Woman Locks her Family OUT OF THE HOUSE?!? 

For the first one, she was also following the house rules. She was not punishing outside what the parents would do.

Hello RU-vid! I am the submitter of Story One! For the situation regarding my father not intervening- he does not have a backbone. He lets my stepmom run the house. He never backs me up and if he does- it’s rare. I really don’t know why he didn’t come down… he might have been on his phone. I can’t defend my dad for not interfering. THANK YOU MRS.ROGERS FOR READING MY SUBMISSION I LITERALLY CRIED WHEN I REALIZED IT WAS MY STORY

Story #1 she was 100% the good apple!!! And if Dad was that concerned WHY did he allow it to go on for over 20 minutes???

I am a mixed woman (African American and Caucasian) Op for apple 2 is 100% a good apple. No one should feel insecure about the color of their skin and it’s not ok to project insecurities from yourself onto anyone for any reason.

Story #2 - Speaking as a light-skinned Latino, I can confirm that there definitely is a lot of cultural insecurity within our sub-sect. At least within the United States, it sometimes causes us to feel shunned both by Anglo Americans who label us as "not white" and by darker-skinned Latinos who label us as "not really one of them." It sounds to me like the sister feels exactly this way and so has clung very strongly to an identity of taking pride in not being white, and getting called white makes her insecure. Whatever the case, yelling at an 8-year-old boy for just making a drawing is crossing a line.

Every Tuesday my 12 year old son asks at dinner time, "is it apple picking day?!" and we always watch while we eat. Keep up the good work and know that this is also creating a great family opportunity for us because it allows us to talk about our choices for each situation and learn each other's view points.

Hey Rebecca! Parent of four here. You are absolutely correct and right on how you feel with post number one. Anytime my kids are left in the care of somebody else they have full control to discipline my kids if they are not listening. They must discipline my kids the way I would but they are absolutely allowed to discipline them..

'Would you have cared if he made you blue?' 😂That got me! That's awesome!

#2) I am very much northern European looking. My husband is very southeast Asian looking. We have 6 kids (all from the both of us, no step or half siblings, though that shouldn't be relevant) and they range from very pale with blonde hair and blue (or green) eyes to very tan with dark brown eyes and a medium brown hair color. I can not imagine my kids feeling like one sibling or another is "prettier" or "better" because of their physical appearance. I really hope that the OP is able to be a strong influence in her niece's life so that she has a good example of being comfortable and proud in your own skin and with your own features.

The first apple is the reason my family quit getting together for Christmas. Someone yelled at someone else's child, and all heck broke out.

With the last one,they are very right to worry about the risk of having her sister running a daycare out of OP’s house. If the kid gets hurt, the owner of the house will be liable. Why doesn’t their sister watch the kids at her friend’s house, since she doesn’t want to be in the basement anyway?

Story #1 - Absolutely good apple. The stepmom is a Karen and the dad is useless. Whenever you make anyone a babysitter, you have to either give them clear rules or accept their discipline choice.

1: good apple. Step mom put OP in charge, therefore was given the authority to deal out punishments. My sister tried this with me and her oldest when she’d ask me to watch him and it did not last long. 2: good apple, idk how to explain it, but this sister is way too obsessed with her daughter’s skin tone, and setting her up for being insecure. 3: good apple seems like OP’s sister is taking advantage of them and to use the “I’m disappointed” on them is straight manipulation. 4: good apple, your house your rules, parents (mom at least) are overstepping

Regarding story #2, I can see why the sister is divorced. She's crazy.

For the last story, if you do not have state licensing to run a daycare, the insurance company will never pay a claim and will cancel the policy...

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NTBA for the first story Um what? Your baby sitting the kid. Your the parent til the parents get home. Common sense

Lady with the parents and irresponsible sister, Agreed. Rethink arrangements. You shouldn’t have to allow someone else to run a business out of your home. Blood or not.

