Why Victims of Narcissistic Abuse Often Live in Disarray (Shocking Facts!)

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Are you wondering why victims of narcissistic abuse often live in disarray? In this video, we uncover the shocking facts behind the chaotic lives of those who have suffered from narcissistic abuse. Understanding why victims of narcissistic abuse often live in disarray can help you recognize the deep impact this kind of abuse has on their lives. The manipulation and control tactics used by narcissists leave lasting scars, making it difficult for victims to rebuild and find stability.
In this video, we delve into the reasons why victims of narcissistic abuse often live in disarray. From the constant mental and emotional turmoil to the loss of self-esteem and confidence, victims of narcissistic abuse struggle to regain their footing. We'll explore how the toxic influence of narcissistic abuse disrupts every aspect of their lives, leaving them in a state of confusion and chaos. These shocking facts will open your eyes to the harsh reality faced by many.
Join us as we shed light on why victims of narcissistic abuse often live in disarray. We'll share personal stories and expert insights to help you understand the deep psychological impact of narcissistic abuse. By spreading awareness about why victims of narcissistic abuse often live in disarray, we hope to provide support and encouragement to those affected. Don't miss out on this important discussion that reveals the truth behind the disarray in the lives of narcissistic abuse survivors.
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Video Time Line:
WHY VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE OFTEN LIVE IN DISARRAY 00:01
NUMBER 1 EROSION OF SELF-WORTH 00:14
NUMBER 2 CHRONIC STRESS AND ANXIETY 01:24
NUMBER 3 COGNITIVE DISSONANCE 02:23
NUMBER 4 ISOLATION AND LACK OF SUPPORT 03:19
NUMBER 5 HYPER-VIGILANCE 04:17
NUMBER 6 EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION 05:49
NUMBER 7 TRAUMA RESPONSES 07:08
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@annaburns2865 Месяц назад

1. Errosion of self-worth 2. Chronic stress and anxiety 3. Cognitive Dissonance 4. Isolation and lack of support 5. Hyper vigilance 6. Emotional exhaustion 7. Trauma responses

@MissRed92837 Месяц назад

Yup. All that happened to me.

@CathyWatkins-ie7ym Месяц назад

Thank you for the Cliff Notes 😂

@MAXIMILLION2022 Месяц назад

Yes and FMG scars… list goes out

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

Time-stamps missing. NOT GOOD ENOUGH !!! 😡 (#DarkHumor)

@irinaivanovic9792 Месяц назад

ALL of these things describe me. 😔

@lindamowbray7956 Месяц назад

I always wondered why I have no energy and motivation after being abused by a narcissist for years. I felt bad about myself for living in disarray. I had more energy and motivation before getting involved with the narcissist. I feel like I am trying to lift a ton of bricks when I attempt to organize everything. I used to work two jobs and cook in between jobs and do laudry late at night after working my last job. Then wake up early for my morning job. He always picked an argument while I tried to sleep. He always put me down. He said I was useless, ugly, stupid, etc. Then he walked in the house with muddy footwear after I mopped the floor. I would tell him that I just mopped the floor. I felt so overwhelmed about the neverending housework and being told that I was useless that I lost all motivation. Now, I look at the disarray and wonder where do I start. I would tell myself that he was right that I am lazy. The disarray causes me to be tired. So I go to sleep without doing too much most of the time. I am glad there is a good explanation for how I feel. I am slowly feeling better about myself because of these videos. Recently, I have been doing 2-3 tasks everyday. Sometimes I push myself too much then I have to rest. There is still more organizing to do. Not as much as when my abuser was alive though. But still a lot to do.

@thirstonhowellthebird Месяц назад

I am so happy for you that he is gone. God saved you, literally. Be kind to yourself and go slow because there’s no rush. It takes a long, long time for your brain to re-regulate itself. He literally damaged your brain because of the flood of chemicals, surging through your body when he was cruel and horrible to you. I’m so happy that you are free. Relish in it.❤

@pamelariley6694 Месяц назад

❤️

@patriciafoster6282 Месяц назад

God bless you dear. I am still struggling with the same thing and I have been away from my abuser over four years. You are not alone and please continue to pace yourself and most of all be kind and patient with yourself. I am trying to do that and I know it is hard. I pray the Lord will give you strength to recover soon. 🙏♥️🙏

@lou6574 Месяц назад

Try meditation and affirmations

@tigermomsmith1478 Месяц назад

That’s what I’m going through and on top of it the ADHD I struggle with makes it worse

@Victoriah1923 Месяц назад

You're spot on with this video. Been using the "clutter junkie" excuse for years so I don't have to explain why my house is always messy. Narcissists definitely give gifts that keeps on giving. To everyone dealing with the same, putting even one item in an orderly place every day means you're in control, not the narcissist. An anonymous quote I read awhile back that helps me greatly: "No matter how you feel - get up, dress up, show up - never give up". Hope this helps someone as it did me. The narcissist is the one who cannot heal, we can!! One day at a time ❤

@katiesimpson8517 Месяц назад

Nailed it! Many Thankx.

@e.duncan6256 28 дней назад

I’ve tried to declutter, clean the house, but it doesn’t last and I can’t make decisions. My husband died in 1999. I thank God I’m free of him, but I just can’t get rid of the low self esteem and the feeling that I’m still a victim, if not him anymore, then other people, society. I hate it. I wasn’t like this before I married him.

@joannaphillips73 27 дней назад

@@e.duncan6256hello, I’ve been separated now from mine for 7months, I feel the same way, wasn’t like this before my narcissistic marriage. I do a little bit every day, even if it’s just a small thing, then I tell myself I’m free of him and I’m a survivor of a narcissist and I’m no longer excepting I’m a victim any longer! He is gone and IM THE WINNER AND FREE! I can choose to be a survivor of a narcissist or keep being a victim that allows him to still be in control! Take baby steps! Once I do something no matter how small, I laugh out loud and say yup I did it my way you prick of a narcissist and I’ll keep doing it cuz I’m in control even if it takes awhile to do it all. Every time you do a small task put a star on a pice if paper for every day on a calendar and you will see yourself start to see ur accomplishments! One step at a time!!!! Friend me if you would like. We can move forward together!!! I still have my bad days here in there but I want to live and build a stronger version of me! He can’t take that from me any longer. You have to turn that fear into HATE of them and push yourself to do what he hated and smile!!!!

