Woman Lets Police Interrogate her Mom?! 

Story 1 - Good apple. The parents are being lazy. This could have easily been solved to everybody's satisfaction but the parents didn't even try to accommodate OP.

im disabled and would never expect my siblings to not do stuff just cos i cant infact , i encourage them to be themselves

You know... In story 1, the parents could have easily compromised by ordering takeout from the restaurant the kid wanted to eat from, and then provide food from separate sources for the siblings, and either hold the party at home or at a park if there's one that's wheelchair accessible nearby (yes those kinds of parts do exist), if including the siblings would be THAT important (granted that the kid would be okay with ordering takeout). Just make sure the not-safe meals were far away from the siblings' meals so there's no cross contamination, and that everyone remembers to wash their hands after eating.

as an autistic person with extremly limiting food allergies ,story 1 good apple. I limit what my family is able to do a lot and I get excluded sometimes and I understand that its not my fault it isn't my sibling/family's fault let them enjoy something on their own if that's what they need I understand autism is a spectrum but from my personal experience I take joy in know that my siblings get to have fun. Also you didn't have to avoid the word neglected it fits perfectly in this situation.

That birthday story hit home. I got so many guilt trips because my favorite foods were deemed "too weird" for the rest of the family so I always had to go where everyone else wanted or had to wait for Veterans Day so my grandpa could eat where he wanted free but also not go alone under the guise of celebrating me. They also got mad that after I left for college I told them they could save their money and not worry about it (I still went out with my grandpa because I did enjoy spending time with him but not with the expectation that it was supposed to also be my birthday celebration)

Story 3: that was my story 😅 thank you soooo much for your perspective. A lot of people agreed with you in the comments of the original story and it gave me a whole lot to think about. Talked to my hubby like a week later and decided to let it go completely. No more photos and no more reminders unless he asks. so now everyone gets a chance to get an update live!!! Pretty cool right? 😂❤

the first story is so sad, the parents are very neglectful in my opinion and they don't deserve it

🍎#1- Good apple!! I feel bad for this kid too…. Don’t ask him what he wants to do for his bday if you were just going to decide for him… totally agree, take the kid out on his own. Each child deserves one on one time regardless of the others needs. 🍎#2- Good apple!! Idc who you choose for your child’s god parent.. even if your sister had her crap totally together… tour kid your choice!! 🍎#3- 🦀 apple!!! I think as a step mom the good intention was definitely there. But I totally agree once he stopped asking, let it go. 🍎#4- Good apple!! Not what I would have done, but I don’t think she was wrong and I definitely would have taken the key too.

I don’t understand why the parents didn’t have a birthday dinner with the son alone then have a birthday celebration for everyone.

For story #4: I would go good apple because I think that if the mom wasn't shown her consequences, she would do this again, or use someone else. Breaking and entering is a crime, and a very serious one. If she gets away with it, she many do it again. She also wasn't doing it for helpful/emergency reasons, she was doing it for selfish reasons (op said it was because she didn't want the girl staying in her spare room). I think just putting your phone on airplane mode so you can enjoy your vacation and not worry about spending time calling around to spend time arguing with your mom, and calling security to ignore the break-in, is not something that makes them crab or bad. this is just my opinion though.

When I was a teenager, my mom took me to a sushi restaurant for my birthday. She hates raw fish. I ordered SO MUCH SASHIMI. And then helped her find some things she might like that were similar to what she bought at the Chinese restaurant that she likes. (gyoza are like dumplings, mom, I promise. okay, I'll get those.) For dessert, we split fried ice cream. It was awesome. 10 years later, my mom was driving me home from my doctors appointment at the VERY IMPORTANT HOSPITAL with the HIGHLY RESPECTED DOCTOR who were trying to figure out why I was dying (it was brain tumors) when she got shifty. She glanced over at me and casually said that it was close to dinner time and she was feeling peckish after the two hour ride there and the three hour wait for the doctor (he was running behind) and OH LOOK, we're going to pass that fish restaurant she likes so much but doesn't get to go to often because it's so far away from home. I pulled up the menu on my phone. It was nothing but cooked fish. No sushi, no lobster, not even calamari. I hate cooked fish. "Let's go." I ordered a side of french fries and took lots of pictures, then got a Wendy's chicken sandwich for dinner.

