WHY THE INFJ AGES IN REVERSE 

Do you feel like you age in reverse?

"Life really does begin at 40. Up until then, you are just doing research." - Carl Jung.

I guess, the process of "ageing in reverse" or regeneration depends also on the objective factors. INFJ-children & young adults are often very sensitive, kind and try to make everybody happy. They "carry the weight of all the world's sorrow" on their shoulders. They spend all their time&energy, trying to help others, heal others, save others. As a result, they have not time&energy left to play and live their own lives. But as they mature, they realise, that not all the people deserve to be saved, - some are just mean, and INFJ should not waste their valuable time on such jerks. Time&energy should be spent only on good people and those, who INFJ loves and who love INFJ back. That approach frees lots of energy, and finally INFJ can live own live, and have fun, and enjoy the sun and time of leisure. Simply put, after INFJ gets mature enough to protect themselves from being manipulated, abused and drained by bad people, they can finally be happy and become real children in the best possible way.

My ever-curious INFJ dad bought himself a microscope for his 90th birthday:)

Yes, completely agree. Emotionally I feel so much lighter and less burdened than my younger years. Life is so much more fun and free now because I’ve learned how to change my perspective and keep my vibration up. Also transitioned from INFJ-T to INFJ-A. I’m turning 50 this year and look 15-20yrs younger. it just keeps getting better. I was so miserable as a young INFJ! for the younger ones here, don’t give up, it can get better!

Yes! At 36 I find myself more carefree than when I was young. While everyone else around me is becoming bitter and cynical and look at me like I'm crazy. I'm more willing to be silly, make a fool of myself... Be "the fun uncle". I had to be an "adult" as a kid and it nearly ruined me... Now that I'm an adult, know my own strength, been through "hell and back" and seen what I've accomplished.... Try not to "take life so seriously"

This makes so much sense. I am 37, but I have felt like a teenager these last few years, taking "reckless" chances and being carefree more, even though I have more responsibilites. I was a very serious, responsible teenager... my theory was that I mentally can't age anymore. I have felt 35, and sometimes 70, all my life, being called mom and grandma by my friends and always anxious and careful in my choices.

I think its cuz of that weird learning curve you talked about, where at first the INFJ has a harder time than everybody else because they can't process all the messy details, but as they get older and get more of the big picture figured out, they have it so figured out nobody can touch it, they are happy for life. At least, I hope so😊

Wow. This is so accurate. I’ve always been an “old soul” I related more to adults than my peers growing up. Now, in my 40s I’m more of a kid at heart...which works for being a teacher.

This is so me. At 64, I'm so much happier & "younger" than I ever was when younger chronologically

One of my personal favorite archetypal characters is Rafiki from the lion king. It's the same character as Yoda. I could sense the idea in this video is potent. He seems like a playful childlike character until he busts out his ninja self when required. He has developed mastery, but doesn't need to show it off. He is the shaman who understands how it all comes together. I've been saying this out loud in the last year or so, that it's time for my real childhood. I'm looking forward to the lightness I'm experiencing now. Awesome video, very affirming.

Don't let MBTI turn you into a bad person, instead use it as a tool to improve your personality.

This really describes my life. I’ve reached middle age. My parenting responsibilities have been fulfilled. And I have also spent the past several years evaluating the nature and basis of my relationships with others. A number of more or less toxic people have been removed from my life or moved to the periphery. In this whole process I have at some point given myself permission to do the things that inspire me. Throughout my life I have felt obligated to make others lives the focus of my efforts. I mean, I instinctively know how they’re doing and want them to be the best they can be. But now I’ve discovered that it’s completely okay for ME to experience life and.... to enjoy my life. Better late than never?

