Simpin' ain't pimpin' - advice on if you ever find yourself taking interest in someone who might not be as interested in you. Stalk Me: instagram: / swoozie TikTok: / swoozieftw Art by: Bandit Thumbnail by: @Zeurel
I got a worse situation, my ex said: "let's take a break i need a bit of time, maybe a few days" the next day i found her making out with a guy we litteraly met the same day she told me that, i was almost going berserk, luckily i remembered some words i actualy heard from you: "either you can choose me, or you can loose me" those words saved me... thank you swoozie
Never let women play you like that. Girls like that don't deserve your attention. I hope you are doing well Edit: My god how time aged poorly, my girlfriend of 5 months did the same thing as described by the top comment. I hope we both get through this bro
Sometimes yea the simplest answer is, the reason she doesn't like you or he doesn't like you, is because they don't have to like you. You can't force feelings that don't exist to appear all of sudden. You could meet the qualifications she/he "wants" but, theres still a chance they won't feel anything towards you. Stuff is complicated, you wouldn't date every single person they shows up in your life and neither will others.
Simple, if someone doesn't like you that way it's because they don't find you attractive as a partner. No need to stress understand their POV and move on.
That’s all good and dandy until you’re thirty and single because for some reason no ones into you. You should never stress on the individual level but many people have universally unattractive habits/traits thats stopping them from finding a partner and could be improved with some discipline
Because you're not looking into yourself and finding the issue making you unattractive. Nothing changes, you keep getting rejected because nobody finds you attractive as a partner.
Can we also just point out the fact that when a guy gets a girlfriend his family congratulations him and welcomes her with open arms, but when a girl gets a boyfriend her family (Especially the dad) asks him all these questions and is so much more skeptical to except him lol
Cause men are more likely to have alter motives, women have to be more careful about who they speak to, because the World is a dangerous place. Alot of guys aren't really what they seem. Which is why parents are more protective of their daughters.
I think guys get praise maybe because being able to get a girl takes some guts and getting over shyness since we are the ones expected to make the moves. I only felt like my parents were happy about me making moves on this one girl once, and emotionally it hurt since it felt like my family didn't value my effort or the relationship. I struggle opening up to people about girls now partially because of that.
Because men are generally the ones who have to put their ego on the line and ask the girl out. This means that they’ll be the party who has to deal with the possibility of rejection on the front end, which is a scary proposition to most people. This also means they had a motive to approach the girl, which could be one that doesn’t align with the girls and could become dangerous due to physical differences. Especially at an early age, when it’s more about the status symbol of having a girl friend rather than caring about her as an individual.
@@emlin2005 Interesting you pin that on misogyny. I was thinking that is seems kind of misandrist that a girls parents would regard a guy with skepticism and ire like he might be some kind of dangerous goon by default. Although, to be fair, those concepts aren't mutually exclusive, a lot of cultural standards are shitty for both genders. Could be some misogyny and misandry mixed in there.
I really appreciate all the advice. Thing is RU-vid is filled with some really toxic advice for guys who are looking for some guidance around relationships. You give good, actionable, non-toxic advice in a format that is approachable to teenagers who are trying to figure stuff out. It keeps people away from the awful incel and pickup artist stuff, and makes the world a better place.
Honestly, Swoozie is actually saying the same stuff as most "redpill" channels. So that just confirms those guys are actually right. If you don't believe me, compare a video like this to one from stephiscold or mediocre tutorials and reviews. The same things are being said there, only Swoozie has a much larger following.
@@thelegacyofgaming2928 it doesn’t confirm those guys are actually right, It just confirms that Swoozie is like one of those awful guys. How does that even make sense that that you would assume that those guys are right, how are they right? It just means Swoozie thinks they are right, so that’s why he agrees with them and spreads that message along.
"it's a great feeling.. when the tables turn and POI is now interested in you" ... Has never happened to me. Swoozie, some of us are just mere mortals!
There’s also a huge difference between a good man and a “nice guy”. Women can discern when a dude is just putting on an act to get what he wants from you.
