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But you always have to respect their decision. They’ll eventually come back if they actually loved you, but not for me... she destroyed my pride. Evrything I’ve built... she tore it apart. Now if she’s happy then I’ll be happy for her even though I just found out thta she never loved me
1. Are you out of damage control mode? 2. You ARE DEMONSTRATING changes, action instead of words 3. If you are focussed on process in stead of outcome. The process in relationship is focus on emotional connection. 4. You are focused on context and not on content. Where does it come from? 5. You believe you can get back together You are GOOD!❤
My wife has filed for divorce. She actually told me exactly what I need to change for her to consider a chance for us in the future. I'm 100 percent focused!
my wife left me she said she doesn't feel happy with me anymore. she left me and I know she was talking to other guys behind my back. I never cheated on her not even once I'm loyal to my wife. when my wife had our first child she gain alot of weight she was over weight and still didn't cheat on her. I truly love her that I will never cheat on her. I also told her I will never leave her or leave her for someone else I don't care if you over weight or not I will never leave you. I kept my promise she also promise me that too, unfortunately she didn't keep her promise. I know she will realize the grass isn't greener on the other side because she left and dumped the person who truly loved her me. I pray to God she regrets leaving me leaving a true love ,loyalty, honest guy.
I'm sorry to hear about that, Shaheed. We understand how losing someone would make us realize the value of what we really have unless they are not already around. We still hope that you would find someone that you can fully commit to. Sending more positive energies on your end.
Im actually starting to feel REALLY good about NOT getting back with him, which is what I reaaly, really desired. Im glad I decided to buff through a few more of these vids, till I got to one with someone who ca actually explain a lot of this to me..so, thanks, Clay.:)
I'm going through this right now in my marriage. The "process" has been s life change or an a awakening for me. This has helped thanks. I am determined to win his love back.
3 ex dumped me for a reason not supporing them with money, I said No to all of them in every occation. I will not take financial responsibilities before marriage. I will stick to my decision. No money to girls unless its life threatening situations.
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I'm going through it right now she said she don't have feelings for me like before we can't ever be in a relationship again and is a long distance relationship
He is saying that: he cant give me what I am looking for, hes not the man for me and he doesnt look for any relationship now because he is rearranging his life. Last he added he doesnt want to give me false promises. Thats the reason he is giving me for not getting back together at this time... I do not want to give up on him...
Hi @Judyta Maria, it seems like your ex is going through a lot of things in life at this time. I hope he is holding on well. Given your ex's decision at this time, how does it helps you emotionally since you decided to hold on to him?
@@ClayAndrews I knew his situation when we met and he was the one pursuing me and asking to give it a chance, not to give up on him, after few bumps and misunderstandings he gave up on me first... 3 months no contact now I tried to reconnect and this is what he said. I said he always has my support and let him be, I miss our connection.
My ex and I were long distance for 2 1/2 years. We had a lot of visits to each other and what not and I visited for 17 days. We agreed they were amazing. As I was leaving, he cried in my arms saying he wanted me forever. The very next day he was crying to me, telling me that breaking up would be for the best. He ultimately said he would give it another go, for the long run to see if I’ve changed because I’d often take a while to get ready for bed. I was determined and I made the mistake of pouring out my love. He must’ve felt like he couldn’t return it at the moment because two days after he said he was in it for the long run, he broke my heart. That was last week. He said he felt good about us in his head and his heart but his gut was saying we would never work out. For a split second during the break up he said “well wait, don’t get rid of my things, i might change my mind in a few days, never mind no no no forget I said that”. Then I made the mistake a few days ago of texting him and he was telling me that he feels he made the right choice and that he feels that us breaking up was for the best and that we were slowly growing apart, but we literally spent every free second talking to each other and it certainly didn’t feel like we were growing apart. I don’t know what to do and I’m pretty helpless. I’ve been trying to work on myself in this time but I can’t help shaking the feeling that he was the one. Now I’m going to a university, that’s great for me, but it happens to be 2 hours away from him (as opposed to the 8 hours were used to) this is all just so weird cause literally the day he left me he told me he loved me like 30 times. I want him so bad it’s ridiculous. I need help but I’m going into college so I have no money. What can I do? I love him so freaking much and I want him to feel like he regrets everything.
