You know what's even better than the pregnant pause? The abortion pause. So, you say, "Let me ask you this...". Then, you say, "Oh, wait a minute. Don't go anywhere". And you walk off acting like you saw someone you had to talk to or there was something you had to do, then you don't come back.
*Approaches a girl* Me: So what do you do? Her: I am a management consultant Me: So let me ask you this, and *pauses* Brain cell 1: What does that mean? Brain cell 2: Do you like the job? Me: Doat like thob mean? Her: *Leaves quietly*
I did that first technique at a party not too long ago - "Let me ask you something." *Pregnant pause...* The guy looked right over my head and checked out the hot buxom, busty bimbo in the tight dress walking behind me...
"Oh, I just be myself." "Bullshit. There are things they do, consciously or unconsciously that makes them the most powerful person in that room." 100% nailed it. I've always had poor social skills including social anxiety disorder. Luckily I befriended someone in college (by luck of ending up in a shared suite) who had great interpersonal skills who actually was quite conscious of what he was doing and could explain instead of giving me the usual dismissive platitudes. It helped me a good deal. Your videos and some others on youtube I've since found have been even more useful, and I really appreciate that.
Why is he the most eloquent speaker UGHHH. He takes small things that just opens my mind so much. I personally like his sit down videos more than this white background bc the white is just... so bright and white bahaha but that's just my preference! Great video regardless ^^
how to win someone to engage with you in the conversation :- 1- the Suspense Opener by captivating them through ----> THE pregnant PAUSE . 2- The teasing Compliment - 3- Spotlight other people talents or things and make them the expert ..as they know better (giving others credits rather than yourself ) . 4- be honest about what you know and what you dont know during the conversation . and allow people to feel your true real self .
If you have trouble meeting people, it also helps to own the space, I know this might sound ignorant or cocky but you have to feel you are higher then them, this doesn't mean you have to make fun of them or belittle them you just have to feel comfortable and feel as though they want to hear what you have to say
May I add, you are very thorough, genuine, smart, witty, and have a really good head on your shoulders. You are also refreshing. I enjoy all the analysis, tips and tricks and strategies. Thank you so kindly.
Hey Matt, I love your channel, kinda watch it about 7ish times a week and everything but right now I just want to ask you to please pass a message to your brother Steve: "Steve Hussey, you are my freakin' hero!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing this video and the belonging pdf about conversation tricks and how to win an entire audience over in a matter of seconds! This is HUGE!! And you are 100% right when you say people think Matt is Neo of the Media World!! I myself thought he was born this way and had already charmed his way out of trouble back in preschool with his smooth talking! It did not even cross my mind he was using communication techniques, so effortlessly did he start talking about a worse than average plane ride on that radio show. Becoming all excited, now I'm looking up Slight of Hand conversation techniques online and checking the "rainforest" shopping site for books written about the most effective communications tools known to man. Good job getting the OK from your bro! This is gonna be life-changing, I can see that already. In your debt for Eternity, Kriszti Kotka
I never thought conversing was an art. My mom's an expert at this. She literally owns the situation she gets into! Thankfully I learned some tips from her😬
This guy is totally on point with the assumption that the parties involved are pretty genuine and honest. Else you're dealing with someone who is just sucking up, playing games or just want something from you (not in a good way). I only say this cause in the real world ...too much of the latter (talking from experience, unfortunately). Great stuff!
Gr8 advice. I don't have a problem with coming up with questions in a conversation but to prepare for it with a pause, that's making it the "Art" that it should be!
Your brother's guide was a lovely read, but not very clear in what exact strategies we should adopt. It was more of a breakdown of what made Matthew sound so great.
First time I watched one of your videos I was like: yeah, this guy has learnt a lot about communication, conversations, selling and psychology. From time to time I find the similar ideas in the books of other authors: from Buddhists to famous western businesses leaders. I admire your growth. It’s really inspiring. And I’m thankful that one of the key idea of your activity is not to teach the seduction (pick up) hacks, but about mindfulness, self control, self-confidence, socializing and enjoyment of life.
Matt you are so blessed you are so positive and always want to teach pple you are NEVER SELFISH Instead you are willing to walk us through and lead us to be the BEST WE EVER WANTED. Continue doing that bcoz u will always have more for US. I thank GOD i have discovered your Channel. God Bless You Matt.
I never realised that people don't know these conversation techniques. I guess it comes naturally for some of us as we might be the ones genuinely interested in others.
I definitely agree!! That's why when people ask me how I am so sociable, I have to mentally take a step back & tell myself that others over complicate their lives with thinking too much about their next move. Matt makes it simple and straight to the point. The only thing anyone watching this has to have is: A.) Confidence B.) Be fine with messing up and picking themselves back up
Matthew has a lot of content to create and a lot of knowledge to share (about confidence, charisma, conversation, healthy relationships and so on). One thing that is right now a huge -1 is the fact that after I shared my e-mail with the Mathew team, I got a lot of spam trying to sell things. Which could potentially be good, but it's very annoying. I wouldn't write this if I wasn't sure I'm not the only one who thinks this. I shared some links to content that you created with one of my friends, she also considered your content as highly valuable...and then, the very next day, she told me she already unsubscribed from your newsletter because of too much spam. I did the same thing. I think the commercial e-mails are way to aggressive to be productive
omg thankyou very much!!!❤ i just needed this is my life. i completely lost my charisma.. and myself :( so this is something to that is going to help me to find my charisma and self-convidence, i hope. i think so because all your videos help me to be how i was. THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU ❤
Yep, definitely used this in a bar. Now, apparently, i'm a successful stock broker at day and a volunteer at night. Took this conversation waaaaayyyyy too far. (Way too competitive with men)
absolutely love this. im already a good conversationalist naturally (but coming out of my shell more and being more authentic) and i found this so helpful!!!! will put into use. thanks matthew!
