you don’t need a rich man. you need a generous man 

a rich man may stop being a rich man, but a generous man remains a generous man regardless of his income. PERIOD.

Men have no problem asking women for sex , but all of a sudden develop morals when you ask for stability.

He makes $975,000 and she can’t stay home taking care of her child! 😭😭😭😭😭😭

NEVER BE AFRAID TO ASK, they’re never afraid to ask you for anything!!!!

This is what i tell any woman who says they want a rich man. Marrying rich is no guarantee that that man won't be stingy, wasteful or financially abusive. Choose wisely...

My bf earns only slightly more than me. Still every month he buys me new clothes, makeup or accessories. He often comes home with chocolate that I like. He also likes to take me out. It’s ok for us to be a little bit materialistic I think. My bf said that he grew up seeing how his father would buy his mom expensive gifts from luxurious brands all the time and he’d think about how nice it is to love a woman and be able to spoil her and make her look and feel nice. Stop lowering your value by dating crappy men… let them be single and lonely 👀

It’s funny how this is the “spoiled girlie support group” because the bar is so low that when men actually invest the same effort into their relationship and family that women do, a woman feels spoiled.

975k a year and she’s scared to ask?!!!!! 😮

Why the hell is his mom still working three jobs? She shouldn't be working any if he makes nearly 1mil a year. Bruh.

$975000 and he wants her to work after having a baby? He might as well tell her he doesn't like her. Forget love does he like her?

Remember, in nature, "A lone wolf is a failed wolf." Successful wolves are in packs, carrying their share of the group dynamic.

This woman is spitting out some gems Alot of times these men who ask for 50/50 will usually be saving their money to give to a future side chick woman.

If a “low income” guy ($100,000 or less) doesn’t do small acts to make you feel better when you’re suffering. He’s also a hard NO. I was sad the other day and my BF who is in another state for work, door dashed me ice cream, candy and flowers. He’s spends countless hours on the phone with me having meaningful conversations. He’s generous whenever he can be!

FYI in many Native American cultures boys were raised to be good hunters for others. When a young man wanted a wife he had to prove to her family he was a good provider. He had to bring deer meat, horses, etc. And he had lots of older male guidance to be a good man, too. This is bare minimum stuff! If a man wants his genes passed on and someone keeping house for him and his offspring then he NEEDS to provide. I’m so glad younger women are waking up. I hope it’s a global movement because we need to be more discerning about who we let into our lives and who gets to pass on DNA.

I had a date with a rich man years ago who took me to a picnic at the park, made me split the bill from the supermarket and carry the items in my hands to the park because he said it was a waste of money to spend 10 cents on a bag. My current partner is not rich but he is the most generous man I have ever met. He doesn't go to the corner shop without bringing me something.

My bf is not fatherless but he still wants a superwoman like his mom. And she looks super-tired trying to maintain positive attitude every time. Be carefully, girls

As the City Girls said “Give a f*** what a man got if he ain't givin' it” 💃

My ex lived rent-free with me in the house I bought before we were married, and he'd still complain about not going 50/50 on utilities. Like, sir, I already paid up front. My wallet is now forever closed.

"a man's money does not matter unless it's in your pocket" those are words of wisdom and that shall be my motto

And when you ask them “do you wish your mom didn’t work so she could stay home and be more present with you?” They say yes….but expect you to work 🤪

I literally had this convo with a man who saw his single mom work 3 jobs and told me that he would resent a woman sitting at home all day long while he is gone making all of the money….. asked him if he thought that domestic work (which he expected his wife to do)was valuable because there are entire careers built on domestic work and you don’t plan to pay her to do that work? Literally our last conversation.

"As someone who has so much to give, you actually need to start repelling people." This sentence hit me hard. Thank you.

It's much harder for women to make money in the first place being sexually harassed and not deemed as capable just because of gender so 50/50 is not actually 50/50

My fiancé absolutely had my back when I got made redundant. Nothing was an issue for him. We are on comfortable money but certainly not raking it in, and we're also currently mid wedding planning. It still wasn't a problem. I decided I wanted to look into different types of work. He had no issue with whatever my pay was going to end up being. The only thing he was adamant about was that any job role I took had to be good for my mental health. I am very grateful to have found a fantastic man, and I hope all the other spoiled girlies here get to experience the same should they want it!!