@@phoenix-king779 no ones mad its just that its not true; no ones entitled to a relationship and no one has to love the nice guy, but making them the problem is a new way of shifting the blame
@@ivette8459..... it's true though.... So I'll add an extra step to it "Women get with who they want, Guys get with who they can, & Men get with who they want" (I'm talking men who got their shit & lives in order, ladies you know what kind of men I'm talking about)"
Reason why he/she doesn't like you back: 1. He/She said no. No, is a full on sentence. 2. He/She straight up just doesn't like you. Wether a guy/girl rejects you doesn't mean you should go full on "incel/femcel" over it. Just accept the fact that you got rejected and move on with your life. Do what makes *you* happy and you'll be alright.
@@26mic fam I unintentionally straight faced 5 of your videos. I wanted to laugh so bad, couldn’t find it in me. I see you got the V’s I see you got the subs congratulations keep at it, try a new approach I might be more apt to peep your material with a open mind.
Swoozie is right when it comes to the fact that if she decides she doesn’t like u she will never like u. However, there is a difference between her never considering u two as a couple and her considering it and saying no.
swoozie You’re one of the first RU-vidrs I ever watched as a young kid and you haven’t changed one bit :) thanks for always making me laugh all these years
Modern culture has this toxic mindset that we have to "win" someone over. Nobody really thinks about how much of a waste of time trying to change someone's opinion of you is, especially when you could be spending that same energy talking to lots of different people and seeing who you connect with the most. Doing it that way will near guarantee you end up in a much happier, healthier relationship than if you'd just spent that same time browbeating someone you think you like into liking you back.
Mos tppl are just idiots and way too mamy kovies and shows revolve around ppl having a crush and doing whatever to make them like them back or in movies ppl always get with their crush due to persistence, so ppl think that shit works in real life. Ans also skme ppl just so desperate to be in a relationship, they will do and say the wildest ass shit just because skmeone is good looking instead of taking the time to actually get to know ppl and deciding if you vibe with them or not. Dont trust lust, it's not the thing to chase.
I'm not looking for marriage but I know that to even entertain being with someone forever or even just a few years, I have an extensive list of requirements that must be met (I assure you they're sensible...mostly, lol. Things that I don't think a lot of people truly consider before dating someone and then find themselves being unhappy because they didn't do that self reflection to know what they're looking for). Because of this, I refuse to date anyone I've bumped into when out and about. The region in which I live in already makes it that there's a high likelihood that two of my dealbreakers will not be met by just randomly meeting someone (not wanting kids and not dating someone who is religious. I live in Alabama...that second one especially is hard to avoid here, and lots of people equate religion to "a woman is only a woman if she has children", so, you know...it's been a slow search for Mr. Right, lol).
The cliché in most popular media is "work hard enough and you'll win them over", but what people don't realize is that it only exists to provide narrative sense to the story. Plots usually need progression. Life doesn't work like that. Life doesn't make narrative sense. Just imagine someone you're not into, trying over and over again to win you over. Suddenly it sounds annoying and no longer romantic
“Here’s something my friends hate when I say: if a girl’s not into you there’s a good chance she’ll never be into you” Why do your friends hate when you say that?
One reason that girls end up with bad guys is because the bad guy acts like a nice guy at the jump, and then the girl gets emotionally involved, to the point where she forgives all of his shitty behavior because she loves him so much and forgives easily. I don't know a single bad guy who treats a girl they want like shit from the jump. That's why nice guys get a bad rep sometimes because no one knows if it's genuine or not.
