why self-love doesn't work 

"I love me but I don't love me back" that hit

I finally found my rhythm when I realized That even The steps backwards Were part Of the dance love this so much. thanks for sharing the poem nil

you’re so well-spoken, mature, deep, & just intelligent. keep shining Nil❤

Being a perfectionist I always put pressure on myself to always feel, be and look my best. I recently turned 22 and felt emotionally overwhelmed trying to explain why I feel that way so I can "fix myself". My sister then told me that it is completely normal to feel that way sometimes AND so important: That I don't always need to try coming up with a solution but instead to just "be" without constantly overanalyzing myself and let go of that fixing mindset. Because oftentimes we think that it is not acceptable to have these off days, so we tend to blame ourselves for feeling that way. But in order to grow through things you have to go through things. Some things you just can't control right now but trust me everything is temporary ☀️🌻

Love this new style! You’re so eloquent and it’s always interesting to hear your thoughts on stuff!

agreeing throughout this entire video... I can tell you've already grown so much since your last few videos and I'm very proud! you nailed it within the first minute, self care has already become commoditised and a trend/aesthetic on social media but those actions are basically useless unless you commit to building that foundation of self esteem and self worth like you mentioned. one thing I wanted to add about validating your emotions and experiences - we definitely need to do this for ourselves, but hearing someone else (my therapist lmao) finally validate what I'd been through was completely lifechanging for my healing as well. also you made me remember that the most deeply content time in my life was when I was writing those I am statements daily. so happy you are on this journey and I'm looking forward to more videos like this!

You need to accept both your good and bad self to experience true self acceptance

i love the fact that you’re changing up your content, it’s super interesting and helpful, so excited for whats to come

This was wonderful, Nil. I was smiling the whole time, thank you for delivering this information 🥹🤍

Loving yourself means allowing to breath and grow we all make mistakes and it’s okay to move on and not live in the past ❤

Probably the greatest pleasure in the world is to be useful to others while doing his job. I'm proud of my daughter too.

This is highly spiritual and the most intelligent state of mind. This is what all great thinkers and philosophers say when they say enlightenment.

Thank you SO MUCH for this video Nil ❤ I’ve been struggling with these lately, happened the same thing to me that I thought I was great until I started going to therapy and now I’m opening the bag that kept me numb and allowed me to pretend I was doing great by rationalizing my feelings, this video made me feel less alone in this process so I cried a lot, but this felt like a hug 🫶🏻 thank you infinitely

Please do more videos like this! Also if you could attach your findings just to read and have a better understanding in order to apply it more thoroughly. Thank you Nil

okay, but Nil we need more of these! I think you are so full of these insights and observations which your audience would love to hear about💗

Damn Nil... this video came in like a sign for me!!! While listening to you, I started to realize, that was what was happening to me these past few months... I'm gonna write the "I am ..." statements. Thank you for this very informative video

thank u nil!! even that short clip on ur story was enough for me to be curious about my self-love!! im willing to change my mindset with you thats why im here to watch the full video and start my loonngg self-love process 🤍🤍

When I want to love myself and know our shortcomings, then we will fix them. For example, inside me, I feel like there are a lot of things that I haven't fixed, but I can still love myself now. Sometimes I'm confused about where to start. I can only look at people. What seems perfect in every way makes me more insecure, and I try to start improving to be better at what I can't do.

im so comforted to know that someone out there has experienced the exact same thing that i have. thank you for sharing your journey and knowledge you’ve gained by managing hardships THE RIGHT WAY! ❤️❤️❤️ really hard to find the right path to dealing with depression as an overthinker but videos like this makes things sm easier ❤

Finally girl, missed u, ur content even ur friends 🩵 Im still waiting for the video of u,mandy and sarah playing we are not rlly strangers and it would be nice to watch a book video as well 🌸❤️ (also we need a life update)

and now I can't stop thinking about "I love me but I don't love me back" whoever wrote that really did something there omg

fav video ever

OMG GIRL- THIS IS LITERALLY THE WHOLE ANSWER TO WHAT I'VE BEEN FEELING LATELY????this is so good and helpfulllll so grateful that i came across this video today and your energy omggg ilyyyyy

love this new format

Listening to this at the gym i love it so much specially the ( loving yourself vs loving being yourself) 🤍🤍🤍ily nil comeback with another videos we missed you 🫶🏻

Talking about your past emotional experiences and putting your thoughts out to public is not easy. I'm so proud that I know you (as a RU-vid artist at least.

you absolutely slayed this episode, coming from someone who went to school for neuroscience

i liked this before even watching omfg i NEEDED THIS

Your aura is glowing 5:57🖤

NIL!!!! thanks a ton girl! i've always known that you've got great insight on things( from your videos where you talk about things other than your daily routine). i REALLY REALLY think that you should do more of these sit down videos, your knowledge is crucial. although i wouldn't mind a few vlogs here and there BUT a 100 % yes to more sit down videos concept you're trying

Thank you for this Nil! I appreciate your academic interest and your critical thinking to this instead of just your personalized opinions.

nil please start a podcast this is amazing

Glad to have you back, I've missed you. Hope all is well. Enjoy another spring in the city.