This title is everything. We are not rich, but we don't struggle. I have stay home mom friends whose husbands make more money than mine and they have to lie about things they've purchased or defend everything they buy. Once I left my part time job I told my husband, I will never break the bank, I respect our mortgage, bills, etc, but I have expenses and I never want to be questioned or shamed about them and he's always honored that. And YES, fatherless men are absolutely yellow flags for various reasons. Seeing women as lazy if they're not working outside the home and possible mama's boy syndrome needs to be investigated.

I recently dated the cheapest, stingiest and greediest rich man. I was purely disgusted by him and confronted him. He was shocked and had zero awareness.

Get yourself a man that doesn't say "wow you're expensive" but instead "do you want anything else, my love?" 🥰I know I got one

I just turned 30. I’m in a place in my life that I don’t have a lot of female friends rn. I moved across the country during the pandemic and have suffered extreme solitary. Your channel has been the girlfriend I need in as advice and proving myself that I’m not crazy in my feelings. I don’t normally comment on videos but I just want to thank you for your perspective.

I have a family member that apparently insisted on 50/50 while his wife was pregnant and then still on maternity leave. I was both baffled and appalled. Thankfully, they don't do that anymore, but people do not give pregnancy and child birth the reverence it's due. They treat it as if women don't die in either state. As if this isn't an emotionally, physically and mentally challenging time for most women. This is insanity to me. I passed a human being through me and now you wanna stress me out about finances? Bring back _shame_ . 😤😤

My culture is RAMPED with pickmeishas and baby mothers it is so normalized. I get into fights with my father because I told him I was not going to live like my deceased mother in a 50/50 relationship. Your channel helps me keep my sanity thank you so much 🙏🏼

A generous man will also be a generous dad. That's so important !

The way men raise their daughters and women raise their sons is sooo diffrent. My mom was more absent than my dad. My dad taught me to work hard. I looked up to him as he came from nothing and work hard to go to University and get a well paying job while supporting yourself without help from others. Looking up to my dad taught me to push through, set goals and reach them. While my ex who was raised by a single mom was exactly how you described: His mom worked hard, did everything for him, never learned him how to be independent and thought the was justified in doing nothing for me, because his mom sacrificed everything for him without ask for anything in return.

I had to tell my husband IDGAF what your momma did im not your momma! 😂 she worked while the dad worked … she even told me she was mad that she couldn’t be home with her babies. I told my husband IM NOT DOING IT 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m A SAHM mom since the third month of pregnancy. He pays for everything. NORMALIZE TELLING THESE MEN NO!!!!

My partner does not have a lot of money but he is a kind and generous man. He got a small inheritance, and i mean small, and i haven't had to work since. While i haven't been working, I've been able to land a job that i love through my volunteer efforts for after the first of the year. I wouldn't have had the time or energy to do that without his generosity. Thankful for my generous man!

I was a trophy "wife" and a victim of abuse simultaneously. One of these was financial, which made it VERY hard to escape the abuse. The big house and all they the other glitz made it look glamorous on the outside, but inside, it was absolutely hell. It was all a facade. It is so important to have your own financial stability. I physically got out, but I'm still fighting the legal battles against a powerful man. This is the single hardest battle I ever faced, and my child is involved. That financial safety net is super important. Especially when you factor in that the professions that attract narcissists are CEOs and surgeons.

There's nothing worst than a stingy rich man. I've seen them in action, their partner would be better off with someone with less money cause they were living like they were in poverty. The same kind of man to stop you from working just to give you nothing. Edit: 12/9

Sounds like my German ex husband and wondered why I didn't wanna have his children. Got remarried to a Russian man and couldn't be MORE HAPPIER! Great video!

If you pay for daycare, cleaners, and cooks, it’s not unreasonable to pay your wife for getting all those done for you

To make things worse, the man can have a father in the household, and still act this way. Not every father still married is a man-man and a provider…

100%. My ex lied to our mutual friends/community and let them think he was paying for my expenses while I went back to school. He made enough money to support me, he just didnt want to.

This is horrifying! As a middle aged woman, I would never put up with this. It was just a given that men support their wives and children. The woman is turning to their family? My family would lose their mind if I turned to them with this problem. I also say this as someone who’s mother worked, and my parents always had separated accounts their entire 45 year marriage. They never went 50/50. My dad paid all the bills and my mom paid for her car, and us kids. But if either one needed money they made it happen. The bills still got paid, and we were taken care of. I never saw my parents fight about money. Ever.

