It's honestly so simple. We women overthink way too much. If you're not sure if a guy likes you are not, he doesn't. If a man likes you he will prove it to you without any confusion. Always. Men are so easy and so simple. If he has you losing your mind and in an emotional wreck, please seek therapy. You deserve stability.
SuperMarkus35 I don't have shit? That's the funniest thing I've read all day. Boy, I can buy your entire life with one swipe and I didn't have to lift one finger to do it. Who cares if they just want to fuck? I like to fuck as well and I LOVE spending their money. Men with money don't think like you. If you're not broke you certainly have a broke man's mindset. That means that you'll be back in the hood in no time. You're too soft to live the luxurious life so maybe it's best that you go back to where you're the most comfortable.
SuperMarkus35 $50?! That's an insult and for you to even use that amount as an example proves how broke minded you are. You're definitely a broke man because men with money know that other men with money love to spend their money on women. You obviously have no clue and this is like a foreign language to you because you can't fathom such a life style. $50 can't even get my nails done and I would never fuck a guy who would even think to mention that amount when it comes to me. If he doesn't have a black card, we ain't fucking. Period!
Cool Chicka right, is that right? Happened to me all the time, and I always got dumped. All of them wanted me back, then got salty by me rejecting them.
i need to print this out on flyers and pass it around cause some of my ladies are hittin' their 40s and still haven't figure it out. Love my friends but it kills me to see how some of them act.
One of my colleagues is 60 years old with a 20 year old girlfriend in the Philippines. They go after the woman they want, especially if they can pay for them. And this guy is a handsome, brilliant man in a city where there are more women than men. Don't chase a man. He'd rather pay a young hottie money, and probably her young boyfriend's bills, than be with you. Watch what men do. Not what they say.
@@George-ky4wf Men are far from stupid. He knows exactly what he's renting, buying etc. He'd pay anyday to have a young, gorgeous woman to show off, even if it's not real. But women do fall in love with those type of men believe it or not. And yes, you might not want him, but older men are NOT checking for older women either. If a man passes up a younger woman for a older one, best believe that women kept herself up, don't come with emotional baggage and still have the ability to turn a man on in many ways. These older women who refused to work out, bad built, MANLY, unattractive, and have zero sex appeal can't make demands. Period. They wish to get the man you just talked crazy about.
I went through this last year. Chasing a man who told me he did not a relationship with me. I had to take a long hard look at myself to snap out of it and love myself more!!
You're so right, chasing a man IS dumb. And DON'T ask a guy for a date, you can talk to him, be flirtatious, but let him be the one to ask, and if he doesnt, he's not that into you, find someone else who is!!!!! I have learned this the hard way, I never asked a guy on a date for a long time, but then I met someone that, I can't explain it, I felt an instant attraction to, but I was being really stupid, and I thought I was smarter than that. Hey, you live and you learn!!!! And DONT beat yourself up if you happen to fall for a player, I'm sure you weren't the only one, girl!!!! These guys are very smooth operators, they know how to be very manipulative, you have to be careful. And finally, whatever happens, you make sure a guy wears a condom, THAT is non-negotiable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My ex did that to me. HE brought up having kids but when I asked if he thought about marriage he said he hadn't thought about. Um hell no!! If Im good enough to have his kids Im good enough to marry.
Girl they always want babies because they know they won’t be the ones taking care of them. Bring up trust fund for the kid, daycare expenses, college fund, they won’t want it anymore.
Thank you for making these videos. I’m an attractive woman who was always the “nice girl”. As a result of being “too nice”, I got shat on by men who weren’t worth shit to begin with. I’m now learning more from you than any “relationship” advice books. Thank you beautiful lady; I’m so thankful for finding your channel.
Chasing a man is like a form of self hate , don't you know your own WORTH ?? Made this mistake in my youth lol..more than once and I was definitely a beautiful young lady lol..omg 😂😂 . They knew I was a prize to them but I didn't know it , so I got played by a few DUSTY' S 😂😂 .
Truth is wealth.....I was stuck on stupid for the same dusty since I met him when I was 15 and he was 16 into my early 30s!!!! So you are not alone girlfriend!!!! May we finally get retribution for all we went through in finding a decent man of means!!!