@mightyobserver12 17 дней назад

This is so truE

@Victoriah1923 9 дней назад

@@e.duncan6256 Your husband is the victim of the Grim Reaper. Let him have the "Victim" title. Time for you to wear your "Boss Lady" hat and stop giving a dead man power over you. You have priceless worth as a unique individual! You are amazing! Demand the respect every person is entitled to!! ("Boss Man" if that applies.)

@user-gk6iq7wi6z Месяц назад

I thought I was one on the spectrum, but now I see I'm the victim of narcissistically abusive parents 😢

@casaugustine Месяц назад

Being able to identify the problem is the beginning to learn how to heal❤️🙏. When you can do whatever research you can on Narcissistic personalities and how to deal with them. It took me until my late 60’s to identify the problem and another year to realize how not to put gas on a fire and no matter how hard you try there are some things that will never change. It’s heart breaking when it is family members. Be kind to yourself and feel the love you so deserve. May God Love surround you and carry you to a better place.❣️

@Squiggly_Spooch Месяц назад

Same bby, WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER 💜🤪🤣

@FuriosaSonoran Месяц назад

...it can be both... I'm most likely both because I have other co-morbidities for the tism. Dyscalculia learning disability, and hEDS (Hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome)... though I was initially misdiagnosed by the psy system- as many neurodiverse (especially female) are.

@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper Месяц назад

@@FuriosaSonoransame… I only found out about two Asperger’s diagnoses in the early eighties during lockdown when I found the papers in my parents attic accidentally.

@JustinLundy-xz2ko Месяц назад

My parents mislead me this way also too.

@reneelibby4885 Месяц назад

I'm so happy living alone I can barely express it. It's awesome! People around me can think I'm a weird hermit, and I guess they are "right".... but who cares what they think? Most people truly aren't worth interacting with. I don't need to be triggered by their stupidity or lack of empathy.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

#Hermit! 🙃

@oOImpulseOo 29 дней назад

Me too. People can think whatever the want to think . Occasionally people will inquire about my single relationship status. Sometimes it's like they can't understand that alone and loneliness are two different things. So I put it to them like this, I ask what they do when they wake up in the morning? And they will start rambling and I'll give them a minute or two before I cut them off and ask, you know what I do when I wake up in the morning? I figured you'd enjoy my answer. What ever the fuck I want to do. Every day. Just me and the dog. Not waking up with another opinion in the room can be pretty awesome.

@reneelibby4885 29 дней назад

@@oOImpulseOo I do love you answer. : )

@connie9492 27 дней назад

@@oOImpulseOo💯 ABSOLUTELY %!

@connie9492 27 дней назад

This is so TRUE! THERE'S A LOT OF CONFUSED ANGRY PEOPLE OUT THERE! PEOPLE THINK I'VE BECOME A HERMIT TOO. BUT THE PEACE BETWEEN MY EARS AND IN MY LIFE IS THE REWARD!

@xenatron9056 Месяц назад

Possibly the most accurate video on narcissistic abuse and its effect that I have ever seen.

@NancyAyers-ek7eo Месяц назад

Narcissistic abuse had a different effect on me. It made me into a clean freak!

@KasiaJangMiMalinowa Месяц назад

@NancyAyers-ek7eo But it's the same coin, only the other side of it. Your body feels that disarray is at the corner and wants to prevent it as much as possible.

@donnaenglund-pd4vy Месяц назад

I agree. Excellent! And there are many different manifestations. I dated one man for about two years who invoked.many of these reactions in me. It was me clutching for him mostly. It’s hard to tell where the abuser’s habits seep through. Inability to keep up has an effect of insomnia, and that triggers household problrms. Then you may get tagged a “hoarder” but then that creates its own sets of issues. Hang in there!

@FloraEstaAqui 27 дней назад

agreed

@shelleyknowles7348 24 дня назад

Agreed.

@smilingdog54 Месяц назад

Raised by a narcissistic mother, married a narcissistic man then he died, took care of elderly narcissistic mother till she passed. Thank god I am now married to a good man that really loves me and cares about me. This has really made me understand why I am like I am

@user-xi5xo6qt1i Месяц назад

Sorry 😢

@selfacademy1529 Месяц назад

Similar... My narc ex husband died 4 years after our divorce... Now I'm free and have rebuilt myself and my life❤

@annemccarron2281 29 дней назад

You married a real gem. I have yet, at 72 to find anyone who could even begin to understand or care about what I went through.

@annemccarron2281 29 дней назад

@@selfacademy1529My 2nd narc husband died 3 years after our divorce. It was the greatest blessing in my life. My 1st narc husband died about 10 years ago and my narc mother a year after him. Most of the narcs in my life are gone. I counted 20 + narcs that I have been related to - 6 I've lived with. It's not so bad being old just to have them all out of my life for good.

@nikkicoco3682 29 дней назад

Lucky you

@ApocalypseofMichael Месяц назад

It's strange watching this and identifying with it all. I often feel I need a holiday from myself. I have after 40 years taken the biggest step to recovery thankfully but time will tell what it brings to my life instead of what has has been. Sending love and strength to all those affected by and living with the trauma of the past. Here's to a better future ❤💪✨

@RawOlympia Месяц назад

@cruzze979 Месяц назад

Yes❤🎉❤to you as well 😊

@LolaSmollz126 28 дней назад

I was a victim of narcissistic abuse in my relationship during college-he proposed to me on the night of my pinning ceremony for nursing. My sister was married to a narcissist who broke her down. She turned to alcohol to disassociate herself from the reality of who she married. Her ability to be a mother to her two children due to the narcissistic nature of her husband left her completely vulnerable and depressed. A mother should be able to be a mother to their children, right? My sister died suddenly on January 2nd extremely unexpectedly at the age of 42. Her husband never even went to the hospital. He texted me at 0122 and left me a message saying ‘they couldn’t resuscitate my sister.’ He forced her into getting all the boosters. We had an autopsy done on her and she passed of cardiac arrest/dysrhythmia, cardiomyopathy and cardiomegaly & myocarditis. So, I pray every single day for those who have been affected by a narcissist. I am forever changed, lost and missing a 3rd of my soul when she died. Please take care of yourselves out there ❤

@louiseparham-l8k 20 дней назад

@@LolaSmollz126 I am really sad to read about your sister.

@jaesmith8395 13 дней назад

It sounds like he wanted to steal the attention away from you because he was lowkey envious of you and your accomplishments. He also did it in front of others so that they would never have a clue, nor would you disappoint their expectations. He was calculated. I’m sorry you went through this smh

@carrino15 Месяц назад

This was me some years ago. I started decluttering people, stuff and fixed my economy. Until I got more energy, I'm not going to have stuff or do too many things. It worked for me to fix things in very small steps to build up self esteem and feeling better.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

Beautifully summarized! Thanks! 👍

@LauraK93 28 дней назад

You have my respect!