AlyssaMenerMusic Hi! I understand how you feel. My boyfriend broke up with me after a 5 yr relationship (long distance, we also visited one another) We didnt broke up due to distance tho. It happened due to us arguing way too much. He broke up, I did no contact, 2 weeks later he asks to go back and then he changes his mind. I left him alone for weeks and he keeps chasing me. So go through no contact, Men NEED IT. If they can't make their mind help them by backing off. He needs to see how life is without you and you need to grow. Become less dependent (: If he loves you he'll come back! This is happening to me right now and after almost 2 months I feel way better. I love him as well but if he REALLY wants to be in a relationship with you he must say it directly. And no worries! He wont forget about you. The more you ignore him the more he'll crave your love & attention, but focus on you ❤ Best of luck!
Tenshi* wow thank you so much! I’ve heard too much negative stuff and i feel like I needed to hear that. I gotta work on myself and hopefully he’ll come back. :)
AlyssaMenerMusic I totally feel you. I felt like dying the first weeks. But we gotta understand that at the end of the day all we have is ourselves so that has to be taken care of before everything else❤ Also try not to talk about it much with friends in common, or family. They'll tell you to move on or a bunch of negative things "to help you" cause they love you. Silence your mind and keep some things to yourself. Just focus on improving and enjoy University 😊💜
Alyssa. I was reading your comment and felt what you experienced because almost same Bs happened to me. He dumped me twice. 5 years Ldr and we saw each other few times a years. He broke up because he wasn't ready for marriage or it was just an excuse. I don't know if there was cheating from his side but I felt insecure because my friends here tell me that he must have cheated because men need sex all the time and ldr doesn't provide that. Please tell me how could you move on? Could you find someone better in the end after this heartbreak? Did you listen to your gut?
@@valeriavoltage4262 Hi Valeria! After all this, I ended up seeing him one last time and afterwards I found that him leaving me was 100% on him. Talking to him after the break up made me feel worthless since he didn’t want me anymore. He didn’t cheat, but once I stopped talking to him, I finally found my worth. Once I loved myself again, I ended up going on tinder just to go on dates and have fun. The first guy I went on a date with I clicked with and I’ve been with him for a year and a half now. My relationship is no longer long distance, and throughout the relationship I’ve found myself growing as a person and becoming a better version of myself. You’re worth a lot and even though it’s hard, you’ll end up finding someone that helps you heal your wounds. You just have to find love within yourself first. Wishing you the best ❤️ thanks for reaching out.
hey everybody, i really need some advice. so im 18 and the past year, ive had a lot of family issues that really affected my academics as well as the other aspects in my life. it stressed me out so much and so it made me loose motivation in school and sports and everything else that used to give me self value. I had this wonderful boyfriend that would support me but because i was so stressed out, I stressed him out. I would take things out on him and i started depending on him as my main source of happiness. i was so clinfy and needy and always tried to blame him for stuff just because i was insecure. he broke up with me because he said whenever he saw my name pop up on his phone, he would feel anxious. 2 days later, he reached out saying he couldnt do this anymore and he missed me too much to let his pride stop him from getting back together with me. Now, its the same issue and he broke up with me 2-3 weeks ago saying the same thing. on top of that, hes stressed out because of college applications, working to pay for his car insurance and phone bill, and starting training for competitive boxing. He told me he feels too overwhelmed and doesnt think he is ready for a relationship. I admit, I was very toxic and clingy because of my circumstance at home but I want to change because not only do I care about him a lot but i had put so much more stress on myself. I think this period apart is good because last time, it wasnt enough to really motivate me to change but i feel like im changing alot. I started a new job, started to share my care to other people instead of focusing on just for him, and am changing my thinking and taking a second to breathe before I say something out of emotion which i will definietly regret later on, and hanging out with other people, and forcing down my pride so I can try new things and meet new people (at first I thought i just wasnt a people's person but now i really enjoy it). These are all things that made me toxic. Do you think he will come back or have I already wasted my 2nd chance already?
