@@_1Brick1_ i am doing indefinite NC. that means no initiate contact, no stalking. Then ex is the one making conversations. But i realized that my ex is still on the rebound for 4 months now and there’s no sense on conversing coz it will lead to nothing. Meanwhile, im focusing on myself and even tried dating. My dating partner is fully aware of the situation between me and my ex and my new date understands about it and willingly wants to be with me for the time being. Just be honest with your new partner about ur ex’s sudden messages.
This is exactly what I’m doing , & it makes perfect sense. My ex is my ex husband. Let him see what he’s got is not better. If it is . I’m ready to let go.
I don't understand why people are looking for ways to get their ex back. They are an ex for a REASON. Wether they broke up with you or you broke up with them. This is unhealthy.
I really find it so silly when people like you Copy expressions, saying they are an ex for a reason. Everything in life is for a reason. You eat for a reason, work for a reason. Wash for a reason, play for a reason. Talk for a reason.Everything in this world is for a reason. Please stop copying the masses.
Ignoring gave a powerful effect that change your life.. You take control of your life. That matter most.. Days passed, you getting better until at last she was forgotten for good. You won't remember even her phone no
Knowing how hard NC would feel for me, I sat down on day one and planned out the month. I scheduled out 30 super busy full days of personal goals, planning for a possible future alone, hobbies, and some bucket list items. Write it out in a planner and fill each hour. If you can spend time with friends or family, schedule that too. Pay close attention to the bucket list, because a ton of photo ops happen in the bucket list. I also scheduled time for meditation and cultivating both old and new friendships. In this way, I was able to blow past the 30 days, totally forgot I was doing NC and go straight through to 45. Bonus, if there’s a rebound or 3rd party happening, then when you finish a longer no contact you look like a new friend instead of an old one and then that smug take your man chick does a lot of the heavy lifting for you.
I just came here to say thanks it works last 21 August I just started this NC rule and he text me in 23 sep but I don't need him again whereever he want to go idc but Always my best wishes for him but don't want him back because i have healed thank God from this still have scar but it will heal too he is add with me everywhere but idc about him now.
Lucky you I wish that was me it's almost eight months and he hasn't contacted me he keeps my pictures on his Instagram but will not talk to me or anyting
I’m not calling and I feel better about myself. I admit, I do have moments. Overall, I’m committed to my healing. She told me she was talking to her ex and they’ve been emailing and texting off and on for the last few years. They’ve talked a couple of times, but there’s nothing going on. I’m screaming BS.
I'm in the same situation , my boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me a week after he told me it was over , moved in with her he had a drink problem which caused problems in our relationship , for a year he has lived half hour from me , he says I never understood him ie the drink ,she understands him and buys him wine beer , the drink problem caused me when we were living to together , Evan slept rough , thought it make he realize he had a problem but it didn't help , all I ever did was love and try to help him , I'm devastated by the whole situation ,and I'm made to look like it was me .I'm doing no contact
If the guy is an alcoholic, that is a very legitimate reason to break up with him. I’m saying that as an alcoholic myself, so I kind of get where both you and him are coming from. No one can help him with his problem unless he makes up his mind on his own that he needs to quit, and he finds the inner strength to stick with that. Move on and assume he won’t. You’ll be saving yourself a lifetime of heartache, possible abuse, and will be protecting your future children from some dark times they’ll never forget. As much as you may love this guy now, you’ll find someone else who will treat you much better in the long run, and who will be a much better role model for your children.
When someone decides to go it means they had intentions of a better life away from you. If they return it means they failed. You are human not an option. Send her back to her other options and move on. Taking back exes is like putting rough salt in a open wound. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND BE WITH A LOYAL PERSON WHO VALUES YOU WITHOUT BETRAYING YOU.
