happy? I guess I have a little Eugene in my heart ♥
I want to hug him so bad right now :( I am very sensitive too and admire him for being able to harden his shell so much. I was and still am a crybaby and depressed. i dont want to feel others this way because it's horrible.
Finding out that Eugene was the creator of what I consider Buzzfeed's best videos (generations throughout history, is your life average, historically accurate disney princesses) is just so mindblowing. That all of those were so artistically pushed while also being educational/informative is just so beautiful. All my love Eugene! You've inspired me so much as a future artist!
The amount of symbolism and detail on the video is so genius. The blood and bruises on his face being turned into makeup?? That's so smart. I can't even imagine being so creative.
@@truhanfangirl 😔 the presentation I was supposed to submit was cancelled bc of online school and covid, it's getting pushed back to next pride month and I'm not promised anything which is 😤😤😤😤😤 annoying
Mine was mum I'm bi while sunbathing in my neighbours pool with my sisters boyfriend 😂 her reply was it's just a phase although dont think she meant it in that way and she is totally cool with it
This wasn’t just a coming out video, this was Eugene telling the world that this is him and no one can change that. This was such a beautiful video and I’ll always come back to it and I’ll always be so proud of Eugene for having the bravery that he has. I grew up in a traditional Asian family, the men were always the leaders of the house and the women had to do everything the man said and everyone had to do everything the man of the house, whether that be the dad or the grandfather etc, said. I was born as a female and for my entire life, up until I came out a year ago, I had to pretend that I was just a cis, straight girl. During the time that my parents were divorcing I picked up the courage to come out to my mum, who started crying and telling me that I couldn’t be a boy or even think about being gay because she was scared of what my dad would do to me. For the time that I was still living with my dad, I was beaten almost daily because of something I can’t control until the day my dad eventually had enough and made my sister, my mum and I move to England to live with my grandparents. That was the worst day of my entire life. I packed up most of my belongings, leaving behind my whole childhood and the friends I have known for years and years. I’m glad that Eugene is here for LGBTQ+ people, not only kids but also adults, who think they’re alone in this but we’re not alone. There’s hundreds and thousands of people just like us, maybe not with the same stories or coming out experiences but no one is alone.
Ben Hakim you must feel a lot better now that you’ve said those horrible things to innocent people online. I understand that it might be easy to just say whatever you want behind the screen and you may think that it’s nothing, that what you’re saying won’t affect anyone but it does. These comments could potentially really hurt someone. You could be the cause of someone’s death, the cause of someone’s suffering. Do you really want that? Tell me, from the bottom of your heart, do you actually want that? Do you want someone to hurt themselves because of one of your nasty comments? Do you want someone to kill themselves because of you?
Ben Hakim You don’t give a fuck because you can’t say it to my face. If you actually don’t care about making someone kill themself then I think you should go to a therapist or mental hospital since you’re probably a psycho. And maybe try using that negativity to do something productive and stop acting like a prick 😂😂😂
@@joisu162 Cranes are very expensive, but the only way to achieve certain camera shots. Ned was saying they were 100% behind him and would fund whatever he needed for it to be perfect. Offering twice what he asked of them.
Yeah. I would like to believe that they had a beautiful and amazing period where everyone is who they are on the internet. I have no doubt that they (used to) be best friends. It's sad that the one of them have to go, but I am proud of the tri - try guys for pushing through and keeping true to themselves.
I cried the moment I read this. Been on the journey to love myself again for more than a decade, still on the journey but full with hope that it'll be better and better. Hope everyone who needs the love could felt it! 💜
I'm straight, but a very dear friend of mine is gay. He's known he was gay since a very early age. We met our freshman year of HS (over 20 years ago). I didn't know he was gay. I don't really know at that age if I even understood what gay or straight meant. It wasn't something I remember ever thinking about. A few years after HS, he came out to me. I don't think I understood the importance of him telling me at the time. For me, it wasn't a big deal. By that I mean, he was still the same person I had known, I just knew more about him now. Years later, I visited him on vacation and for whatever reason this moment in time came up. He told me that he had lost a lot of people he considered good friends because he came out. I still have mixed emotions about that. In my mind, he's still the same goofy, caring person I known and grown to love. Why should him being gay change any of that? In September, we will have known each other for 36 years. I was honored and blessed to attend his wedding six years ago, which is literally the only wedding I've ever bawled my eyes out at. He is still a very dear friend to me and will be until the day we leave this Earth. After seeing your Coming Out video, I was devastated. While I believe it will help many in the LGBT+ community, I think it will also help those that are not, but who may have friends or loved ones who are. It gives us an insight to their world and why our acceptance of who they are is so important.