There's no way a person can love someone, when they would rather see that person suffering and exhausting themselves working 3 jobs right after literally giving BIRTH, while they are waving the 1 million that they make. That is plain sadism. I am amazed how far that man's greed reaches. Besides he is hurting his child too by forcing the mom to exhaust herself and deprave herself of precious time that she could've spent with HIS child. Wtf his greed is affecting his entire family

I feel so blessed that I have a fiancé who talked to me about these things because bringing it up makes me a little bit uncomfortable. Like finances and stuff. He just straight up said “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of everything.” He is a very frugal no nonsense type of guy, and I was really surprised that he is very generous when it is with me or his friends.

If he won't provide why do I need a man?

It’s true that generosity and wealth don’t always correlate. Some of the most generous people I know didn’t have an abundance of money but still gave everything they could, which imo means more because it’s more of a big deal for them than someone who is wealthy or rich.

bring shame culture BACK!!

He chooses not to provide because he does not like her. He thinks that he settled for someone temporarily who will service him and incubate his children for him. She made a mistake getting married to him and having his kids. She should figure out a way to get on birth control, siphon some money aside in order to leave him after the child turns 6. I say 6 because the first several years in a child’s life are crutial to have both parents around. After that, it’s best not to be around a father who mistreats and financially abuses the mother. It would set a wrong example for later life behavioral patterns for the child.

That man won't even help his own mother. There's no way hes going to provide for her. As far as hes concerned the women in his life arent virtuous, less they're working hard. And even if they do that, they're not worthy of being taken care of according to him. This man and his money are better off left alone. She'll be better off for it.

My man and I were dating for one month (one month!!), and I had to move from my place, and he invited me to live with him without hesitation. I asked how much he wanted me to pay for rent, and he said he is going to cover it of course, and it is what he wants to do. I said that’s so generous, how can I help to make your life easier then? I will do the cooking and the cleaning. He always tells me he still expects himself to do at least 50% of the house work. I got so lucky! I love to spoil him

Went out for dinner w my mom the other day & we were seated next to what was obviously a first date. When the check came, the man asked how the woman would like to pay & she offered to pay 50/50. Once they both paid, he had the audacity to announce loudly, "Usually, when it's just one or two drinks like this, I don't mind just throwing it on my card." She laughed it off awkwardly & after they left, my mom & I were like WTAF. Our server also heard the whole thing & said she hopes there isn't a second date. 😂😭

I am a single mom with 2 boys and I hope they will grow up to be GREEN FLAGS. I’m teaching them to clean, cook, take on mental load, empathy, how to communicate, coping mechanisms, anger management, generosity, etc. We even have weekly discussions where we can communicate things that are bothering us in the house and how to resolve it. Being married to a below bare minimum low effort man taught me how important good men are. Love your content and everything you stand for. Thank you for removing XY comments because for some of us, they are painful and sharp. Thank you for paving the way for this new wave of feminism ❤

He needs to be jumping through hoops to get me what I want 💞

I haven’t even watched the video yet, but from the title alone, I can already say that I completely agree. I’ve had men who work at Amazon be better providers than men who were doctors. 🥴

A rich man can have a lot of money and still be stingy so choose a generous provider man , love your gold advices 💗💗💗

Elle, I am floored because of the past two videos. I finally realized I wasted too much time dating "feminist" men who had absent fathers and praised their moms because she did everything. I am sad but also glad that I see that now.

My ex is a fatherless man and he expected me to do everything and pay more than 50/50. I started asking him to do more and pay for more and he argued with me about it every time. We had to agree that we wanted different things and went our separate ways

This is literally true. My boyfriend is both well off AND his biggest pleasure comes from seeing me happy and making me feel fulfilled. That’s what motivates his giving to me! He loves to feel useful and needed! And loves when I use and need him!

If a man can support you and doesnt, when you are his wife and the mother of his child, that means he does not love, cherish or value you. You are not his wife or his woman, you are his homie. Its not a real relationship to him, its a deal. Please, either talk to him and set your boundaries or leave

Fatherless men are blatant red flags for me. No it's not their fault but I'm no longer wasting my time.

I've always felt the same about about rich men. Who cares unless they spend money on you? But it really makes me feel disgusted to think about "giving him a lineage" when he doesn't support you. I can't even imagine the awful feeling of carrying a man's child like that. It seriously grosses me out.