Story 1- good apple. I’m a parent of 3. Every year for their birthdays we take them out just the parents and the birthday kid. We do an activity and a dinner. It’s all about them. I understand that sometimes when it comes to disabilities it’s hard, especially to have care for the other siblings, but you don’t want to look over the other kid especially on their birthday.

As a mom, the first story kids the good apple. Poor kid. I hope the family can work through it.

As a parent who had a child with severe milk and egg allergies, I can sympathize with the trying to make sure where you go accommodates your child's food needs but if my other child said I really want to go to this restaurant we always packed a separate lunch box. I would explain to the child they're not going to have anything you can have so what do you want to put in your special lunch box and we never had an issue. He never complained, he actually would show off his special lunch box to the waiters cause he thought it was so cool and special, and he loves just being with the family. Also if they didn't want to do that for all 3 children then you get a babysitter and let that child have their birthday dinner separate and then do a family dinner with everyone else at home. I think expecting that child to not get the restaurant they wanted for their birthday is unreasonable and completely unfair. All they're teaching their other children who have disabilities is that the world caters to you when it doesn't so they're setting them up for failure later as adults in life.

Just because a woman is a mom, doesn't ever give her a freepass.

Story 1: this is simple - just go along til you turn 18, then move out and go no contact. The parents don't care what birthday kid wants now or ever. They only care what benfits them. Kid also needs to know that the parents are also expecting them to be the caregiver for the siblings. So prepare for that.

Story One - I'm physically disabled, autistic, and i have ARFID. I also have a cousin who is three days younger than me and when we were really little, we'd have joint birthday parties. But this stopped before we left elementary school because we had very different interests and didn't want the same things. It didn't make us any less close, we still love each other. I have to go good apple, because i'd never ever want my parents to do for me what OP's parents are doing for his siblings.

My 7 year old son loves your bad apple stories yes most of them he doesnt really understand and i try to explain it to him. He loves the emojis of the apples each time you give one he is so excited 😅

Story one, as the parent of 4, 2 or which are chronically ill, good apple. Such a good apple. You didnt even throw a fit or anything. You just didnt go. Im proud of how you handled that!

1st story - good apple - the parents obviously wanted to throw a family event and not a birthday dinner for OP 2nd story - good apple - no explanation needed 3rd story- crab apple - I think it should be a group decision should be a group decision between the entire family (mom, dad, son). I also agree with Rebecca that she shouldn’t keep reminding him if he is not wanting to see her, don’t force it. 4th story - good apple - they were trying to take advantage of the situation, she was on vacation and she wanted to enjoy it

We owe are parents nothing. No one asked us to be here. A person violates a boundary they violate a boundary. It doesn't matter if they are a parent.

I feel like the parents in story one really went out of their way to completely ignore their kid’s wishes. Have two celebrations! Take the kid out to dinner just the three of you, or even better, have them go out with some of their friends! And THEN go back to the house for cake with the fam. Or if they wanna do a big event do that another day. The fact that they couldn’t compromise at all is crazy to me and also really sad.

Story 1: good apple. This situation hits home for me because my birthday is being covered up by my extended family’s Easter. My grandparents decided that they would move our Easter celebration to my birthday because a week later two of our family members weren’t going to make it. I feel like a nobody and my mom is all like “just deal with it.” I had made plans for my birthday already and those are now canceled. As a disabled person it is hard to make plans with people so this is a big deal for me.

Story #1- As a mom of a special needs kid, OP is a GOOD APPLE. Shame on mom and dad for neglecting his feelings and him in general. Stop gulit tripping the child without speical needs into doing whats best for the other two children on his birthday. Honestly, i wouldnt have went either. Story #4- Good Apple. I cant fault OP for the 90 minutes because it seems like mom doesnt understand she can't use her daughters place when shes out of town, without asking or even mentioning she had been there. As someone who set specific boundaries with a few family memebers that were ignored, I would have done what OP did.

Last story- Good apple. OP did nothing wrong. The mom did this all to herself and gets all the blame. OP set a boundary and the mom blatantly ignored it for no reason. Hard disagree on the crab apple.

Timestamps: intro: 0:00 apple #1: 1:28 apple #2: 11:11 apple #3: 15:01 apple #4: 20:51 outro: 29:50 hope this helps!! 🥰🍎🍏

I feel so bad for the kid from story 1. I went through something similar when I was a teenager since my sister had cancer. Feeling like you aren't as important as your siblings for the crime of not having a special need can be devastating. If it was important enough to warrant catering anyway, why couldn't they have just ordered take out from the favorite place for their 16 year old and gotten food for everyone else from the "family favorite" place that worked for others?