Great video..my ex sent me this: I thought a lot about us overnight. As you can probably tell, I am feeling so much pressure and that includes with you, whether intentional or otherwise. I really hate doing this, as I had hoped to have the weekend to get some space, but with your messages this morning I dont think I made myself clear. I am really struggling to connect at the moment with you and im not sure I am feeling what I should do with us or that I see a future. I need to focus just on coming home. I hope you understand that I have enjoyed our time together but just need to brings things to an end. I am really sorry. Currently on day 16 on NC rule. Had a couple of tough days and nights. Working on myself & by ignoring her. We dated for a month..so hoping with time she realises what she let go of.
Gets confusing..ignoring vs. No contact. Let the dumper be the one to reach out. Then a subtle good jesture, casual speaking months later...then 6+ months later throw out a lets get coffee after a text or 2 and not have high expectations
I asked him...during a conversation Would u rather be left alone?? He said ....YES!!! I'm like a damn "genie in a bottle" hahahahaha!!!! Boom!!!! Done!!!! Blocked him on EVERYTHING!!! He got the last word and it was to leave him alone. Ok...u get what u asked for. It hurts...very very bad! But I love myself more that I will NOT ALLOW him to treat me like some booty call or just some other girl. To be continued........
@@kaifianaaz9986 U have to find it in yourself. Love and respect yourself and THINGS LIKE this....will just happen. He has called me every day even I've blocked him( even tho he is blocked o can still he is making an attempt to reach out) He knows he messed up BIG.....I dont be playing. We'll see what happens. Love yourself girrrllll!! You're worth it
I left him alone. I'm moving on.....I found a focus point. I'm focusing on my business!!! When he comes back I hope he has developed new healthy habits and become 100% MATURE MAN. And if he doesn't come back..its ok. I'm ok with it. I have to be.....(I have found peace & tranquility w/out him and it's really nice). I still love him BUT....my self love is way larger than my love towards him.
I used believe i see him with her,I won't fight for him but now I'm ignoring him and won't respond to his messages and to not win him or make him regret is more i won't let him close enough to hurt me.
Day 1: of ignoring him we broke up on good terms by the way he was an amazing Boyfriend he just needed to take time to work on himself. I’ll be back in 3days
My ex left me to flirt with others dudes. That was 10 years ago. She been trying to get a hold of me over the years, she became friends with my so so friends. Just to get to me, which it didn't work at all, because all i did is just ignore her and be rude towards her. She still this day try to get a hold of me. She also have a bf
This is the BEST advice. My ex and I broke up 6 yrs ago. I was pretty much forced to just move on bc I do have self-worth. Did it hurt? HELL YES it did. But I got some good therapy to work through it and all is good. I can see things much more clearly. Recently this ex has tried EVERY POSSIBLE WAY he can think of to contact me. I absolutely will never respond. I'm over it and he doesn't deserve my attention. The funny thing is- bc my behavior changed, he refuses to give up. I thought after the first couple tries he would stop. Its been over a month and he still attempts several times a week. He would have never acted like this during our relationship.
@@16thsecond64 yes,exactly they come to exes when they have problems, not happy,not because of us. But do you really think that if you reject him and he really wants you, will give up on trying to get you? Mine tried to make me I to contact him, to write to him but i refused and after some days he gave up. Even didn't write,just appeared 3 days all day and night online on social media, he wanted to show me that he has some interest but didn't WRITE, just showed up online mood on Skype. And I didn't write of course,if he can be onljne at 3am,5 am in hope Me to be one to reach but he not doing this this shows he is not that interested. Now he doesn't go online and I am back to away modeon Skype but he knows i am there. Csn you say whst did he do ? Sorry for the long post
@@sofiandi6117 What did he do? Idk why we ended to be honest. I just decided he found someone else. Took a while but I moved on. Recently, I found out that he supposedly has changed and ‘now’ appreciates what he had in me. All due to a break-up he had w a girl. She did a lot to him. I guess there’s Karma or something similar. 🤷♀️
😅 my ex just verbally told me that I am not allowed to not talk to her. What type of shh.... is that 😅. She broke up with me and I'm forced to talk with her for eternity 😅
He cheated on me and still talks with the girl even though the girl knows my ex was the one who cheated. He actually used gaslighting and victim card and told the girl I was the one who cheated. I blocked him in ig and twitter but not yet on fb because he's deactivated. I'm still blinded and inlove with him but over time, I'll be able to move forward without him. It hurts since we stayed together
Dear Hannah, I am writing something for you. I know you feel devastated that he cheated on you & played himself as the victim. Please please just don't think about getting him back. He did not deserve you. You are worth more. Trust me, you'll realize with time that it was the best decision you ever made. Leave him for the girl he said he doesn't talk to. Trust me!! The cheater is never in peace(psychology), one day he'll realize(maybe some months), and come to say sorry. But please don't take him back then. You gotta take care of yourself babygirl. You still gonna shine without him. Focus on yourself. Boys like him only know to put women down. I know your pain. This is some advice I wish someone had given me before. Although IDK if I should be saying all this to you. It will take some time for you to fall back, but once you're out, you'll feel a wonderful type of freedom. Much love.