"Girls can tell when you like them." As a girl myself, I unfortunately can't tell when a guy likes me. I'm so oblivious to a guy liking me. Unless they tell me straight to my face that he likes me, I won't ever tell and it unfortunately happened to me so many times with a couple of guy friends I had. I felt so bad telling them that I never knew they liked me. ;n;
Big same. Like, honestly people should just talk to you to say whether they have feelings, because it might just go nowhere otherwise (and it might not go anywhere even if someone makes a move, but at least there is communication and understanding in telling someone)
@Ross Orange You have met the wrong girls. You need to meet more. Sincerely, a girl who earns more than her boyfriend and is completely financially independent (not rare tbh). I’m sorry you’ve been hurt. We don’t choose to meet the wrong people. I don’t know your life, but there are so many ways to meet normal girls (and people in general)
👏Exaclly 👏 i had so many times those situations. Once my guy friend said to me „l want to grab something to eat with you” a while after that he told me that it was a date, like how could I know that ? I also had different guy friend who would touch my hair, I was like „what are you doing?” And he said „I just like to touch hair” I tought it was wierd, but people do wierd things so I just ignored it. One day i overheard him talking to somebody that he liked me, I would never realised that by myself. Since we started daiting he never touched my hair. I guess that it was his way to show me that he likes me. Just tell somebody that you like them and don’t pray that they will realise that themself. Also if you’re a guy and looking for tips I would recommend you to watch some girls who are giving advices how to date a girl, they will know way better how to do it rather than a guy.
As a woman, YES. I also learned so much about guys from this, so thanks! and that girl who gave you her number, drove and hour each way to see you weekly... that can totally be misunderstood as making the first move(s). I don't blame you for initiating even more.
I agree with all the advice Swoozie has given in this video and others. Dating can be wonderful but sometimes it's just bad. Personally I'm a person who can't really see "double meanings" and in dating there a ton of those! My mantra is "the right person will come at the right time." Simple as that.
When I was an aspiring RU-vidr, I complained about how I could never get advice or the chance to talk to a current RU-vidr. I wanted to pick their brain, get some answers and (hopefully) find the right path for my own content creating. When Swoozie was already a gold plaque acquired RU-vidr, he responded to my personal messages (back when RU-vid had messaging ROFL)! I was shocked by how honest, candid, and genuine he was as a person. I also had the chance to meet Swoozie at gaming event where he was playing people in the audience, same exact experience. I wanted to say publicly, thanks to Swoozie and RU-vidrs like him for inspiring people like me (and im sure many more) to do RU-vid as well! Also your content has grown exponentially in quality, and your story telling is there along with it.
Yep. There's plenty of others out there. The media (from books, movies, TV, songs, etc.) there is the idea that there can be only one. Unless you are the Highlander, this is not true.
Most people do not have this mindset because their mind does not work that way hence why it is not easy for them do. Mental holdbacks are really popular.
I love the cartoons with your talks, I go back to some videos every now and then, fast and curious 2 is my absolute favorite, I crack up every single time I watch it and I've watched I don't even know how many times lol
Honestly sometimes you are just not her type. Simple as that. Its not personal. If someone wants a blue car and all you have is silver cars there's nothing you can do about that. It doesn't mean silver cars are bad either. Weird analogy, I know but its the best I could come up with 😂🤦🏽♀️
Just wanna say that Swoozie's advice of "mutual interest, mutual investment" has become a mantra in my life. Once I started adopting that idea, I got a whole lot further in life. I remember for over a year, I had it bad for this girl who never gave me the time of day. We never even dated and I got so head-over-heels for this girl that I made a fool out of myself. Then I just came to grips with the fact that she wasn't into me, and while it was super hard at first, it was the most freeing thing I've ever done. Also taught me a lot about focusing on improving myself rather than a girl. I got better at talking with women, but also learned how to wear each POI loosely until they express the same amount of interest. Right now I just want to focus on God, my career and my music. The right girl will come along when it's time.
I'm a woman, but something I also learned is that liking and not liking someone goes both ways. Think about the people you may have hurt when you reject them (and this could be as simple as with online dating and getting a new message from someone that you're not into). So, while we all want to be liked back when we like someone, we all have the same power as well to reject a person. Once I realized that, being rejected or ignored hurt less. And I'm not talking about doing it out of bitterness or spite, just genuinely not being interested in a person.
2:13 This is facts! I feel like however people fall in love with those they attract and not people they chase. It's like you fall for someone because you don't realise it so you have no time to prepare for it &&' that's why love is so beautiful tbh.