The fact that Eugene suffered so much, but is now in a better place mentally gives me hope that one day, when I'm older, I'll be able to work through my depression and anxiety and maybe find whatever is closest to happiness.
I'm actually the opposite, I try to let myself cry more now. It's cathartic and if you let yourself cry you can get over it faster than trying to hold it in...
I feel so bad now for being like “why hasn’t Eugene been in the videos :((“ cause I realize now that he’s been working so HARD for this project and I’m so proud of him
The people who told him he was less of a role model to talk about his struggle with self hate, emotional moments and self doubt have absolutely no clue why people like Eugene are the best role models. So many kids can look at Eugene, find an aspect of him they identify with, and see his success & see they can be successful also. They can see his inner dialog has been always going but he's gotten through and and is continuing to grow and evolve.
it very much fits into the "toxic positivity" thing. Pretending a problem or a hurt doesn't exist doesn't somehow magic them away. It just lets that wound fester.
When my mom came out to me, she sat 8 y/o me down on my bed and asked, “How would you feel if I was together with a woman?” I simply replied, “If it makes you happy, I’ll be happy too.” One of my favorite memories with my mother.
she must have raised you to be very open and accepting. when i was 8 that concept wouldnt have made sense to me at all. i wouldnt have known it was an option. and i wouldnt have known its okay until many years later. i wish more kids were raised to be open minded and accepting
Spin It Like A Chicken stop being rude. Everyone has different reactions to certain things. Stop wasting your time trying to call it stupid for someone to have an opinion.
@@nindie don't succumb to the false pretense that an opinion is void of error or idiocy, because an opinion can certainly be wrong and they can be stupid. This ENTIRE thing is so fucking dumb and, as much as I like the Try Guys, Eugene is making some selfish self-fulfilling bullshit. I don't care if someone is gay, or does drag, but don't pretend like this is some huge dilemma he faced and don't act like people need a modern role-model for this stuff. Crying over THIS is pathetic. That's an objective truth.
@@spin.chicken are you sure if you don't 'care if someone is gay, or does drag'? you sure sound like anything but that. also, you do realise that coming out is something many, many people still struggle with because of social, religious and cultural constraints, right? being gay still isn't mainstream, darling. people still struggle with it in several places, one being Asia. and for all those who are closeted, Eugene's coming out video did a lot more than just being special and vividly intense. it has every right to receive the credit it does. just like how every person who sees it has every right to be emotional.
That's what I always loved about the Try Guys. They were always supporting towards the LGBT community and I think are pretty comfortable with their own and other sexuality.
I'm rewatching this video and just seeing that little bit at the end is so emotional. As heartbreaking as the "are you finally happy" note was, the emotion that you can see behind that last scene was so overwhelming, you can see all the weight he was feeling and that sort of relief now that he is done with the filming of the video. He's so strong and so amazing, full support to him and full support to you to with whatever you might be going through. Much love ❤️
I think he said, "Kathleen, don't get sad cause this is really sad," not "get Zach." Don't get me wrong, Zach's a real positive person, but I think you misheard it.
It’s also a really good way to explain the intricacies of what a marginalized society could feel like so I like that he explained it because as much as it should be super simple to understand you love who you love a lot of the times there is an a lot of deeper understanding that comes along with that you lose a lot of the intricacies as much as he shouldn’t have to explain himself I’m glad that he got to for himself.
See, its just the opposite for me. Being Gay ISNT who I am. Bitches been giving me grief for years about this, but i came out at a completely different time & place in the timeline of life! Things were much different 20 years ago (and, i miss that)
That's fair, but I think the OP was meaning more that the video explores his life, his experience with suffering, how he explores and understands gender, more than just being attracted to men; though that is the main point.
This explains a lot of why he always wins everything in try guy challenges...he feels so much pressure about being the Asian guy amidst all the white guys and puts immense pressure on doing good, if not better...
Okay but Zach on the phone with them in the beginning wishing he could be there to give Eugene a hug and then SHOWING UP AND GIVING EUGENE A HIG IS THE SWEETEST TBING AWE
As a Christian, I’m so sorry you felt unwelcome or wrong. I’m sorry that “Christians” made you feel like that. I’m so sorry, Eugene. I’m so proud of you and I love your video. Thank you for being you.