21:36 I’m sorry😂 I was TOTALLY distracted in the last story by the heckin’ chonk that randomly appeared im between edit cuts😆 More kitty footage, please!!!😂😂😂🖤

As a parent of a special need child, one of the hardest and most constant lessons I have to teach is "The disabled doesn't mean you automatically come first." Just as we're told that when we have multiple children, we can't make everything about the new baby, not everything can be able the disability. My second born gets to plan their birthday how they want and if it is going to cause problems for the special needs child then I plan accordingly to help my special need child while still giving my second born the birthday they planned. I am by no means perfect at this, but I constantly am checking myself and my behavior to make sure I am not neglecting the needs of all my children, not just my special needs child.

How come I don’t say, hi, my lovelies anymore? It was so sweet, light-hearted, and created the perfect vibe for your channel and really conveyed your mission to encourage kindness.

Apple #1: This one really hits home for me. I have an older sibling who’s on the spectrum and we both have mild allergies. My parents made an effort to show up for BOTH of us. They made sure we each got quality time with each parent, and that nobody felt like they needed to compete for their attention. I know this situation is much more extreme, but come on! One night a year, can’t the kid go out and celebrate their birthday in the way that they want?? Sibs (siblings of disability) do SO MUCH for their families. They deserve some special time, especially in a situation like this where there are multiple high-needs siblings for this one sib to have to accommodate. They’re really not asking for much. Good. Apple. Parents can learn a thing or two. Apple #2: Good Apple. This is why we don’t try to heal our mental health issues for others. Apple #3: Crab Apple. You said it better than I could! Apple #4: Good Apple. Boundaries.

As someone who has special needs; not as severe as the siblings from story one I will say, my parents still make my brother feel special on his birthday!

Every human deserves to have a moment that is just theirs.

And btw I really learned something from this episode when you said your intention can sometimes have the wrong impact 🤯 unbelievably good advice should put it on a T-shirt xxx

Story 1: Good apple! I have pretty bad disabilities, my back and legs hurt at all times and it's chronic. I would never want my siblings to have to constantly cater to me! My brother loves sports and deserves to play them even if I can't ESPECIALLY on his birthday

#1 parents: "You're wrong, cause if you were right, we'd be wrong and we don't like that"

Love this series 😍

Story 3.... as an adopted person and adopted 3 kids.... I told my oldest was told from day 1 (10 yrs old) that when he was 18 if he ever wanted to know his birth family, I would help him find them. The reason for 18, was he could make more mature decisions on what they could or not be in with his life. @ 3 months to 18 he ask me to help him. He said he wanted to know the story on why he went into foster care. I had his bio aunt come to his HS graduation party. He was so happy. He loves hearing stories about his childhood from her and her husband. He is now 31. Met his bio parents on the phone only. They started asking for money right off the rip. He has nothing to do with them. But, so sees the aunt and uncle every few years. My youngest son was also adopted (step parent) and he has nothing to do with his bio mom. He chose @ 12 to walk away from her and ask me to adopt him. We made him wait for a year before we started the process. He's now 25 and has only reached out to her once to ask questions about his older siblings that she gave up. She stated with her lies to him again and he told her where she could go in his life. I would only let him have access to the bio mom and her pictures. .. IF HE shows interest again. Don't force any insecurities into his life.

I got too distracted at times with all the cat love and what the cat was doing lol Especially looking for the cat and calling out "hello!" When she wandered off, but you could still hear her lol! Cute fur baby! 😺💗

story 1- not the bad apple i have a lot of medical problems around food, my worst being dairy, and my brother’s absolute favourite food is ice cream. he doesn’t get excited about much, but he gets excited about good ice cream, so for multiple years whenever we celebrate stuff for him we go to a good ice cream place. sometimes it’s stressful for me, but i’ve started just packing my own food, or noticing there’s a place next door i can pick something up from. or sometimes i’ll luck out and they’ll have something dairy free that i can have. either way, the last thing i do is ruin his day since that’s *his* day to celebrate all this ramble to say- there’s ways for op and his family to go to places his siblings can’t eat at and still have a good time. from experience it sucks to have limitations in what you can eat and go somewhere without accommodations, but i can do it if i have a heads up. the parents accommodate op’s siblings really well 364 days out of the year, they can put all their attention on op for one day

The birthday story made me so sad! I don't have experience with having children with disabilities, but I do have my own kids. If I were the parent hearing that my child was feeling like she was always a second thought to my other kids, I would for sure sit down with her and talk about what changes could be put in place. As far as the birthday specifically, I would have set up a parent(s)-daughter dinner at the favorite restaurant as well as the big family party at the party restaurant. That way, the daughter would feel special and seen on her day, and on the weekend we could have the normal big celebration with the rest of the family included.