I believe this is a time to find yourself and know yourself worth, and remember the person he fell in Love with,try to get being that person or s even better version of that person.
Yeah I just don’t know what to do, she’s pushing away but still looks at all my social media stuff and says she still wants me in her life and everything, it’s all weird and confusing
my partner of 9 years (married for 2), has just left me. he said i have been controlling, naggy and that he has compromised for the relationship more than i have, i now realise i took the relationship for granted, but so did he. i have done the mistake of begging and pleading and crying and saying i can't live without him to no avail at the time. I am currently 8 months pregnant. I am doing no contact , currently 3rd week now. and i havent heard from him except to ask when my next obstetrician appointment is, about the house, the bills,.... he also said before he left that he no longer loves me the same way.... does he still loves me? does he miss me? is no contact working? he is very stubborn - will he reach out?? Do i have a chance to get back with him?
The truth is that, he probably does feel a lot for you and miss you. The two of you shared a life together (and even made a baby together!). Only the most heartless people wouldn't feel anything after that. In order to get back together, you need to show him that the reason for the breakup isn't a concern anymore. You also need to show him that interacting with you can be an enjoyable experience. PS: I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you, being 8 months pregnant. My wife was all over the place while she was pregnant. No matter what happens, I sincerely wish you and your little one the best.
i live with my ex, its been two months and im trying not to push things but i dont know if im doing the right thing. she blows hot and cold day to day and Sometimes it feel like things are good and other times she walls me out. the reason she broke up with me is because we both got depressed about external things and it made distant and i pushed her away sometimes. any help would be appreciated thanks.
rogue24 1 I'm stuck living with ex too. Same, external things. My mom is 74, and she has dementia, and had to move in, (his suggestion!). I am an only child, so it's either with me or a nursing home, so that's stressful for us. I, after being prescribed pain medication for over a decade, am now on suboxone, and I literally am fighting for my life. And I am doing good. I feel it's pretty shitty to break up with me NOW, when I need support the most. We both truly love each other. I do know this. We work all the time. It's all this shit that's happening, but it sucks because I'll never give up, he's the first man that I've ever loved. And I'm 41!!! I don't know if these videos are helping me or making me more sad. Good luck, by the way!!
sydney alexander Almost in the same boat, he moved out though. There is a lot going on in my life and he chose to leave at a point when I needed him the most. We still talk, he has his days where he talks about a future with me, then the days where he blows up in me and gets angry or tells me to move on and find someone else.
Carly Nordyke I wish he'd move out. Now my mom's stays with her friend and I am stuck here. I don't have any other place to go. I'm trying to save my money to leave. If he'd leave I'd be able to have my son move back here and I'd be happy. Instead of being here with a narcissist that refuses to change.
Hi Sir Kedz. Chances will always be there. but it is how we will commit ourselves in doing the work will make a difference. Give your ex the time to work other emotions and heal. In that way, she wouldn't feel the stress of having the need to get back together while working on her emotions. All the best.