This is so on point for me right now! At 29, finally all the illusions I had are gone. The world isn't as sparkly, society not as fair and academics not as smart and high-class as I thought when I was younger. The world is chaos and therefore I can do what I want! Since this revelation I fell like "Let's go wild, kids!" and do things I never did. Like I knew I was afraid of heights and never went climbing. But I never had that experience and still wanted to make it and then did it and had a great experience :D I think it's just what that study with old people concluded: they never regretted what they did, just what they didn't do!

crazy! I always felt older than all my peers for so long but now I feel younger than them. I'll look at someone my own age and be like damn, you seem adult af and I'm over here feeling like a 20 year old kid. lmao

I def dont look like my peers, i dont complain about aging the way my peers do. And when people find out my age, they are either baffled or surprised. At 41, I just have 3 grey hairs, i have no wrinkles, no bags. Maybe its cause I dont drink alcohol or smoke tobacco. I workout moderately almost everyday (nothing intense, walking, situps, jump rope and shadow boxing, no weight lifting). I dont have STDs. I minimize my sugar intake. whatever the case, this video really hit home. As crazy as this sounds, im actually excited to get older, not that I wanna get older faster, its just that, the thought of it makes me very curious about how I would think about the world at an older age because how I think now is vastly different 20 years ago.

INTJs, too. I'm an INTJ (edit: Enneagram type 5w6, tritype 548), and it was like I was born mature. I tend to plan for the worst, and hope for the best. But as I've gotten older, I noticed that most of my projected "Worst Case Scenarios" didn't happen. So I'm a lot more relaxed now, but that was something I had to learn.

I’m an INFJ, and yep, this is all very true ! 👌🏼 I’m 33 (almost 34) years old now, and I seem to have a more child-like energy now than I did when I was a lot younger, and my intuition has definitely gotten significantly stronger than it was when I was younger, and I meditate daily to keep strengthening it🤗. Lol

Sucks to be an INFJ... You are too deep and too real for this cold and unfair world... The older i get and the more i get in contact with injustice the more i have this voice inside of me... that says: go fight for human rights, change the world... and it gets louder and louder over time... i can‘t ignore it…

So interesting. Something people have commented on with me is that I am so much ‘younger’ than I was twenty years ago when I seemed to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders. It’s also why life gets better as I get older. But that’s also down to being able to live the life I want to live, no matter what others think.

This video like a lot of videos from Wenzes really hit home. I often joke to my (few lol) friends that I'm reverse aging, except that it's not really a joke, I've felt this way for quite a while now. Until today, I've never thought of it as an 'INFJ thing' if it is, I think it's a very good thing .I'm 59 y/o, and I don't think, talk or look like my age peers -this is an 'Externally observable fact ' :-) I think maybe it is the INFJ's superpower, the alternative is embracing aging, and that sucks.

I’m an INFJ and I’m dating an ESTP. We’re 28 and 30. We’ve had so many conversations about this stuff. He sees this untapped potential in me, but I’ve been so resistant to growth and change, just living in my head and in my small bubble. I’ve felt an internal shift this past year, and I’m now looking forward to new experiences.. we’re going to go camping in the summer and plan on hiking together etc. We’ve been together for 5 years and I’ve fought his Se so hard... but now it’s time to expand.. I need more external input because I’ve been Ni-ing on the same exact loop. Excellent video!

I could watch these videos several times a peice, I am in a dark point in my life but the light I am seeing is really understanding who God made me and why he made an INFJ, it can be so difficult for the anyone to understand and you really get this. Its like we have our own little micro Matrix living inside of our mind and all the world we interact with gets injested into that matrix we either interact or study, sometimes both at the same time. Thank you so much.

Thank you 💗 I agree we get lighter and stop caring about other people's negativity 👌💯

I believe we all can age in reverse when you start becoming more intuned with your higher self. Understanding that how our definitions of reality really plays a HUGE role in shaping it to our preference.

I'm in that phase right now! Lost someone very close to me and I made her a promise I'm going to LIVE OUT LOUD!