I got all good apples! I like to call this an "apple pie" 😊 For all bad apples, I call it a "bad batch", and if, somehow, it ends up being all crab apples, I'd probably call it a "bruised batch" I also like to call The Curse an "apple orchard" since apple orchards usually have good, bad, and in-the-middle apples ^^

Story 4. Not sure what state it is in, but I am someone who runs a childcare out of my house that I am renting. There are a lot of rules and regulations that go into it. If something were to happen to a child on the property, op would be liable with or without insurance, especially if there is no contract in place. I would advise op to go to a lawyer and get a contract to release them from liability and requires sister to have insurance. If op is against having the childcare in her home and tells sister no, then, depending on the state, sister can't legally do it. If sister still would like to work in childcare, she can apply at a local center. They are always looking for teachers.

Thanks for talking about National Epilepsy Day at the end of your show! As someone who lives with epilepsy (several years seizure free thanks to medication), I'm always happy when someone takes the time to talk about it. One percent of the world's population lives with it, and that's a lot of people! If anyone is interested in learning more, the Epilepsy Foundation is an excellent resource. Your shows are always a wonderful addition to my Tuesdays, Rebecca. Thank you for what you do. ❤

I’ve gotten the line “Don’t discipline my child” So I started saying thing like “Oh hey does that cart taste good, mmm” So that the mother would notice instead of telling the child to stop myself, which honestly is more hilarious 😂

Story 3: you say 'sister, 29 male'. Story 4: technically what she did is baby proofing the house. The little kids wont be able to open a locked door.

As a mom, I totally get the small circle of trust when it comes to others watching my kids, however; the audacity and entitlement to think my village HAS to watch my kids is delu-lu

As a mother and nanny I strongly agree. I never watch kids that I'm not allowed to discipline. I always ask about the rules and what type of discipline they prefer before agreeing to watch a kid.

I turned on my phone and audibly said “ooh its apple picking day”🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂

Story 2- Good Apple. I worry about what sister says to her own daughter when they're not around anyone? Especially since she made comments to OP growing up.

'Don't discipline my child' is such an USA mindset(or western mindset). It takes a village to raise a kid and everybody in that village should be allowed to reprimand the child

THIS IS THE BEST SERIES EVER!!!!!

Story 1 - I am a mom of two young kids, if I had a babysitter and my oldest started to hit my youngest I EXPECT the babysitter to follow the house rules and make sure my oldest got the proper punishment for it. If I had my little brother, who is almost 18, watching my 2 and 4-year-old, I would expect him to do the same. There is no way I would force someone into babysitting in the first place, but if I had I wouldn't be yelling at them for discaplining my children when it was needed. It would be different if it was a spanking or something we don't do, but for a time out? That should and is fine. OP should make it abundantly clear that she will not be watching the kids again and if they try to make her, then she should up and leave before they get a chance to. They are setting a precedent with their kids that a babysitter/teacher/carer/nanny can't and won't punish them setting these people up for hell with their kids. Story 2 - The father saying that OP brought up the neice's appearance is laughable. No, she didn't. Her sister did. I don't know what it's like to be darker. I am white, even when I'm tan, I am white, but I do know what it's like to be insecure about my body and what I look like. The mom is setting her daughter up to have all sorts of insecurities and will likely go through unhealthy ways of trying to look ideal in her mother's eyes, which is just so sad. I hope OP's sister realizes what kind of damage she's doing before it's too late Story 4 - When you said the parents live in an in-law suite I had a feeling I knew where this was going. The mom and sister are trying to stomp all over OP's boundaries, which are completely reasonable, and hopefully they back off, but I don't expect that to happen. Too many entitled people stories to give me any sort of faith.

I was one of the oldest kids in my extended family growing up. As a preteen/early teen, I frequently played referee and mediator with the younger kids. My dad (a boomer, biologically my grandfather, but that's a whole other can of worms) raised me much like the gentle parenting techniques of today, which I often used on my younger family members. I would redirect, settle them down, and "parent" them before I even understood what it meant. I never "punished" them, per say, but would do what my dad did with me. I'd separate the fight, talk to them individually, and usually get them to come back together and get them to apologize/make up.