The first story is tough, but OP needs the be the center of the day for a day once in a while. So I agree. Story 2- OP needs to back away from these people. Story 3- cut back on the photos of Bio-mom. Tina doesn't seem like she wants the kid in her life, and you're the only mom staying there. Story 4- Wait, you can stop the police from interrogating someone? I'm in the US, and I think all I could legally do is insist that the police wait for Mommy's lawyer. Mom and friends didn't have permission to use OP's home or a reason to go there.

YES this is the only thing I look forward to on Tuesday ❤❤❤🐶🐶🐶🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱

Yay am I the bad Apple

you didn't ruin your birthday you advocated for your self for your special day also disabled people have to be used to not perfect days just like the rest of us

1st: Good Apple. What really burns me is that the parents allowed the child to think (basically lying to) that they were going to the restaurant that child picked then ignored that child’s request & planned something completely different for their birthday. That’s total BS. This child deserves to have their birthday about THEM! Parents need to step back & listen to this kid or they will lose them the second they can walk out that door at 18. 2nd: Good apple. I’d tell that sister that while you are glad she’s sober but she STILL has to take accountability for the actions. No accountability no responsibility, ie NO you don’t get to be your niece’s God mother bc you have proven yourself selfish & untrustworthy.

I think especially for story 1 parents can tend to get easily caught in the money spent equals love provided. My own dad has never gotten out of that mindset so it definitely makes it hard for them to see like you’re not loving your child in the way they want or need

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As a kid with seven siblings I do have to side with the 16 year old in the first story. A couple of siblings do have food allergies so I can understand not wanting the restaurant they pick out or saying only wanting to spend time with a specific person rather than a bunch of others joining in

My husband legally adopted my oldest daughter 2 years ago. He has been her daddy since she was 6 months old when her bio father started slowly making his exit. He only came around once every few months until she was 2 and then he hasnt seen her since a week after her second birthday. We have always made sure she knows she has a bio dad or as she calls it "her fake dad" but we dont bring up to her. We are always welcoming id questions, and she kniw we are always open minded to if and when she wants to reach out him. The adoption was her choice.

I completely agree to all of them I just want to say your opinion helps me understand In a way I may never

for the final story I'm unclear as to whether or not the op was aware the police were involved and the security company were involved until their father called. so I'm leaning more towards good apple under the assumption that she was unaware given the context of the story.

The parents in the first story are going to be sitting there one day, caring for their three other children until they die by themselves, and will still be wondering why OP doesn’t visit/help/acknowledge them. When you treat one of your children like this and neglect their emotional needs you reap what you sew. I’d tell this kid to hold out until 18, work like a fiend to become independent ASAP, and run. Less he ends up being his sibling’s keeper his whole life and never gets to live his own life.

Last story- good apple. But holy sheiße! You broadcasted red flags saying "family could break my trust & i would still let them in:

Story 1-ive heard it a few times now and my answer is still the same. Good Apple.

My 16th birthday honestly kinda sucked because my mom had spent a ridiculous amount of money on my little sister before it so the thing I wanted and we had been planning to do for my birthday was canceled because of that and we wound up going to a place my parents wanted to eat at way more than me. I'm 24 and this is still a core memory of mine. OP #1 is going to remember forever that he is not worth making sacrifices for even on his birthday.

If they didn't intend to do what the kid wanted, they shouldn't have asked.

Story 1: why couldn’t they just order a few dishes from their child’s favorite (specifically asking for their favorite dish) restaurant and have it as an option. Thus keeping everyone happy. Or even better have a voucher/reservation/coupon/gift card to that place AS the birthday gift. Just between the kid and the parents or even a friend or two??

Story 1 - As someone with medical issues around food the kid is definitely the good apple. The parents didn’t listen then got mad at the kid, and even though they have kids with medical issues he said it could be just them but they still went and threw a big party.

