WORKPLACE TOXICITY: How to Deal with Toxic Coworkers 

Bullying and toxic co workers are not in our head. It happens. There are people who are naturally bad and hate you for no reason at all. It is reality.

You're describing a coworker I have perfectly like she just walks around with negativity and is always looking for a target to unload onto

Thank You! I had to do this last month. I had a Lead that was bullying, Gaslighting, etc. I had told her that we could speak respectfully to one another, and I had asked if I had done anything to her and apologized just in case. She was also raging and doing a problem dump. I told her that we all have problems and that we can be empowered to find solutions. She got angrier, so I gave her space. She was looking for a fight. I continued to do my job. She kept trying to trigger me. I finally told her that the behavior was toxic and that it would be my last night working there. I saw her smack a resident on the hand a couple of times, I have no proof, BUT she was trying to set me up to lose my job. It was a toxic work environment with high turnover. The red flags were there at day 1. I made sure that all of the work was completed. One of the nurses told me that there were a couple of complaints about her and that I should report them. I did, but did not return and I do not regret leaving, it would have only gotten much worse with time. They can deal with their Lead hire.

I have just retired and I have worked in lots of places. I will tell you this. Be very careful in the workplace. Toxic people aren't always obvious and the ones trying to befriend you and are trying to get you to talk about the workplace and your private life are usually up to something. Just do this. Don't trust anyone. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Keep work and your private life apart. If the actual job is rubbish. keep it to yourself, look for another job, and then leave. Don't give people ammunition to go and tell management what you think of the company. I retired at 54 which was as soon as I could to get out of working due to all the toxicity I had encountered.

There are people who are naturally bad, hateful and jealous for no reason and unfortunately this is very common. And there is no clear solution to this actually

The challenging part is that often the entire workplace is toxic and not just one person. Moreover, its enacted by the management which have authority over you. Thus setting boundaries and creating distance is very hard to do. Typically, this leads to becoming passive and submissive which is their exact intention. Yet another challenge is that such workplaces are associated with high workload, unclear roles & responsibilities, lack of support, continuous yet cunning ad subtle gaslighting etc. which will drain you over time both physically and emotionally. Upon reaching this point you are basically burnt down, developed PTSS or other mental issues which pretty much makes it impossible to remain emotionally unreactive in toxic encounters.

So true. Set clear and healthy boundaries. Also, stick to your principles. Refuse to part take to anything that is toxic, not your part, or you do not really know about. Stick to good values and principles whatever happens. Shade is so good at addressing all that in such a truthful and positive way. Let's learn from that great coach. ❤🎉😂

This was a great video. My daughter called me crying at work yesterday because a lady who was on leave came back and is upset because my daughter has been praised for her high quality work. My daughter has been given more hours and discussed possible promotions with her boss. The toxic person came to her and challenged her as to why she is getting the things she (the toxic one) had asked for. My daughter just got transferred to that branch from another location so she is still building relationships. My daughter is young 20s and very kind and I know she felt personally attacked and she has nothing to do with the decision. I will forward this video to her. It says everything I told her plus more ways to take control of the situation. Thank you! ❤

Some co workers are so toxic no matter what you do the result is still zero! But great video, thanks!

yeah, I had this in mind since many days. Now, from hearing from you, it is confirmed that only I can eliminate toxic environment away from me by working on myself, creating boundaries becoming assertive and rising above it. Thank you so much,a

The last part where she mentions that you might be attracting toxicity is very true. If you don't respect yourself, you end up attracting people who would not respect you. If you don't love yourself, you attract people who won't love you.

I can’t thank you enough Shadeya. I work as a healthcare worker and deal with many people daily who are stressed out. Your videos have been helpful for me to feel heard and empowered to respond in a classy way. ❤

I've posed this question before "how can we make this a more positive environment?" And everyone acted like they had no idea what I was talking about. Then I became the target after that.

Toxicity in the workplace is consistent for me. It's not just a one time event, it's every day.

Excellent message. Toxic people are real hazard and should be away from them.

1. It could be on your head. (Recognizing your power is the best place to start.) 2. Set limits and establish boundaries. 3. Rise above the Toxicity. 4. Manage your Emotions. 5. Know your Worth. (Be Assertive and Speak Up)

Bullying is sucks. Its happening also in health care industry. They are nurses and health personer bullying other at work.

The intangible property of human emotions makes it extremely deceptive and the true strength of an individual is in learning how it functions and harnessing the positive elements of it's functionalities while letting go of the negatives. Amazing tips.....you definitely have my subscription.👍

Such an insightful video!! Can't thank you enough for sharing these tips with us. I recently experienced something similar (as mentioned in the video) at my workplace with one specific colleague. And this time I didn't let this person control my emotions, instead, I pulled myself out of the situation and gave time to cool it down. Then I immediately noticed my growth and development. Thanks again!