1. Good apple. 2. Good apple 3. Good apple 4. Good apple

Timestamps: 00:00 intro 01:00 apple #1 🍎🍏 10:00 apple #2 🍏🍎 17:30 apple #3 🍎🍏 23:40 apple #4 🍏🍎 31:00 outro

Am I the bad applin? Appletun? Flapple? Dipplin? Hydrapple???

we’re going APPLE PICKINGGGG

Story #4 - I feel this is a complicated situation. If I had been in OP's shoes, I would have been angry, but I would have just raised the rent, as well as had them sign a lease that specified the space could not be used as a daycare. Evicting the whole family just like that feels a bit extreme and will likely strain the relationships, though it sounds like it was already not great.

Story#1(Disciplining The Miracles!, 1:02): _Rebecca Rogers Rating: Good Apple._ *My Rating: Good Apple.* Story#2(The Skin Obsessed Sister Becomes A Skin Obsessed Mom!, 10:02): _Rebecca Rogers Rating: Good Apple._ *My Rating: Good Apple.* Story#3(Pay Few For Nephew!, 17:31): _Rebecca Rogers Rating: Good Apple._ *My Rating: Good Apple.* Story#4(Overstepping Parents!/Familial Lock Out!, 23:38): _Rebecca Rogers Rating: Good Apple._ *My Rating: Good Apple.*

I was the oldest of ten, sometimes I was left "in charge". I didn't mind except this came with expectations like bedtimes and no authority to really enforce those expectations. The most I could do is "I'll tell!" and I'd pretend to call (this was LONG before cell phones so I usually had no way of contacting my parents). I needed some sort of backup from my parents. As a mom now, I would expect a sitter to intervene if one of my kids was doing something dangerous, or was hurting a sibling. I would let them know that it would be ok to isolate one until they were calm, and let them know we would talk with them and if a punishment was needed we'd take care of it when we got home. This works now my kids are over 5. When they are younger than five I'd usually let them know how we reinforced good behavior, how we usually handled poor behavior and would try to be available by texting if something came up they weren't sure how to handle. I did luck out with my kids who are pretty well behaved and I don't worry about leaving them with someone. The mom in the first story should not leave children with someone not allowed to correct behavior, the dad, who "heard everything" and chose to stay out of it also sucks.

3rd story... I am a mom of 2. Guess what? If i can't find a sitter, I dont get to go places. She is 100% good apple. Boundaries need to be set and that mom needs to either pay for a sitter or use her sister less/respect her time

Story 1 - She was left in charge like a babysitter. Babysitter training classes cover allowable discipline and house rules. They cannot adequately care for children without some ability to discipline the children. OP was following allowable discipline in the house and preventing the other child from further danger. OP is a good apple.

Story #1: When I started baby sitting at 13 and became a nanny at 17, the first things I always went over with parents were allergies and punishments if the children acted up. Even if it was a last minute things for family/ friends that needed help. Those are my first 2 questions.

Story #2 - Good apple. My boyfriend is half South Asian (Indian) and half Caucasian, and because he has green eyes and his other siblings don’t, he’s called “the white boy” which makes him feel like the odd one out. Appearances shouldn’t matter. We are what we are and every race is beautiful.

Thanks so much for the epilepsy awareness message! I've had epilepsy since December 2012 (age 13 and I'm now 25) and it's not easy to live with this condition. It's painful, both physically and emotionally, extremely dangerous, and very expensive (EEGs, medications, MRIs, bloodwork, surgery, etc.). So many people think epilepsy is only about the seizures, but they rarely consider the cognitive impacts it has on your daily life. Learning and memory capabilities can be hit hard, as well as motor skills. It also takes away so many job and career opportunities. People who've always wanted to be a pilot, serve in the armed forces, and so many more cannot because of this condition's impact on our sensation and perception, resulting in poor judgement in highly stressful scenarios, for example. It's also hard to believe that so many people still believe in epilepsy myths when so much medical science refutes them (holding down the epileptic's tongue during a seizure, all seizures are violent, seizures are just a mental illness, etc.). I could go on and on, but I don't want to take up your time reading this comment :) Great AITBA video and I enjoy watching each one and learning more about these situations and people's perspectives on them. Keep it up!