@@trumpgirl440 I've done the same thing so ladies, you're not alone. I remember this one dusty I chased and we started talking again, I felt angry deep inside and asked him, if I wouldn't have reached out, you would've just not contacted me? The fucker had the nerve to say: " you're suppose to come after me" my blood boiled so bad hearing that, I walked out and cut him off right then and there completely. I felt so stupid but that was a lesson learned for sure.
I've never chased and it has worked out very well for me. It's just because I'm old fashioned and I believe the man should pursue the woman. If they can't or don't pursue then that just tells me they won't have the energy to keep up anyhow!
Men think they want a weak woman, but they like when they stand up for themselves. Having high standards is standing up for yourself and not devaluing yourself. And men want a woman with high standards.
When I marry my rich husband I swear I'm sending ashera a check!! You have to love yourself to be able to use this info effectively. Its horrific the stuff I dealt with from my childrens' father. The next man I get with is going to feel lucky that I let him take care of me and my kids!! Bet!
😁...that's like the guy/husband...who leaves a "Beautiful" Woman...For The..."Ugly"....Woman!😨 Or the husband/guy....who leaves a....Slim Woman...for a ...Fat...Woman!😨 Or leaves a...Classy Woman...For A...Trashy Woman!😨 So Woman...STOP!!! Doing All the...EXTRA'S ! 😀
You are on point. I've seen too many women chasing men, being in looong relationship and babies with them. And when they are tired of them, the men find another woman and marry them. Very true story , I've always say if you have more than two children a man isn't going to want you. It's very rare a man will marry you with five children.
@@tribeofgadhebrewisraelite8435 laughable. All I know are men who are sprung on women with five, six, seven baby daddies lmao…american airline engineer, air force dude, money man dope dealer, these men have no kids who want ready made families. Weird but true.
1 2 Being single with a lot of money that you've received from horny men with no self control or being in a relationship, having to fuck a man who is ugly, a selfish lover and/or simply can't please a woman? (Most men can't make a woman cum for shit) I'll take single and paid for $200 Alex! As far as us needing y'all and blah blah blah, don't hate the player hate the game. You're willing to do all of that because you're weak for pussy so why be mad at us?
Also, your broke ass and most men can't even afford the sex bots. Well, unless you decide to not get a new sound system in your car and/or new spinners when you get your taxes one year. Maybe just maybe you'll have a shot then. lol
Omg !!!!!!! So true do not date men with kids younger than 18.. it is a horror show and he’s always on the phone with the ex.. As a matter of fact my boyfriends ex was at the house more than I was. He would claim it’s all for the kids .... ITS A HORROR SHOW!!!! Don’t do it !!!! I also know a woman who married a man with younger children . He passed and she got thrown out of the house . In his will everything was left to his kids !!!although he told her it wasn’t . She has since rebuild her life .. but I rest assure you it’s not worth it !!!! DON’t WALK RUN 🏃♀️
You’re heaven sent Shera. I wish I started watching your videos when I was 18. God I was dumb. Now I’m 27, made so much mistakes when it comes to men. Now I’m woke. Thanks.
Yea I was like that when I was younger. I had a crush on this dude and thought by being a nice girl he would be drawn to me. I was wrong. Long story short he end up marrying another girl and having kids with her. I was so heartbroken and jealous but, than I realize that I was the one lying to myself and putting sentiment where there should not be. After that I promised myself never to chase anyone again. I am only about being chased now. Any man who does want to pursue me in my mind is not really into me in the first place.
This is all true. I broke up with a boyfriend when I was a teenager. Twenty plus years later, he is still chasing me and asking me why I broke up with him. He has been married 3 times. Incredible..!
