i have so many things to say bro 1. i love that cody is willingly putting himself in a woman’s pov for us and feeling our pain 2. women are so conditioned to be polite and people-please and men like this are conditioned to misread our signals (giggling often means we’re uncomfortable and they can’t tell the difference between that and when we’re laughing because we’re enjoying something) 3. the second guy thinking we can’t tell we’re being hit on if a man comes up and asks our name is appalling
I can't quite explain how much I appreciate men reacting to this stuff and commenting on it. Genuine good people giving examples of how easy it is to be decent to others and that empathy isn't all that hard to acquire is just good for everybody to witness.
As a guy I find it unbelievable that guys like this think women have the mental capacity of a 2 year old. Ironically they seem to have the mental capacity of a 2 year old if they think that a woman smiling at them means they must be happy, instead of a defence mechanism to de-escalate the situation. The fact that women have to act polite all the time instead of telling these creeps to F off (like I would) is insane. It's also so weird how these creeps have to fake having fun while talking to someone ... instead of actually having it.
@@Random-sk6hm Exactly, men know that the girl's unconfortable. Then, they either think that 1 - they're gonna change their mind by showing confidence, or 2 - if they're unconfortable they're more submissive and gullible. Either way it's a fucking horrible way to approach people.
The giggling and smiling thing is so true! I am ABSOLUTELY the type of person that laughs or smiles when I'm uncomfortable. And I love when guys react to this stuff because it doesn't get taken as seriously when we try to talk about it.
@@gkb_wildlife that gives me hope at least, it's hopefully just a bunch of dudes with social anxiety that took a course because they didn't know where to start taking steps toward putting themselves out there, but still have enough awareness not to practice this shit.
" Is it okay if she's not comfortable? yes." OK, so what I'm hearing is that you CAN tell when women are uncomfortable and you're choosing to ignore it.
It's wild how some men think it's perfectly fine to enter someone's personal space like that and use "flirting" as an excuse. Acting as if you want to peel out a woman's eyes is just horribly creepy. Don't even start moving closer to a person's face without their permission. How can somebody not understand boundaries? You can easily flirt at a regular distance.
@@mathiasnkristensen Totally agree, like maybe just try being normal and keep compliments normal and not creepy and see how that works out lmao. Geez, too many creepers out there
@@josiahbaumgartner7643 If you're really good at flirting, you may even want to use the "grab and smile" method. Physical touch is key in a potential relationship, so make sure to show them what you can offer. A good, tight hug is always irresistable. Or just squeeze their skin (arms, legs, face etc.) if you're up for some casual flirting.
The fact that these so called coaches have paid women to be there and 100% of them missed the opportunity to ask HER how she would like to be approached and what would work on them is beyond me, theyre assuming they know what women want better than ACTUAL women, how delusional can one be bruv
Honestly I think this was more of an exercise. Be really weird and disagreeable to build like tolerance and understanding of rejection? I can't believe anyone would think that his barrage was anything but repulsion.
I belive that was actually an sensitivity exercise. These type of guys often have insane social anxiety, so it might be useful to be weird and uncomfortable on purpose, in order to build confidence and comfort.
@@carlpanzram7081not an excuse to bother women like this. You can have social anxiety and still look at people like humans instead of sex toys. These courses literally teach objectification.
@@dolomedestenebrosus9564 like he definitely sees adhd as a cute quirky manic pixie dream girl character trait someone would be charmed to hear him relate to them, and not a disability. His clips were especially hard to watch out of everyone in this video 🤮
@@dolomedestenebrosus9564he was very obviously nervous in that interaction and was just saying anything that came to mind to save the convo cuz he knew it completely derailed. On top of that he was also obviously creepy about it and everyone could feel it.
@@Adam25826 he didn't come across as obviously nervous to me, he came across as arrogant and ignorant, which is a winning combo if I've ever seen one 😂
Women sometimes smile as a defense mechanism bc their instincts are saying “you’re in danger, lower the threat level - smile and maybe the situation will ease up.” I neeeeeeed men to recognize a genuine smile vs a fawn response.