@@calemx1637 Good question! We can’t judge others or their relationship with Christ; we don’t know the content of someone’s heart. However, based on Matthew 12:34, those with an evil heart will say and do evil things. A Christian can’t say and do evil things; we’re supposed to love others as Jesus would, and the Holy Spirit automatically compels us to love others. So, hating on someone for their sexuality, regardless of personal beliefs, is evil and wrong. Based on that verse, saying and doing evil things is evidence of someone not being a Christian. That’s why I put it in quotations. Again, it’s not up to Christians to judge others, but when people are claiming Christianity and then hating/being evil to others, it’s incredibly damaging and can lead to misconceptions about our faith. Thank you for asking and I hope that makes sense!
Truely i find so many contradictory christians. They preach love and togetherness that this set of gospel tales and values are to bring people together but people judge everyone. We are all supposedly a product of god’s love. I believe any god worth their weight in gold should judge how we enjoyed our lives and how we affect those around them. The help to hurt ratio
It's usually Christians and other Abrahamic faith followers and this is because the Bible straight up says it's wrong. God spends the entire old testament being violent, manipulative, and full of hate. Nothing can change that. Someday people will stop turning to mam made religions. Then the world will be a fsr better place because people would practical actual love, empathy and compassion.
@@veryboy1371 I think they meant that it was a super sweet moment. Keep in mind that the try guys were helping to fund this out of pocket. After Eugene gives a rousing speech about his artistic vision, Ned and the other guys give in. It's nice. No need to diminish something nice.
Doing and being are so not the same thing ^^ Some gay and even bi people can do drag sometimes. They just explore who they are. Who we are constantly evolves, like you're certainly not the child you were, you grew. Even heterosexual people, open-minded enough, can do drag, even once. We all explore who we are for it helps us to evolve and get closer to all we can be ;)
Can we just take a moment of the last shot before it faded, 26:56, Eugene face seemed to slightly crumble as he was overwhelmed of his achievement and what he is finally doing, but he took a deep breath and touched his heart to calm himself. RESPECT.
Mike Russo But now he’s successful being 100% true to himself. Which is, I’m assuming, an overwhelmingly freeing but also scary at the same time experience.
Zan W. The negative Nancy is probably one of those tumblr “being gay doesn’t change you! Treat them as you always do. Being extra proud of them and their achievements because they’re gay makes them feel insecure.” Or some shit. So to the negative dude: You’re allowed to be proud of Eugene. Like, he literally put MONTHS of effort into making a video coming out as gay. This is something that took so much effort. He accomplished a lot, if not for others, but for his own well-being.
@@Beebee_girl5742 if you feel safe enough to do it then go for it!!!! Being out and proud is amazing but also hard. When I came out as Transgender and gay it was the hardest thing I have ever done but it was still worth it. 😊
I swear when he said he wished he could be there to give Eugene a hug, he sounded vaguely like he was going to cry. I'm not sure if that's true but its moving either way.
@@MsVilecat same...I paused it several times to read as much as possible. It's a good way of seeing all the work that goes into the "behind the scenes" and how the vision goes from paper to real production.
I was raised in a place where “I” was wrong with everything I did, so when I was questioned my sexually, I didn’t know if I was doing it for attention or that I am Pansexual and Demigirl, as well as depressed and insecure about myself. Even now when I am proud to be how I am, I sometimes still think that I I am straight and I am just doing all of this for attention.
GOSH I'm bi and regularly go thro the same thing. "Maybe I'm straight and just doing it for attention". I've found out a lot of ppl go through that but at least we can know we're not alone :) Hope you're doing well!
Eugene saying he hasn't cried since he was a child and AT THE END OF THE VIDEO HE IS FIGHTING BACK TEARS, MADE ME CRY SO MUCH. I LOVE HIM AND IM SO PROUD OF HIM.
"Did you know any kids that were out?" "Only the ones that couldn't help being out. They had a terrible time." as a kid who couldn't help being out, yeah. this got me
This video has really hit me. I'm not gay, but I recently found out I'm autistic at 33. I always thought I was broken and something was wrong with me. I believed I deserved to be hated for being different. So even though my story is different from yours Eugene, this still really touched me in a unique way. Coming out as Autistic at 33 was also not great. This was beautifully done and I am very amazed by all that you have accomplished. You definitely inspire me.
how did you figure out you were autistic? I think i might be autistic myself but I'm not sure... how would I go about figuring that out? I'm already a physically disabled woman (which is obvious when you look at me irl) with depression and anxiety - would another label help? What drove you to get a diagnosis and did it help? Not trying to be offensive, just genuinely curious. Thanks!
@@Karishma_Unspecified my parents got me tested because I used to be really severe. But what makes you think you might be, I'm pretty good at being able to tell if it's autism or not.