For the “Honoring Son’s biological mother” story I have a solution to that story. Place everything that you know about the son’s mom inside of a special place. Put it all in a fireproof box. Any photos, health documents, blood type, contact information, whatever. Place that inside of a box. Then let your child know where that box is in case of emergency, also in case the child needs to know something about their biological mother. That way if something happens to his current family, he will have at least some knowledge of another parent or some sort of family member. There was a film called “Grave of the Fire Flies” and these two kids were stuck within wartime Japan, and they had a hard time being able to contact their family. So I don’t want that situation for any other child. So just let him live his life with you as his mother, and if he has any questions, let him look through the box.

love the cat cam Also this is the rare time I agree on all 4 apples

As for story 1, every kid should get alone time with Mom and Dad--singly or together--at least once a month. That's when Mom and/or Dad can take a kid like this who usually has to give up his favorites to accommodate others can be centered and get what he wants.

Story 1: I feel for OP. I was gonna "both sides" it up until the parents went that far overboard with the punishments. And "We're still going to find a way to punish you more"??? That's so gross.

as a person who has ASD and SAD, i have two older sisters. i dont agree with the parents in the first story, bc i dont want my sisters to have to go somewhere else just bc of me

Nobody can convince me that OP 1 isn't a good apple. OP isn't insensitive to their siblings needs, and they seem to understand that often times, the special needs need to come first, but OP is absolutely in their right to feel hurt by this. You can understand that a situation can't be helped, while still feeling bad about how it affects you. OP doesn't sound spoiled or entitled, they just want 1 day out of 365 days in the year, to be able to do what they want to do. I have special needs too, including an eating disorder, but I would never try to force my siblings to plan their own birthday celebrations around my own needs.

Story one: good apple. It’s sad that even after a big statement about being overlooked (not showing up for his bday dinner) the parents aren’t seeing that OP needs more attention. In my childhood I was told to just go along with a sibling because doing what they wanted was easier than putting up with their push back/tantrums if they didn’t get their way. It sucked to feel like you’re always second to someone and that hurts and has lasting impacts.

Yayy!!! I love this series!! ❤❤❤

I’d love to see a video where you go over bad apple stories that your opinion was changed because of the comments. Like what the story was, what you originally said, and how the comments changed your mind

As a child who was abandoned by one of my biological parents, telling your child that they were abandoned by their other parent feels like hell... ESPECIALLY if the kid now has a new parent that seemingly don't like said child at all... it's left me with extreme abandonment issues... I can't travel out of country without getting a panic attack, unless my family is there with me...

1st story... I am the mother of two son's, one has special needs that are more visible and medical and the other has sensory needs. Because of that their day to day and especially their birthdays are very different. There are times they can't be at each other's events. I am raising two boys who need different things from me. This son is the GOOD APPLE and the parents are 100% bad bad apples. My heart breaks for this young man

#3 As a parent with several friends who were adopted or raised by other family members, and also a sister in law who has no contact with the kid she put up for adoption and also several friends who foster or adopted... I am torn between crab apple and bad apple, your instincts are spot on with this. That behavior, while well intentioned, is extremely toxic and my first thought was that you are reminding him he wasn't wanted and doesn't belong with you. That's cruel to do, even though I'm sure she doesn't mean to hurt him. It does almost feel like she's afraid of him getting too comfortable with them

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I wouldn't show up either. Parents obviously don't care to spend ONE day of the year with their child. The other's can stay home, and do something later for all of them.

Story 1: Those are parents that are going to wonder later why that child never visits.

Imagine getting punished severely because you had a sucky birthday caused by your punishers

At the exact moment when vixy ripped up the furniture, my cat jumped on my alter😂

Apple #4: Yes, she let them sweat and caused a situation of wasted time, but it was also stated that when she received the first call she was on a plane! I would be super upset and embarrassed to be handling that kind of situation in public on a plane, where you can't help but have people overhear a conversation. That would not have been a great situation at all to deal with so I can sort of see why she did that, but didn't specifically state that she didn't answer anymore calls for that reason. You're also supposed to put your phone on airplane mode and I know my phone doesn't love being in that state and it's hard to do anything on it the last time I flew. So once she hit the resort and was settled was one thing, but on the plane, hell no I'm not handling that situation with a conversation on my phone in public in closed quarters.