Hi ...My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago after a 5 year realationship that was rockey.we had alot if issues that started with his dad meddling in our relationship.after that we had other people try and brake us up.But everytime we would get back together.last march we broke up and i got pregnate and we got back together(that was a real brake up).we started going to consuling and we were communicating better but he wanted to date other people and we were working and solving the issues so we both could be happy again and wouldnt feel like that.sadly i lost the baby and there was a miss understanding with his parents and he couldnt see the babies body (which i think he cares way to much what they think).and they told him that they need him to come back home (we loved together) and to get away from me because i made up the whole pregnacy to get him back (which he knew i didnt and he got to see the body because we buried him together) after we buried our son .we hooked up and continue to work out of our bills which is all done now but we talked for a hour and a half last week about how my life is going how he plans on going back to school on august(this Is the guy that said we couldnt talk for 10 years and we weren't getting back together ever)it went well we talked about if we ever got together again everything will be different and we can call and check on each other.i was doing no contact on and slipped up on v day and sent him a funny picture and told him about a bill which he responded to the bill part.i just want to know if in my situation is it hopeless since so much happened
Hi.. Coach, I want to ask, I try to did not contact him, or like I do the radio silent after the break up, in one month, and how if I find out he blocked me in anyway of our conversation to talk with. What should I do, if he really blocked me in anyway, then how to get my es back if like that, is that still possible to get my ex back?
My ex is in love with some one alse now but I thking she will come bk to me some day?? Y do u fill tht way N I tried a lots to for gt her N move onn N I am focesed on my self fully but I am gving tym for me. N her I don't now wht will happn next? 3months past
Your last point (5)- makes it sounds like you are actively pursuing your ex which totally goes against the nature of this videos headline. It’s 5 signs your ex want you back - not whether Someone believes they can get them back. Strong point - just not for the purpose of this video.
Hi Juan, We understand where you are coming from. It's because, with Active No Contact, we advocate the active approach instead of being passive. So it is important to understand that we have to take action, at the same time take ownership and accountability of whatever outcome of the choices that we make. :-)
So what is the context if my ex boyfriend tells me hes not sure his new relationship will last or what it is and that he and i dont know how the future will turn out?
what if he blocked me on all his social media..everywhere..and he is in another relationship since 5 months..is there still a chance??..let me tell u that i strongly believe we will get back together for that i need at least a means of contact
Hi Archana, Remember that our chance will depend on the actions that we would take and refuse to do. Even though you are blocked in all social media, for sure there are other means of contacting him, right? You can try sending a letter (though you may not get an immediate response) or through email.
My wife kicked me out said she cant do this nomore she resents me i been gone for 2 weeks almost losing my job wasnt able to see my kids so she said to come back save some money spend time with kids i can not touch her or talk about us there is no getting back together she is done i love her and want her back how do i do this while living with her
Sounds like a really rough position to be in. However, start by understanding why your wife "can't do this" and why she resents you. Even though your side of the story may be different, can you see why she might feel the way she does? If you can show her understanding, then it is the beginning of getting her to let go of the hurt she is holding onto. PS: I sincerely hope things get better for you.
@@ClayAndrews people need someone to help them understand. If I came to you and said 'clay, your comment isn't helpful. Try figuring out why your comment isn't helpful and then improve that' ...well that would be pretty useless and unhelpful to you, wouldn't it?
What if I'm the one who broke up with my ex-boyfriend? He reaches out to me after almost two weeks of having no communication. He contacted me again last June 3, 2018. But we don't have any topic about getting back together. Honestly, I still love him, and wanted him to get back to me. But I want to do the first move because he's the guy. And I still don't know what's really running inside his mind. 😔
what if she has left once before and and this is the second time ive been with her for 8years i have known her since i was a kid we have a 1year old baby and she left again what if she moves on this time but we love each other i know it she has blocked me everywhere and im worried that she wont see me change this time
But dude... see here's the crap, me and my girlfriend were in a polyamorous relationship, okay obviously I was the one dumped she's still with the other guy obviously because they dated longer and basically... I think I'm fucked, she probably got a replacement, she just stopped contacting me stopped liking my posts (all my posts are happy btw nothing negative) when we broke up she said she still wants to see me the end of the month, we don't live in the same city, but that was like 4 weeks ago, I haven't heard a single word from her in more than two weeks. Gee... sorry I didn't mean to write a book. sucks when a woman just "loses her feelings" while traveling alone. Never let your partner travel alone!