Lots of men actually aren't idiots and DO notice, they just don't care because if they know you're going to reject them, they want to make you scared so that they can at least still feel powerful. It's sickening
was literally going to say that, this was just fawn responses stitched together and that's why it's so unbarable to witness, their bodies are literally having a fawn response to perceived danger!!
If a man told me he trashed my outfit because I intimidated him and he didn’t know how else to approach I would literally be the meanest I could ever be. That is absolutely lame.
The main issue with these guys is they interpret a woman "laughing and smiling" as always good. As a woman, I can tell these women were laughing and smiling because they were extremely uncomfortable
As a man who isnt a psychopath it seemed pretty clear. These creeps do not represent all, or even very many, men. The dudes in this video are actual predators. I think they're preying on young and insecure men/boys.
I feel like some of them know what the woman is feeling but try and play ignorant to it on purpose and try and hide behind the “she was smiling and laughing”. Which is more terrifying.
As a guy my natural instinct in uncomfortable situations like this is to smile and chuckle slightly at anything said, these guys are either purposefully not caring or cannot read any social cues
I adore that woman. Also omg that guy is actually insane. She smiles while saying he’s a fucking creep and he still somehow thinks she’s flirting?? She came back at him so hard. Amazing
The dude getting closer and closer... she looks terrified, keeps leaning back and away from him, eyes wide and not blinking like she's afraid of this guy.
Guy: asking “are you scared” MULTIPLE times while trying to start a conversation with a strange woman. Also Guy: Why is this woman creeped out and scared by me?
It's honestly probably good that they get a warning, like when a frog has a bright color so you know they're poisonous. He just shouldn't be talking to women at all though that's the better option.
If a guy said that to me, I would immediately wonder if I should be scared, and then I would be scared, and then I would find the exit. But ‘bam, sex!’ apparently.
A guy in a bar told me that I looked really nervous and freaked out, because I kept looking around for my friends. His response was "don't worry, I won't kidnap you...unless you want me to." I was just trying to be a responsible friend and drive them home safely man, I didn't sign up for this.
The first guy is actually 'call the cops' worthy. Especially after he whipped that camera out, and couldn't decipher her smiling was out of discomfort because he basically referred to himself as a sexual pervert. 😭
@bartsimba4 nsh, I _don't_ love to see it No one enjoys feeling stuck in a conversation wherein the other person is completely unaware about how to act appropriately
my theory is the blueberry guy was just a broke theater kid that replied to this website gig for extra cash on the side. all his pick up moves were improv tips. lol they use to have websites that would try to make instructional videos for everything, the less educational based ones would sometimes just hire random people to be the "professionals" like this. another famous one was the freestyle dance teacher. on another a "how to be cool at a house party" video instructor suggested pressing your face against the window to make goofy faces to the people inside when you arrive. lol she even gave examples of goofy face techniques.
This man has no idea what a nervous or awkward laugh is. Women will nervous laugh to try and lessen the stress or blow of rejection to try and make you not mad and unalive her. Pls try and pick up on this and DONT push her. She’s just trying to “be nice” and not make you mad. Cause strange men who get mad can be dangerous.
110%, it’s so infuriating that some people just cannot read basic body language or understand basic social cues like this (I’m not talking about people with autism, I’m just talking about low EQ men). It’s so easy to distinguish between a genuine laugh and a “I’m laughing so he doesn’t literally m8rder me” laugh. It’s shocking that actual people out there lack this much social intelligence, and it’s even more shocking that THEY are the ones who try and make a job out of teaching social interaction. The irony is remarkable.
Sometimes I think I’m bad at flirting and constantly worry about coming off as creepy. Then I remember guys like this exist. And I feel a lot better about myself. Thank you Cody.
