How to deal with difficult people - 4 Magic Phrases to respond to almost any insult 

when someone slips in a negative remark, I often pretend to not have heard them and ask them to repeat it. Either they shy away from the situation or attract judgement to their own negative remarks! Thank you for the impressive handling technique in this video!

Without being rude we can easily get rid of such people filled with so much negativity....

I don't think it will work with my foster parents, who are extremely rude, make you work hard for house chores, and look down upon you for everything in life (as if you were mistakenly born), their ego is extremely high for them to be ever wrong on anything, and they are highly educated (Ph.D). I went through this pain for over 20 years and as a child, I don't know how I survived it. Only remembering and trusting in the creator helped me through this difficult time period in my life. These people can't go to jail in our society but the ONE who created all beings is ever watchful for our actions. May the creator of heaven and earth watch over all who are patient with difficult people around them. Amīn.

Thank you so much for this! I am dealing with an extremely negative boss, and as of late I have been retaliating to her bullying. I am afraid that my behaviour might be considered rude/insubordination. I will definitely be using your method.

I can't stop smiling because you made a complex problem so simple. Reminds me of Peter Drucker.

I really love this idea. I have been struggling for all my life with passive aggressive people who say something short but stingy, in a subtle way, but I don’t know should I call them out or just ignore as a “no biggie”. But that thought stays with me… why did she say that?… Why was I not able to defend myself…It is always hurtful in retrospect. I now know how to acknowledge and respond with assertiveness.

Me: So you are married. Her: That's interesting, what made you ask that?

I really loved it when you said that people generally expect us to give a negative response. I have noticed that a lot but instead we should smile or be calm and ask “oh really, that’s interesting tell me more”😀🙏🏻

I often face this issue,it triggers my emotions, while at that moment I get confused what to say them back. Thanks a lot to share this, I'll surely apply this next time.

This is a big topic, you're changing lives! Thank you for these magic phrases, they'll come in handy! Your videos are so exciting. When dealing with difficult people, I exercise empathic listening, before my Mental Health was in check, I was quick to get angry, quick to get bitter, but now i fight fire with water, if it is possible on my part, I make and peace with everyone; I say things such as, "I see. I see." Thanks for making this video! Have a great weekend! :)

Thank you, Shade Zahrai. This truly makes dealing with negative people and hard situations a breeze. Just having those questions in my mind is giving me peace. Asking is better than assuming or judging :)

Thanks Shade for making my day.💓 The level of positivity that I can gain from your videos is insane.Perfect way to start my day.

Wow. Shade. You’re a great coach. I’ve heard the “that’s interesting...” communication technique taught a number of times but you added another level of genius and to it that has helped me understand it more. God bless you

Ive always resorted to youtubers to find answers for such situations but its the first time I actually feel you taught me something and not vaguely said “take a breath in and out and you should be good” without any explanation - looking forward to more videos - wish you can do one about putting boundaries with people close to you

That's interesting Shade.I'm grateful to you for this awareness video in terms of bringing a bold approach to face any challenging situations in day to day life.I definitely have a takeaway message which can be practiced daily

These are most generous way to respond politely in a humble way to limit the negativity to spread and affect us and anyone.Really good. Thank u so much.

Let me be honest, the way you say it softly and a gleam your eye just calms me over and learn a new tip in a positive way! Thank you!

You're a life saver

The way you said it is absolutely blissfull. Just enough to Know in 1 video what kind of Aura you have. Will follow your steps to optimize myself towards the finest things in life.

I swear this is one video I absolutely needed. Thank you so much Shade.

I never used to respond well to criticism, I moved on to just complete silence, and ignoring it. More recently, and, mostly, I clapped back with sarcasm, even with the statement *Mmm*... "Sounds very interesting..." I will most certainly use these statements moving forward - in a positive way of engagement. Thank you 🙏♥️

Very well structured and informative. ”Always respond with a question” - ☺️

Will it work in a scenario where the manager goes, "You're fired!" Me: "That's interesting, what made you say that?" lol. Thanks for the amazing tips though.

Thank you Shadé Zahrai ! Awesome magic phrases, I will use them wisely.

thank you so much shade, you are my life saver. Keep up the good work.

