As a guy, learning how to accept rejection and having an abundance mindset is so powerful. Once you get over that hoop of caring about being rejected, you'll eventually find someone who f***s with you. Also, the greatest lesson i ever learned is you should never need to do to much to get a woman who is truly interested in you to like you. Being yourself, and being a decent person should be enough to actually spark something with some women. If you find yourself doing too much or trying to "win" her over, it'll never work.
I'm done with American women and black women period just thru been through some shit it's time pick up the big stick and keep moving it's best to bite the bullet of acceptance than to be delusional in the land of make believe
@@dominus360 Like, when you talk, show interest, ask questions, express yourself... don't do too much but whatever you do, make it quality and interesting and make sure it shows what you want from her.. did I get it right?
@@zuhairreza Yeah but it's more deeper than that. The fundamental concept of love is not based on 2 people loving each other like most people think. But it's more a case of one person loving and the other allowing him or herself to be loved. -- FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO BE THE ONE ALLOWING A WOMAN TO LOVE YOU -- If you want your relationship (long term / short term) be pleasant, you have to be in passive state 70% of the time. Means she act, you respond. When a woman loves you, she initiates almost everything, conversations, s3x, jokes, phone calls etc.. EVERYTHING is easy She even invest money in you, buying you some random cheap gifts "babe, I saw that mug in a shop, I thought it would please you... 🥰" She will naturely worry if you have eat something, means she will cook for you without you having to ask for it. Men who never experience real love from a woman think they have to prove themselves, jumping through hoops to please her, going on dates, buying her gifts, investing money and stuff... But it's not how you get a woman to appreciate or love you. Woman just love who they want, and you can do nothing about that. It's just, either she chooses you or she doesn't. ( BONUS : Women knows within the first 3 min from your 1st meeting, if you're that guy or not ) In short, if a woman really loves you. All you have to do is respond to her gestures of love. And that boils down to 3 things that are common to every woman in every country in the world: - Her financial investment in you - She initiates s3x at least 30% of the time - She cares if you've eaten If you don't have these three things in a woman, I'm sorry but she's just playing you.
I'm 60 and met my wife of 33 years now in person at a nightclub on the last dance of the night. I have learned over the years that women by nature are passive towards men. If I had not made the move on my wife in that club, who knows what would have happened. Social media, dating apps, and cell phones are the worst things to happen to relationships between man and woman.
Love your honesty and realness man. But I hate to tell you, approaching in real life can go just as badly, if not worse than using dating apps. On apps, the worst that can happen is she doesn't reply. But IRL, there are MANY potential consequences to approaching a girl other than her not being interested. You can have memberships terminated, be ostracized, get a reputation as "that guy" and more. Not to mention the toll it takes on you when you put in the work to get into shape, build your confidence and charisma, only to still get constant disinterest and rejection from women.
As an older woman I can confirm that a man that approach a woman in person nicely and with manners is a winner. The older you get the more looks are not very important
I honestly think you are on the right track in general. Especially with working out and wanting to have a social life. It is needed in the world, especially when it comes to jobs and meeting women like you stated. There are some great women left, but they are too overshadowed by the amount of goldiggers and scamming females out here leading the blind like sheep.
Yea you’re right bro especially with social media you’ll never see the good ones approaching is the only way gonna do my first cold approach in months today
Same here I started to cold approach women and for some odd reason I got lots of numbers and now I really have abundance mindset with women you are going to get rejected it’s normal because you don’t know lots of things has you start to do it often your going to eventually get used to get rejected and it’s perfectly normal for a man to go through this and get your feet in the dirt and get hat experience with them I actually enjoy cold approach women now it’s really exciting
Did that for 7 years. I’ve been making good money for 3 of those years. I still have no beaches. Now I’m just older and my options are slimmer than when I was young. Don’t wait too long
I just approached an chick yesterday she was in her 50's I tried to get her number and I was rejected. The biggiest fear for me was doing the actual approaching. I've gotten over my fear of rejection years ago It was alwayss making the first move and saying the words out of my hard the hardest part for me. Dating apps made people cowardly, male or female.