This channel is seriously underrated. Thank you Shadé!

Making it a point to see this video once at least per week to keep my action-reaction on track. Worth million $. Thanks

Hi Shadezahrai, Great tip. I experienced the same.I have been a victim of two egoistic people . They used me as puppet. I don't know what pleasure they get when hurting people.

Shadé you are always on point. Cant stop listening to you

Hi Shadè, Thanks for addressing another important topic. I want to share my experience also... there may also be another toxicity at home as well. Sometimes you've difference of opinions WITHIN HOME as well. And I've found that in this type of toxicity, one should not always try to change others. There's only one person in this world who can be changed.... that is... ONESELF. And the things become better.... Change which can't be accepted OR accept what can't be changed. Regards, Dr. Kalsi

You are the definition of BEAUTY ! Take care ! Cheers and Peace !

The way you express & explain your content along with your personal experiences is very relatable & engaging ... 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Your first point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." I know from experience that that's a wise way of handling things. Your second point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words too, "The deepest hunger of the human heart is to be understood." Your third point was something new to me, that's really an out of the box strategy; I have downloaded it into my heart for a rainy day! Your fourth point was something new to me too, what a holistic approach! Your fifth point taught me that having inner self-confidence makes me unbreakable. Your bonus point taught me that there's a civilized, peacemaking way of speaking up to toxic people. Your last point reminded me of the lyrics to Katy Perry's hit song, "Unconditionally," "Acceptance is the key to be truly free." Thank you so much Shadé, for educating us! 💛💛

I'm new to your channel and I've seen a few of your videos, a lot of good tips. The way I deal with toxic people is I just kill them with kindness. It took me a while but I just do that. Works for me. Thanks and God bless Shade

Amazing pointers Shadé.im grateful for you on sharing your wisdom.More power and love to you.💗👏

Absolutely LOVED this. Wonderful work. 👍🏾

Thank you so much Shade!

Thank you Soooo much for this awesome video , it was well needed. Also the last two points were Soooo relatable. 🙏🦋🙏

Again, another inspiring video! I can find a strong link with the first tip you offer: sometimes, we could have built an imaginary enemy, which is why it is so important to recognize ourselves. There are more to learn about ourselves than we think :)

Another amazing video, Shadé. God bless you

I so needed to hear this I appreciate this videos. Thank you for sharing

Every word you speak is gold.. the content on this channel is just amazing.. thanks for sharing.. hope to keep learning from u❤🙏

Omg ! You dont no how much i needed this ! Literally 🙄

This is all very good advice. I wish I’d watched this 6 months ago! Onward and upward. I appreciate these videos. I’m gonna watch this one a few times! 😊

As always Shadé, , , Very practical solutions 🤩👏

Thank You for sharing your knowledge.

I love the way you simply simplify the info and the explanation, keep it going up One of your true followers 💐🙏

Spot on.. very much appreciate your insightful approach. Not ignoring our own responsibility to the situation. Cheers.

i happy to know you shade you make me feel strong and confident ❤

This is the best thing I saw today!!

Thank You Shade Zahrai...GOD BLESS YOU...THANK YOU SHADE

All points covered by you were awesome and more practical.

I love your advices and experiences Thanks sweetheart

Yes, these types of people are living surrounding us.

Thank you for sharing good thoughts.

Took some good notes from this video. I have a team lead who has been triggering me all week since our manager is out. She's a micromanager who is new to the role. But I recognize I have my own negative bias towards myself since this role is not a good fit. I am capable and able to do this job, but my work style does not mesh with the team (workaholism for it's own sake). After watching this video I've come to the conclusion we both have some opportunities for improvement.

Thank you for sharing it's so inspiring I hope one day they will have expert in the companies to teach all coworkers emotional intelligence

Great advices. Thanks a lot

I agree with some of your points Shade

You are awesome!

Perfect solution to deal with toxic people thank u ..☺️

Thank you so much, I am waiting for this. you are awesome

I wish I could’ve seen these tips before. Very helpful in my workplace.

Thanks for the tips!

Thank you Shade) This video found me on time. Much love

I have personally experienced a situation where i was deemed to be toxic and in fact the last point of Yours was true it was the negative behavier towards the work, I was team lead.

Toxic people /co workers are exist in everywhere. We just need to tackle from our own ability. I have experienced during my role as a Branch Manager, where toxic co workers always do backfighting about work but they dont show such behaviour directly. Sometimes, they use another co worker as mediator for creating such environment where the supervisor will be in a position and state of mind where he/she may have the confusion what to do or what not to do. The toxic people/ co worker always want to make failure to BM or his/her supervisor.

