WHY THE INFJ IS SLOWER THAN AVERAGE (but grows exponentially) 

What is your experience with your learning process as an INFJ?

Idk if we’re slow, but defintiely I come across as lazy or unmotivated bc we tend to not be very competitive at all. So it shocks people when they find out that we have our own things that we work on

We're way ahead of Humanity in years or decades ,so its hard for US to connect with people 😉😁

I love that point, that we have to disregard other's speed. I'm a slower thinker than the average person and while I feel it makes me seem stupid even when I'm not, I have to realize that taking the time to think things through and making a decision is better than making decisions on impulse without thinking it through. I'm also a slower learner in that it takes me longer to learn tasks than others. Especially when it comes to learning facts. A lot of people can flourish in an auditory environment like a classroom, but I am more of a visual learner, so being able to look at facts and understanding stuff helps me to learn better. I'm also more of a kinetic learner and learn by doing rather than being told.

*Slow Growth* . I love interior design, it's a hobby/passion. I spent countless hours doing mood boards and sourcing the "perfect" pieces for my primary bedroom make-over. After 8 months, I'm ready to add the final touch, paint the room. I see the the vision, I experience the feeling, I execute the finished product.

The turtle always wins the race

On the first day of an easy job I had I got sent home because my perfectionism made me too slow. My employer interpreted it as laziness. Which was humiliating and frustrating at the time. He even told his colleagues how i'm useless and good for nothing. After few months at the job I was now faster then most people that worked there for years and was often complimented by my superiors.

I am slower than my colleagues in my new job, I started about a month ago. But I like the fact that other colleagues acknowledge that I ask questions and that I actually listen, that makes me feel like I am growing despite the slow pace.

This came at just the right time for me. Felt like I've barely moved with my goals for the year whereas others around me are racing ahead. This puts things into perspective. Thank you

Slow but not lazy, do it surely and accurately

I didn’t quite realise I was slow because my mind is active most of the time. I have to plan and think and tidy the patterns I observed and make sense in my head to find solutions or conclusions. So I thought I was busy and never bored. Sometimes it’s lyrics or melodies in my head. However I was thinking about this the other day and think in my head as usual. Then I imagined in other people’s perspective. Darn I didn’t move at all for an hour. 😂

How do you have such meta awareness of what it's like to be an INFJ? It's amazingly insightful. Every time I listen to you I can't believe the depth of awareness you offer. Thank you!

The key to identifying patterns is experience and truly understanding your experiences without bias. When your ego overly influences your perceptions your pattern recognition will suffer accordingly

I have a very laid-back attitude most of the time individually. In group settings, when I find something that piques my interest in learning, I tend to ask some of the best questions out of the group. I get my teachers/mentors really thinking sometimes by how excited they get.

We do have an INFJ role model in you; Wenzes.

Our rule of engagements to achieve our goals are unseen - our intuiton and pattern recogntion are all "seen" within us UNTIL it manifest into the outside world - mainstream success "How-Tos" have not been the msot help because the methods are focused on the outside versus inside - Thank God for Wenzes and teaching what she has learned thru her blood sweat and tears ❤

The infj Council has commenced

We're super thoughtful not slow🎉🥰

She said "if you were happy, you wouldn't be watching this video" and I knew this was really the place to be.

You make me laugh every time I watch your videos because you know us so well. You have us pegged. It helps me understand & accept myself in the way my brain collects & synthesizes through time. You are like a gift of love from Germany to us all. I'm sorry my dead CIA Minister Spy Exhubby was a Spy in Germany in the 80's while we were divorcing. I have no idea what he was involved in. I loved visiting your gorgeous country when he was stationed @ Cooke Barracks in Göeppingen. TY.🥰💝

We know there’s more than 1 way to do a task., our way might be slower, but it saves otherwise things down the line, like trash, supplies, and possible failures.😮‍💨