Yea I think that is most guys I know it is for me, the rejection is never scary you’ll never see them again it’s just getting the words out, I’ve noticed that if I make my feet move then I will do it cuz I can’t just turn around
I did cold approach’s for years. I took a year in 2015 to go out and beat approach anxiety and it worked. Honestly getting rejected in person is easier then the tinder cess pool is not. At least you can initiate in person and instantly know if it’s a go or a no.
To be fair, I don't take anyone serious on those apps. It's just a bunch of people that fake their lifes & appearances. I have also been on dates from those apps. They are all just uploading their own imagination of their own physical appearance. That's not even that bad, but once they start talking I get very quit. I usually do that when they get annoying and talk like a MG. Another thing I've experienced is that the less attractive they are, the bigger their attitudes are. Just safe your energy.
Forget dating apps. I see a women I like and I go over and chat to her then ask her out! What's the problem? Yes, you'll get rejections however some women will say yes!!
I dont think about doing dating apps. The world has turned towards that and i just dont care. It gave me room and space to love my own company. I can focus on my goals without distractions. When im approached i dont eagerly give out my phone number because i just want anybody. If im not interested im just not im not goin to waste anyones time. I dont use people to fill up empty space. Im already full so i smile and nicely decline; like other day when i was at the mall. Good luck and you will succeed and just be yourself 😊❤
I used all the apps years ago and did get some dates but the women were average. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates. Recently tried again this year and it's gotten so bad. Hardly get matches and they hardly say anything. If you're very good looking a guy might get something but for average guys it's dead.
Never used dating apps, but I think it's what the majority of young people use these days. My female friends go on 3-4 dates a week with guys from Tinder, and they get laid frequently through these apps. As a guy who will only approach women in real life, if I meet them through friends or at a bar, which is not often, I have a lot less experience. But that's just how it is for us guys. Women have it easy in dating.
Yes def for women yes but as a guy it’s pointless unless you are super attractive I think if I ever were to do it again I would get professional photos taken and i think I’d have more success but I still wouldn’t rely on just the app
@@CavionWilliams1guys def need professional photos to have success on the apps.. I went from 0 to 180 matches with pro photos from using regular phone pics. I have a new photoshoot tomorrow for updated pics
@@oscarperez5539Apps are really just about looks and who has the best photos. It is competing to see who is the most shallow if we are being honest about it.
I recently uploaded a video on my channel about this topic. I totally agree with you man the dating apps have become polluted with bad people. Also you don't know if the "girl" your talking to online is actually who they say they are.
@@CB12345 the amount of dead profiles and ghosters when you ask for the # or meetup is wild. The entire system is geared to extract as much app time and resources from the males using it as possible.
I met a few girls offline. Don't talk to any of them anymore. They be bizarre. Even if they are half decent with the looks. One of them thought I was gone be in a relationship with her after she fucked me with 23 hours of meeting me 😅
@@daquanmcdonald7104yeah I had that happen with 1 I met online years ago and another tried to do that later but I didn't smash because she was putting it out there too easily. Seemed contrived to me.
I wonder what this "not going anywhere" means. Is it like almost 0 interest? Or you get enough but none of them interest you? Or you get some like one match per month? I am in the last category and that's only because I tried dating out of my own ethnic group, which is typically more difficult IMO. Also I am one of those 98% guys that are afraid to approach, but not because of the rejection fear (at all) but because of my personality - I just don't do anything much for fun lol. I think most women want to a lot more socializing - camping, hiking, taking a trip, going to concert, local fairs, blah blah and we would already have issues right there so.
Hey bro it went pretty well I did to approaches at my local mall it took me about 45 mins to get one approach it because i was too scared, once I get to my goal weight of 180 I will switch to more of dating time content when I will do approaches on camera
It’s hard for guys do be on these things women are very picky on what they want I’ve had 2 dates and both don’t work out I can honestly say I’m never really on them much anymore I’ve been bored and over it slowly I’m still have it because I have faith but I rather meet people in person flaky ass women on there
I'll give you a tactic i used one time in my 20's. Feel free to steal it. When I went out with my boys, I would bring a pineapple and set it on the table or bar where I was seated. Women would come up and ask what's up with the pineapple. I had dozens of lines, but most of the time quickly transitioned to something interesting about them, or a really funny random question. "Oh, this pineapple? I brought it because i heard you wanted a Pina Colada." "I lost a bet with the boys." It doesn't really matter what you say. Get comfortable being funny, goofy, interesting, and charasmatic.