I turned 54 in April. My estranged husband of 23 years, and who was 20 years my senior, died before Thanksgiving. We have 3 children; now 22, 16 and 14. I can say that while this has been the most stressful 6.5 months of my life, and there are days I think age me at warp speed. But so far no more gray hair and lots of energy. I've been tested and re-tested INTJ, and am told I seemed older as a teen by the people who knew me in my youth. Now I am told I look like I'm in my 30's. Are many just BS' ing me to get something, or have I truly become more youthful in terms of realizing that my life could end at any moment and not wanting to leave my children orphans? I'm sure it's a combination of factors. What a wonderful video...Subscribed

Makes perfect sence. In my early 20s my friends called me Mr old school. And my mother told me i spoke like a older person when i was a child. Today at 40 i feel younger then ever and lucky me look very young to.

You are so spot on. I feel like I get younger and younger and I even look 20 years younger. Everything you ever say is 'ME". Down to my own personal secrets. It's crazy because I thought only I knew I was different, even from a very early age, but kept it to myself. Thank-you for all your videos.

I’m glad that you raise the point of the importance of experience for introverted intuition because you need those experience to feed the intuition most people kind of forget about that and I really appreciate you emphasizing it because it’s important for young Infj who are developing; awesome wenzes

That applies to the general trend, but upbringing would also significantly change how one develops their functions. My Fe-Ti developed late. Living in a family of Se, Fi and Te sensors, it actually forced early development of my Se. I was highly curious, escaping home alone to contemplate on nature to calm my anxiety. Abit like a "naughty kid" seen by others. The unfortunate part for me was the suppression of Fe all life, living around Fi users. Succumbing to the expectations of others, constantly beating myself up without knowing why. Experienced both being "naughty" and "obedient", crushing my life twice and forced to find balance. But I'll say that once INFJs developed their 3 main functions, they would already appear like "old souls". Only when Se develops, thats when the age reverse starts. The exploration driven by "Why" really ramps up.

This woman is brilliant!! Maybe next time , you will touch upon our natural highs as INFJs !!

Yes,the older we become the more we may find that traveling for experiences,especially flying or being in high altitude on a mountain,can really harmonize and heighten perception,and open new incoming currents of information in our whole existence,just like the biblical Moses on a holy mountain,I bet he didn’t feel he was elderly when he witnessed miracles.

Awwww... thank you. This is so on point. I thought I was getting weird with me thinking like “children” as I get older. I get more spontaneous than ever, less over thinking (just do it stuffs), and enjoys life more (whatever happens, happens).

I sacrificed my 20's working full time & going to university at night. I was hated by work colleagues but by 25 I was above the level of most of those 20 years older than me. After leaving my career blossomed & I realised then it was pure jealousy. Years later I have a career with no stress as those I left behind had to fight with the public for the same jobs. Short term for long term gain. I still here stories of those with 30 years service who were let go in the last few years from my last employer & struggle to find work now as they compete with school leavers, willing to work cheaper.

I'm pushing 50. This makes a lot of sense to me. I noticed that I am not as serious about things, I let let myself to cut loose and relax and have fun.

Thanks for this. It's a gift that happens. We wake up and pretty much abandon monkey-see-monkey-do ego copy-cat thing and return to the wonderful path that we were individually on when we were eight or so, and still engage, with others but playfully, humorously, and deeply kindly. Ahhhh. (Encouragement for younger INFJs.) Thank again for another astute observation.

This is exactly how my life has gone. I am now halfway to 31 (an INTJ, coincidentally) and my experiences have become considerably more positive the last few years as I have begun to stop the fatal mistake of converting my internally formed ideals into expectations. This in comparison to when I was 18-25 and totally lost in my own intuition and negative internal cycles (and occasionally destroying relationships with very unnecessary outbursts of insensitive extraverted thinking). After years of living in my own head, I started to play tennis a few years ago out of the blue and just won my first tournament. I have the energy of 3 people my age, and at the same time I do not look a day over 20 thanks to years of healthy choices while I have seen a lot of other people peak early and go downhill. The IN_Js can truly be evergreen.

