Why You Can't Find a Good Man 

What you look like isn't everything. My younger sister is like Miss America, naturally. She is so beautiful that it hurts, and she dresses beautifully and is great at makeup. But her self esteem is in the trash because of our abusive father, and that is how all men treat her. Her husband is very rich, but he withholds money, sex, and attention from her. So make sure it's not just about what you look like. You have to upgrade your very soul. Your self esteem is the most important upgrade that you can do for yourself. Men have to know that they cannot treat you badly, because some of the most beautiful women in the world have been dogged out by men who should have been grateful to even be in the same room with them.

Clicked faster than a pick me chick running to Footlocker to buy her dusty baby daddy a pair of Jordan's.

Too many women fail to realize that guys put women in certain categories and they don't change them. A lot of men tried to put me in the side chick category despite me looking way better than their wives. I didn't waste my time with them. I walked away and never looked back.

When I was in my 20s I left a 60 year old owner of a law firm for a 20 something year old Bob the Builder Fireman. The older man was ready to settle down but did not want kids (I did) so I picked the Fireman who seemed down to earth and said he wanted kids. 10 years later the Fireman decided he didn't want kids anymore and cheated on me. My life would be soooooo much different if I wouldn't have fallen for the younger guy's lies. Moral of the story: Pick the older rich guy. Now I am older and have less options and I let myself go so I have to level up again for at least a year before I can get back to where I can get another one. Good thing for me, I already have a high paying career but this time I am striving for a millionaire. Don't waste your time on young, good looking men, "down to earth" men. I could kick myself.

Why is Sasha so cute? This is exactly how Black moms need to raise our daughters. Thanks Shera for helping us.

By the way for those of YOU who are here for the FIRST time, when she says a GOOD MAN, she means a MAN that hands-over HIS EARNINGS to HER.

Don't give it up so quick period

Yesterday I dumped my dusty boyfriend and I’m starting a new life today. Thank you for opening my eyes, I wish I had known you before because I’m middle age but it’s never too late! 🙌🏻💕

Clicked faster than a pick me helping her dusty pay his child support!

" U don't compete with pickmesha & bob the builder...U let them build him up & stroll in & take him!! " U are the one he's been waiting for!" MVP(points)! carry yourself like that at all times!

I really love watching your videos. In my 20s and 30s I was all about being with a man for “love”. Now years later, twenty pounds heavier and at 41 years old, I find myself alone leveling up, going to the gym, wearing makeup and dressing nicer. I think your advice about shopping and running errands in rich neighborhoods is a great idea lol. My dad used to tell me that when you hang around the sewer you will find rats. I’m holding it down fine on my own but it gets tiring. It’s important to look the part for sure. Day by day. Btw, Bus Stop Billy is too funny.

No one : Shera : Do the death drop at work Me: 😭😭😭😂 Shera: Girl...FALL! Me: ⚰

Online dating is a lame dead end. It's like knowing your food was cooked in a kitchen with a lot of roaches, how can you enjoy your meal? These guys feel that way and don't change their suspicion. As the saying goes "when suspicion comes love leaves through a window". Did the online dating for 2 years and am done! Have been taking Sheera advice on grocery store as am a busy woman. Way more fun actually!😊

shera your channel is gold , no one can teach so much truth

Lord have mercy, James still brings this woman roses. Stay blessed, SheRaSeven1!

Men start becoming good after you start leveling up

I remember how I use to cook for dusty men...ugh. I’ve been on a journey for a long time because I refuse to date dusty men. They approve of me because of my size they think I’m easy.... it’s so insulting to know all good men but none never ask me out only friendly conversation ... but a dusty is willing to meet any where or wants me to come over their mother house to give them a hug🙃🤮 but I know what is holding me back and I’m working on it.

Just wanna quit my job

Love how you're teaching your daughter this young. I'm 45 and just now getting this lesson 😔

Everything is an illusion.

its true most guys online are just looking for sex. Like a ghost :) lol

Look for superficial men. They need to be married to climb the corporate ladder. Most other men who are happy with their lives, aren’t looking to get married in todays climate.

Amen shera! Ugh... you’re always so on point. This is why i watch/listen to you so much. You the gold digging Oprah 😩😂❤️

Lol Sherea I had to bust out laughing when you told that woman to send her investors to your website !!! You are so quick and genuine... thank you for it!