ayyee haha i like that was cool i’ll for sure use that, me and my friends will actually being going to the mall tmrw where we can do some approaches which i’m pretty excited for
@@CavionWilliams1 it beats sending 100's of pointless messages on a dating app, lowering yourself by chasing them with all of the Chad's in their inbox. Best of luck man. 👍
My thoughts: a) quite frankly, dating apps are for people who are really not serious about meeting someone and just use them as a crutch to kill time. If you are serious and solely rely on dating apps, you could be closing in on retirement age and *still* on them; b) if you are serious about meeting someone, be willing, able and *prepared* to invest the time, money and energy into developing *and* sustaining a relationship. In other words, do the work. Otherwise, don't waste your and someone else's time. On a personal note, I am 52, never married, single and happy! Remember, happiness begins and ends with you!
I've been on all the major dating apps for over 20 years. Zero dates. Landed one date off ig, two on Facebook and a few on Reddit. Dating apps for men are 99% useless.
er... you do realize there is a middle ground. You don't have to rush up to strange girls and ask for their number. That's kind of creepy for most women. You can also sign up for various social groups. Groups that meet for dinner, plays, movies, archery, or what ever interest you have. And in those groups just talk to women and men alike and have fun without the intention of getting a date. Then, if you meet a girl you like, then you can contact them afterward and simply say "hey, I really enjoyed talking to you at the function, how about we catch up for coffee". By that stage you're not the creepy guy that ran up to them in public, you're the normal guy that they've already met, and probably like already.
yea of course that would be the most ideal way to do it, go about your normal day and allow it to happen organically. Going out in general is something I need to work on but I say it isn't creepy at all to speak to a random women as long as your polite about it the worse she can say is no
@@CavionWilliams1 There's a big difference between casually chatting with someone, and chatting them up. I've seen players run across a mall to try to seduce some pretty young thing they saw walking by. Its creepy because you know that guy is trying it on with every girl he meets. That's how players are born. After their first success they just can't stop themselves from doing it over and over again. Some women have taken to screaming at guys who approach them in this way. Over reacting, sure, but imagine if every guy started interrupting girls in their daily duties and asked for their number. Sure, they can say no, but it s pretty rough on them having to say NO to every horny young guy looking to score. I imagine some of them would be fearful of a negative reaction. Its not a decent way to get to know people. Go to social functions and meet them that way.
You have to remember that woman are very different to men. Remember that apps work differently for them. Most men are just happy to get a couple of likes, we can navigate through our likes a lot easier. Now woman get constant likes and attention. They basically max out their likes in a day or so. Their brains can’t cope with the influx of attention they get, they really can’t deal with it. Dating apps are a failed business. Cool concept that just doesn’t work. They will find anything little thing to pick that and disqualify every guy no matter what. You just can’t win. Their brains can’t cope with this amount of attention.
Most women on dating apps are trash and it's working for them. They use it build a list of men to provide resources. Free meals, tax guy, mechanic, IT guy, moving guy, free ride guy
@@CB12345 man i always get unattractive matches bro. It be women i will never look twice at or even notice in person. I rather be single than settle for what I don’t want
Precisely. The harsh truth is man, that It will be hard to find someone that can follow your lead and fit what you are looking for. I'm currently still having that problem, but the older I get and take it slow I will get better. Unfortunately it is way too much trash out here and or lazy women, but we'll figure it out somehow. @@Tykaizen
Yep I never got matches on apps so f-ck that algorithm got me to the bottom and made me sad. So I just meet girl in the real world 💯 p.s… Bro is that the smoke detector low on batteries 💀
I dont waste my time on dating apps anymore its a scam first soon as u start conversatining they try to make u pay to keep talking lmao nah im not that fool person to person is my thing
I just deleted tagged i damn near had 4,000 something woman block on that app its not worth it nothing but a bunch of attention whores ghostes and gold diggers 🤦🏿
I, had tinder for 4 years..over 100 likes… finally got a, match…talked, for a while first date on there… her, excuse, was we live far lol.. I, was done after that 😂
I don't completely disagree with you. I feel like approaching girls in bars and other social events is still fine. But as I've aged and grown up I feel like approaching women out in public is creepy AF. Like if some woman is just minding her own business, trying to do some shopping or whatever mundane task she has, she shouldn't expect to be getting harassed by multiple guys all asking for her phone number every time she leaves the house. I know it's getting hard out there, but when you really think about it and put yourself in her shoes I think you would understand it's not really that cool, especially if she isn't interested in the guys or is taken already. Stay strong though soldier, relationships aren't everything, just stay single and focus on working on yourself and become the kind of man that women want to date in the meantime.