So thoroughly addressed like always.. 👌👌👌 Very fruitful and practical.🙏🙏🙏

Every now and then, I come back to these gems😎😎🤗🤗

Being assertive and speaking up is exceptionally important!!!! Call it out! Do not allow anyone to bully you or think they can bully you. Know how to hold your OWN power and OWN IT! ❤ Be extremely selective about your energies. Observe everyone sharply. Don’t give away your trust to ANYONE freely. Everyone should earn it! Prove they are worth your trust! On priority protect your own honesty and integrity. Really really really KNOW your WORTH and enhance it!

I have worked with a few people like this and not a one of them were top performers .They were not cable of focusing in on results or not capable either. When I was an Account Executive on co worker noted at a meeting they had signed seven new accounts in two weeks. I stopped our regional managers office ( our old DM) told his assistant this news and then asked him if this made any sense. The next morning he was fired for falsifying records. As a Leader I do not beleive no matter the education level people have a hard time understanding work in the end is about results and exceeding those results. Provided the goals our reasonable and attainable.

My coworkers on construction always mock me. Yes I’m not really fast at thinking but every time I try to get better at my job they always keep their first impressions. It’s so frustrating. There are so many narcissistic people in the company

@Shade Zahrai Many Thanks for sharing these amazing tips about handling toxicity at workplace... May God Bless You and Give More Power To You... 👍🤲 Stay Safe, Take Care and Keep Smiling... 🙂🙂🙂

Very well explained how to avoid toxicity .

Beautifully explained..... ♥️😊

Excellent video. Thank you.

Great video Shade 🥰🥰❤❤

I needed to hear this, I’m going through this now

Thank you so much ma'am

Pretty fascinating video 👍 Love from Iran 😊

Thank you dear🙏🏼

You are incredible person Shade. Your tipps and your videos always motivate me. You are my idol and I love your style. I will never forget your advices because they are so valuable for me. Love from Turkey.

Thank you ❤️

I lov your taking styles

Thank you for the very last sentence you said

Does throwing them out the window count as distance? 🤔

Shade has gone to next level on guiding professionals,killing two birds with one stone 😊 Very well explained to avoid toxic person as well as personal development, Excellent video as always, Cheers

Thank you 🙏

Thank you 🙏🏻 you the best

Marvelous tips❤

Thanks Shadé

I have not idea how i ended up here, but very good video and useful tips, and very nice voice by the way.

A trait of these workplace jerks is also to make you feel 'it is all in your head'. Emotional Distancing yourselves in conversations is a great idea, enaging with them in hopes of making them see the reason almost never works. Also watch out for tactics to form groups and isolate etc.

Wow. Amazing. I love your videos

Excelente message/we have the control of our mind/congratulations

Great video! Thx

beautifully explained🙏🎊

Hi Shadè, excellent content as always. It would be great help if you could please clarify on how to distinguish a Gaslighting behavior Vs Self-negative biases resulting in getting toxic behavioral responses from co-workers at workplace? If it is Gaslighting, are there any legal ways to deal such a case if the waters go above the neck for survival. Best regards.

I cut out a lot of ambition killers and now they’re trying to surround me because I became a millionaire in the stock market.

Dude I’m traumatized by this person I used to trust. It became too competitive. I never competed and never intended to compete. I shared my goals, plans, and ideas and this dude completely switched up on me and he’s really good at his profession as well. I was completely devastated. I try to talk it out and make amends which I didn’t need to because I didn’t do shit, it made it worse. Right now I feel frozen

You are fantastic 💝

Yes many bosses / coworkers / clients are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them.. Which makes people go away from them... Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past. Sign of dirty humans . Not good work places with such sacristic bosses people around

Nice explained...great video

🚴‍♂️✨Shade, thanks for the enlightenment ✨🌹✨

It is certainly not easy to deal with a bully, especially when that person is your manager. It can take a toll on your mental health and productivity, which is why it's important to take action and protect yourself. One solution could be to confront the bully in a professional manner and express how their behaviour is impacting you. This may involve documenting specific incidents and bringing them up in a private meeting with your manager or HR representative. However, if you feel that the bully is unlikely to change and the situation is not improving, it may be time to consider finding a new job. Your mental health and well-being should be a top priority, and being in a toxic work environment can be detrimental to both. Before leaving, it's important to have a plan in place and ensure that you have another job lined up or sufficient savings to support yourself during your job search. It's also important to be honest in your job interviews about why you're leaving your current position, but try to focus on the positive aspects of what you're looking for in a new job. Remember that you deserve to work in an environment that respects and values you, and sometimes that means making the difficult decision to move on from a toxic situation.

Useful tips!