I think Sheraven raises some valid points. A woman has to have something that makes a man want to chase her. Most don't..and fyi ladies, an intelligent man can pick up on that needy vibe just that especially if have an ulterior motive.

every man treat every women differently, based off how she treats herself, you usually end up with someone you dont even like like that, that how it usually goes, the good man are out there but a good man wont give himself over that easily as well, he except the challenge.from you as well

"You ain't gone get it cause you aint got IT" lol

Girl, I am just greatful for your advice. It has changed my life 😊😊😊

The comic con is great place to find guys too

Preach Shera! Classic - "If their not hating you're too old!"❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Girl your advise is spot on! Thank you so much. I am definitely implementing the tips you gave that I hadn’t considered yet.

I felt everything shera is saying thank you for you knowledge and helping me level up first so I won't get my heart broke or worst have to be a pickmeisha or Bob the builder

Big sis you’ve done it again 🤩

I love this woman! You speak nothing but the truth😂💪🏾

I was binge watching your videos today thinking “I hope she does another live today” and you did! I can’t watch it rn but I will first thing tomorrow.

Girl your videos are gold!!!! Your wisdom is and insight is so in point.

I was singing level up instead of wobble up in my car today😁😘😘💖💕

I fell out my seat laughing when you remixed the circle of light 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

She is definitely stating factssss!

This is invaluable research into the mindset of the modern day woman.. Love the channel keep it going lol...

One of your best advice videos !!!!

The song by Jacquees called “You” reminds me of what sheraven teaches. The words to his song is I’d Rather Be With You and all Your Bullshyte. And the girl in the video is a graduate from the sheraven school of Level Up!

shera said get some fake blood LMFAOOO

Good advice at 19:20. Get him to be good by acting like you good too. Aka taking way long before the bedroom. 30:30 not giving them the answers. Do you want kids? I don’t really know if I do. Do you want to get married? I haven’t really thought about it. I haven’t met any men that I felt were good contenders.

I was once dating a handsome 34 year old guy, and from first week, he spent so much money on me, took me to expensive restaurants, brought me expensive gift, cooked me nice food, we had great times together and thought we were very compatible But still he didn’t commit!! “Because he said later on that he loves his freedom and doesn’t want to be tied to a long term relationship” 😏

“Not if you got a gun, a knife…..or a taser” 😂 I spat my coffee out, Shera you are a comedian I swear she needs to do a cameo in a movie

I'm 26 and I met a wealthy 55 yo man with chronic health issues a month ago. He talks about us going on vacations and having fun but his health gets in the way. I'm always trying to listen to him venting and all and I'm wondering how do I benefit from this situation financially without being just his therapist? I find it weird asking for cash when he's unwell

Thanks to you I have leveled up a lot

Ha! But the men who go for 'wife material' also go for 'lover material' behind their wives' backs, just saying. 🤷🏻‍♀️

No one can teach it like Ashera

Your daughter is FUNNY.....good sense of humor

Online dating aint serious.

And I'm pregnant there wasn't anyway for me to stay busy when I was sick every day and night. He was doing everything but started acting feminine by snapping and rolling his neck like a female I had to leave. Because I started plotting his death because I did not sign up to be a with a man who acts like a ratchet girl. He makes 30,000 a month so I thought he was a good target and started snapping and rolling month 3. I just had to go now with a baby I have to level up hard. But how to stay away from pretentious men and who are obsessed?

Im clapping my hands right now wow Shera😙

I received my confirmation! Thank you Shera, I can’t wait to try my elixir!❤️

Ladies, I have a question... I live in nyc and while in the city, I met a guy from Europe. He’s flown me out to Miami, and wants me to travel to Europe with him. He has even come by to visit NYC twice, each time for a week straight just to be near me. He has probably spent over $20,000 total on me between jewelry, round trip flights for both of us, entertainment, hotel rooms, restaurants, clothes, and shoes 👠. He says he loves me but I’m not done leveling up 100%. I’d say I’m 75% leveled up. But from what I hear from guys, i’m good at making them feel good and positive. Now he is planning on moving from France to NYC for me. When he comes here, he mentioned that he wanted me to live with him and he’d pay for everything til I sorted out my career. The problem is that it might take him anywhere between 3-6 months to get over here. Should I actively look for a sugar daddy on the side? We are technically dating but he’s not here and what if he doesn’t actually move here? Lol I like him a lot but I still don’t have a ring on my finger...😉

Nothing wrong with sprinkling a little seasoning on things to make it more interesting. A sweet little lie...🍭🍬🍭🍬

Bus stop Billy took me out lol

"Hit up pigmisha and sharkisha" hahahaha

Shera u got jokes tonight! I cant stop laughing !