As a female I’ve noticed more guys approaching me in person when doing my normal daily tasks...usually at the supermarket... It catches you off guard, but it’s flattering... It’s nice that a guy has the confidence to approach too... Keep it up... However there are bad approaches and good approaches. The better ones, are just those that come up to you, compliment you, saying they would like to chat to you and whether you would like to or have time, and if not exchange numbers... Then perhaps, ask if you would like to meet up for a coffee the next day. Bad approaches are the ones where guys try too hard and overly confident as if he is talking and it’s an order that I listen to him
Good men don't appraoch women that often, so they're not good at it. As a result, women miss out on good men. They get with bad men who appraoch hundreds and thousands of women and honed that skill.
Listen to me. This is the BEST time to directly talk to women when you see them out in the stores, etc. Right now, so many guys have stopped asking ladies out that the ladies are getting REALLY desperate and are now approaching men. There are multiple video's of ladies going to different venues like a hardware store just to find a man to talk to. So this is the BEST time to approach the ladies. Even a man thats nervous in speaking to a woman will come up now just by saying "hello" and telling her she "very beautiful" and can he take her out sometime. The best way I can visually describe what I'm saying to you is back in 2020 once covid hit NO one was flying. BUT it was the best time to fly. I was flying coast to coast in the U.S. for $120 round trip each ticket for months with my own full row to myself and the plane being EXTRA clean cus everyone was scared to catch a flight. So do NOT be scared. Just start swinging and approach any fine female you come across, ask for their number, and watch the magic happen. Peace
I can't say what is going on in the US, but here in Brazil guys have stopped asking out because women are so influenced by feminist ideology that they will call the police and expose you on social media for approaching them on the street. Ask them for their number? Not happening here, good to know this still works in the US though.
Guys, what's the point going into relationship with no one else but one you are really attracted to? ZERO! Don't calculate second options because the minute you settle for a second choice, you lied to yourself, and her, your standard ans self image is dropping. It will make you feel miserable end even weaker. You can't negotiate love as ons said. Be honest with yourself.
I wish more people would understand that because I met so many people who aren't really into the person they are married to and even talk bad about them.
@@CavionWilliams1 that is the only standard to consider. It's time for being true with oneself. Too many people have rejected part of the personalities to feed the dogma and standard of modern society and now they need to fill the gaps with other people's lives. Before you can share yourself with somebody first need to be whole.
I hope meeting someone in person goes well for you. I hope guys know not to take it personally when a girl says no. It means nothing about who you are because we don’t even know you yet. Just treat us in as non sexual, basic human beings with thoughts and feelings and you’ll have success!
In reality all this to many women is just some made up bs. Not you personally, but there are way too many examples of where all this doesn't work out well in the end. This is one of those situations where that is easier said than done.
Problem is women see all us men as predators and approaching randomly to talk like human beings is often met with hostility and rejection unless she finds you attractive. And according to multiple studies women find 90% of men unattractive.
That is easier said than done, I have heard this a million times and in reality for the most part treating someone as a human, especially women doesn't give a man rewards. Plenty of men experienced this and we know what each other is talking about. In my opinion, this is one of the biggest lies from women told to guys.
@@arcosiancosine1065Precisely, especially the young generation (age 21-40). I have seen and experienced women where they will be rude or ignore a guy in his face trying to even have a simple conversation with her. It is more common than what people think and many women can be easy to approach, but they don't keep their word on what they say.
@@Real_deal954 not 100%. Women don’t mind shyness when you’re genetically elite (you’re less likely to be not confident when have above average looks). Confidence isn’t independent of life experiences. All males, you could argue start with some baseline of confidence and it either increases or diminishes based on experience. Getting confidence from constant rejections is illogical. And this guy is by no means “ugly”. But it just shows how high the bar is.