Feels like I've reincarnated multiple times within this one lifetime. Have found peace, let go of fear and let love in. Love to humanity and thank you all for being who you are.

you're so right. I'm turning into an entire goofball at age 32 and I effin love it! 🤪

Do I feel like I age in reverse? Yes. I just take good care of myself and keep going. Remaining ambitious and willing to learn. As far as being an "old soul", I end up showing that in my taste of music (country and rock from the 1950's through the 1980's). My oldest daughter, who is in her early 30's, says I passed this mentality onto her. She is an old soul as well as an INFP.

Holy guacamole I didn’t realize this is an INFJ thing but it totally makes sense and explains so much- thank you for sharing!

I feel very old soul and also very young at the same time.

That’s so weird that this video came up in my “recommended” list! I remember when I was younger, I’d be the “sensible worrier” of the group who was considered wise beyond her years. Now that I’m turning 30 soon, I’ve become more of a “eh, fuck it - life is too short!” Person and am more open to new experiences and living life to the full 😅

I am 39 years of age and excited after finding out my INFJ personality, the best years of my life are incoming!

Wenzes I've been off mbti you tube vids for a while and just wanted to say I'm so happy to see you continuing to thrive and be just so on point! Yes, I'm 46 and finally enjoying the playfulness in life that I've felt only an audience to for so many years. It IS easier to relax into a childlike learning and experiencing state because I have a lifetime of experience bolstering the now.

As a child I really thought more like a woman in her 40s. Now that I am literally a woman in her 4os I think more like a child 🧘‍♀️😂😂😂

Am now 90 years old and found out I was an INFJ a few months ago. People are always amazed when they find out my age. And I'm always amazed that they feel this way. But I think I've figured it out. First of all I'm active in my community, secondly, I don't dress like an old man with pants up to my chest held by suspenders, and I haven't given up on life. As a matter of fact, I never even think about age and I'm always doing research about any topics that perk my interest. I get along with youngsters, teenagers or anyone younger than myself. I have a positive outlook on life and still drive and travel to places that interest me. This video has allowed me to reflect somewhat, but in the end, I've never stopped to consider my age or worry about it. Namaste everyone!

I live my best life today, tomorrow, and all day everyday! - in youthhood, young adulthood, and older adulthood. I'm not waiting to enjoy my life. I am enjoying life now, especially while I am still young!

Very good message. You simplify things in a way that that this INFJ can get excited about. Action is key! Thx

This is so relatable and feels very true. I love how you manage to talk to the INFJ experience so well

information is...feeling n knowing they're still more to comprehend...Cheers!!!

Most people spend their lives seeking to be significant. I spend my life seeking peace.

That's exactly how it feels 😂😂 I was even much more responsible and mature as a kid. I feel i get younger with age.

I'm literally in tears cause I was 41 when I decided to chase my dream. I can't believe this actually exist. Unreal!!!

At 8 adults asked my opinion- at 60 I relate really well with the amazement of children lol

OMG! This explains why at 63 yrs old, I have to experience more things that a lot of people my age don’t care to!

ive been 'introverted' all my teenage/early adult life. i was secure, proud and happy with my function until i hit the wall and it seems the comfort of my built in indentity which pronunced by the branch of information i adhere no longer appease me as it used to be. the solid coccooned identity seems get loosened as time goes by and this subtle feeling of getting lost is unnerving yet i know its a transition. it just means i no longer get a kink of being so internal or maybe it has become so natural, having studied myself for so long, i dont get hyper activated or enthused by deep ideas anymore and... extraverted sensing is ones capacity to sense thusly work with people in a harmonious manner no matter the personality type is. adaptability to any circumstances... -shrug

Thanks for your wisdom and let me add I like your new hairstyle and color.

Damn, Wenzes. You have matured over the last couple years, and now you are my INFJ hero.