THANK YOU ❤️ FOR MAKING A CHANNEL FOR US INFJ HUMANS..I KNEW I WAS DIFFERENT ALL MY LIFE. IT WAS THERAPY THAT GOT ME TO TAKE THE TESTS. (BECAUSE I TOOK MANY TO MAKE SURE) AT FIRST, I WAS RELIEVED THAT I WASN'T CRAZY. NEXT, I WANTED TO KNOW MORE. I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL. KEEP IT UP! YOU JUST DON'T KNOW HOW MANY OF US YOU HAVE HELPED TO UNDERSTAND WHEN THEY HAVE NEWLY FOUND OUT WHO THEY REALLY ARE. WHICH LED TO OTHER FINDINGS ABOUT MYSELF. 🎯💯💜👑😘😘

In our homogenous culture it's hard to accept the simple fact that we are unique, and "society" doesn't apply to us. We are constantly being told about what "most people" do, and we are usually compared poorly to them as a result. We are outside "society" that is our strength.

I have always learned new jobs slow. I learn it thoroughly. I've had coworkers snicker and make fun of me, thinking Im dumb and I won't succeed. When I gain speed, I pass everyone in my department. I have resigned from jobs after being in my position for years and at one company they had to hire two people to produce what I was able to do. One company had to shut the department down and give it to the parent company because they hired person after person who couldn't produce the amount of work I did. I think we just learn different then surpass everyone.

2:24 #1 Disregard other people's speed 5:41 #2 Get used to being the underdog 7:59 #3 Trust your own process 11:37 #4 Set long term and exciting goals 13:56 #5 Watch our pattern recognition work its magic

I think the word u were looking for is “internalize” when taking about grasping what being an jnfj is. I also like the phrase “self actualized”

For several years, I worked in a bank department. I’m an artist, who also loves to write. So I was definitely a fish out of water. Everyone in this department was high energy, get it done no matter what. I, on the other hand, was a meticulous worker. Over time, I revamped the department to look professional. It even got the attention of corporate. They wanted to promote me, but I knew my limitations. When I left, the person who got my job hardly paid attention to my training. She figured she knew it all. Needless to say, she didn’t. Hence, the often overlooked strengths of the INFJ. We are misunderstood creatures in this world and sometimes unappreciated. But if we grasp our uniqueness as created by God to be who we are, we can do great things.

I thought it was only me who would take at least 3 attempts to start to understand something - everything. There are times where I realized later that it was less about grasping it right away and more about holding off any conclusions until enough sampling in both variation AND depth was achieved. It is more like "I need more information" to "verify my conclusions", so don't just stop before it starts. However, failure doesn't distract but becomes part of the process. In the end the understanding is wider and deeper.

Haha we like a mad scientist experience

You hit every note! Bravo!!!! It is so validating. I'm so fortunate that my husband is my witness and supports me through each new job. He reminds me of this quality and I just have to persevere through the pain. It is painful looking slow at first, to be underestimated. But, the accelerator button gets pushed and voila, the tides turn. Also, what we think of as "success" is different than the cultural norm. Being able to go the beat of a different drummer is more rewarding than a high powered CEO job for us. Your insights and explanations about our world validates our experiences. In my life, I have not come across another INFJ that I could use as a role model. Everyone else was playing a different game. Thanks for being our mentor, Wenzes.

Wow Wenzes! This is absolutely true for me in my spiritual journey in the last 7 years! I only consciously know this by watching this video. I love this, it's so useful! I am going to apply this in multiple aspects of my life.

Not caring about what others think comes after we have given them all they need. When we show up for ourselves with the growth and achieve our goals, they never see it coming. That is when the jealousy and envy shows up because they so under estimated us.

Thank you Wenzes

Needed this today. Thanks Wenzes🤙🏾

Thank you!! Fantastic video, and great insight into those of us who are an INFJ.

Such words of wisdom. Whatever course or studies I make, I'm always so slow to learn. My mind just keeps flying all over the place when I try to focus on something complex and new, thinking of everything that relates. Yet on the other side I'm an unstoppable creative machine and considered a living library by my friends and relatives. I just can't refrain from learning from absolutely everything. Someday I'll reach the level of knowledge that I wish for.