Apple #1: Good Apple. She was left in charge of the kids for hours, she’s older than them, she gets a say in how they are handled when they misbehave in her care. Apple #2: GOOD APPLE! I wish I had someone advocate for me like that when I was a younger teenager! For context: I’m mixed heritage: Persian and white-Latina. My dad is brown and my mom is white. Some people don’t like it when I describe them like that, but I’ve checked with both of them and they’re fine with it. My mom has said some things in the past (that she’s since apologized for) that made my insecurity about my own skin color harder to deal with. Things like “I’m basically the same skin color as you!” (She’s not but she was trying to make a point about how it doesn’t matter; it made me feel so invalid in what I was going through as I was trying to open up to her) and “I kinda wish I had gotten with a darker-skinned guy so you and your sibling would have looked more mixed.” I made it known to her that these types of comments were really not appreciated and that I was trying to express to her how it felt to be mixed heritage, which isn’t exactly her experience, and so it’s not something I want her to comment her own ideas on. All I want her to do is support me in figuring out who I am and validate me when I ask for support with this issue. She apologized and we’ve since moved on, but this is so important for people to know. Whatever skin color you are, it’s not something you can change. There are other things in life to be proud of or ashamed of; things you can actually control. Proud of this sister for standing up for her niece in this difficult situation.

I got all good apples. Honestly from what we know of each of the stories, each OP acted appropriately towards the sparking behavior. Story 1 was good apple because OP was left in charge and followed typical household discipline. Story 2 was good apple because OP stopped sister from overreacting to a crayon drawing by an eight year old and drew sister away for a private consult about sister's insecurities passing onto her daughter. Particularly if a parent refuses to see the reality of the appearances in front of them, I can see that as especially damaging in the long run as the girls get older and can visually compare themselves. Story 3 simply stated her availability. The only further advice I would give is to have a perfectly frank conversation about why she feels like making herself more unavailable. Story 4 absolutely was within their bounds to set limits for their own house. And understandably concerned about mom and sister overstepping their bounds. Do make clear that the doors will be locked except on occasions that OP decides to open her house. It should be occasional, not on a near permanent basis and should never be when sister is babysitting. Ask sister if she still wants to accept parent's offer, or consider any other solutions to her situation. Reinforce that parents cannot offer any parts of the house that is not part of their suite. Do make sure that sister doesn't operate a daycare out of OP's house without making sure all business is aboveground rather than under the table. Different areas have different laws with minimum child count, insurance requirements, etc, which might or might not make OP more responsible for what happens on the property.

If you are left alone with children and they misbehave then you are perfectly within reason to put them in time out and I would tell the mom that if she doesn't want me to do that she must NEVER leave me alone with them. As far as the woman who is fixated on skin color I think the OP is in the right. I understand that I am not Hispanic, but I am half Italian and half Irish. My elder brother has the black hair and olive complexion of the Italian side and I have the red hair and fair skin of the Irish side. In photographs I always look like a redheaded ghost next to my Italian relatives. I know it made me feel somewhat insecure about it at times, but had anyone pointed it out, that insecurity would have grown exponentially. Again, OP is in the right. Finally, if someone is living in your basement, by the good grace of your accepting them they have no business, first of all, to attempt to run an illegal daycare out of it, and secondly to be upset about you putting the kibosh on it. I hope that the OP knows that insurance is not all you need to run a daycare from a home, There is licensure and permits that are required or the homeowner can be liable for charges from the municipality.

For the first story, I think the girl is the good apple! I have 9 siblings and 2 kids of my own with 2 more on the way. She did nothing wrong! She was following the house roles! I do not get how the mom got this mad!

I love ur series ❤ 🎉 i wish I had a story to tell😂

0:08 Pranks these days, are pretty much not pranks, just like abuse or an actually harmful or rude gesture. You know the “pranks these days” I’m talking about. What I call a prank, is putting googly eyes on my dad's coffee creamer. Not “robbing a store PRANK”

Story #3 - The sister is entitled, and it sounds like she is just too cheap or lazy to want to hire a babysitter.

Me and my older sister practically raised our half sister because our dad and stepmom didn’t really want to be a parent and more like friends but got onto us whenever we tried to discipline her like they disciplined us.

I have three kids, two teenagers and a toddler. If I leave one of the teenagers in charge of the toddler with in reason they definitely are in charge of discipline.