@@Simran-bl4us thank you so much 🥺😭 I am struggling. I am afraid of actually accepting him IF HE actually comes back. I'm at the position where I'm afraid of letting go, but I know I deserve better 😭 It's too painful but this too shall pass. Thank you so much for your concern and message ☺️☺️☺️
@@hannahgracerosas6655 I'm going through the same honey... we're in the same situation... so i can completely empathize wth u dear... Hope this passes away soon for both of us ..
I am in second no contact. It has been 22 days. I went into it after something that happened even though we are technically ok. He hasn't done what I said to do yet even though he said he would with time and I know it is because he doesn't trust me and there's this new person he's been seeing for 4 months now and they weren't meant to be together and while it's long-distance and they don't meet due to the pandemic, I want him to realize that the way he has acted shows he still loves me deep down. We were committed and he said we broke up for different reasons and I really just want him to chase me. Will the next contact rule truly be successful even when he was cold because he was hurt last time about something, even though it is so small and it makes no sense that he's getting upset over the same things that he would when we were together?
I thought about it also. I unfriended and since she stalks my page she knew right away that I did and sent me 3 long nasty texts messages saying I can unfriend her all I want but it doesn't change the fact that I ain't shit and how terrible I am, yada yada yada. When she's the one that broke up with me. I didn't do it out of spite, I just did it because I'm trying to get over her and don't want to see what she's doing. She can look at mine all she wants, I just don't want to look at hers.
Amazing video, absolutely love it. I was married with a Chinese who cheated and was with another man because I couldn't see her due to the virus not allowing me to fly. I was crazy in love and did the world for this woman. The first 2 weeks of me finding out I was pleading with her. I didn't want to live. She kept contacting me and I kept replying. Then she found out I was going back to the same country where she is. She made plans saying she wanted to meet and stay with me for 4 days per week. I asked are you still with the guy. She said yes but she wants to see me and see if I am better. I laughed. She contacted me every other day. This was for months. Then I began to understand myself and knew that I never do competition over a woman. At that point I replied with a last message and said bye. She has tried to contact me now everyday for 2 months. But I no longer have any feeling in me. Normally my blood would begin to get warm. And my heart would beat. Now nothing. I never thought this would happen. She is dead in my eyes now. I love deep and equally dislike deep when someone is an untrusted traitor.. oh and the new guy is also married with a kid, which she didn't know at the time. Both worthless people. Iam shocked that I am over her. It was easy I just think of what she does with her body with that man. I would never use old bath water.
Hey Chris....hope this comment is seen but generally speaking....after my ex wanted to run away from the emotional damage we both did. I have been in no contact for 7 weeks after pleading but not begging. Should I reach out or keep no contacting going?
Edward S. Probably not I’ve been self improving and doing much better without her, she just started stalking my stories on Snapchat and Instagram so pretty sure she misses me, idk if yours does too? but if she doesn’t come back oh well it’s no biggie her loss
I reached out after 30 days and it didn't go too well. She was mad and cursing and yelling. Little by little she calmed down. She even spent the night over a few days later. We are talking but not about getting back together, she isn't ready yet. I regret it and should have stayed in no contact for life.