First off I want to say I’m proud of you for sticking to the mission and deleting male comments instead of leaving them up for engagement purposes. I dig the integrity. Also , I want to leave words of encouragement for women who maybe didn’t have this game given to them growing up or in their young adult lives and maybe made the mistake of allowing a below minimum effort man to come and mess their life up. I am a single mother bc I was young and dumb and wasn’t taught how to vet for the right man but I have STILL found my generous man! He put a ring on my finger and we don’t even live together yet and he helps me pay my bills and he says things like “that’s what a man is supposed to do” instead of “what do you bring to the table” . It’s still possible ladies so don’t feel like you have to settle just bc you settled in the past. Men are still an option , you can still find the right one . 😘

975k and making his mom and wife work... L

Holy shit. I wished your channel was around when I was younger. I would've saved myself much heartache. Even now as a married woman, your videos make me think. I think every woman needs to watch your channel.

I agree 50/50 is financially mistreating women! ❤❤❤

Elle is the sister i never had but 100% deserved

My daily brain washing session is done thank you :)) since I have found your channel I have changed a lot! I was a pickmisha that dated with all the looser guys... Now I have left all of my male friends, locked my instagram and only accept girls there! Also I am treating men out soooo freezing cold and giving all my warmth to my sisters 😊😊 what I learned here is so meaningful to me and I watch every episode so that I wouldnt forget who men are or go back to my stupid self

Nothing better than a generous man with a provider mindset, bestie! 🥰 the glow is real!

I think a woman should always have her own separate bank account so she can get away from abuse. But the rest I agree with ! A shared bank account it good too :) but don't get rid of your own

This channel legitimately made me realize how wonderful my husband actually is. Holy wow.

In America, at least, the word "generous" is now synonymous with sxxxual connotations when it comes to relationships. Benevolent is what I'm looking for. An open-handed and benevolent man who is doing his best to make coin is the coolest. It makes me want to help him. In my worst relationships I was flush with cash and then men also made big salaries. They would only spend money to show off at dinner (I always picked up the tip though because I was afraid they wouldn't give the servers enough) and at Christmas. But for Christmas they usually demanded MORE in the way of pricy gifts and would get me tons of small cheap gifts from Ikea just so it made it LOOK like they gave me many gifts. Much more interested in men who give freely. Sadly, the cute and nice ones like that settle down so young! You young females are very lucky if your eyes are opened that quickly.

NORMALIZE TELLING THESE MEN THAT YOU WILL NOT HAVE THIER BABIES UNLESS YOU CAN STAY HOME!! I did!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤and laugh in their face if they call you a gold digger. Say “sorry I’m not used to this .. this is normal to you?” With a smile on your face . Hurt their ego

This! My boyfriend is so generous and im extremely grateful. He's become more generous over the years. He makes more than me in his career but he knows im pursuing my dream of building my own business. He's purchased my equipment, tools, and really invested in me. Sometimes i think of giving up and he tells me to continue following my dream and that i inspire him. Hes not rich by any means but he covers extra bills so i can pursue this dream and its bc of him that my business is finally taking off. The biggest blessing ever in my life.

Definitely true 😉 Generosity is a must have trait in a potential partner.. sure all women want a good life and it's tempting to go for the rich ones especially when you're young.. but once you realise the weight of a man's value isn't in their pockets but in their character and the security of knowing you landed with someone who will have your back is the one who looks out for you not in the good times but in times of challenges and lack that's gold

The lone wolf point is really important, and it’s something I never knew before. But it explains so much.

This makes me cry for my mom. My dad sees her as a super woman for doing everything, even going to work after a C-section.

I'm a homemaker. I remember my husband and I talking to our nieces dad who's a multi-millionaire. When he asked me what I do I said I'm a homemaker. He was flabbergasted he said he would NEVER let his girl not work (homemaking is work btw and he's a cheater who's never had a relationship last very long.) My husband said "maybe you've never been happy enough in a relationship to provide for your girl."

Ideally we get a rich and generous man.

so basically provider mindset men 🔛🔝

The man here simply doesn't want any responsibility towards his family. Period.

A generous man who loves you will find a way and do it gladly

She’s an icon, She is a legend, and she is the moment. Now, come on, now. You got to give it up 💐 About Lone wolves- 100% true. Men who are loners cannot bear the literal shame and embarrassment of having to compete among other men. These men will have accomplishments and the loner will have lint or less in his pocket, there is no sympathy for the lone wolf in packs because the patriarchy is unsympathetic to men. This is why these loners try to cling to women guised as "friendships" because they know most women will coddle their inadequacy, feel sorry for their past childhood issue (even though they are fully grown) and buy the multitude of their excuses. Bestie- wake up!