I find it so.. interesting that u call ur friends kids ur nieces and nephews

I can emphasize with Story 1. (Good Apple btw.) I was left in charge to watch my cousins once by my paternal grandmother. I was maybe 10. My cousins were nine and five. As soon as my GM left, the boys started going through drawers, the fridge, and running through the house. GM was only gone for 30 minutes. She got angry at me because I was the oldest and should have stopped them. They got ice cream, I got time out... Story 2: Good Apple. The sister needs therapy before she gives her daughter self image issues. Story 3: Good Apple. "No" is a full sentence. OP has been doing them a favor. Seven hours minimum for a birthday party? Where's the father? Story 4: Good Apple. OPs sister is an opportunist and entitled.

I’m half Italian and half Mexican and I have always been lighter skinned than my cousins. All of them inherited the dark skin from our shared family and I hit the light skin from my Italian side. But guess what?! NOBODY CARES! Literally nobody in my family cares and no one has ever said anything about it or tried comparing me to my cousins. The only comparisons we make are amongst each other and it’s always who’s better at their sport. Point is, OP in the second story did nothing wrong by telling her sister to back off and quit comparing the girls. Sister needs to see her daughter how she is and let go of that image of the perfect little dark skinned Latino daughter and reframe that image to be who her daughter is

Story one: 100% the good apple, my concern besides what’s already been stated is why did the mom leave her in charge with the dad there it’s his job to watch his kids.

Love this. Keep up the good work 👏 🙌 👍 👌

For story #4- l was a preschool teacher/director for 20 years, and I would never let a family member run a day care in my house. Even if there is a insurance policy, the clients can and frequently do sue the owner if ,god forbid something bad happened. Also at least in my state, the licencing body, can fine the home owner for not having a license, or following a ton of other rules.

Apple #1: one thing I do want to point out, that at least in my area of the country, there is an exception to discipline for older siblings. Other people might not be allowed to discipline or parent your kids. But older siblings, especially older siblings who are looking after their younger siblinga? They can absolutely apply light levels of discipline. Such as timeouts!

Okay, maybe it is different since I do not have kids, but for the race one, I do not think she is the bad apple at all, good apple for sure. She even expressed trying to protect her niece from having insecurities about her color features. The sister is very much pushing her concept of beauty on her daughter (and seems that possibly also the writers daughter) and broadline belittling the both girls for a feature of them that they cannot control. This can seriously mess up these girls with there confidence. In addition to that, she is also letting this bleed into being aggressive towards an 8 year old boy. She needed to be faced on this. In addition, poster says the dad told her she shouldn't comment on her niece's appearance; unless something was left out, it doesn't seem like she herself made any moments outside of bringing in literally all of their heritage, not appearance. I grew up with major insecurity about my skin tone, still have some issues with it. My parents never made me feel less than beautiful especially when it came to my skin tone, my insecurities were my own manifestation, so I cannot imagine how difficult it would have been for me if someone like my mother was always bringing it up in this way.

Story #1: as a parent to an individual who is under the age of 3 and is very protective of them... if I put you in charge of my child and they do something wrong, yes, you have that right. I think it's ridiculous that the mom thought that her words were justified. I can see myself feeding into the "you're not my mom" behavior, but I would have at least listened to what happened. At that point, I would have understood, and would have continued the punishment. I'm sorry, you put someone in charge of your child-- family at that, and they end up being disrespectful in some way, that is a behavior that needs to be nipped in the butt. No ifs ands or buts. Nta. Story #3: yeah, no. There are a couple of people in my life that are like the sister with the kid. They aren't that way towards me, but they can be that way with other members of my family. It makes me so mad because I had a friendship that I used to skip bounds for in order for me to keep them in my life. It's soul sucking. I never want people to feel the way that I did. It's not fun. It's not justified. So good apple for me.

Story number 3, absolutely a good apple. I'm a parent of two and am SO greatful when my family can watch my kids. It's absolutely exhausting and you don't really get down time as a parent, but you're the one who chose to have kids. So you're the one who has to deal. At least here where that is the cultural norm. I will say though in true villages, like literal villages, kids just kinda roam and everyone is expected to look after them. It's a much more collective society. They see children as societie's responsibility, not just the parents. Which is probably much more healthy and beautiful than we do in the west. (Note to add my siblings were all born in a village in Bangladesh). We really do kids and parents a disservice by the way we are highly individualistic.