Thank you very much for posting this video. You have no idea how helpful these phrases you just shared. Stay incredible in everything that you do! 😍

Sometimes I’m staring at them, without saying anything, expect from them to thinking more. But today I learned another cool strategy. Many thanks Shade🙏

Amazing as always! Thanks for sharing Shadé!

Yes, it's an amazing way of responding to negative people or situations.

I can’t thank you enough for sharing this. Love this video! 😃

Thank you so much Shade. This is going to really help. Keep up the good work.

Simply WOW...a beautiful addition to my newly found understanding of 'respond, not react'....thank you!

Beautiful and highly useful video! Thank you, Shade!

Fantastic shadé . This is truly helpful and brilliant tips . Thank you so much 🤗💖💖💖

I really like your videos😊 . My family members are a bigger triggers than my co-workers. Regardless, dealing with their negativity causes me a lot of stress, aggravation and general unhappiness . Thank goodness there are people like you who share their skills with the world for free😊

Love this! Meditation has helped me be centered for stressful situations and it's step one here with breathing but having phrases in my arsenal as a next step sure helps. Thank you.

Amazingly precise in handling and solve most challenging situations or conversations that can cause lingering emotional issues

Thank You Shade. Needed this. I am a shy, introvert kind of person and used to either react aggressively or let the other person have the Win. This is very helpful.

That’s interesting indeed, thanks a lot For all the golden tips and videos ❤️❤️

This is my FIRST comment EVER on RU-vid. I'm more than willing to share your channel on ALL of my social media sites, with ALL of my family members and friends, but then, on the other hand, I don't want to share at all just because you are such a treasure that I want to keep it to myself! Why didn't I come across you earlier?? Thank you for sharing so much insightful info with us; please keep going!

Finally there is someone to help us dealing with toxic people in a practical way

I desperately needed someone to suggest me to handle this situation. Thank you so much

Totally love this woman and how she is changing the lives for Many.. She is picking up the Best Practices from her experiences/ observations and whatever is being taught to us; by our elders too.. But we always need a kick-in-the-back.. to learn and implement the lessons. Thank you @Shade..

That is interesting. Why didn't I think about this? Thx you Shade for such a useful YET simple to do advice!

Happy You created RU-vid & appreciate for your positive, beautiful Coaching 🙏🙏

Love this! So easy, and will be very useful to me, thank you!!

That's interesting :) I usually use flattery and then try to extract details so that the confronting person feels valued and assesses himself/herself properly. Example : I love to hear when your ideas, can we listen to how you arrived at this? Thanks for sharing the video. It gives a plan to approach such situations!

Its a very unique analysis. This thing actually causes a lot of distress to the people.and they don't even realise it.. You have shown the animal instincts present within us..and it is a decent way to encounter it.. Very good.keep it up.. God bless you

Perfect. Right what i need and when I need. Thank you!

I take a deep breath, put my head down & smile. Believe me it helps in releasing the pent up emotions.

That is interesting and helpful Shadè, amazing how the brain michanizm and the amygdala kicks in as part of the fight or flight warning system, I think those words need to be thoroughly practiced to be used in real scenario, Thanks fr sharing that ❤

In the story 'The Adventure of Three Gables', Steve Dixie comes in the room like a mad bull and threatens Sherlock Holmes. Holmes simply says: "Keep on talking, it's fine". Isn't it amazing that these practices existed ages ago but no one cared to learn or use them. Shadé Zahrai you are the Wonder Woman mankind has been waiting for ❤️. By the way more on communication/ relationship please 🙏🏻

Thanks again for lightning me up ! ✨💖🙏🏻

I like this...and my prefrontal cortex is advising me that this information is easily more digestible coming from such an attractive person!

What a marvelous tips to defuse antagonism, perfect and more practical approaches. I bubble at workplace quite often , now will apply these techniques to cope with my problem while responding to an antagonizer , thanks for sharing your thoughts and knowledge. I will take it as an “ Advice”

Thanks Shadé.... Totally applicable for me.

At times when overcome tough situations we are not prepared emotionaly to respond in a dignified way, but definetely, I feel a lot gratitude for this tips :)

5:54 Heartbreaking. Guys she is married. Now put hand on ur heart and say magical phrase Aal is well.

