Why I will NEVER get married again... |  

Damn Josh, you were a lunchbox back then

She didn’t change. She just got tired of pretending and the real person came out.

Never enter a contract with someone who gets paid to break it

I'll never understand why people say others who don't wanna be married or have kids are selfish??

His life, his choice. His choices aren’t hurting anyone- you do you Josh!

Why does he look 35 in that old picture and now he looks 25, this guy is reverse growing lol

Women get into relationship hoping a man will change, men get into it hoping the woman doesn’t change

I come back to this every six months to remind myself why I didn't get married. Thanks Josh!!

Someone admitting they’re selfish- but not having kids- is not only totally cool, it’s admirable in my book. I can’t stand people who have kids then are self-centered and lousy parents. It’s like, don’t have kids if you’re not going to commit to doing it well

His wife had that “let me speak to your manager” hairstyle🤣😂😂

I'm 78 years old. Never married and never regretted it.

"There's nothing that I get being married, that I don't get by just being in a long-term relationship" ~ Joshua Fluke, 2020

Josh is monitizing his divorce, meanwhile people trashing him in the comments are actually helping this video bc the youtube algorithms favor interactions...GG Josh and hope you dad is doing better

Disney, movies, and music have destroyed many lives.

Be careful Josh, she can still come back to take your money once you become successful. Dont let her know anything about you.

I've watched his marriage video. He married when he was only 19 and with a girl from a foreign country (Finland) and moved there, without previou knowledge of the culture, language, etc. He was also a student and the wife was working and being the only bread winner. A lot of struggles and incompatibilities lead to a painful experience.

I know that a lot of people claim they don't want to hear about your personal anecdotes. "get back to the career advice blah blah blah" but the primary reason I am subscribed to the channel is for the tea, the drama, and the sage advice. I want a video on how to avoid being trapped in shitty friendships.

The thing about lack of intimacy after marriage.... 100% true.

Stay single & stress free brother!!

I'm going to be 56yo, married once, no children. About to get divorced,... Will NEVER get married again. Do not regret the no children thing. There are people out there who never should have had kids. I knew it wasn't for me. "You owe yourself some joy". Amen. 👌

I'm 67 years old, never been married, never regretted it

I see a lot of people who have kids for their own selfish reasons.

My wife & I have been together approx 18yrs but at the store we're still the couple holding hands, laughing, etc - admittedly, we lucked out!

i remember my dad telling me, "a wife is like a hand grenade, remove the ring and your house is gone." back then i did not understand it because i was young, but now after seeing whats happening to ppl i know, i understand what he meant.

A lot of women want to be married but don’t want to be wives..

Jeez if my "wife" called me a "beta male simp" that means she's probably cheating with someone who uses Reddit, I'd be done

I'm 45 years old, never married, no children. I'm focused on myself. I love being single, staying single as long as I live. No alimony, no drama, no debts, no child support, no stress, no divorce, no divorce lawyers, don't have to worry about losing all of my assets.

I'm in my late 40's. I was married for about a decade, with 2 children. I can't say I married too young. I had a rough childhood with an abusive parent. After years of therapy I THOUGHT I was OK and knowing what I really want and need. It turned out wrong. I married an extremely abusive and narcissistic woman, which only came clear a couple of years after we got married. It's been several years since we separated and I have been alone since. Not even a single date. I can't say I am too happy. I'm still a man, I'm not made out of stone. I see beautiful women out there and couples and it does pinch my heart. but I am very weary of getting into a relationship again, for the following reasons: I've been so hurt and abused, something in me just broke and I feel it can't be fixed. I cannot bring myself to trust women OR myself again. I'm a very sensitive person, I can't just DATE. Even in my 20's I rarely dated just for sex/fun, things need to have a meaning. The family unit had a very big value for me, and now it is broken. Forever. I believe not by my fault, but it still makes me feel ashamed. I know many divorced people go out on the market, date, *uck like crazy and have fun. That's just not me. I really can't. I am very weary of bringing a new woman into my life, out of genuine concern for my kids. She'll have to get along with my children, maybe she'll have children of her own. I DON'T want to be one of those mixed families, I can't be a father to a child that isn't mine, I cannot take the place of his father and any potential woman cannot be the real mother of MY children. This world has become very cynical and cruel. We live in a post-feminist society. Women today assert their power over men - which is fine to an extent - but when just a word to the police is enough to get you arrested and removed from your home for weeks without repercussions on false claims, when everything is replaceable, tinder dates are like consumer products... I don't want to be a part of that world. Men especially today are being dealt a very raw deal and stand a lot of lose for bringing a woman into their life. I agree love is a beautiful feeling, and I've been there for a while. It is the elixir of life and probably the best thing you will experience in this life. But sometimes, things just get so broken you can't turn back. Any woman that comes into my life in the future will have to be a proper angel. Very slim chances of that happening and I'm not sure I even want that. Sorry for the TLDR (but if you got here, you DID read - so thank you). I'm sure many men here (and women) can relate.