Story #1: I agree! Totally 100% Good Apple! Parent of 2 here. OP at 19 yrs old is an adult and was explicitly left in charge by the Stepmom, not the father. So OP was completely in the right for disciplining the girl for hitting, especially when she followed the disciplinary rules of the house. Time outs are best given out immediately. She only deviated in where time out was taken, an insignificant difference. Stepmom followed the 6yo’s level of reasoning in claiming OP stepped out of bounds. Not a reasoned or mature reaction. Story #3: You’re right Rebecca. This story is about boundaries. OP is following her own Value of Self Care by recognizing her own limits, seeing she needs to take care of herself to prevent burnout, and setting a boundary with her sister. Reassuring her sister of her love exhibits another of her Values, that of Family. Unfortunately, her sister’s negative reaction shows she does not respect OP’s boundary. Instead, sister seems self centered with her only concern being her own wants and needs, seeking to punish OP with her “disappointment.” Story #4: Good Apple! Yup, you’re right again! OP is doing well with setting a hard boundary. I still wouldn’t want sister to run a daycare. 1st under the table is illegal, 2nd it won’t be licensed, 3rd no insurance company will insure an unlicensed daycare, 4th she’ll feel free to add more kids whenever she wants, and 5th OP already thinks sister is irresponsible so how closely will she really watch all the kids. Those are just the ones off the top of my head. Yay! A whole good bushel! You were great answering these!

i love this series and im so excited for tdys episode

Wait, it is/was National Epilepsy Day?! I didn't know there was one! I've had it all my life. :) ❤ Love your content, Rebecca!

Just to restore some faith in the ideas of pranks, I’m writing this on April 1st and my prank was on two of my friends. These two friends have the same name but go by different nick names, so for the prank I got everyone in the friend group to call both of them by their whole name with no changes for differentiation. We (including the two friends) laughed the whole time and the only damaged it caused was slight confusion. Be nice with your pranks, thank you for coming to my ted talk.

As an epileptic, I am grateful that you pointed out epilepsy day ❤😊

Never been this early for one of these videos

#4 Poster is not a good apple. She is a GOLDEN apple. I think it's amazing she's even allowing this to happen ... If it were my house - my parents might be paying rent to live in a full basement - but they would not have the right to allow someone else to live with them. Nope - my house is my house.

YESSSSSS THE QUEEN POSTED!!!

As a parent, if you see my kid do something wrong, please, by all means, get onto them. “You can’t do that for XYZ” and/or time out as warranted then let me know what happened and I’ll back that correction up. If I’ve entrusted my kids in someone else’s care then I expect that person to take care of them even if that means having to discipline them when needed. I feel like that’s what’s wrong with kids now is parents like that who “you’re not the parent you can’t do that to my kid” and the kids see this and will run all over those people because they know there won’t be any consequences

#1 good apple. She knew their rules and consequences. She acted completely appropriately

Story #1: Suppose OP didn't discipline. 1) The hitting escalates, 4-year-old starts bleeding, mother (not father) comes in and screams, HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?" 2) OP goes upstairs, father in shower screams, "GET OUT OF HERE! I'M IN THE SHOWER!"

4--good apple. You give an inch and what i know of your sister will take a mile. The next thing is the sister will want to move in because she wants more space and complain you are using only one bedroom etc. no stick to your guns.

Sister wanted to start running an unregulated day care from her sister’s home without asking first? That’s insane.

#1 good apple. She was put in charge, just like she said, without asking. She was put in charge of mothering the whole family, to include the father.

with the second one, you already know that that mom's gonna be the one that brings her kids to get spray tans

I remember when I first found out that others were a different color. I was yelled at by someone for playing with a child of a different race and told to stick to my own race. I was confused at first until my family explained it. I miss the color blindness and wish people could live as brothers and sisters irrespective of color. We all need to be color blind.

If you don’t want someone to discipline your children watch them yourselves. Parents wanting teachers, family members, ect to just sit with the kids and allow them to run a muck makes it miserable to watch peoples kids. so don’t ask anyone to watch them home school them! I miss when parents didn’t think their kids should be the center of everyone’s world.