I feel like that first birthday story the 16 year old would have been willing to compromise a private dinner near the birthday at his favorite place with like one parent and maybe a friend and then the family party later. Then he could have felt heard and still done the family thing.

I feel like they're mad because this embarrassed them with the extended family.

The #4- Two parts - Good Apple to Parents, but Bad Apple to police etc.

I feel really bad for the first story, poor kid, their needs are not being met..

I feel like for the first story of the kid wanting to eat his favorite food at his birthday- the parents are the bad apples not crab apples unless there were missing details. They made no effort to accommodate his own wishes for his birthday no compromise like- ok maybe his siblings can bring their own food/they have the same party they did but not at a restaurant (like the house or some other venue safe for the siblings- maybe a venue he really loves!) and catered from his favorite restaurant or at the very least- bring him his favorite meals- samosas- to wherever the party ended up. In the end, I think Ms Roger’s hit the nail on the head. Going out with him without his siblings likely would have been nice. Just you and him would make him feel seen for a special night- maybe in addition to a family gathering (not as big if funds are the issue) would have really helped. That way the siblings are not being left out (this is the one factor I feel like she brushed over- it is heart breaking the siblings would have to feel left out for the main celebration), and he gets his special moment. That’s the big goal in that story I feel like. But instead they didn’t even listen to his feedback or bother to make such compromises, I would imagine him seeing all the great lengths to keep his siblings happy, it would hurt if they didn’t at least try to find a solution for his own happiness too. Instead I feel like they made him feel all the more less loved and that’s so sad. Let alone grounding and shaming him for it.

Story one parents weren't mad about the money it sounds like they were just embarrassed that he didn't go where all his relatives were

The parents should have made the event at their house and picked up food from the restaurant that he wanted, and then go to the restaurant that the siblings would like

I agree with your Apple decisions. I understand what you meant by the last apple and I can understand how someone else can misunderstand. Thank you for letting me know it's National Muffin Day! I genuinely was unaware but was intrigued when I got a free muffin in a Synagogue. Now I know why. lol

A god parent is for a child's religious training not necessarily someone to care for the child if something happens to the parent.

That first story is soo good because that guilt trip by the parents is not the reason their children will end up resenting them! Did that sibling act like correct, no that’s a kid move. I would just say oh you choose to not pick my favorite restaurant, don’t worry I’ll go with my friends and you can go there with my siblings. I also find it troubling that his siblings didn’t stand up for their sibling meaning this is going to be an issue in the future!

I can relate to the first story so much! As someone who has a disabled little brother who is in a wheelchair he gets all the attention and I’m a glass child. For my birthday each year my parents ask me where I want to eat I might chose some place and they would tell me, “ I don’t think that place is accessible so I don’t think we could bring your brother there. ” I sorry WHERE DID I SAY HE HAS TO COME???? He can stay home if it’s not accessible because it’s my day and I never get to chose where to go one more thing my favourite restaurant is a place my parents don’t like, I suggested that we could just do take out for me if they wanted to but they told me a need to pick a new restaurant (keep in mind I put up worth the restaurant that they chose even though I don’t like them) but still I’m not really sure what to do Am I the bad apple?

story 1: your birthday is the ONE DAY a year that its ALL about you. that being said, there are times i feel you could look past a birthday. my dad's last living grandparent died a few days before my birthday and asked if i'd be ok with him not being with me on my birthday. i said it was fine. he needed to be there for his family. and we still did something on my birthday and when he got back as well

Story 4 - Good Apple The security service and police were both compensated for their time. But more importantly, OP was able to ask the officers to take her mother's key away. Without that, the mom could - and probably would - have just gone back the next day. Peace of mind knowing that a toxic family member can't break into your home is worth it.

Story 3- something else to keep in mind, if the bio mom did turn herself around and tried to be in the kid's life again, imagine how the child would feel if he had been told his whole life that OP is his mom and now someone else is telling him no I'm your mom. He would feel like his dad and OP had been lying to him his whole life. I think it's good to tell him 'hey, I'm not your bio mom but if you want to call me mom and accept me as your mom, I gladly accept and would love that. And if you have questions about bio mom, we can answer those.' If he asks all the questions he wants and decides he's good with no more info, then yeah, don't show him more pictures or anything.