@gypsy698 Месяц назад

This video describes me to a tea. I didn't realize how much damage that my narcissistic mother did to me.

@xxyy1318 Месяц назад

Coffee

@shanellem6310 28 дней назад

Me too. Since leaving my covert narc ex husband, I've been on auto pilot. I want more. So, I started to do a lil bit each day & go to my Dr. for a much needed physical. Plus, I've been suffering from insomnia, fibroids, & psoriasis. At my appt, I was told that I have stage 2 hypertension and that I'm at risk of a stroke. So, I'm thing steps to avoid taking the meds. If I can't bring my BP down naturally, I'll have to take the meds. No choice at that point. Can't go having a stroke in front of my kids.

@will_Iam61 Месяц назад

I can validate everything in this video. I've been living it for a long, long time. For anyone that has never experienced this and says, just leave, well let me clue you into why it's not that simple. The narcissist starts out to be Mr. or Mrs. wonderful and hides who they are for quite a while, There are little hints here and there, but you pretty much need to have lived through this once before to recognize the little symptoms before it's too late. It's too late when you have fallen for this person and married them and then the real abuse starts. It may be a little here and a little there. They are extremely careful to judge just how much you'll take before you call it quits and stay shy of it, but just like this video suggests they play the long game, and the damage is cumulative. Also, when you finally realize how much damage has been done to you, you are dealing with a conundrum of holding two views that are making it extremely difficult to put an end to it.

@BrigetteOgden-zs6cv Месяц назад

Well said...🌻

@CorrieGreen Месяц назад

You perfectly described exactly what I’m living through. I can see what is happening and yet I’m terrified to leave. There’s always this tiny voice in the back of my mind saying it can get better even though I know it won’t. I try to stay focused on God, find something positive and to be happy about each day that’s just for me. All while staying vigilant about what stage the roller coaster is at. Survival mode is all there is some days. The first 4 years were normal living. The last 10 years have been a hell I cannot seem to change. Unless a person has lived through this type of life they truly cannot understand.

@thebluehare. Месяц назад

Agreed. It took me a good 15 years until I really knew what was going on. And I still don't know what's going on. Everyday it changes. Who knows what they are going to be like today? It is a really really slow process and because one wants to think the best of a person they chose to spend their life with, they give them the benefit of the doubt. I never experienced this "love bombing" I have had just what went from a somewhat normal relationship to a very one-sided, pity party, strange kind of saboteur kind of thing. And no it's not overnight. It is the accumulation of a million tiny things that cannot be ignored. Like ants. I feel for you all. I focus on God and remember that I have the fruits of The Spirit and no one can take those away from me. Gal 5:22-23 KJV version.

@janetkendle2073 Месяц назад

You are 💯 percent correct. I was in a narcissistic relationship for 25 years and because I didn't know what the heck that was I fell into again. It was like they both had the same root cause but it presented differently. For instance... Both were obsessed with money #1 never worked and expected me to do everything and would steal money from me...#2 was a workaholic and would spend copious amounts of money but dare me to spend any. #1 sexually abused me by making me have sex every day, several times a day and if I didn't there was hell to pay. ,#2 wouldn't touch me and make me feel like I was disgusting to him. #1 started fights and did the circular arguments where you didn't even know what the heck was going on #2 would give me the silent treatment. I'm so glad I'm free from all that!!!

@lovescatsthing Месяц назад

I had narc parents one was verbally and physically abusive, the other was a twisted collection of verbal, emotional, physically abusive..I was more a mother to my mother in many ways and..she set me up for many a good hiding. This ensured I was primed ready for a narc husband. I was only thinking the other day how I never really knew him....I digress....I married him, his narcissism took the form of spending money on himself, gambling and dealing with shady people and lying. .We had four children. I divorced him when I found out what he was doing. He killed himself AND our 4 children in 1995...I believe the event can still be seen on the Internet. I struggle daily with all areas of life even now almost 30 years on. It's not easy, it affects everything- your self worth, your trust...everything. Until you have been there you can't explain it to anyone. It's a battle of wills to get up and go to work...

@susanmilner1931 Месяц назад

Wow! In 9 minutes, this totally encapsulates my life and experiences. Thank u for explaining me to myself in such a brief, cogent way.

@MikeStokley-wl8ov Месяц назад

The behavior is illegal and punishment by law. Thank God ppl are waking up

@christswarrior4992 Месяц назад

Same

@catherinerhea6336 Месяц назад

It's one thing to be in a relationship with the NARC- a family member or partner... getting away from them is difficult, but not impossible... It's quite another to OWN YOUR HOME, have lived in peace... until your neighbor RIGHT NEXT DOOR decides to hook up with a sociopathic narcissist, & she decides YOU HAVE TO GO!!!... the hell I've endured JUST TO GET POLICE TO DO THEIR JOB is the fodder nightmares are made of... Then I find out my narc ex is actively involved in the plot to somehow FORCE ME OUT OF MY HOME!!! There's actually 4 narcs involved, all hell bent, & NOTHING IS OFF THE RADAR SCREEN...THE END JUSTIFIES THE MEANS. 3+ years & counting...& I'm STILL STANDING MY GROUND.... it's exhausting...I JUST WANT IT TO STOP!!!🖤

@rosalindr4975 Месяц назад

Sounds like she’s gangstalking you.

@catherinerhea6336 Месяц назад

@@rosalindr4975 That would be one way of describing it... my lawyers call it bullying, threatening, & GASLIGHTING!!! Police are FINALLY starting to realize what's really going on, & they're pissed off, exhausted, & as of a week ago, told them to their faces "THIS HAS TO STOP!!!" Police were over there in their faces again yesterday... it's gonna boil over soon... Thanks for your comment & support. It matters.💞

@eyeswideopen3304 Месяц назад

....I've lived through extreme organized harrassment campaign for 15+yrs .this after reporting the molestation of my then young daughter....father from wealthy influential family......narc abuse at its core....Catherine document every encounter, especially with.... Police....do NOT......react to these POS....they will always seek to get a reaction out of you, this they will then use for there next little set up....give them NOTHING...have cameras outside your property and front door....they will try to wear you down with stress and sleep deprivation so they can take it to next level, so getting sleep when you can is extremely important and sunshine/vitD...if they succeed in sleep deprivation and stressing you out and keeping you indoors due harrassment, not eating properly due stress=cancer, happened to me

@eyeswideopen3304 Месяц назад

@@rosalindr4975 exactly this was my first thought.