I am a parent, and I still agree with all your assessments. For the first one, if I leave my child in someone else’s care I 100% expect them to discipline when needed and I’m actually annoyed when they don’t. To leave your children with someone else but tell them they have no authority to do anything is utterly ridiculous. And for the last one, she was allowing her parents to live with her but it sounds like her sister didn’t even ask it was just expected that she could live there and have full run of the house. That’s extremely entitled behaviour.

HAPPY APPLE PICKING DAY YALL!!!!

I have two kids and they’re Always fighting, so I will go good apple! If I leave them under your supervision, you choose the punishment. I hate when parents cry about someone else disciplining their children.

Parent here and you're absolutely right that those watching children have every right to discipline them. Kids with parents that don't allow others to discipline their kids when watching them, are absolute nightmare children.

When I was about 19, I was having my own "baby sitting" siblings trouble. I put it in quotations because it's technically not babysitting, but comparable in some ways and I don't have a better word for it right now. We had recently moved across the country to a small apartment and my father was left behind to sell the house. One sister was in high school. The other in middle. I became the stay at home mother/big sister because I didn't get excepted into college yet and Mom was discouraging me of getting a job at the time. The reason is irrelevant for this story. I was the one primarily responsible for all the housework. My sisters basically used me being home all day as an excuse to almost never do housework themselves. They would dirty several dishes with after school snacks and drinks. And I admit I wasn't the greatest at keeping up on all the housework yet. I tried to establish a rule where everyone is responsible for washing their own snack dishes, so I only had to worry about the amount that came from two meals for four people plus whatever I dirtied throughout the day and maybe a plate from Mom on the days she came home for her lunch break. Well that didn't fly with them because I wasn't the mother and "had no authority to establish rules". The youngest was starting to really disrespect me amongst other things and I tried sending her to her room and I was told I couldn't do that because I wasn't the parent and had no authority. There was also an instance where one sister went to watch t.v. after finishing her homework, but I told her she couldn't because it might distract the youngest who was still working on hers because she could hear and see it from where she was working. I got told that I was unfairly punishing her. In terms of the go to the room scenario and the t.v. and homework scenario, they went to Mom and Mom took the one sister's side with t.v. and also told me I had no authority to send my sister to her room. When I tried discussing where my authority lied, I was told I had none even when I stated I knew it wasn't her level of authority and wasn't asking for that level. I got taken advantage of more and more under the excuses of home all day and no authority. The main help I got was encouragement to be more patient with them and separate myself from situations (two bedroom apartment mind you) and dirty looks for not having all the housework done or enough of one thing for a dent to show because I spread my efforts out among the different tasks to prevent boredom. On top of all of that, I was taking care of three dogs and a bird and had the impossible task of keeping them from making noise to avoid complaints and only ever having two dogs out at a time and sometimes needing to hide my bird and one of their dogs whenever the landlord sent someone over because apparently my mother thought it was a good idea to lie on the lease and say we only had two pets. Cutting to the chase. I can semi-understand the frustration of Apple number one. Sometimes you need a little authority to establish a little bit of order when the parents are away and you're in charge of the kids. Honestly I hardly see a little timeout as overstepping. Also there are a lot of parents out there that need to learn they can't just spring things up on their kids at the last moment all the time because they're there.

Story 3 : the sister who CHOSE to have a baby needs to take responsibility for.

$600 in rent for the whole 6 people living in the basement is wild to me considering the electricity and water bill are going to hike up.

Love this series Rebecca 😄

“ I don’t know if you can tell but I’m pretty white “ had me rolling

I love apple picking day so oh my gosh

Apple 1- I agree totally. Whenever I leave my son in the care of someone else, I take for granted they would correct him if he misbehaved. I actually had learned many times from them, you’re right . Good Apple 🍎 Apple 2- I was always the darkest in my family , the little overweight, the one with small eyes 👀 the one with curly hair. And I was happy and felt beautiful in my own way 😊. Even when others in the family felt jealous. But what can I do, just be happy with my self how ever I’m 🥰😉 . Good Apple 🍎 Apple 3- Good Apple 🍎 Apple 4- Good Apple 🍎, and I agree reconsider the agreement.