You have no idea how I needed to hear this. Thank you. So much.

Skipped out of 1hr Bootcamp promo and viewed this vid. You hit a target for me. I have found that the teacher in me from all my experiences across a very broad spectrum of topics and experiments has come to the fore in later life. And it has become satisfying fun for both me as tutor and the wide age range of successful students that I engage with . I have always had a belief that until your latter years you have knowledge, but with age comes wisdom, the application of sound robust knowledge. And when that childlike extroversion is over, it is nice to slip into the introverted space for more evolution and knowledge. NIce Vid. Thanks

Glad you said you don't know everything

I remember so well events when I was 4 how clear and understanding my thoughts were I was thinking like 14 years old Now as an adult I have been told that I am child at heart I attract children and teenagers and can level my mind to theirs and understand them ..yes the reverse is true..

Your hair looks really lovely 🙏❤️👍

This is soooooo interesting!!!!!!! I had no idea this was an "INFJ thing"....I've actually joked many times that I'm "growing down" instead of growing up. For me it feels as if I had a LOT to figure out in the first half of my life ...a lot of struggles...etc.. And eventually once my intuition sort of "built" a kind of "theory of life" that proved to be stable over time, it's as if all the "hard" work is done, and I can now relax a little and roll with life without feeling like there's something I really need to be seriously working on or working out. Yea, I still do plenty, but I feel like what I do is easier and that the hardest part is behind me, and I actually AM more playful the older I get!

You so easily put into words what is happening inside my mind.

I am always amazed by your gift of making meaning out of sublime psychological facts.

Wow!! So very insightful…spoke to my situation perfectly, and opened my eyes!! Thank you!! Very true on every level!!

I do everything in reverse! Need to understand the end before I can start the beginning!

It's been toying with you for awhile. Now you know, you're alone. Without any hesitation, you begin to listen for the Trees, and cherish every moment.

100% that's it. So cool

Keanu Reeves is the best example

I'm an INFJ and I just came across this channel. Everything you said was spot on and I had no clue that others felt the same way. It feels great to know I'm not alone. I'm 40 now and definitely enjoy it more than my 20s. Although I did a lot when I was younger I cant say I enjoyed myself. I was too much in my head about everything and I was mostly following what I thought I should be doing based off what others were enjoying. Now I take my time and seek out experiences that resonate with me. Thank you for your advice.

Yes, this mirrors my lifelong (59 years) experience. As a child, I felt I was robbed of childhood through a level of maturity beyond my tender years. On reaching my mid-20s, I was comsidered by some ro be 'immature' because of my then jocular demeanor. I suspect I am in search of 'lost' childhood.

Book ... ...... ......AREA UNSOLVED: Streets of the community I learned a lot from you over the years. Thanks, Wenzes.

Enjoying doing this INFJ epic life 😊 thx Wenzes!!

True and agree with you on this, the older I get, lighter I become🧘‍♀️🙏❤

how many INFJ actually believe in TIME? I always thought that if you follow the Sun, the day will never end thus being "lost" in time, like that lady that flew a plane a long time ago. Or that airplane from the 50s or 60s that landed then took off due to their fear. And all those ships with the Bermuda Triangle. Does Time really exist? Even the souls in "Heaven" doesn't think time is a joke.

I feel old and I have noticed that im kind of aging backwards, when I was 9 I felt really old and now Im 14 and I feel like a little child.

I will have to say I can I don't read so I don't know this lady's name that's doing the video but when I first ran across her videos compared to now and the video she's made since then she is gotten a whole lot better at either interpreting and explaining or understanding the interpretation that she's getting from it and explaining it as well so I would have to say to this lady here keep up the good work

This video made me start crying. I’m not exactly sure why. Great video.

I'm not even 2 mins in and OMFG. Thank you for putting this all out here ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I believe in reincarnation. There are things in life I have already learned in previous lives and other things I need to learn this time around.

"Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first and the lesson afterward." -Oscar Wilde

While keeping my introverted intuition strong

One of your best vid.s, bravo! Could follow your points easily.

I'm enjoying experiencing your natural cadence with the smoother editing :)

I’m 23 and INFJ and compared to other people of my same age, I don’t have enough experiences basically in everything - from friendships (I don’t have friends) to any experience any person in their early 20s has and does. I’m trying to change this but sometimes it’s hard because it seems that certain circumstances are higher that me that can impact everything. I’m trying to do my best now to live more compared to my teen years but sometimes it’s hard and it seems that everything is stuck in one place

Wenzes - your videos qualities are improving all the time....I think it relates to INFJ need to grow continuously....great keep changing...thanks.

damn, my intuition guide me here. I'm ready to call it quits (not suicide) just go to a homeless shelter. Life is full of good experiences.

About to turn 50! Party party party! Lol. Just playin. I have noticed that things have gotten way more light hearted in intent. Just wanna have a good time n if you don't know how to make one. Pick me. I've got options. Hehe. You've helped me understand the markers of my personality so I can be more conscious and in control of myself.

I think there are 2 reasons for this readjustment in life. 1. As we near or reach our life goals, which often mean a life style of harmony, peace and physical and emotional security we enjoy the fruit5of our labor. 2. We become better at recognizing the trivial and unimportant adverse effects of negative occurrences or influence in our lives. At least that's always been my objective.

Will you marry me. I'm an infj, God appointed me to change the world. All coaches were doing good job at the same time, coaches need to understand God's plan behind every infjs birth. Infjs are God's soldiers on earth

Im 29 and i usually be mistaken as early 20. I thought it is my family gene but seem like all Infj look younger when we get older.

So true I'm starting to experience it, thank you for putting it into words🌻

There's another thing this lady brought up insinuations expectations you should never expect anything you should always accept the unexpected in contrast to acknowledging it along with what society expects from you but you should never expect anything from anyone but yourself you need to know yourself and be honest and truthful with yourself once you are truthfully honest with yourself and you know yourself you know the beast that's everyone you don't know their little corks you don't know them personally but you know the more oh how do I say common traits that makes us the mammal we are the entity we are as a whole even though we might be different in societal setting everyone has those traits some more than others depending on how they're more values are things of that nature like honesty or hatred or complete ignorance but the more you understand yourself and be honest with yourself and figure out the reason why things are working or not working and what's the problem within it that you working out with yourself you'll have the aspect if you can identify the problems correctly with everyone else that is in our nature has a type of being we are just like if you have a dog you will know that some dogs are a little bit more intelligent seems some dogs learn easier some dogs forget things easier but they are all naturally and since acting the same when it comes to there animalistic nature I know people hate it when I say we're mammals but that's the truth of it we are an animalistic natured creature just like anything else that is a mammal

2:47 Recently by reading most of INFJ comments, seems most of us we devellopped Ni Ti Fe Se, and it's normal. Because Introverts people prefer introverts functions, and extroverts people prefer extroverted functions. I don't think the orders of the functions are developped in the same order for all individuals. Seems our middle functions are on the same level AsuraPsych - MBTI Cognitive balance : 2 auxiliary functions : ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ayZG9lyNPWw.html&t Age in reverse I think yes in the sense : From Ni wisdom to Se amusement/fun.

My problem with Extraverted Sensing is the seductive lure and addiction that curiosity causes. When I'm about to "discover" or remember something of a past life or the "Other Side" I have a tendency to "forget" to sleep, eat, bathe, ect. When we get older or about to die, we "remember" (subconsciously) what it's like to do these things again and it get us anxious like suspense. You know that similar feeling you get when your about to leave school (Earth) to go back home (Heaven, Summerland, Utopia, ect) and play that new video game or drive your new car...vibe. Se just gets in the way.

Thanks girl you are a life saver !