@desiderata333 Месяц назад

You are being gang stalked by demonic narcs. Please pray and give this to Jesus to protect you. Now that you are aware of what is happening try your hardest to go NO CONTACT. DO NOT RESPOND to them at all! DO NOT give them any access to you. BLOCK...DELETE...IGNORE...NO CONTACT!!! If they do something illegal QUIETLY go to the police and file a report to start a record trail but for your own sake NEVER DIRECTLY respond to these evil beings. Pray to God for a supernatural shield of protection over your property and home. Change the locks, cover all your windows with blinds so they can never see inside, Keep your car inside the garage. Protect your pets, get a doorbell ring camera and also an alarm system. Give them NOTHING for supply! Please do not feed them with any responses no matter how bad. I am praying that they leave you be. Pray those demons away my friend. May God bless you.

@BooBahh-uh5jk Месяц назад

Left a job for this. The stress was too much. I may be unemployed but my body feels much better.

@mariejae 29 дней назад

Same.

@louiseparham-l8k 28 дней назад

@mariejae I don't work anymore because of abuse. I suffered in jobs.

@slbellue6874 27 дней назад

Working on getting out of my crap job too. My entire unit is terrible.

@Adoseof_Ri 26 дней назад

Me too ❤

@brendaeckart7353 Месяц назад

This video explains ME! I left my relationship after 38 years of this abuse. With the help of great therapy and a strong support system, I have hope for a better future for myself. I saved this video to watch again when I start questioning my decisions as a reminder of why I left. Please, take the time to love yourself.

@JesusChristusMeinHerr-Erloeser Месяц назад

Jesus Christ has saved me, after 39 years....

@vixxenreigns Месяц назад

This explains a lot. I have been abused mentally and emotionally by multiple people in my life. I am an empath and seem to draw them like a moth to flame. I am diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, Agoraphobia, C-PTSD, Panic Disorder which is present in all diagnosis. When I have panic attacks they're usually pretty bad and I have to try to self-regulate because I don't take medication. I have occasional night terrors. Even a low dose of antidepressants make me feel dead, like I have zero emotions whatsoever so I refuse to take them. I rely on my empathic ability to sense if someone isn't good for my son and I to be around. And what is life if you can't feel anything? So I just had to learn how to regulate myself. I have a heart condition and my blood pressure skyrockets when I get stressed or I'm in pain. I also have fibromyalgia, severe chronic migraines, osteoarthritis and so on.

@MikeStokley-wl8ov Месяц назад

Wow, I am so sorry that happened to you. Same thing as me. Same diagnosis too. This has to stop, it's just pure evil.

@DLBowers52763 Месяц назад

Almost all of this with me too. I’m so sorry

@MikeStokley-wl8ov Месяц назад

@@DLBowers52763 for empaths to not match up vibrationally for narcissists to be drawn to us, we have to heal the victim perspective even though we been victims. They depend on us vibrating low in victimhood and that is the same exact frequency match for narcissists. Teal Swan explains this dynamic well. Much love 💕

@ComeOut.BeYeSeparate. Месяц назад

Living with this kind of Abuse can & does cause serious health problems... I have some of the things you mentioned as well. I'm 70, just started my recovery in 2020 from these people, who were many, in my life... I was surrounded by them. I have gone no contact with all of them. So painful finding out you were living in cognitive dissonance only to discover that NONE of these "people" Ever Loved You! You Loved them... with No reciprocation. However, after spending so many years looking for love, I have finally found it! I am learning to Love & Accept myself through the help of God... he has shown me that he had Chosen me to go through these things... to persevere & he is healing me day by day. I have a long way to go, but I am content and happy all on my own... 😘... 💕💕💕

@gatorssbm Месяц назад

Its good to see you still rely on your empathy because having lived through that its almost made me hate it at times because it would sometimes make me put my needs before others and it would sometimes attract the same manipulators to repeat these same patterns. But in recent times I at least know how to pick up those red flags much sooner and properly say no and its made me embrace it again, can only hope other people also learn not only that but to heal past those experiences and reground their self worth. But yes it is an extremely valuable thing you gain in the process, that and potential resilience if you learn to set boundaries. Id highly advise trying to say no more especially when its genuine youll see some peoples true colors much quicker or covert narcissists trying to guilt trip/violate your boundaries.

@susanwhite6761 Месяц назад

This is how my sister always treated me until I said enough! No contact!

@TanyaKatherine Месяц назад

Me too! My sister treated me this way and I went limited contact.

@lambchop6278 28 дней назад

Me too

@dorisboylan4872 27 дней назад

Praying and asking God to help me forgive really helps me.

@JacK-qn4zh Месяц назад

Everything you are now remembering....was true! Just find yourself again...Be Happy and Live your Life...! I still struggle after 6 years but...I found Peace. I hope you find it too.

@ravenallynpoe2212 Месяц назад

Both my parents are narcs. Life has been extremely hard, but going no contact was worth it.

@Oran_Lee Месяц назад

I understand a lot more of why I’m an unorganized and messy person. I love my father. But he literally used to argue with me like I was an adult when I was just 11 years old. The one thing he used to say to me that really got to me was, “You’re F’ed up in the head!” That hurt bad because he was referring to _me_ his own son. Also _me_ as in my personality and who I am. And why did he say those things? Because I disagreed with him on something. I was a good kid with a kind, caring heart. I’m so thankful I met an amazing girlfriend at 16 who helped me with the mental abuse I went through. But those words from my old man? I’d rather get punched in the face. Thanks for this great video. 🙏

@whoisimani44 6 дней назад

Continue to heal and love yourself. ❤❤❤

@toxictrollsmurf7920 Месяц назад

Hypervigilance - the elevated state of constantly assessing potential threats around you - is often the result of a trauma. People who have been in combat, have survived abuse, or have posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can exhibit hypervigilance. PTSD can be caused by a wide variety of incidents. I didn't know this was a thing... Thank you AI chatbot RU-vid Content Creator!

@IamAloha 27 дней назад

I didn't associate what I called ( wound to tight ) to be from a Narc relationship .

@juless7807 26 дней назад

The keyword here- exhausting. The entire experience is all encompassing and completely exhausting.