Idk i don’t fully agree with the no online dating thing. U just hv to hv game and stand out

😂🤣🤣🤣 “buss stop Billie” ROFL 🤣

Man, I get guys who tell me hat I’m a keeper and they are not trying to keep right now. I can honestly say I’ve never been dogged by a man cause they usually do me the service to let me know they don’t feel like being on their P&Qs. What the hell does that mean 🤷🏽‍♀️

I follow ur advice n my bf says it ain't working out lol

“Like a ghost” 😂

Bus stop Billy😂😂😂

"Bus Stop Billy" 😂😂😂😂

That's Wonderful! I'm looking for a wonderful husband like that, too

I am not a side dish. I am the main course.

Heck...these men done had whole picnics with plastic ware and paper plates which nowadays they can appear to be elegant disposable dinnerware...lol

Thank you

Bus 🚍 stop BILLY 😂😂😂😂 I'm dead 😭😭😭💀☠💀☠!!!

If you want to go to a gala ask them if they sponsor people to come. Usually they will send a discount code. Keep as much money in the pockets as possible 😎😎😎

Omg! I suck 🤦🏽‍♀️. Thank you for these tips. I deny help without even realizing what I’m doing, just thinking “I got it”. Wow, that what happens when you are so use to be independent. Probably such a turnoff for men.

Thank you for helping the ladies find a good guy , it’s much needed. I agree if he isn’t treating you like you are the best thing that has ever happened , he isn’t into you enough . I don’t generalise about all men on dating apps .You don’t usually find the cream of the crop there . Still I know plenty of peeps who met online and are happy couples many years later . Paid apps I think are best . It’s probably more about sex for younger guys but older ones definitely not all of them . Many Men sincerely want partners too and don’t know where to find single women after a certain age . You can meet creeps off line too. Of course I prefer off line though when I’m actually dating . Cheers 😊💞and sprinkle 🤗

I don’t understand how come men can ask sex on the app easily. How come I can’t ask for money in exchange? I got boot out from bumble because I ask money in exchange for sex since this guy opening line was “baby do u want to have sex?”

Shera you're the truth! Can you help me? How do I get in touch with you?

Hi Shera, what advice do you have for a 41 recently single woman? My ex paid everything, however weird sex fetishes I was not willing to deal with caused me to leave. I have 3 grown daughters. Really good young ladies. I'm ready to live a good life with someone.

Omg I love you

Hi Shera, thanks for the great advice. Telling a guy at a later stage you have a child, won't that come across as dishonesty ? After all, you want someone to accept you for you. Please enlighten me. Thanks

People act like there are no people in the world who won't cheat

Why I can't find a good man? Because there isn't good men

Shera @ 16:23 - ahaha i love her so much

What you project is what you get.

Why is it so hard for women to just say it?? Ladies if you want a man, then be a woman that a man wants… that means you will need to consider what HE WANTS not just what he can offer you, this means you will need to listen to him or men in general (something most modern women refuse to do) just listen to him when he describes what he wants in a woman and then become that woman, train yourself to be that kind of woman naturally and you won’t have to worry about not having a man

16:30 she should keep her place. Dont give up your spot.

12:00 this just might be the move

I kno that's tight support me financially eventho I got my owe!if not byeeeee

Can you post a video on the game for single mothers?

UR SO INTELLIGENT!! 1200 CALORIES ?!! HOW DO I Count CALORIES

This doctor had bought me douche, n has sent me dollar 5,he is stingy he made me feel Like I need to continue leveling up more m tired of not getting there

Hi SheRa O I see now get some one on your level. Its like saying low value can get high value not going to happen. Do the work if anything worth having level up

I don’t agree with being dishonest to get what I want out of men. However, I’m subscribed to this channel because Shera does a great job at motivating you to level up to your highest potential.

This is a lifestyle thank you Shera you are the Mama I never had ❤💐 I'm Not Working

100 k is nothing

It ain't dangerous if you have weapons lol

Shera I was wondering if I can not give it up at any moment in my 2 year relationship to get more of what I want? I have been with boyfriend for almost 2 years and I want him to give more just wondering if with holding sex will work even after 2 years?

I would LOVE to pull an "Erika Jayne" 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

Totally true...Women who be giving it up these days are just getting thirsty. Steve Harvey even wrote a book about this. Don't give the cookie up for min 6 months and see he will definitely wants his ROI. "Reap all the benefits" luv you lady!!!!!!

How do I book a consultation with you. I don’t see the link