Asking a woman "are you scared"..."are you scared of me" multiple times in one conversation...that's exactly how you do it. That'll *definitely* work. Jesus.
as a woman i have never had to pause a video THIS many times to just suppress the sheer discomfort i feel, even cody as a wingman was not helping this time... by far the hardest watch on this channel 😭😭
These guys fail to realize that women can smile and laugh because they're uncomfortable (or because they feel bad for you), not because they like you or find you funny. It's kind of insulting that dudes like the blueberry guy think we have the same humor as kids
Imagine how scary it would be for a stranger to say you have blueberry eyes and then attempt to eat them... As soon as those fingers come that close to your eyes it's fight or flight.
Exactly wtf. 😭 Like "blueberry eyes" is stupid but it's memorable/dorky or whatever but to follow up with "kinda hungry right now, kind if i just pick and eat them?" is wilddd.
I feel like that phrase hints some ability in understanding the task i.e basketball coaches can’t play but understand the game of basketball at a high level. This man has none LOL
I’m glad I can tell the difference between nervous laughter and genuine laughter. I’m not a rizz master, but I’ve never had a bad date. Maintaining the relationship is the hard part.
That first video is actually one of the worst things I’ve ever seen. The fact that they think because she’s smiling (obviously from discomfort and in shock at what she’s experiencing) that she’s actually into it, is so alarming! And for them to outright say it’s okay to make a woman uncomfortable is horrifying. This is why we choose the bear.
You choose the bear because you're assigning the traits of this small percentage of weird ass men to all men, and completely ignoring what the average bear would do to you. It's sexism plain and simple.
@@anima6035 a trend where you ask a woman if she would rather be alone in the forest with a man or a bear and they usually say a bear. The worst a bear can do is kill you... it’s viral online because men don’t usually realize how dangerous women view them as.
It is wild that when they do demonstrations they never ask the actresses for their thoughts or opinions. They just state so matter-of-factly that she is surely into it while she just stands there like "😐"
My friend asked me to wing man him once and I, a gay man, would just walk up to girls in the club and say "I can I ask you a personal question?" "Sure" "Are you into guys?" "Yes" and every time I did this the girl would be looking up at me with this big puppy eye smile and it would instantly fade when I'd say "My friend thinks you're really pretty". It's amazing how treating women like people and asking permission will instantly make them attracted to you. Lacking confidence instantly wont.
It's SO OBVIOUS with these guys that they have absolutely no interest in the woman or even in recognizing her as a human being. They look at women like they are a piece of meat. The guys who can talk to women like they talk to their own friends (i.e. regular people), and can read uninterested signals and leave them alone, are the ones that don't seem like creeps.
Yes! Guys like this don’t consider understanding consent and treating women like human beings as prerequisites for dating. And they probably explain it away by insisting women are different from men, but being fearful of people who don’t respect your safety or autonomy is a natural human characteristic and being a woman doesn’t mean you can override those fears.
they're such weirdos. like obviously social cues don't come easy for everyone, and i can empathise with being lonely. but treating the entire "getting laid" scenario like a game/secret that they're unlocking is so uncomfortable, and i do not envy women who are the targets of such behaviour. you're so right, they aren't recognising the women as people, just like.. achievements
The fact that the first thing that came to his head was "do you think I am a sexual pervert" when she said your psycho just proves he knows that thats EXACTLY what he is and he's scared of people finding that out about him because he genuinely believes that he's hiding it well when he's doing g these "pick up" courses.
Also love how they didn't actually ask the women herself if this style of picking someone up would work in anyway. Just dudes talking to other dudes about how a woman felt. Surprise surprise 😮
I love how all of those women were nervous lughing because hurting ego of these type of man can end poorly and all of 'coaches' took it as them having fun.