Stop saying you apologize they drag women with no fathers all the time about time someone addressed them

I was with a guy who provided but as soon as i started making Money, he stopped providing.. he said well you have money, even though it wasnt a lot of money. So annoying. I couldn't even save my money to leave him and i was in a big heap of crap. But we try our best and keep it moving. My love for him was never going to grow anyways because he was incapable of growing or making any fight or situation better. Man child but he saved me from homelessness so i felt loyal for years. When i realized that when i left that he barely cared then i felt no guilt at all. He said he'd never be with anyone else ever again because i was the best hed ever get, yet he wouldn't even grow or change at all. I mean change like take better care of himself and stop gaining all the weight and actually smell good for once lol. Its embarrassing for me that i was in this situation but life can be hard and fighting for a better life is all we can do. ❤

I feel like what’s worse than a man whose father left, is the man with married parents where the mother literally did EVERYTHING. Some men of single mothers actually want to make women’s lives better because in a way it honours their mother and they wish they were able to “save” their mother in this way. But I agree 100% it takes a LOT of due diligence and discernment to figure it out. I met a man whose mother was a SAHM, but she always seemed to regret it and talk down on herself because they didn’t have much money. He couldn’t even fathom a woman wanting this lifestyle. Also he knew he couldn’t really afford it so I could tell he would eventually be stingy.

A man who is rich and not generous serves you no purpose, you will spend the relationship trying to prove you aren't after his money, and that is a losing game. What is the purpose of his money if he won't spend it on you? Why are you telling me you have money sir to not spend on me?

Elle, you are the guidance that I needed. Thank you ❤ From the video: This pathetic “man” not providing for his MOTHER of all people and his PREGNANT partner is f-ing CRIMINAL

And what men and most people don't understand that when women have children postpartum last seven years, the only reason why we only get a couple months to a year of maternity relief is because this country does not value human beings. This country values hustle, hustle hustle we had to fight for a maternity leave. Remember that

idk man the more i learn about the truth of men and dating, the more i don't wanna be in a relationship lol i'd rather just be happy and generous for myself

Dating with intention❤❤❤ thank you for you advice, Elle!! I’ve been on exciting & fun dates recently! The dinner date last night I was on with an established entrepreneur was lovely. A middle aged lady interrupted our dinner to compliment my dress & beauty… needless to say this pleased the man I was on a date with! That was my reminder to do the same for other ladies on dinner dates to keep these men knowing we are these prize ❤❤❤

Let me tell you ALL I HAD TO DO to find a man who will provide for me is to stop looking for looks! As soon as I did that, the right one fell into my life. I now have the option to be a stay at home girlfriend❤

I went on a date with a guy, and he chose the restaurant. When the bill came, we were splitting 50/50, but then he realized he forgot his card, had no cash, literally, he called his grandma about it. I ended up paying for the whole meal, and he said he would pay me back. How did he do this? He bought something of lesser value, for the BOTH of us.

100% truth. I learned this the hard way. Don't be like me.

I’m not sure I’ve ever met a man who truly loves and admired his father cause he was a genuinely good parent.

So incredibly true. My husband has never been rich but he makes a stable good living. I am always cared for first...I drive the nicer car, I've always got the nicest coat etc. Because he's generous and loves to share with me. I work as well which is important too. Anyone can get money being generous of spirit naturally can't be forced.

$970,000 and she is questioning hef husband supporting her being a stay at home Ma....😑

Thank you! That explains so much for why my husband was the way he was. I never could have measured up to his mom who raised six kids by herself. He regularly told me how she went to work very sick but I was lazy because I just had the flu

The vibrational energy here is just IT. this whole channel.

My husband isn’t rich but he’s A GOOD GOOD MAN he’s a great provider and he makes sure we are always good . I had to deprogram him though… and I was very open/honest about not having kids unless I can stay home with them. I’m a SAHM now . This woman’s husband is damn near a millionaire he needs to stop being a c*unt

Well said. A lot of younger women are making the mistake of believing that “provider man” means “rich man”. NO! “Provider men” means “man that is willing to provide for his woman and NOT rely on her for financial support”. I know many middle-class men that are providers, and I know rich men that are cheap, unwilling to spend money on their woman, AND require the woman to work even though he has more money than the GNP for 30 countries around the world.

The first time I saw you was on tiktok, dating around the world series. I found it quite entertaining, then I kept consuming your content more, truly eyes opening. God sent you my way 💜