Thanks I can't thank you enough that is so true for me, this can definitely help me and my family out i will definitely try this out. You are so good 👍

Hello. I really like the simplicity of your style of communicating the information. It gives me confidence and makes me realize the power I have within to make necessary changes to improve my surroundings. Great job. And I just subscribed.

U r a goddess. U help me to ease with myself, when it's most uncomfortable and annoying.

That's interesting!😃 you can definitely get team mates( toxic ones) to revisit their limits and rethink before giving you annoying remarks, good one. If you have FAMILY that is so toxic then you are WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY BETTER OFF without such suckers. Leave them alone and ask them to suck it up hahaha. Peace and much love. Keep up the good work 🍀

THANK YOU SHADE ZAHRAI...YOU ARE WONDERFUL MOTIVATOR...WISH YOU LOTS OF SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS...THANK YOU...GOD BLESS YOU SHADE

She is so well spoken jazakAllah

That is a great advice, thank you!

That's interesting, thank you for sharing it with us.

Amazing 🤩 Thanks again I appreciate your help. I used these magic phrases. It’s really works.

Thank you, I will clearly understand how and why I'm responding positively. I really appreciate you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you for sharing this wonderful wisdom very helpful

It's nice to have some tools when it comes to communicating with negative people but I really can't recall a single situation where asking any of those questions could've helped. I believe that such situations require a lot of social skills and experience. I think the real useful take away here is the concept or main objective, which is simply trying to "find a way to shift the spotlight on them". Thanks for the video.

Amazing tips Shadé! You're great! ♥️😍👌👍👍

Hey lady this is really a motivational video for me.Learnt a lot from it, expecting a few more from you in the days to come in future.Well done girl.Keep it up.Bye🎉🎉

That's interesting and then the phrases you gave in workplace..also we can modify them as per our convenience. Great way to channeling all the burn up and anger that the person's degradable remark can cause

It was a great video. Really much needed help. 👏🏼💯

Thanks for sharing.....this sounds simply interesting, gonna try

Not only you're beautiful but you are very intelligent and a good explainer with full of life hacks in short you're amazing I've learned alot from you thank you so much keep uploading so i can learn more from you teacher.😊

Love your radiant positivity🕊

Shade - you're my favorite youtuber now! great vdos and your short vdos are just awesome!

Thanks a lot Shade'!!! this is really useful.

I have ideas to tackle negative people by making the situation funny and teasing them indirectly but not implementing them instead I quarrel, later I regret and think why didn't I used my ideas. but yours is better with reasons. great job

I have been binge-watching on your videos 😊 I've learned so much 😉👍

You're a gem. Super. Loved that video. Love all your videos. Thank you.

5:54 Thats interesting.. why would you do that? He must be luckiest guy in the world.

Thank you so much..I am going to practice them👏

Thanks a lot Shade. Its so Crisp and clear and will prove very helpful.

Great input....can never thank you enough for this ❤️

Great tip, I like to call this technic "Reply with a question" which gives you time to prepare.

Thanks for the tip! I’ll try to experiment with these techniques!

Splendid 7 minutes , thanks. 🤩 Just in time.💥🤩

Kid, You are a GENIUS!!!! I'm learning from You at the age of sixtynine!!!!! It always Helps if someone is Willing to Learn!!!! This is a whole new perspective for ME!!!! Thanks!!!!

Great tips!!!! Thank you :)

Another best way to respond and shut them up politely just tell them; “Thank you”. "Thank you, I will do it as you proposed". “Thank you, I will try do so next time” “Thank you, I should have thought of that” “Thank you for your kind words” “Thank you, You are so kind to tell me that” Depending on how you use “Thank you” in your replies. It can make you more polite and make them self portray as arrogant fools.

This is so useful. I usually stand red faced and not knowing what to reply and then I would take a long walk until my Adrenalin reduced. I choose to use these sentences when dealing with difficult people.

Like these videos, very inspiring and motivating.thanks shade

Thank you so much for this💗❤️

That is highly Admirable; thank you for all your videos

Interesting the way you explained, thank you.

Thank you so much, I'll try this nxt time.🙏🙏

That's interesting, I would definitely use these 4 magic phrases in my life

This is very very useful Shade! I wish I had known this earlier! Now I have a tool to deal with all those negative comments/insinuations gracefully! Thank you so much!