@wonky_shoebox7514 Месяц назад

When I got out of relationship, I completely changed my wardrobe, started wearing make-up and high heels, cut my hair short and started doing hobbies. I had developed ptsd so I got a therapist and had developed alopecia from the stress, so I found a hairdresser who specialises in hair cuts for alopecia sufferers (her daughter has I too). My cousins rallied around me and their male partners slowly helped me to feel comfortable around men. I've been constantly sleeping and Mt appetite is gone. I'm hoping to govback to college this September 🙏

@lrow5416 Месяц назад

I experienced years of narcissistic abuse from family, friends, partners and employers before I knew what was going on. I couldn’t get away and slowly I went from a joyful, social, active, organized and high functioning person to a stressed, traumatized, anxious, exhausted, disorganized and isolated person. I have PTSD and struggle to create structure and order. It’s been so hard to find the right support. This video helps me have compassion for myself. Recovering has been slow.

@ComeOut.BeYeSeparate. Месяц назад

You are on the Right Path... Keep Going... I come from the same background... I'm 70, I started my recovery journey in 2020... 😘... 💕💕💕

@gatorssbm Месяц назад

Hope you find out how to properly express boundaries its a huge game changer and lets that mask slip off much faster with people who want to use you for gain. That and self compassion so you can learn to act from a place of self worth, hope it will get you somewhere because it is extremely liberating being free of that disorganized anxiety after making those leaps.

@richardpickell8062 Месяц назад

Having had a drunken Narcisist for a father and a covert Narcisist for a mother. They were giving the complete run down of my childhood. All the symptoms and traumas.

@louiseparham-l8k 28 дней назад

Sounds exactly like my late parents.

@ricileigh88 Месяц назад

I wish RU-vid was around when I was growing up. This describes me to a T and I'm still fighting the impact of having narcissistic parents. Thank you.

@katiajordan_ Месяц назад

That’s me. Isolated, without support, depleted, emotionally exhausted, not being able to find strength in me to pull myself out of misery even though I left my ex husband 8 years ago. All his words are engraved in my mind.

@Adoseof_Ri 26 дней назад

Go to God for healing and love ❤ Jesus is the way the truth and the life. He helped me get out and stay out also he gives discernment so we can choose wisely ❤

@prezkrk Месяц назад

The best video about PTSD and narcisistic abuse that endures a victim. I think there is one advantage though, prolonged lifelong horrid suffering is not healthy but brings knowledge, deep understanding, enlightment and inner strenght. Most of all goodness. Those who face evil, have to battle it, turn to light.

@irinaivanovic9792 Месяц назад

It’s still not worth it at all. It makes you sick. And it most likely can eventually kill you.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

Light burns eyes tho, be careful

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

@@prezkrk 💜👍👍🙃

@silentshadow2957 Месяц назад

The long term effects of narcissistic abuse will make a person believe they are crazy. You're not crazy, which is something I am slowly learning as an adult. My therapist tells me I'm not crazy. The fact is, when a narcissist abuses someone for many years (even if it's emotional, not physical), that is going to leave deep scars for many years to come. It changes your brain. It makes you unable to be yourself, trust others, form healthy relationships, reach out when you need it, and sometimes it leaves you unable to care for yourself and others. And the abuser will say, "It's not that bad, it's not like I... (blank)." They'll minimalize the abuse at every chance. So as a victim, you don't realize just how bad that treatment was and how much it has affected you. You might think you really are crazy. I thought I was, and after presenting two very serious mental illnesses to my therapist, she has told me... "You're not crazy." Not at all. You are trying to heal from years of trauma while figuring out who you are and what you want in life, and there is nothing wrong with you.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

^ this * You are trying to heal from years of trauma while figuring out who you are and what you want in life, and there is nothing wrong with you. * 1.000.000% 👍

@gatorssbm Месяц назад

Some people underestimate just how much damage something like that causes. My own mother gaslit me constantly telling me it could be much worse at least Im not getting hit but it doesnt matter if I still feel like I dont matter enough to ever be taken seriously, I should just never care about my own needs or boundaries and when Id attempt to assert these Id just get yelled at or punished. It was just far too much to the point I was just emotionally numb for years until getting into a relationship with someone made all those fears just come resurfacing up at full blast. That being said Im really glad I finally healed past it and feel like a functioning human again.

@cat4153 22 дня назад

@@_munkykok_ME TOO! I'm still just now realizing I'm not the crazy one. It's shocking, sad, maddening & great all at once.

@MsTosha1111 Месяц назад

This is me this is my life from the abuse I hope we could all come together and seek Justice for ourselves

@Dragonwithagirltattoo3 Месяц назад

And normal people that don't understand are quick to judge and come down on you for all this too.

@johnnytoronto1066 Месяц назад

I developed psoriasis on my hands and shins. It was so bad I was embarrassed to hold out my hand to take change or accept a receipt.

@kevinowens6010 Месяц назад

Yes, this is common. Just one more parting gift from a POS narc. I became zero tolerance. Had to be done. Only thing a inner species predator narc understands.

@cheriecallettaatcomcast4590 29 дней назад

This video described my life, especially from the ages of 0-18, but the effects continue on to the rest of life.

@empathyisonlyhuman7816 Месяц назад

Howdy hi hi, It can be insidious how far these people will go to drag down their victims. But what is even more surprising is how often the victim doesn't see the abuse for what it is. Or for how bad it has really gotten. I'm disabled with multiple chronic illnesses. The abuse i've suffered has, in part, made me think that anyone offering help is only doing so in order to find a new way to punish, harm, belittle, or otherwise abuse. Even recognizing it as the irrational fear that it is. I find it nearly impossible to suppress those feelings enough to accept help even when I need it desperately.

@tcat9558 Месяц назад

Don't be the victim! You are the target because you possess the qualities they want but don't have. Don't fall or fail. Keep it together. Best payback.

@daljitvirdi1024 Месяц назад

These are emotions I'm experiencing! Definitely it's been exhausting being married to one! I'm left depleted and tired!😢💖😇🙏.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

You can always break up with him and marry Munkykok 👍

@hoticehilda6296 Месяц назад

I'm an immigrant in my husband's country. I am the sole breadwinner and primary parent to our kid. My job has gotten so stressful and I have been forced to take on so much I am making mistakes that may get me fired. I have reached the point of burnout where I am having physical symptoms, the worst being excruciating back pain. Last night I finally told him how burnt out I am and his response was that when I have time off I always go see my family, when I should stay home and do self care. And then he clarified that by self care he meant cleaning the house. I'm done.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

Praise God, leave him already

@angiegaryshort4745 10 дней назад

Praying with you. ☮️

@stocksconfidential8862 Месяц назад

teachers of school children of all ages need to know this information

@louiseparham-l8k 28 дней назад

Some school teachers can be narcissistic abusers, as I have often experienced like shaming and blaming me in front of the whole class. They labelled me stupid. I actually have an IQ of 139.

