Why I Quit Judging  

I'm not a religious person, but you're filled with so much lightness and laughter - especially these days - it's refreshing. I'm very much an agnostic atheist, but you've hit on a very important part of the human experience that I think people struggle with which is letting others live their life the way it suits them best. My gaze on others and how they live is usually fleeting, unless I'm deeply captivated by how interesting it is which happens rarely. I think it's human nature to acknowledge that certain lifestyles and belief systems don't suit me, but I shouldn't be a beacon of negativity and judgement to those who differ from me, especially if I am not interacting directly with those people. I will admit that I can do a better job of processing the feelings in a healthier way, no matter how short-lived, but quickly moving past those instances seems to work best for me for now. I also think that your perspective is something that aligns with feminism which is that women have the freedom to choose to be traditional or not, and it's okay. If it's okay for them, then it should not be my problem at all.

I’ll never understand judging anyone who isn’t causing harm to others and is choosing a life. It would be one thing if the lifestyle was being forced, but it’s not. why are we assuming that the majority of people get the most fulfillment from working outside the home..? I love domesticity. I had a corporate job for over a decade and I was nearing a mental breakdown. I don’t understand why we pretend capitalism and the endless rat race is so fulfilling when we are talking about housewives but any other time we are sharing 100 memes a day about how much we hate out jobs. Then when we talk about tradwives we get amnesia and act like work is the best thing thats ever happened to us

thank you for this perspective about judgment and boundaries. 🌟💝💎

You said it right, let people be who they are. Being a trad wife is the dream role for some.

Great tips! Thanks Chimdi!

Thank you for taking us through your process, Chimdi! What a beautiful way to acknowledge and parent lil judger ❤

When I was a kid, I remember coming home after school and my mother would be standing in front of the TV ironing my dad's dress shirts and hankies while watching daytime talk shows. She would tell me how I needed to learn how to iron dress shirts and me thinking "oh hell no, I will be the one wearing the dress shirts to work everyday!". I don't think she was unhappy, but I also know that she did not feel fulfilled. It looked like my worst nightmare, honestly. I don't even own an iron.

Not the grinch saying YES. 🤣 this editing is 🔥

Wow, wonderful video. I loved hearing about your healing process, I'll definitely be trying it myself. Thank you.

I love the perspective you took on this tradwife trend. As a clinician I think it's important to reframe our judgements as our own personal fears that we need to address instead of a societal issue that needs to be publicly criticize and condemn.

I autonatically knew who you were talking about when you said black Christian trad wife