Yeah, I've heard stories like this. At first, you'd be the average guy that no girl really takes a second glance at, but, once you become successful, that's when they strike. It's pretty sad that's the world we live in
I mean Yeah When your on the same level and it's just about attraction in real life peeps don't chase Once you get rich peeps who are broke wish to exploit you for your money through dating Peeps at least in my experience Don't just decide to go out with someone just cause they're nice and show some decency There needs to be more Either physical attraction A long term supportive relationship Or the muns
Or, it could just be that, the more fame and status you have, the bigger your social circles are and thus the more people you meet, and so your options for dating increase. For the sake of argument Lil Nas X could be my perfect match if we ever met, but I'm not in the social position where I could presently meet Lil Nas X, and there's a fair chance I may never be.
@@gregvs.theworld451 No, it's literally what was stated. It's not about your social circle. We're talking about THE SAME women who didn't before, but now that you are famous/have money, they are all of a sudden "interested". The world does work this way, it's only natural for a woman to want to attach herself to a successful man, it's just in women's biology.
@@thelegacyofgaming2928 I'm sure some people will give other people a second look when they feel they can directly benefit from their newly found fame or money, but I know not everyone does that and saying it's in women's biology is just ridiculous and sounds like some red pill pick up artist type nonsense.
So, I told a good friend I liked her. Thought we were vibing, but She ends up ghosting me. This was 2 months ago, and since then I’ve been hitting the gym and hanging with other friends. I haven’t spoken to her. At this point Im not upset about the rejection, I’m upset I lost a good friend. Advice anyone? Do friendships usually end over a misread situation? Do I reach out? Or do I just accept I’ve lost a friend.
Do not contact her again. And if she contacts you, ignore her because she has ulterior motives. Trust me, even Swoozie said this, but once a girl says she doesn't like you, she never will. So if she comes back, she wants something from you, or has realized that you are her only option. Continue to improve in life and find better quality women. It will be good for your soul.
Those other friends who don’t abandon you for no reason are the real homies. I’ve been silent to my friends because of online school but at least I have a good reason. And they busy too. She just dipped. Move on, make that dream body and hang with the homies. Live life.
As a girl, I agree with almost everything besides creeping the Instagram likes to see what she likes. For one, my Instagram likes are just of memes and cookie decorating videos. On the other hand, don’t change yourself to fit what you think she might like!!! The most attractive thing you can be is yourself :)
This is my fav swoozie animation style. Those simple still frames. I love Alex Clark n all but that Confessions off Disney Employee cartoon style is supreme
As a girl we definitely know when a guy likes us, and when we don’t like them back we try to put it in a nice way or else we seem like a bitch. But when guys don’t take that, that’s when lots of us ghost them or stop talking to them. Also lots of times the “nice guys” aren’t actually that nice, they just do things for you expecting things in return, and if you don’t do what they want in return we are the ass hole. But you definitely nailed a lot of things in this video about girls.
LOL do you realize how complicated this sounds to a simple male mind? Do you see the many mixed signals and selfish thinking in all this? Just be clear and let the guy know how you really feel. So what if a guy you have NO interest in thinks badly about you. Think about how you're mind fuking the guy. It's a lot better than stringing him along giving him some type of hope. What you guys think are nice "hints" that you're not interested. Actually appear like you're playing hard to get or are just nervous. Just flat out ghosting a guy is the worst thing you can do after stringing a guy along. This leaves men in a very messed up confused state. They start doubting themselves, and thinking they did something wrong. About "expecting things in return". SMH if a guy spends money and time on you. You go on dates with a guy and accept gifts. Of course he's gonna expect something!! LOL. Y'all know if a guy is crushing on you 90% of the time. Basically y'all already know what it is. But you sit there and willingly put yourself in that position. Then want to act like something's wrong with the guy. You could have stopped this before it stared or when you noticed it. Y'all gotta cut this out and take accountability, this is not the mans fault. This is the real reason why most guys view these girls as "bitches". There are some guys out there who just are super emotional and ego maniacs. But that's the minority, lets be real here.
I really needed to hear this. I have just gotten off spending the last two weeks trying to get with a girl at work. Although I am still really into her, after I accepted the fact that it just wasn't happening, life got a lot more enjoyable. We still work together and get along just fine, and could even be considered friends, but now I don't have to worry about trying to impress her, I just do me.