Super helpful video ❤ thanks

I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much!

This is so good thank you

I can add a loud "amen" to all five of these statements - especially #3 - trusting my own process. I especially had to remember that because speed is not my strong suit, and anything I do fast it's been from a lot of of practice.. One thing I've added for myself: when I'm working on something meaningful to me, I tell very few people about it. Sometimes I've told nobody. I've always had, as Wenzes says, to trust my own process - adjusting it and owning it. It's what I was given to. work with. Good video.

I love how you know you’re definitely talking to another INFJ rn and you’re really sweet with it and incredibly down to Earth. Much needed and sending love ❤️✨

This is so true! Every time I fail at something, I learn from my mistakes. It’s been s-l-o-w but I’m finally getting it. This is really helping me not feel bad about all the people I’ve felt I’ve let down.

Again, wow! Thank you, this video is amazing

What, I was just thinking about this, this is so relevant

Happy Easter Wenzes :) And thank you for this video, gives me hope in my INFJ life

Thank you, i really needed to hear that. I truly appreciate your effort and contents ❤

This is sooo thru. don't compare yourself.... Being 57 I'm still learning and evolving. Seeing or feeling others judging my way of moving makes me laugh internally. It took me years to accept myself and I hit rock bottom before that happened. People who love you will do this because you are who you are.... and I enjoy being alone, I'm not a beggar anymore and I don't give a fuck anymore how others think about me. Most people don't do the effort to see, they judge very fast and superficially. That's their mistake. Do what feels good to yourself, and don't compromise and wish all living beings all the best.

Great explanation. It hurts when we have to begin to focus on ourselves instead of others.

Mmm this happens probably with people around me not uderstanding, why I am doing nothing in cases that are clear to them according to something that I want. I guess I am just collecting pieces of my soul to feel that I am ready and I understand everything to be sure that I know exactly what I want 🤷‍♀️

Thanks a lot, you are really an angel May Allah bless you in this ramadan, sweet sister

I can totally relate to this. Ive been a composer since 1988. Its not until the last 5-10 years that the pieces have fallin into place. So glad I kept going. I think my inner picture of music is really broad by now. Its a feeling of what I can imagine, I can create. It have given me some kind of inner calm. And like you say, I dont feel the need to prove myself to anyone anymore. A few years ago I got a job in IT and was asked to learn 3D-graphics. By that time I had realized that It would take time for me to do. That realisation helped a lot to see it thru. Once things stuck in my head, its was there. It wasnt going away. I also have a tendancy to reject shortcuts. I like the feeling of doing things from the ground up. I think this also gives a more "overview" knowledge of the subject/skill.

that’s exactly what I have been through over the past decades.

This happens to me in arts. I mean, I have fellow artists who program a series of paintings or drawings, and then they steadily make it in few months. When I make series of drawings, I work very differently, spending much time in ruminating ideas, associations, vibes, research, searching for visual patterns that later I will elaborate, etc. So at the beginning apparently nothing visible comes out, or very little, and many people think I'm not doing anything, but then all that work starts to get shape and explodes. When I was younger I usually got frustrated, trying to force my process to make it similar to the rest of people. But after the years, I started to appreciate my way of doing things, finding it actually very enriching, and enjoying my pace, using my ways to my own advantage. I've learnt not to rely on compliments when it comes to being encouraged, especially during the "non-visible" stages of my process, and simply enjoying my "hidden treasure" and getting excited about the non-visible daily achievements as much as for the visible.

I love this video topic. As I got older and started to recognize that I can trust my process-that it never fails me, Whenever Ive found myself getting anxious because it doesn’t seem like Im making any progress, for some reason I use this analogy of a rubber band to assure myself that we’re on track and there’s no need to worry. I used to envision a rubber band being pulled back-where, the more its pulled back the farther and faster it goes forward when it is released. Of course the exponential growth explanation is better 😆but before even knowing this was an INFJ thing, thats how I saw this experience of being “slow” in my mind. It always made me settle back down and relax and get back to what I was doing without caring what it looks like.