I have a lot of respect for you choosing not to get married again because believe me it's overrated.

Bro zero regrets subscribing, this guy is one of the realist people out there, thank God that you’re open enough to share your experiences

I don't know why everyone thinks they have any right to ask "why" about anything you do.

You know, I've been married twice. I wouldn't do it again. Never ever.

My sister told me one day, " The reason you stayed young is, cuz you got divorced young and stayed single". I am 51 and i get told i look 30s!

Marriage is a bad business contract. Period.

I understand this cynicism but dam it's depressing it has become like this.

You are a smart guy. My boyfriend and I have agreed we don't want to get married because things are great the way they are. Several years in, we're still crazy about each other. We're older, so no worry about kids. We see all the benefits you listed of not marrying and are happy.

Smart men don’t get married now a days.

You just killed marriage execution style. Most logical break down I've heard so far.

Everything you said … so true and right on target! All people should listen and take your advice to heart!

Love the honesty and openness, thank you!

Whenever I want to get depressed I come here. You never fail me! Thanks man!

HOW DARE YOU MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR OWN LIFE SHAME SHAME SHAME

I'm 46 and have never have been married, haven't regretted it yet.

STAY RED PILL MY FRIEND!

You own a business. She would own more than a half in a divorce settlement.

Josh is realistic, not pessimistic. I am the same way, and find that people always confuse the two.

I should rewatch this every time I think about getting married 😂

This is so far one of the best videos about marriage and relationships I’ve watched on RU-vid. Literally every sentence he said was like words coming out of my mind and heart. Didn’t waste every minute of it! Thanks for all the wisdom shared in this video, Josh!

Marriage licenses need to be like driving licenses, they should be renewed every few years. That way you can choose to renew or terminate without all the legal crap !!

I dont understand the whole "you're selfish" if you dont have kids. The people i know with kids for the most part have them for their own ego reasons.

Great video. Hit all the points. I found this very honest and insightfull. Thank you.

It's the fact that you look way better now than you did back then. Funny how freedom can change a man's life.

I will never get married, thank you for your thoughts.

“It’s better to be selfish and recognized it than to be selfish and have kids” Soooo true! Then you bully your kids because they get in your wasy

I'm 29 and going through a divorce now. I'd like to be in a long-term relationship, but it doesn't have to involve marriage. I'm with you. A lot of women don't want to be married anymore so I don't think that legally binding relationships will be the norm in the near future.

You're not selfish at all Josh. You're an amazing person and your decisions should be respected

Divorce is so ugly and marriage is too easy to get into. I do remember sitting in my bedroom thinking......is this it....is this it? Truth is, spouses are hard to find and most people are not for you. Being human is strange.

She straight up did the "bait and switch"

Also guys, we call this bait & switch.

Josh, i think this is one of your best videos, thanks for your honesty. It actually really helps for young guys who considering marriage in a future. Thanks man

Being forced to pay alimony is so degrading. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.

“She pulled a Britney Spears on me” 😂😂😂

Yes! Totally agree with you! Love it! 💜💚❤️

I’m married with five kids. It’s expensive and stressful but I’d be an empty, depressed soul without them. You can have a good relationship without being married tho. I hope everyone finds happiness. Josh is an inspirational guy and I like him a lot.

Don't ever apologize for having sense. Less common than people like to think.

