Your life will be forever stolen if you allow unforgiveness to remain forever. They don’t deserve it and neither does the affair partner(s), but You Do. You deserve better than what They Did. To give yourself a chance to survive and thrive...you deserve to forgive.
Tu Bailey I understand your statement very well. It’s just unfortunately impossible for me to trust or allow myself to be all in one I know we are all human and no one is above temptation so I think it is just easier to not place sucks expectations on myself on my spouse even though I know I love her very much I will not allow To put me through that anymore. Trust and a full commitment is just something my marriage will be lacking unless she decides to leave then I respect it but that’s just something I don’t give out freely anymore especially when all respect is thrown out the window. Things are better there with they were but they won’t be the same and I must admit I am lazy on trying to start over due to the emotional drain frustration .But life is full of disappointments and I understand it could have been me that was unfaithful. So I still care for her , I don’t hate . I just expect the worse and by doing it alone really helps me to not be surprised at anything there’s going in the future. I know it’s the same one I really don’t care what she do from here because she is her own woman she have shown it but I do want her to be safe and I did take a Vow . Just going thru the motions And career driven like crazy . And I know it revenge cheating will not fix anything and I am so destroyed I don’t even have the energy to even entertain that . It shows how much fight I even have going forward . I k ow it takes two . I just gotta find me at this time . Before I give it over to the father there are things I must reach within myself . I know she wants badly to move forward. But I know pride is a big killer . No matter what . No matter what . I just clearly don’t see me all in any relationship current are going forward like I was before . Yes I was faithful . It’s fact not all men cheat . When a man finds the one . It’s a done deal . We all subject to error . I just accept it for what it is . I rather at this point get lost in my work
I've been thru this and I've felt the emotions of both sides. I rebounded emotionally because of what my husband did. And yes, I've wanted to hurt and have hurt my spouse. No one wins unless you choose to forgive. What he is saying is true and I want true forgiveness and true love. I love my husband.
But he didn't love you enough to not cheat....:/ Usually forgiveness can be bad and can encourage a continuing behavior...my dad cheated on my mom like 3 times and she always forgave him because she said that's love....I'm like no, the ONLY thing I learned watching my mother forgive and my dad cheat and crawl back...is 1. My mother doesn't respect herself and 2. My dad never respected my mom....yeah if that's a "good" marriage example, then I'm sorry but, marriage is for the mediocre of hearts and basically emotionally dependent idiots...yeah no thanks, I don't envy the marriage of ANY woman who forgives her husband for CHOOSING to risk hurting his family and was disrespectful to his wife/marriage....my dad has said he'd leave my mom " but it's cheaper to keep her" my parents are together out of financial conviniece not true love for each other...cuz if it was true love no body would be cheating on nobody...my parents have the common mediocre love everyone else in the planet mostly has going for them...ptff I don't envy that not for one second...ewe peasant love lol
But he/she didn't love you enough to not cheat??? Cheating is a fucken CHOICE, you don't trip on it by accident like if you had untied shoes??....:/ Usually forgiveness can be bad and can encourage a continuing behavior...my dad cheated on my mom like 3 times and she always forgave him because she said that's love....I'm like no, the ONLY thing I learned watching my mother forgive and my dad cheat and crawl back...is 1. My mother doesn't respect herself and 2. My dad never respected my mom....yeah if that's a "good" marriage example, then I'm sorry but, marriage is for the mediocre of hearts and basically emotionally dependent idiots...yeah no thanks, I don't envy the marriage of ANY woman who forgives her husband for CHOOSING to risk hurting his family and was disrespectful to his wife/marriage....my dad has said he'd leave my mom " but it's cheaper to keep her" my parents are together out of financial conviniece not true love for each other...cuz if it was true love no body would be cheating on nobody...my parents have the common mediocre love everyone else in the planet mostly has going for them...ptff I don't envy that not for one second...ewe peasant love lol
Most people that cheat don't hurt at all. The only hate they got caught. You forgive and you try to move on and then they cheat again and again. These people don't hurt, they play victim and justify what they did. This dude words are humble, slick and conning even God say of they cheat you can let them go. God doesn't say how the cheater feels. This dude words is some kind of trap sorcery. Don't fall for it as good as it sounds 💯