@kittymonster9549 20 дней назад

@@louiseparham-l8k you are right! A lot of teachers behave abusevely towards pupils

@LaurieB43 29 дней назад

This video is the best description of narcissistic abuse I've ever watched. And I've seen alot. It explains my disarray. It got me when it explained reliving the horror of the emotional memories over and over like an unwanted guest

@Susweca5569 Месяц назад

As someone who had a brutal narcissistic father as a child, I've had my share of struggles and traumas but in the end you grow up and you decide whether or not you're going to take back your power or remain a victim. Is it easy? No. Is it possible? Yes. Whatever we're told or made to feel by a narcissist, in the end, we decide whether or not we listen to their voice or our own.

@TanyaKatherine Месяц назад

How did you get out? Were you under him financially and had to get a job and move out as an adult?

@rhondabarlow860 28 дней назад

This was difficult for me to listen to because it's describing me. Father have mercy.

@aliceroberts1980 Месяц назад

I have problems with procrastination and that was never me. I was never like that. I take one thing in a small corner and then I go to the next thing and some days I can’t do anything. It’s just the way it is.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

Unfortunately, I suspect this might be happening to us partially due to hormonal changes. (And I say unfortunately, cause I'm not particularly into the meds industry fixing all of our problems...) Long story short: Allegedly, having low testosterone levels can be devastating to one's energy levels. (That's merely to give one example, reality's obviously lots more complicated than that... Just saying, it's not all in the habits/abuse-history. Sometimes additional biological screw-ups occur, as if all the abuse we endured before wasn't troublesome enough to deal with already.) Best of luck! 🍀

@cherdangelo2993 Месяц назад

Very difficult if not impossible to explain this to people you know unless they have been there or experienced it in one way or another to some degree and most people just end up leaving you don't want to talk to you you don't want to be around you

@louiseparham-l8k 28 дней назад

I have had friends who ghosted me because they couldn't handle it when I asked for help and support. One described me as too needy and expecting too much of her. Now, I am fearful of turning to anyone for support

@jenniferfisher2703 29 дней назад

My sisters narcissist abuser thought they won but she has struggled and pull herself out of that dark hole with the love of her family. I hope they continue to feel that bite that they didn't win she is my hero❤

@SerendipitousSynchronicity Месяц назад

This is hideously accurate. So. Fucking. Accurate

@jenniferwhisks9248 29 дней назад

The negative messages have so much impact bc they are from somebody who *should* be giving you love. Parent or partner. 😢

@joyc2339 29 дней назад

I was raised by a narcissistic mother and married a narcissistic husband, and my adult son had narcissistic traits. when he came to live with me, I couldn't get him out of the house because of the laws of my state and COVID-19. I did not only lack energy, but I also wanted to sleep and never wake up. The put-downs, I am never doing enough walking on eggshells.

@crystalearth33 29 дней назад

I was with an extreme narc for 13 years, it's taken me 17 years to heal. The trauma was intense. I was in fear mode for years! Very scattered. Finally I've come to a place of peace, comfort and empowerment. What a journey. This video is such a validation. Thank you.

@lisaspikes4291 Месяц назад

Yes, I understand this. I was raised by a narcissistic mother. When I turned 18, I left home and did well. But in my late 30s, I moved back to the town that my parents live in. And now, I’m not doing so well. I attempt to set boundaries, but because I live in the same town, I pay for it. The most recent example was that my best friend’s daughter was getting married. I decided to go to the wedding, even though they lived many states away. I wanted to drive, so that I could explore a section of the country I had never driven through before, and having my car would make the getting around at the wedding and reception easier. For the month leading up to leaving for the wedding, my mother did everything she could to talk me out of it. Bringing up everything that might happen, questioning why I would go in the first place, complaining about how much she would worry the whole time. Suggesting that I fly there, etc. It was ridiculous! Anyway, I went, had a great time, got to stop at the beach and a few other landmarks, and got home in one piece. The next time I saw my mother, she complained about how exhausted she was because she hadn’t slept. Stating that “she had to worry about me the whole time!” Both of my brothers live in different states. And I understand why. It’s much easier when she’s not breathing down your neck! Funny thing is, both of my brothers and I have always traveled. A lot. One of my brothers is an airline pilot, for Pete’s sake! You’d think she would have gotten over that by now.

@yaelboyer446 Месяц назад

Better to keep your life to yourself and have minimum contact if you have to live in the same city

@veronicaladd5821 27 дней назад

This is very accurate ,I had this for about 3 years from a boyfriend, the only positive thing is that I know what it is so now I can ignore this person and the problem, but I'm still struggling

@Starlight-yv8dq Месяц назад

And all these things mentioned …narcissists use to further attack you and wear you down more and more and use as ammunition to blame it all on you and break your whole being down. Even worse if you have children with them…😢

@lucyevans5428 Месяц назад

This is all completely true I relate to this after being married to one ( only discovered what he was post divorce ) plus a covert one , so different and hard to spot than a milignant narcissist. Also we are left with health issues such as depression anxiety and IBS , headaches etc

@user-cp1yw8bv4q Месяц назад

This is so accurate of what I have gone through and more !!! The abuse doesn't affect only the partner but the children as well. They internalize what is done to their mother, be they male or female. I'm divorced and took time to heal, but I see my grown children suffer the same trauma symptoms. They don't realize the damage that was done to them through what was done to me. I've told them they ought to go to therapy, but....

@tatianawoellner6620 Месяц назад

My life now after 22 yo of emotional violence. Cots did real and hard. I don’t feel like getting out of my house. Daily life is exhausting now😢 And to top it up, the guilty of not seeing the control and allowing it for so long. Unbelievable painful. These just leads me now to more narcissist 😢 But I’m getting help and in a near future be healed ❤

@grumpyoldlady_rants Месяц назад

I have to agree. Add to it, ADD, and I end up just shutting down. I hate it.

@pradeeshalbert1625 29 дней назад

Beware of narcissists.Those who don’t learn from history,will become history

@ireneb3433 24 дня назад

EXCELLENT!!!! As someone wanting to advocate for individuals suffering from the debilitating and pervasive effects of hoarding disorder, I found this video SO. INCREDIBLY. USEFUL. to explain their plight to others. WELL DONE!