I always allowed my sitters to put my children in time out and when I babysat as a teen, I always put them in time out. No one ever complained. Too many people don’t punish their children and we are ending up with a bunch of narcissists who think they can commit crimes and shouldn’t be punished (Trump and MAGA are prime examples).

As a teacher yourself, weren't you suppose to discipline the kids under your care? Time it, principles office or whatever. I think that if you leave someone watching your child, them getting in trouble some times is a given, obviously not hitting a child or anything like that but a time it, very much is allowed. Love your videos but the way Lol should have waited a few more minutes before commenting... My bad lol 💜💜

I strongly identified with the OP in the second story. I'm a Latina and I have always been tanner than my sister. Growing up, I was self-aware about it, but have grown to appreciate my darker skin. But also, I moved to the Northwest and constantly get less sun now. So every time I have a video call with my sister, she comments on how "pale" I look and how she is the tan one now. It mildly annoys me, because she always has to mention it and feels like a purposeful jab. But I always just say like "Yeah, I need more sun" and laugh it off. Who knows, maybe she doesn't have bad intentions. I've never asked

YAYAYAYAYA TYSM FOR MAKING THIS SERIES

For the first one, as a parent I think you're absolutely right. She was put in charge; she has to discipline the kids. Think about it from the reverse: If one of those kids got seriously hurt, who would get the blame? The person watching them, of course. Good apple for sure.

You probably wont see this, but I have a suggestion: Every week, I think you should make 4 polls on the community tab so we can all vote on what apple we gave them. I think it would just be nice to have a visual for it and to be able to more easily see people's feedback

My sister in law yelled at my wife because her toddler was chewing on a pen ink cartridge so my wife took the cartridge and told her niece “we don’t chew on pens” her mother told my wife your not her mother, you don’t get to parent my kids! People like that strike a nerve with me haha!

Maybe a good example of the first apple clicking story is this; I was seven, and me and me two best friends, along with my sister, her one best friend, and someone my mom didn't really like around *me* (not my sis, my sis was safe), were signed up with and through our church to go summer church camping for a week. As my mom wasn't running it, and had no say, once she was assured age groups would not mix and only those cabin members would be allowed inside each specific cabin, she thought with all the church staff there I'd be safe. Tldr, I wasntt. She walked right in, broad daylight, and cornered me in the cabin, and kicked me and hurt my leg and arm real bad. I finally turned to her and said, "Amanda, you are such a b-word (yes, those exact words, I wasn't totally sure what byword meant even) picking on little girls who can't fight back. No one likes you." I was the one who had to sit up 1\2 the night in prayer for forgiveness with an excruciating left knee and wrist. She cried crocodile tears and got an extra dessert that night, mine. When my mom came to pick the six of us up (me, my sis, our two friends each), my counselor pulled her aside and started scolding her about me, and what kind of daughter my mom had raised. She mentioned the several number of times Amanda had tried to ACTUALLY KILL ME; poisoning me with (thankfully) mostly benign gummy vitamins, giving me insane fixed water to drink, trying to throw me in front of a bus. The church lady said my mom must be lying, and my mom told her she must be a moron. Just from a cursory glance at my wrist, she saw it was broken (fractured in two places), and my mom only drove five kids home on that 8 mile drive, before anyone but business moguls had like 80's cell phones. The only things I know about Amanda after that was she dropped out of 8th grade because she was a lazy student who was the apple of her parents eye who could do no wrong, got pregnant at 14, and both flunked out after the baby was born, and by the time that baby was 6 months old, had piercings and ate home tattoos Amanda had given the baby herself bc she didn't want a 'loser baby'. So yes, sometimes, especially if the parents won't do it themselves, discipline from others is ABSOFREAKINLUTELY REQUIRED , or you and up with a pierced, tattooed six month old

i love this apple concept

I’m so happy to hear a story that accurately explains that Hispanic/ Latin is not a race…. the term is used in the United States for people with cultural ties to Spanish speaking countries, usually in Latin America (which has an amazing amount of diversity and combinations in the race department) but there are many more countries in the world that speak Spanish that use the term to describe themselves. It’s really weird to constantly hear people say that it’s a description of race. You really can’t describe someone appearance (skin, facial features, hair) being Latin… it’s a cultural term.