Swoozie: "You had me leaning back like Neo in the Matrix." Kelly: "Nooo not true at all! You don't remember that night correctly you never did that." Swoozie in his mind: "Was I in the Matrix?"
This is what entire video is explaining what I’m feeling in high school and all I have to say it that “don’t worry about a girl who doesn’t like you back, the one thing that matters is focusing on what you want to be seen for and some day a girl will like you for what you do”.
You just gotta rock with someone who rocks with you. Be yourself if someone you like dont like you back just be friends but keep it platonic, no favors or spending too much time together. You'll find some one eventually just make sure your happy.
The ultimate key is to practice self love and stop looking for this “thing” in other people. Start giving it to yourself. We’re all more than capable of loving ourselves You just have to commit to it.
That bit about the retaliation self-improvement is so real, because dudes really be out here heartbroken and trying to prove a point to a chick that never cared.
Most of the time there’s a reason why they don’t like you back. It could be something very minor or a huge red flag you have, but sometimes they just don’t want to be with you. And that’s okay.
@@mr.skeleton3190 looks really ain’t all that. 9 times out of 10 it’s less about looks and more about hygiene. Hygiene plays a huge role in how you look and style is also what can attract girls. You also have to realize that every girl is different and not all like the same thing. So sometimes the girls you’re trying to attract aren’t necessarily into the same things you are or don’t find those things to be attractive. That’s all.
@@mr.skeleton3190 Because we have creep radar. A comment can be cute if said jokingly of offhandedly, but creepy if someone expects a date or sex in return. Or maybe she knew that guy and you were a total stranger
I matched with a girl named Jenna on Bumble. After 5 days of having deep conversations, I asked her if I was boring because I’ve never complimented her, like repeatedly saying you’re beautiful and such. Jenna: “I don’t find you boring. The thing about compliments online is when you hear them a lot, it doesn’t really add to or subtract from the conversation. Guys online are very quick to throw things like that at someone and it just doesn’t earn brownie points with me.” Me: I think most guys compliment quickly and often because they wanna skip the conversations and get into the female’s pants. I’m not like that. Jenna: Nah they just think that a woman has never had self esteem ever and like to compliment a lot. So I tune them out because I’m already aware of what I look like. For all the guys out there, Swoozie is right: “SIMPING AINT PIMPING.”
For me i had self esteem issues but when a guy is over complimentive it screams,"i have ulterior motives or don't really care much for you." To me cause they do stay wanting to get in my pants. And i just stay dry till they disappear. I always trust my gut feeling now. And anyone that wanna say i might have missed out on a good guy being like this, i tried it and still kinda regret it to this day and struggle to cope with some of that and took myself off the market because of these problems.
“Girls can tell when you like them,” We can?! My friends have to tell me if someone likes me. I don’t pay attention to people in that way so I don’t really care.
@@barrytelesford5265 I just can’t tell when someone likes me. Other than that I’m good at reading people. It’s cause I don’t pay attentions to that certain aspect of feeling that I think I don’t notice it.
@@tpgcandy Our Personality Seems To Be The Same And Here I Thought I Was Only one guys have to be blunt with me so I know plus where I live but hey I'm not sure if it's the same in other countries or states 🤔🤷♀️
@@tpgcandy are you approachable. do you have a nice personality where a guy would feel comfortable in disclosing what he feels for you? I have liked some girls looks wise at least but if i feel that they a fussy or weird about it I would not venture to let them pick up from my body language or words that i like them. so could that be the case with guys around you.
I haven’t even had crushes in like 5 years, yet I’m watching this whole video about them and relationships, Swoozie (and Domics) are the only people to get me interested in random crap
Domics video was really good. This video was kinda meh.. it felt like "unless you doesn't look a certain way, she or he will not like you" This isn't a good advice
@@maxderholzrusse7301 Well I mean, I’m not watching it for advice, I get where you’re coming from, but as I stated crushes have just been nonexistent for me.