@ariannarp6866 Месяц назад

This is so reassuring to hear. It is EXACTLY how I’ve felt.

@EllieM_Travels Месяц назад

It took me over a decade to heal from this type of abuse/control. I had become a whole different person! I was aware of everything wrong but knew it was going to take time. I talk about some of these things on my channel.

@amaliacoria3063 9 дней назад

I went thru this as a child, I just hadn't figured out why I couldn't make anything stick or go, and now my daughter is a narcissist and my grandchildren are living a nightmare, and yes she moved states away where they have no one to turn to, isolated and everything children have to have some comfort, taken away, no phones, no televisions, nothing so hard for children to grasp the idea of what to do or play with. She remarried and abandoned them in the home, putting the responsibilites on her oldest 12 year old to care and cook for her little sisters, she's so stressed and thinks it's unfair, which I have enlightened her and her sisters. I live stress for them and thier situation.

@anikomiles4260 Месяц назад

i have this. My whole life fell apart after narcissistic abuse. i traced it back to my father! Basically i grew up in hypervigilance,escapes with narcissistic parental abuse. it started there. I attracted more narsissitic men as boyfriends in my life as a result. Thats when i dtarted observing the Why??! I think of myself as a soldier. now i have a diagnosis of CPTSD, Adrenal burnout and Hashimotos as a result. but that doesnt mean anything without help. Now all my life is in boxes and i'm trying to start a new life again.

@_munkykok_ Месяц назад

Boxes are a burnt-out shell-of-a-survivor's best friend. 👍👍

@crookedfingersgirl7356 Месяц назад

Thank You for your compassion and ability to empathize. When the norm is to judge, comment, criticize, and more....

@woodyspooner Месяц назад

I can not motivate myself to do anything except eat, sleep, or get drunk a couple of times a week. I have nobody. Mental health support services are practically non-existent in Britain, I suppose I will have do what I always do, sort it out myself on my own somehow, at the moment I'm in such a hole that I'm finding difficult to get out of it, I'll just have to keep trying and pushing myself to change to a more positive lifestyle when I have one of my better days when I'm not so down.

@Adoseof_Ri 26 дней назад

Jesus is the way the truth and the life. Say this prayer “ God hear me and clean my heart. Please forgive me for my sins knowingly and unknowingly. Please heal me for I been hurt. You know everything I go through please help. In Jesus name amen “

@angiegaryshort4745 10 дней назад

@woodyspooner You are an amazing person. Even if no one else ever seems to care, Jesus does. Jesus cares for you & He loves you so much. I have a narc husband & I know I'm not loved by him. But I am loved by Jesus & no one can take that away. Ever. ✝️☮️

@cymbolichuman433 Месяц назад

Those narcissists also are a threat to your life. I've got heart issues and I had to get aggressive.

@Musicandfilms7 Месяц назад

I hope you get better I struggle with chronical depresion and blood presure problems, my narcisitic mother makes me phisically ill

@irinaivanovic9792 Месяц назад

Me too. Exact same problem. 😞

@cheyenneskylark Месяц назад

My narcissist mother and ex-husband resulted in generalized anxiety, panic attacks, PTSD, insomnia, and serious stomach/digestion issues. Years ago, they gaslighted me as the abnormal one, and all the time it was "THEM". One positive spin with social media is that victims can get the information they need to turn the tide and seek help.

@debbiepreston5222 4 дня назад

More than anything I wish that any of this information was available to me 40 years ago. I lived with my narcissistic abuser my entire adult life. Now I’m almost 61 & he has been gone for 2 1/2 yrs. I miss him terribly because I loved him dearly, but I still can’t get past the abuse I lived with in the first 20-30 years of our life together.

@jpreciouspearl 27 дней назад

Now I understand why I have changed so much. I have done years of EMDR therapy and still today I struggle so much.

@stevec3892 Месяц назад

I’d call out my parents of things they did and they d denied I’m alone now and zero people to talk to . They did this on purpose and never care

@patriciafoster6282 Месяц назад

I'm right there with you. I have one sister and one son left and I am beginning to think they are both narcissists. All they have done is try to completely destroy me even after I escaped from my overly effective narcissistic husband of 32 years. I also am all alone with no one to talk to about all this. I have been in counseling since 1990 and at the age of 73 I am not going that route again. It is difficult to find anyone in the medical field that knows about the trauma we survivors deal with constantly. I honestly do not believe I will ever recover but with God's help I will continue to try. Please know that I hear you and I pray your days will get better soon. Be kind and patient with yourself because you deserve it and remember you are loved by me and by God. 🙏♥️🙏

@angiegaryshort4745 10 дней назад

Steve and Patricia You are both loved, by Jesus and by me. My husband is a narcissist & he tells me he doesn't care about me. But I know the One who does love me and that's God. Gods love feels so wonderful. ☮️

@shell1756 26 дней назад

I like how these videos are compassionate towards the survivors and ask that we be compassionate and supportive.

@gatorssbm Месяц назад

The worst part is when both caretakers have narcissistic tendencies, its really made me question my self worth even years after I finally escaped that hell. But eventually coming to terms that it wasnt my fault, finally learning to stop ignoring my emotions/needs/boundaries and actually start processing all that hurt has finally set me free. Helps my girlfriend has been in an very similar scenario so we can empathize with each other even in spite of the initial chaos of our baggage almost destroying what we had. At least having gone through that I can completely understand them too and we know better not to pressure each other into anything. It was more of a blessing than a curse because its helped me wake up and see just how much it will affect you. That and we know how to not let conflicts escalate because weve already been through enough to not want to repeat history, thats the great thing about empathy is that it gives you the strength to not want to put the other person through that same pain. Even if that was what got us controlled in the past its a double edged sword its not a weakness once you find that person that will sincerely want to help you!

@Jais328 Месяц назад

Not the SMILE snippets LMFAO That threw me off SUPER HARD lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀💀

@NordeggSonya Месяц назад

This was so profound I'm stunned. I have a lot to think about and digest.

@gerrilott6149 Месяц назад

I thought I was the problem....or I still think it

@sandycares2995 Месяц назад

We all do until a professional counselor tells us we are not. Then you can start to move on from there.❤

@illuminated_AF 28 дней назад

Thanks! This is exactly ME for the past few years since I extricated myself from my abusive relationship. No one helped me. No one came to see if I was okay. I helped myself. But now I feel seen. Thank you so much

@spotthenarcissist 28 дней назад

Thank you very much for the "super thanks". Id like you to know that i helps the channel a lot. I am happy that you can relate to the video. I hope that you can see this and learn from it and move forward.