Pamela Clary tell me about it. I had a control freak. Got outta that marriage real quick. True age shouldn’t be a factor,there are GROWN MEN out here with toddler brains
Girl I love your videos I came here daily. I had my last heart break a few months ago. Told myself no more I’m over that ish I applied my feminine energy I can say I’ve been feeling good about myself my mind is on myself getting my nails down eyelashes done etc. now men with means fall out the sky I never chase it drives them insane that a woman isn’t flocking to them cause they got money. They end up spending money on you just more just to show you what you can have with them. THANK YOU my brother always said women got power but only a few know what it is
A lot of women have daddy issues and seek validation at the wrong places. Ladies drink your water, work out, if you can’t afford therapy then listen to self improvement content cater towards you. Put yourself first and you will see how your self validation wil improve ❤🎉
"they always contact me after i stopped contact" --- someone in the comments no they dont really want u. They only contact you when: 1- u left no sign of life (you cut him off) and he's curious 2- things went down in his love life and he wondering: what happened to my plan b, is she still waiting? (then u respond) good. good. Stay on the side. (he has zero intentions of marrying you) 3- he saw u with someone better and he wants to get u for his ego. to tell the guy: yeah she still hooked on me see that? DONT FN ANSWER HIM IF HE CONTACTS YOU. if a man wants u for good ge will put a ring on it stat. Because he doesnt want another to take u away. Guys know the first few minutes of meeting u if ur: wife material or just sex&dump later. And the two groups are mutually exclusive. He will not disrespect a woman he values by being too forward because he knows it will offend her and make her run away. Also he wants to tell his future kids how he wooed mommy. so be the 1 st category girls. Respect yourself. Never chase him or call him. Ever. He will value you for it.
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear this. I acted REALLY stupid with this last guy, and that is why things fell apart. I need to be more distant like I used to be.
The guy I wa with before was too good looking. Sex was fun but I soon realized he didn’t think I was good enough looks wise. Now I’m with somebody who knows he’s lucky to have me becuz I’m way out of his league
Carolyne Musolo dump him immediately it will give you the upper hand and it will crush his ego lol don't look back. you deserve better who does he think he is...I'd dump him.
Carolyne Musolo Sometimes it's not even about how attractive he is compared to you. Even if the guy is more attractive, he can sense your energy -- like you give off vibes that you know he's more attractive than you and you're lucky that he's giving you attention and he can treat you like he's above you. So then he does. Sometimes you have to bruise their ego.
Sabrina Sainte I think my husband probably was more beautiful than me, but I never acted like I was undeserving or below him. He said I shouldn't look for perfection. I don't think I was, but we had other problems. I miss him much- deceased over a yr. now. We had only 6+ yrs married.
The example of someone walking into work after getting fired was a funny example 😭😂😭😂😭 that’s why I loveeeeeee sheraaaaa! Who wants to look crazy & delusional?! My mom was a pick me & now I’ve been 4 years on my feminine journey & I can’t believe I was a pick me one upon a time. She’s right. THE HABITS YOU HAVE, your daughter will see & think that’s okay
If you watch a lot of old music videos where there's a female love interest, the dude is almost always chasing or lusting after the woman. "The Way you make me Feel" by Michael Jackson comes to mind. Then you had Simon LeBon/Duran Duran chasing after a sista in the woods in the "Hungry Like the Wolf" video. I love my old music videos.
A man I was dating gone ask me.. what would you do if I just up and left you… I looked at his ass and said try me.. he was like you ain’t gone chase me… I said hell naw nigga I don’t even chase my licka..🗣NEXT!
You are so wise and funny! You said everything I was telling my home girls for years. I get even by glowing up, and they always come back, but by then I reject them. It is the only way to go, move forward when they let you go and don’t look back.
I listen to your videos every Single day and i am proud to say that i am not a pickmesha anymore .you have changed my life Shera.greetings from Germany
Shera you are the best healer for women on this planet! Thank you, you are doing a Great Job for all humankind. The way you put women in the right order, on the right track, and how you boost confidence in all women/girls here. You are the one who helped me the most in this world. We all love you!!!!!! I thank you so much!!! ❤
So glad that you share your philosophy on RU-vid. You should do talks for these young ladies out here that has this whole process BACKWARDS. Femininity unfortunately now has to be taught to our girls. Bring back finishing schools with a twist!
Yes, you essentially repeated what my sister ( now deceased) told me: "don't listen to what they say- look at what they do." My husband was ever bringing up annulment or even divorce, but never followed through on it. Neither of us must have wanted it to end. Hurrah!
Real & Raw! I needed this straight no chaser. I hate playing games but it's not really about the game it's about staying true to my standards. I forgot who the F#@$ I am! Time to reintroduce myself to myself!