I'm surprised that ppl think I'm laid back, etc. I just need my time to process it.

Now, I got it…there are so many things I don’t or can’t understand because it doesn’t match my logic 🤔 thinking. ..or I don’t have any logic of humans, …I am weird 😐--..😂

I like you Wenze

I’m a time traveler so my time is way different 🤷🏽‍♂️. It takes me longer but I’m aging in reverse so when I get there it will be like I was just 20 frfr 😄

This videos have helped me to know myself, and from that, built self-esteem. Thank you!

00:00 📈 INFJs grow exponentially rather than linearly, which means progress may seem slow at first but accelerates over time. 02:24 🏃‍♀ Disregard others' speed; focus on your unique process and goals as an INFJ. 04:44 🔄 Trust your own process; set achievable goals and prove to yourself that you can keep promises to yourself. 08:08 🎯 Set long-term and exciting goals to define the direction of your INFJ journey. 13:56 🧠 Watch your pattern recognition skills in action; trust your ability to recognize and act on patterns for growth.

your content is so needed! thank you so much ❤

-RIP IT OUT FROM THE ROOT- 🗣️💋✨💫🌟⭐😘🤩

Exactly as others have already said... The tortoise wins in the end; the hare is the one who loses. Because slow and steady wins the race or in this case leads to OUR success. ❤😎❤ While it took me longer to get to my career that I love. I'm still going above and beyond. When I was younger people thought I would not have the cognitive ability due to epilepsy. But, my determination, love, and drive to work in radiology and medicine has been done. It may have taken longer due to a few factors, such as learning disabilities from epilepsy, paying for school locally, passing the boards, and getting the job of my dreams. I succeed by age 33 and want to go farther!!!! X-ray to MRI/MRA to possibly CTs The joke in our field the moderately paid photographer...😂 😎☢️😎

It Would be nice if those that we collaborate with took this into serious consideration. Without being invasive.

Bro! as a child I was a bad student, my teachers always told me that I will never be good, I always ignored them ( power of the INJ 💪 other became discouraged not me) then with time I overcame everyone in my class, I'm a successful art director well travelled that speaks 3 languages LOL I reach all these concussions by myself I build incredible self-confidence with time. Just listing this from you is hilarious. How can we know if our kids are INFJ too? Is there a way to support young INFJ, man if I had told all this when younger I would have gone even faster and further

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Yes am slower and a turtle before I do things and it drives people crazy since things don’t happen at their speed and are impatient with me. I look at it as it is meant to be it will happen. If people don’t like my speed then they are not worth my time. I’ll still get to the finish line with or without them lol.

so how does one do this when 70? It seems I lived other's dreams. I wanted to be a Univ teacher my dad wanted me to be first grade teacher. I taught one year in univ in Korea and then got masters in ED for my dad and the little kids. When he died I quit and had to take care of my mom which I did for 10 years. It seems my dreams all died. I was considered a slow thinker by my brothers. I preferred the depth of ideas rather than linear. I felt so alone as a child. My health is bad, but I take care of the little things through natural remedies. I love research. But, have no friends. The ones I do have use me for their purposes. Again its because of different thinking styles. I never could handle huge crowds. This makes me sad as my life seems so wasted.

I loved your lipstick ❤

Chosen ones spearality

I sleep five hours a day homeschooling. Sat night to Monday im like dead sleeping. 6 AM to Noon six days a week is exhausting. I just upped my pay grade from minimum wage to 100,000.00 a year in six weeks ❤😂🎉❤❤😂🎉 🎉😂😂🎉😂 Cheers for University Home Education Students ❤

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Im slower than the average bear, witch will probally be the reason why im eaten by a bear,,

She's pretty😊 I'm Not Flirting 😡

Thank you. Currently learning Japanese and I have a steady progress going. Someone keeps telling me my method will yield no result, but I know it will. 🩷 Thank you for reviving my confidence in my journey 🩵