I really think that's the case in a lot of situations where men don't realize they need to eff off. The woman they're approaching laughs nervously and they see it as a positive response
Some of these dudes advice feels like it’s just “intimidate women to have sex with you out of fear that you’ll hurt them”, and that is terrifying and also something else
I'm still so uncomfortable by that first and last video, I didn't realize I was pressing my fingers into my temples til I had to pause the last segment to collect myself 😭 Thank god for that palate cleanser at the very end of the video 🧞♂️
And for the small percentage of gold digging women out there, men should choose "get eaten by a lion" instead of getting married? You're just going to insult all men because of the small percentage of weirdos out there? Maybe check some videos or photos of bear maulings, it might snap you back to reality.
broooo wtf is the bear, i am so confused. furthermore, neither of them seem like good options?? like these specific guys are horrible but that's not enough reason to just turn to bestiality💀💀
10:25 that phrase tells you everything you need to know about what they think of sex - it’s transactional enough that it just HAPPENS no consent involved, no intelligent thought behind it. Gross
The fact that they think a girl laughing & smiling automatically means the conversation is going well is very telling - these people are completely void of emotional intelligence & situational awareness, which are the fundamental aspects of charisma. Also explains why they think they're capable of teaching other men how to get women. I feel bad for the guys who actually paid for this crap.
The issue with PUA is that it talks AT women rather than talking TO women. It also creates a weird shorthand where women = sex, so men are being taught to steer all interactions towards sex, almost as if they're going through a dialogue tree, which they are.
And it teaches them that there is no reality where someone is just purely not attracted to them, so if they keep pushing the other person will break down and “sex will just happen” on the spot
You nailed it. They only have sex on the mind instead of actually wanting to get to know the woman and make a genuine connection. If you make a genuine connection, the rest will naturally come later. You just have to be patient.
I was thinking the same thing. These creeps would have a higher chance of success if they actually talked to women as human beings instead of an item they want. I doubt they're capable of that though...
No you don’t get it, women are arcade machines, you put in tokens and hit the correct buttons and sex will come out! I’ve definitely had tons of success with this method and have never been pepper sprayed or arrested for stalking
The whole "saying HI what's your name doesn't convey the message" thing is hilarious to me because as a woman, yes it does. If a man approaches me and asks what my name is I immediately know what he's after and things get more uncomfortable from there
Exactly. I’ve had normal men come up to me and it’s usually bc they recognize a pin I have or they like my style but they just walk off after a chat. Normal human interaction. If they walk up to me to ask my name I’m immediately like wtf why
I have dealt with bouts of depression throughout my entire adolescence and early adulthood. Cody never fails to help me forget about my mental state and provide high quality entertainment. What you do is very much appreciated and it really makes an impact. Thank you man.
The first woman is a total icon omg. The way he jumps towards her every time he ask a question, trying to be assertive. She cuts right through his bullshit because he’s not doing anything other than make you feel unsafe. I love her and I want to know what she’s up to now, I like wanna thank her somehow😭
The fact that not even CODY could get through the last clip shows how uncomfortable it truly was. I could physically feel her discomfort… every time he got closer my stomach would turn. That was absolutely brutal, thank god for Cody’s commentary.
Me: nervously laughs through my whole life because I'm uncomfortable and constantly suffering God: Oh she seems like she's having fun and that's why I want to press on the incongruity.
I saw somewhere that when rejecting men it's safer not to smile or laugh bc some men are actually this dense and will think you're being coy, or worse, they will egg it on bc they have a humiliation fetish 🤦
On a serious note though, I really do think this is a MAJOR source of "miscommunication" for socially awkward men. A lot of women will smile and laugh when they're uncomfortable, and many socially unaware men will probably interpret that as a positive sign when really it means the complete opposite
I used to do this, until I realized that it prolonged unwanted advances. I read somewhere that it's safer to reject men with a straight face w/o smiling or laughing so they don't think you're playing coy, or worse, egg it on bc they have a h-miliation f-tish. Stay safe ❤️
watching these guys through cody's channel always gives me such a sense of distance and protection from these guys. if i watched them alone i would probably be so angry and/or sad but cody takes all the bullets for us and fires them back. what a true ally