Such wonderful content! Please remember ladies: men are "instinctual hunters".......psychologically? The THRILL OF THE CHASE is really all he needs to satisfy him. Once he's caught the woman? He loses interest almost immediately. Sorry, this is just a FACT OF LIFE and a tested and true dating scenario that will never stop repeating itself until women HOLD OUT FOR THAT ENGAGEMENT RING BEFORE OPENING THEIR LEGS! Wonderful channel. Excellent dating advice.
I don't think it's an issue of self esteem or self worth. It might be dumb but I don't think most women know when they're doing it. They think they are being a "friend" to a guy and can't even see themselves clearly.
Shera, I've been enjoying your videos and I took your advice. I happen to be natural, but I'm stepping out and doing something different. Just purchased a very nice wig. Going to glam it up a bit and let the men chase me. I will keep up you updated. Thank you!
@@NiccixCore No yal don’t know how to style yal natural hair or dont look good woth it bc my natural hairALWAYS steal the show especially when its an afro. I look nothing like the baby hair wig wearers and women get jealous all the time.
I know women right now who would benefit from your teachings. They look at me crazy when I show them a video or recommend dating advice. Yet... they get ghosted, stood up, because men get bored with them soon, staying on he phone for hours, always replying back quick... sad
1:35 Remember Steve Urkel & Laura he chased after her something fierce to the point that he created Stefan. Compared to Myra chasing after Steve, nobody wanted that poor girl....
YES!!! I've been saying that!! It's out of order! Doesn't mean we can't seduce or be sexy or let him know by being open etc... but the damn chasing ? No Thank you💋💋
KAT STERLING how do you do those things tho without coming across as you're more into him or "chasing" him. Like showing mutual attraction and attention because they want attention and love just as much as we do... but do it without doing too much???
Ms.Benjamin it’s a Balance you control... where You are comfortable... the prize... Regal... Elegant... without being taken advantage of because you are slow to React to everything. I’m glad Ashera is here to give so much input because the small steps may be situational... but the foundation /bones/structure of it all... Ashera is so right. Mind you, it takes practice, study/observing with ALL of OUR senses😉It seems in time ( some longer than others) We figure it out.... because we are the Prize. No shade to men/males etc. 💋💋👑🐝🧘🏽♀️😉🦉♥️💚💗
@@Msbenjamin you've got to show that you're doing all this for yourself not for him and that he is lucky to be with you because that's who you are and he's got to experience it.
@@rses916 How do you do this though? I really thought I was doing all of this but yet here I am ghosted a second time by the same guy. I’m done. But still ....
@@laundrybasket2689 the key is being sweet when he's around you, and not giving a fuck when he's out of your sight by fully focusing on you and the things you like. When you are out of his sight, never call or text first. Miss his calls sometimes and don't always give reasons why you didn't take the call. just say sorry, I missed your calls, I had to sort out something.
Hi Shera i have been going through a lot for the past 5 months. I made the mistake of chasing after a guy who dumped me after we dated for 2 months. He was everything I wanted in a man on paper but realized that he wasn't feeling me the way I was feeling him. In December I finally let him go. Started talking to another guy who promised to take me out but later ghosted me . He wouldn't return my calls or text. I've been so beside myself and really depressed. Nothing has been going my way I've had enough. This video is really helping me to wake up and to realize that I am the prize not the other way round.
The problem is that we really are NOT the prize to today’s modern day men. We can believe we are the prize and remain celibate but these men are a lost cause. Too many of them have been Red-Pilled and know they can get sex from any low value girl down the street. Even from a hooker, and they don’t have to take her to dinner. I’m in the same boat as you and gave up finally. My little pets treat me WAY better than these phony ass single men.
This is so true. This is a bit off topic but i was interested in a couple of properties so signed up too some agencies. But I notice they were just giving me the run around so I didnt bother to go any further. The next agency I found, they felt I would make a great tenant so snapped me up very quickly. I had a meeting withing a couple of days and found my new home through them very quickly. Dont chase anything or anyone.
It might be true that some women deep down really don't want the men that play them and they just need to hear a good word from Shera so they can get where they really wanna be. Not everybody grew up knowing, ya know.