No worries. This is far from the longest comments I've seen... Okay, so about the polyamory thing. Don't worry about whether or not you have been "replaced" or not. Focus on whether or not you and your ex are having an emotional connection. If you are connecting better with her than pretty much anyone else ever could, she will have a very, very hard time replacing you.
I am the one that broke up with my ex boyfriend and he now wants me to be his side girl because he has a new girlfriend, what does that mean. I told him that I'm not going to be anybody side girl. He was treating me like a jerk that's why I left, I would still take him back if he treated me the way I know that should be treated. I am doing inner work, but he is still acting the same.😐
Katrina Norton why would you want to be his side girl if you want real shit? if he treats his current girlfriend likr that why do you think you'd be so much better?
napoleon perrault that's a good question he is what he is and I know I deserve better, but the heart is still in love with him. I am taking time for me and I know I will let go it's just time.
Honestly you neef a good foundation, shit like sex, fucking money stuff that you could enjoy with anyone to really clouds your judgements The reason I'm trying to get back with my ex is because we came together as broken people. I was an alcoholic and she had been heart broken too many times. When we got together we started helping one another to become better people and the only reason we broke up is because her parrents were on her ass about me. And all this other shit. So she couldn't stop thinking about me even though she broke up with me.
napoleon perrault I agree with having a good foundation. I am working on me and I am not begging him to take me back, he is out there doing what he chooses. I have no control over anyone but myself, so if he comes back and I am stronger I can say no, he has work to do on himself and he's ignoring it which makes me sad.
Gday mate I really need some advice I was 14 and my ex was 13 when we met (im 22 now) which was in music class we practiced in same room and it was the only way to spend time together. At recess and lunch we had to hang out in different parts of the school due to strict rules all grades were to stay in their own grade areas and after school she'd walk with me to my bus stop and we'd hang til my bus came. I lived 40 minutes away so it was hard to organise things to do together but somehow we managed to sort out some stuff and whenever she had a family day out her parents always invited me to join them which I did i really enjoyed spending time with her family too. We stayed together for the rest of the year but when the next year came and we went up a grade I slowly started to lose the feelings for her somehow (I think it cause of the distance we started wanting to see eachother more often) and on the last day of term 1 or 2 I broke it off with her at lunch in front of her friends well not exactly in front of them i pulled her a side and then did it which I regret fuckin big time I felt bad enough doin it. After school I was walkin to a new bus stop with a friend who travels with me and I told her bout what happened and I got message sayin do not ever call, talk or text me again and my friend calmed me down just in time cause I nearly smashed my phone we never spoke since. Now come my reason for advice I messaged her on facebook last year and we talked for a while then few months later she blocked me and I messaged her on my fake file (which I made after college to get in touch with someone cause our friendship was destroyed by someone who i thought was my friend) and she said she didn't know that she blocked me and she said she didn't want to be friends again or whatever I can't remember and she's moved on I said I respected her choice and if she ever needs to chat bout anything im always here. Then I made a fuckin stupid mistake few weeks later I messaged her hoping we could have a nice calm chat but I ended up messagin her too much and she blocked me and I said out loud WELL DONE YOU FUCKHEAD ya'v done it now and since then we've never talked. I feel like I still love her but I don't know what to think and i think she might love me but just doesn't wanna admit it I really need some advice anything Ps - The 2 best memories I'll never forget was her 14th birthday party (which her friends tried to throw me in the pool Lol) and when she stayed at my place 1 weekend and joined my nan and pops big Christmas party and lunch the next day I'll never forget those memories
If my ex will come back, ... I think I Don't need anymore. Its like reading a book over and over again when you already know the ending 😂😂😂...so ,..done. I don't know want again relationship 😂😂😂
We understand where you are coming from. There are relationships that we may want to give it another try and relationships that can end up better off as friends. What is important is that you always look at different relationship opportunities as a unique experience as compared from the past. All the best. :-)