I really appreciate your videos..I'm 37 and beginning to start dating..I just lost weight and have new confidence and your videos have given me so many ways to respond to new stable and professional men...Thank u
The point about management consultants/letting them be the expert- you have to be careful if the career they are in is not common, because if you ask what they do, it might come off as intrusive. As if you are questioning the authenticity of their line of work.
Hello Mat! Watching this video made me realize I'd actually love more content related with just human interaction and how to nail it (apart from the usual romantic advice) because the only reason I follow you is this... warm clear vibe of a communicator you carry. I admire you because I have a really hard time in social environments... help ?? btw, thanks for everything Mat, you rock!!
Nice video, Matthew. Thank you so much! But how I could learn to "tease" someone or be playful? Is there a book to read? Or it just needs to be practiced on?
I hate to sound arrogant, but the people I hang out with (unless much older) don't know a damn thing. I then have to sit through an excruciatingly inaccurate delivery from a guy who's lying through his teeth. I also know people who ask me questions about my interests (knife-making) and immediately respond to every explanation I give them with "I know" and they're not even disinterested. I have to call them out at some point, indirectly and they just end up embarrassing themselves. People are fucking idiots and I'm not about to befriend an idiot.
is there a dating guru for guys?? If not, I think there should be because as much I take all of this advice which is great by the way.... i find that it only goes so far with the guys who seem to start off being decent human beings and then slowly start to show that they are mean and rude.. so even if i play my cards right.. i still end up somehow being disrespected or harassed and i find that it is becoming more and more common and "normal" too (when i share my stories with my girl friends they seem to experience the same things) I am quick to cut them off and move on to another guy only to find out that he is the same way too.
I do all of these, I guess that is why I make a good first impression… for some reason, it doesn't last. Hearing this helps me realize why I fail later… I loose that spark and confidence after the "get to know you" stage of any relationship
So good conversation traps interest and builds egos? Just share yourself and do away with all the formulaic mind-games. Not only are those mind-games douchey, they're disingenuous and transparent. Also, he hasn't been secretly working on these techniques for years. His techniques are nothing new; they're part of rhetoric known for millennia. Sorry to break it to you, folks, but Hussey is a salesman.
Dear Mr. Huseey, Many thanks for sharing your insights, experience and expertise on this matter. Your you tube video where you talk about "offering to pay" was solid gold and quite revealing. While viewing your overall body of work it's immediately clear that 1/How to get the guy = How to get the girl. Too cool. Many thanks.
Hi! I was going to leave a comment of facebook, but, couldn't find the post, I must be a little inept! Anyways, thank you Stephen, and of course, Matthew for this amazing list of Six Secrets. This is gold!!! I have been enthralled by many of your videos, Matt, and it has kept me searching for more. Thus, here. I downloaded it after planning on purchasing the "Super Scripts", and wanting to see more on you and your method, I really can't wait! Thanks again and have a great day!!!
See, whenever someone uses these tricks on me, I feel really uncomfortable, because 90% of the time, I know it's just superficial BS and they don't actually care.
You chat bungle. I gave you 5 minutes to reinforce your click bait title - you barely did it. Its very very individual, if you’re not confident, none of this will help, and if you are confident, you dont need this and you know it. This is a video aimed at those who wont be able to utilise it.
Thank you, Matt. Where was this last year when I didn't know how to act in front of him because he made me that nervous. I forgot to speak, I was so nervous. This would have been great to use then.
Oh the amount of times I have said I either didn't know what exactly their job or hobby entailed and if they could explain and they give me (for a management consultant for instance)..."I help people manage things". I'm actually shocked when people explain themselves. I see it as a sign as they are bored to tears with what they do with their career lives.
I never heard about you and your skills, but today evening just opened for me my new teacher;) I love it, what you do and how you do. Keep going and thank you :) Greetings from Vienna
I tried the 'tim' one with my friends' boyfriend. Turns out he didn't like it or something, and was very curious what she had told me about him. The two of them ended up having some pretty awkward conversations, and my friend wasn't happy about it. Thanks a lot.
People like to talk about themselves, casual questions that leave the door open for long replies like "oh tell me about your dog" are good and pay attention to the cues offered. If the cues aren't offered or the replies are continually curt that person has no interest in you. This works great and can be a good way to deeper conversations and a relationship. It also doesn't require you to be super witty or funny, just smile at them and pay attention for the prompts while they ramble on about their uninteresting trip to wherever. It can also be really bad as it can allow the other person to build a false image of you. They're sharing tons while you're sharing very little and this whole time they feel like they're getting to know you based off your interest in their interests... which causes them to start filling in building up who you are based off of absolutely nothing. Works great if you just want to take someone home from the bar but its also how you can find yourself in a relationship with someone for a year before you realize the person that you're with has a really fucking weird idea who you are.
The fist day I watch one of his videos I cried overnight remembering all my mistakes hahahaha... Now I feel so much pain watching these Genius Masterpieces but I have to. Is like working out...
This is why you're awesome. You've given me the tools to be confident and be approachable. Thank you for continuously staying humble. I appreciate all that you do, Matt. You have no idea how much you have impacted my life in these past few years. Stay golden! :)
This is the first time I watch you. Wow you are such an inspiring guy. I really loved you from the first watch. Thank you so much for teaching the world :)