DONT reach out!! If she didn’t do it first she is not ready, so all the progress you’ve done all the effort you’ve put in during those weeks will be gone. Let her come back to you, if she hasn’t she is simply not ready yet!
@@koyesjuile4867 no thnks dear ... Whatever is written in my Destiny will happen.. nobody can help me . If he still loves me, he will come or else, I'll accept he was never mine😣
24days is not much! Don't listen to the 30days bs! It all depends on the context, because it may take more than just 30 days. Even on his site he says "up to 3 months". Just work on yourself, love yourself and live a happy life with or without your ex! For me it's just day 10, but I'm slowly getting there.
What happens if during NC he reaches out a couple of times asking what happened and I answered some of the times in the beginning but I always let the conversation fade, and after one day he was texting me non-important things and I didn't respond, and then he blocks me (for attention)? I think he has anxious attachment style
Yea he’s hurt that’s why he blocked you. He’s trying to forget you by blocking you. That’s what I did. I guess you can say I was in a similar situation as your ex. He still misses you. But since you act like you don’t care whether you do or don’t he feels he has no choice but to move on
Was in n c the next day after he damped me..18 days later he breadcrumb ed me n I was okey myself so I said no...I'm day 2 into no contact n my emotions r everywere🙆
Hey Chris my ex girlfriend return on Snapchat at November 2020 then she read my text and haven’t texted back, she unfriend me on Snapchat what should I do ?!!
Do you, ignore a cheating ex, in the same way? My ex cheated and she loves me and desires a child and a future. Her time is expiring looks wise and potentially within her ability to have a child, she's 32. I'm over the fact she admitted cheating one time, I know there's more times, but I'm struggling to accept her back after she doesn't show any fight. So I'm going to ride no contact until I'm over her completely. I'm just anticipating her reaching out again, btw she tried two times, but one was a lame txt to explain why she was mad after an argument and to see if I was ok, then I git a missed call two days later. It's day 6 and I'm getting better everyday. To be honest, she's not even all that, I just learned to love everything about her and all her imperfections
That fact that she cheated show that's she doesn't love you. You are just her safety net (a provider) as she needs someone to finance her lifestyle. Grow some balls and ditch her. Get your self respect back.
I'm serious with this question its not a joke . What do I do if my ex contacts me after 3 months. If they reminded me to uninsure my car . To get my dog who they were very close with to get their booster shots. And finally " and oh happy anniversary " Take care. I dont want them back. This really hurts but we both need to move on. It was a toxic relationship 😪 that hurt us both very very much even though there was an unhealthy love deep down. Do I ignore- risk more contact Message - say what? Anyone? What do you think
And I want nothing to do with Her she's even had her so called cousin which honestly is the guy she's really sleeping with I'm not stupid keep bugging me so as of yesterday I had to tell him to stop talking to me leave me alone but how do I turn on deal with this in a better way is honestly I've only been in one relationship real life it's this woman in a 1 and move on but I have trouble doing it can you help me
I did it and exactly a month later he knocked . however he started to make logical reason to knock me and the time of meeting, he seems vulnerable about his breaking up part. been months, now it's been a coupld of days since he didn't knock. meantime I didn't either. what does it mean?
does this include not doing their social media stories?!? where they can tell if you viewed them or not! I’ve been doing no contact for 40 days and I haven’t heard a damn thing from my ex girlfriend! Now I still view her stories and she still views mine I’m guessing I should continue no contact and not you her social media?
My ex keep trying to kind of start a conversation, for exemple she sends me pictures of the food she cooker that she knows I like, she keeps sending me videos of animals or funny videos, and when I put a picture without a shirt on social media she went mad and she asked me why am i doing that.. What do you guys think about this do you think she wants come back with me even when she keeps saying she doesn't want me