Story 1- They were making false promises Good apple. Story 2- She put in danger her sister and niece and won’t even admit she was wrong. Good apple. Story 3- The son doesn’t seem interested in coming into contact with her. He understands that he has a mom but you can’t dictate if he will like her or not. Crab apple. Story 4- Nothing was that bad but it’s bad because she took the cops time. I would have called the mom and talked to her about her breaking my trust. Crab apple.

Im a sibling of a brother with special needs and a parent to a daughter with special needs and 2 sons one with needs and one normal... i am 1000% the parent's are the assholes in the first one. And o know it's hard And early on we made the same mistake but thankfully my mum pointed it out and flat out told me i wax being an asshole to my able son by always ignoring or equivocating his wants to accommodate his siblings and that i needed to stop and exactly like the kid said just for thoze 1-3 times a year his brother and sister go to grandma's while we do what he wants to do (we started doing things when he eat 9-10 and by 15 his 'favorite' places were astonishingly ALWAYS special sibling accessible and friendly) he gets his wants met, doesn't ends up resenting his siblings and borderline flat out hating the parents. EDIT - GOD DAMN THE SISTER IN THE SECOND STORY NEEDS MORE THAN REHAB THE CRA?Y BINT NEEDS TO BE SECTIONED 😂😂

Story 4 - as someone who lives with parents who don’t understand boundaries and will take any vacation as an excuse to mess with my private space, I say good apple. She needed to be put in her place and if you had just turned off the alarm, she might have lied and just stayed in the house. I don’t think it was a waste of time. She made sure that her mom was not able to invade her space just because she wanted to.

I don't have any children, but I could empathize with the predicament the parents were in in the first story, up until they decided to outright lie to their child. How on earth did they think that was ok?

Story one. It needs to be pointed out to the parents that in the future when they are 'old' or dead it will be this child's responsibility to look out for his siblings. He needs to be able to look after himself as well us them. What I mean by this is he needs to know how to live his best life, if he lives purely for them he's not going to have a full life. I really dislike that the parents haven't given energy to ensure he has a balanced life around his responsibilities to the family unit and the care free adolescent life of his peers. His parents should have had a small family celebration with his siblings and either went with him or let him take some friends to the restaurant he wanted for his birthday.

Story 1- I am in a family with 11 siblings and lots of them have gluten allergies and some of the siblings SO's have food allergies like a red meat allergy or sea food. What we did do when my dad could afford it is he had one big party for all the birthdays on the month and took people who had a birthday to a restaurant of their choice. Even for the big parties we just had many options. My dad takes care to make sure all the allergies are taken care of. When we do have red meat we get something else for the ones who can't have it or if we have burgers we have lettuce for lettuce wraps. There's ways to go about it so everyone will be happy. You just gotta find the compromise.

Story 1- What makes me so sad is that the parents have never decided to make an extra stop when grabbing take out for this child so they can have their favourite food while the other kids can have food that is safe for them. My own texture issues are nowhere near as severe as what was described in the story, but when I was younger, my mom would make an extra stop when getting fast food so I can have a safe food to eat while everyone gets the restaurant that is everyone else's favourite. The fact this was never an idea that crossed the parents mind makes me sad, because it's such a small thing, barely even an inconvenience and they couldn't even do that for OP. Story 2- I cannot and will never be forgiving to drunk drivers. I don't care how in control you think you are. Do. Not. Get. Behind. The wheel. On top of that..... Even if her sister hadn't endangered her lofe and her child's life, THE CHOICE OF GOD PARENT GOES TO THE MOM AND DAD. Parents have every right to choose who they think is the best fit as god parent for their child. It's nit meant to offend you by not choosing you, they're thinking about the BEST INTEREST OF THEIR CHILD. Part of the role of a godparent is to step up to take legal custody if something happens to the parents and that is NOT a choice that should ever be made lightly!! OPs sister is so entitled. She put so many lives at risk and then has the audacity to feel victimized because her sister did what was best for the baby.

I recently heard that story 4 on a RU-vid video for AITA...def a good one I think. The mom was completely in the wrong for her breaking in to OPs house. They had it locked for a reason so that's totally her fault

Story 1- good apple. I am a parent of 4. I have 2 with special needs. I am absolutely on this teen's side. I would absolutely take that kid out to their favorite restaurant for their sweet 16 while the rest of their siblings stay home with a sitter. I always try my best to make each of my kids feel special on their own birthday. I try to do it every day too. 4 kids is a lot to juggle but it is possible.