@carolflower9672 Месяц назад

Narcissistic ABUSE + CHAOS .. Thanks for Validating

@biba350 Месяц назад

I had narcissistic relationship for over 10 years I'm on antidepressants for anxiety The relationship ended 6 months ago still feeling the effects today trying to heal learning self-love All the above are 💯

@TaylorElizabethHunt Месяц назад

Thank you for this

@sab7270 Месяц назад

Fabulous description x

@stephenbaldwin7165 Месяц назад

Great summary. Thank you for making this.

@heal-thee9109 Месяц назад

I can say, though ive nearly dealt with narcissists my whole life, it becomes very challenging at times but it has not changed my concept of reality...

@Doodlefisher Месяц назад

Very accurate!

@Nobjan Месяц назад

This is a brilliant, accurate video. Outstanding job.

@shainanash8518 Месяц назад

thanks, for great pod cast

@staceys173 Месяц назад

Brilliant! GREAT INFO - THANK YOU.

@sarahstrong7174 23 дня назад

This is all so true. I had two NPD abusive parents. No wonder I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

@julievdw6748 Месяц назад

How did you say this so well... every word...😢 Thank you. There is so little understanding of this on this level. I've lived and live this every moment. I'm fighting my way back up from under water but it's so hard, so very hard. Thank you for such a clear succinct truthful explanation of all the madness and chaos and entropy to at least make sense of it.

@eurekaelephant2714 28 дней назад

Thankyou wonderful person!!

@jayoshree7655 Месяц назад

Wonderful and informative video

@Angels_surround_me747 18 дней назад

100% FACTS! its a long painful process

@tammywhitten6248 Месяц назад

I honestly don't know how this happened, I have always been a strong person, but after being married to my husband, my daughter (his daughter), pointed out to me, that he was a narcissist, I argued with her for years, and now feel it may be too late. I mean, I was raised to be a helping person, and I seem to feed his personality, and can't seem to stop my own behavior, and he now has so many health issues, that I feel I will never be able to break free. In the middle of our last fight, I actually put a gun against my head, but God would not let me pull the trigger. I just don't understand how he doesn't see what he is doing, especially since he tries to make me see all my shortcomings, but it's his mean descriptive words, that cause me to want to end it, because I know in my heart, that I am not the idiot he seems to think I am. Then I look at what I have endured, and think that I am that idiot...... I have even watched these types of videos, in front of him, and he seems to be able to see it in others, just not himself, even tries to convince me, that he fought for those being bullied as a child, and i just don't see how he could have done that, yet be the bully now. Can you help me understand or get the balls to leave, without feeling like I did something wrong?

@serene03422 Месяц назад

You need to be your friend first. You owe this much to yourself. Human were not created to be slaves of any other person. You were created to serve only the creator. He put rules for human. You need to follow it. First rule is to be honest with yourself protect and make your environment suitable for you to thrive. If you cannot help yourself no use helping anyone. Soon you would be a dependent on others or society. Besides you need to stop people from earning bad points by being mean. You are helping them by stopping their horror show. No you are not slave. You are your friend.

@ApocalypseofMichael Месяц назад

You do not owe him your care or support. Even if he doesn't see his ways, you feel them. Please don't let him get you into that place of escape from your own life by taking your own life. Sending you much love and strength ❤✨ Seek help from someone, a friend, a professional, anyone that you can and trust There is a way out and a way to not be in the situation you're in. ❤

@timpoiu Месяц назад

There is a path to freedom for you.. Freedom is Gods plan for your life. Keep watching videos like this. because knowledge is power, the more you recognize his patterns of behavior the more freedom you will have. About him not seeing what he is doing.. Commonly narcissists project a false image of themselves as a good person. Because so much of their identity is invested in this false image, they greatly resist ANY attempt to challenge the false image with facts. Commonly they are jealous, controlling, manipulative, and want to isolate you from others.. all of this because they dont want you to have any outside voice that can challenge their false image of themselves..an image they have gone to great lengths to get you to believe.. in terms of self blame , men and women are very different. in general men blame themselves LAST and women blame themselves FIRST.. So a more accurate view of yourself could be that you had the type of personality that he was looking for...and because you did not understand you did not see the warning signs..so things developed badly..all of this is without any blame or fault on your part... A friend of mine was in an abusive relationship to the extent that she has PTSD ( diagnosed by a hospital )..eventually see understood all of his tricks, then he could not control her anymore.. God showed her the truth of what was happening.

@elishat122 Месяц назад

Emotional abuse is the worst kind because it is invisible to the naked eye. Please talk to someone and get help. It takes a lot of courage, but it seems that you are at a point where something must change immediately. Please a tep away and take a break for a few days. I don’t know if you have a know Jesus, but I encourage you to reach out to Him and pray. I stayed with my husband for far too long. I see the affects on my children. We were created to be creative and enjoy life, not to live in fear and chaos. You are stronger than you think ❤️ And keep educating yourself. These type of videos helped me gain the courage to take set in place boundaries. You can decide what works best for you and your relationships.

@user-rw2uh5bv3o Месяц назад

I can promise you if you just take that first step the weight and heaviness on you will go away and then you will fly❤

@tinatots4801 27 дней назад

This explains my life. Ty

@pja906 Месяц назад

WOW! EYE OPENING! SO TRUE!

@user-lc4qe4gr7k Месяц назад

This was the last six years of my marriage. It took a lot, but I got the court appointed psychologist, who sided with everything my narcissist spouse did, before the State review board. He lost his license to practice. It was small comfort to me, but he was never going to do to other abused spouses what he did to me.

@MsTosha1111 Месяц назад

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@somkhitkoza5578 Месяц назад

Well done

@user-xi5xo6qt1i Месяц назад

This is so true 💯🎯

@sharonhearne5014 Месяц назад

I always felt I was racing to keep up and his alcoholism was so destructive. I never knew whether he would act out with alcohol and prostitutes during the day or the evening. I always felt I was in so much turmoil that I eventually acted out in verbal anger and frustration and my children - who were affected by the turmoil too - saw him as more in charge than me and disrespected me as a result.

@frankG335 Месяц назад

Of you're raised by a narcissist or parent with BPD, it does destroy you. It's mentally exhausting because of all the gas lighting and chaos. There's a reason both are cluster B personality disorders, with psychopaths/sociopaths. Which means they are the most dangerous to other people, and cause the most harm.