I didn’t bust my ass in engineering school, pay off my new truck within 2 years and save frugally over the years so that someone can have a retirement plan through me when they decide to leave when they wake up and say “I’m NoT hApPy”.

Just wanna say thanks for sharing your experience. I have learned alot from this, the truth about prenups for example. I'm a 22 year old and I'm glad to hear these different perspectives. I pretty much agree with these statements all the way through. You shouldn't have to have a relationship and be legally bound to love them.

Joshua. Fascinating! We are the same person. Every one of your videos is spot on. Thank you.

Marriage has never been about love. In fact the word love is no where to be found in the marriage contract

Her hair is pre-Karen. Once she gets comfortable, it will be her life's mission to make everyone else uncomfortable.

very insightful video thank you for sharing.

Long term relationships are hard though. It’s not really a ‘marriage’ issue. People are complicated, have needs, change in so many ways, and go through huge life altering events. As time goes on, it is always going to be a grind. Also, if you are going into a long term relationship thinking that you are not close enough to share your money, there’s no hope. It’s good to realise that you’re selfish, but really, that’s the main reason your relationships are going to fail. You HAVE to put the other person ahead of you at least some of the time (and expect that in return).

I've never wanted marriage nor children and people think something is wrong with me. I laugh because I'm happy and know what I want and don't want. Marriage and a family never appealed to me. I love women but I love my freedom more. Of course, people call me selfish or assume I'm gay. No, I'm straight, just don't want a relationship and enjoy freedom.

You are completely right dude. Marriage is broken

Josh, thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you have been through a lot, especially from this as well as your parents. Your content around the workplace has been very helpful for me. I will be sure to pray for you. Seeing all sorts of family situations out there, I don't know why I have been blessed with 8 and a half years of happy marriage. I easily could have messed up it all up given how immature I was. I don't know how we made it through but every year has been better than the one before for our marriage. You are a smart guy and want to help people, keep the good fight going.

Been binging your content for 6 hrs....you speak the truth

"I can't even be with myself sometime", that hit the spot. Man, we are different race from different country, but feelings are mutual.

I think he’s made excellent points. It is difficult to maintain your independence and maximize your potential when you feel obligated to compromise your aspirations. Marriage isn’t for everyone especially if you don’t care about having kids. Happiness and self-fulfillment is not achieved in the same way for everyone. You do you.

One thing about this guy, is that he's not "perfect," but compared to a lot of people who bash him, he's actually going through personal growth.

This video was very well thought out💯! Stay Blessed bro 💯 #Peace

Man i stumbled on your channel yesterday and holy shit. Take it from someone who spends waay to much time on youtube. You're probably one of the realest , honest, most genuine people out there. The way you honestly speak about everything while still being respectful. You're classy, respect

There’s no reason to involve government in ur intimate life

OMG, it was like injecting a failed marriage into my brain! Thank you so much, I couldn't have know these things without getting married.

A good friend and coworker of mine has parents that are married but hate each other. Her mom has a boyfriend and her dad refuses to divorce because he knows that his wife will just screw him over with alamoney.

I’ve always been blessed to miss that marriage bullet.. I look at how miserable people are being married, To always remind me what I’m not missing...

A rose is red, just like how marriage is dead.

I think you’re the most logical person I’ve ever heard. It’s refreshingly real as a fellow ‘realist’ to hear you explain everything is nice. We share the same outlook on children and marriage!!

And another thing people don’t wanna talk about is that marriage ages men

I just wanted to say that if you cohabitate with a woman, even if you are not married, you can be seen as married under the common household law and still lose all of your assets.

I was married almost 17 years. I'll never do it again

Me and you are on point with so many things I relate to you alot sir.

Awesome video man.

There's so many men in our generation opting out of marriage and family that being lonely when I'm older is of zero concern to me.

I agree with completely She's not yours. It's just your turn

Aye bro we’ve all been there! Sometimes we learn the hardest lessons by doing exactly what we don’t want to endure

The remainder of my life is my own. Alone and VERY happy. You learned quite a bit about your "marriage" and those involved. Well done indeed.

You've learned what it took me two marriages to figure out.

Lived together for 20 years, had 2 kids, THEN got married - still together 20 yrs later.

Thats true you are correct!

Your SPOT ON bud. SPOT ON