Most realistic vid in the internet , loved and subscribed

please continue this series!! seni seviyorumm

Bu video kesinlikle Türkçeye çevrilmeli,bu tarz videolar çok etkili ve bu seriye devam etmelisin✨

loveeeed this video Nil. missed you so much. you and Hailey are such genuine and inspiring role models. thank you 💞

loved this so much..this is the most raw and authentic video I’ve watched today..please post more content like this

I love this new podcast format ❤

Literally saved my whole day. I was feeling so down, but your words really lifted me up. Thank you so much

THIS IS VIDEO IS AN ABSOLUTE GEM!! You're literally speaking everything I have in my mind I LOVE YOU😭❤️

This video is powerful. Trust me, Nil.

this hit really hard today, thank you

What you are doing is great and I think that you should also upload this video to your Turkish channel with subtitle so more people can benefit from your knowledge. Love you and take care

I'm having a really hard time believing that I'm worth loving. I have weird kinks, I'm extremely socially inept, and I've had people call me whiny, entitled, dishonest, creepy, narcissistic, and a lot of other things. The worst part is that I'm worried they might be right. Sometimes I wonder if it's a good thing I'm perpetually single, because I don't deserve to be loved.

i loved this vid ! definitely more enjoyable imo and looking forward to seeing similar posts🩵l

I loved this video! I hope you keep posting videos like this. It was really interesting hearing your thoughts and learning something new.

I love you Nil I really needed this!

love this new format.I am waiting the other videos for that. love u so much babe💕🥰

Thank you! I needed this and I love it! I'm gonna go start an affirmation journal now!!!❤❤❤

podcast pls 😍 this was amazing

i love you ...thank you

I loved this so much and a lot of things especially the foreign perception part of self really resonated with me

Very much needed, thanks Nil❤️

I need your podcast 🫀🙏🏼🤧🔆🫶

thank you sm for this! it's helped me a lot with how i view self love, and i would love to see more self love/care related videos from you!

i loved this video so much and related a lot!!! thank you for making this.

I feel good about this video. Hope you do more of these. I’ll think you’ll enjoy Lana blakely

Nil I missed you!! Glad to see you again - loved this video and you are so right💖

Absolutely loved this video, please do more like this one. ily

I wish I had this on a podcast format 🤓

Thank you nil🥺❤️

Thank u for making this video. it just came out at the right time for me 😅 the universe power though ❤ Your vlogs always cheer me up in some way and this video really makes me feel so much better. Thanks again ❤ much much 💕 love

Super helping my state rn

Wow i loved this video. Gonna watch it again and take notes i found it that helpful man

My new guru.

yes please make more of these videos!! this is so much different from what other people in social media talk about and i respect you so much for giving us this version that we all need 🫶

give us more of these IM BEGGIN

8:53 yes

NIL BABY IS BACKKK

Loved listening to you! Needed this.

You're very insightful and wise beyond your age 🤍🤍🤍

love this video concept!

Keep going girl with this type of videos! Your advices are really great!

Absolutely love this!

So well spoken it’s incredible ❤

Nil ben türküm ve bu video türkiyeye kapalı ve yani evet başta hak verdim ama şimdi pek anlam veremiyorum özellikle böyle içerikleri türkiyeye kapatman konusunda, kanalını en çok destekleyen türk fanlarını kayırmak doğru mu sence?

ily nil

I almost cried watching this 😭❤

I really enjoyed this content. I agreed throughout the video. Thank you for your sharing thoughts I’m looking forward to more content like this. wish you all the best Nil

Thats great keep going we want more like this videos

MORE . OF . THIS . PLEASE

i need you to make a podcast

Hi nil, any advice on how to deal with atrocious men in public? Men have been draining my energy for as long as i could remember

I wish you could do more videos like this!! 🩷🩷🩷

I need this kind of video 😻🥺❣️

so amazing and inspiring, I feel seen

Brilliant vid nil!

I looooove itt pls do one about being ok being alone

Thank you❤ I love this video

Love this!❤

yess yeesss more videos like this please 🥵

Helpful thank you for this

drop the podcast

You're really pretty!

Too Good !! What's some best books to read for Self belief ?

artık VPN ile izlemek istemiyorum..lemme inn pls

can i ask something about how to go about doing affirmations? does ur subconscious absorbs the things u repeat to urself even if u dont necessarily feel wholly what ur saying about urself?

You're amazing

Nil sana kararını sorgulamak amacıyla sormuyorum ama ben Türkiyede yaşıyorum ve videonu izlemek için vpn kullanıyorum. Eminim benim gibi izlemek isteyen olup vpn kullanmayan da olur. Sadece Türkiyeye de video kullanımını açma şansın var mı diye sormak istedim. :)❤