I think it feels more difficult and lonely when other people in your life get into relationships, not in the way that you’re jealous of them but just in the way that you wonder “what’s wrong with me? What am I doing wrong?”
@@Evee09737 please don’t leave them. i’m actually in a trio where they both have bfs and i don’t, sometimes the conversation gets pushed to them talking about their significant others and yeah it feels lonely but love will come to you too!! also they’re most importantly your friends and are there to support u no matter what
I’m in a trio too! Look at it like this, if you genuinely feel happy and better when your with your trio and you feel included then don’t lose that. But if you aren’t happy and feel like there are other people that treat you better than become better friends with the people who make you feel your happiest and best. Hope this helped :)
I can relate to Gabe in the push and pull thing in a toxic relationship. I learned the difference between a deprecative relationship and a inspirational relationship and now I’m able to see the red flags and move on faster when it’s toxic!
Daaaang! I’m so impressed tbh. I’m 36 years old. And some of the concepts you are discovering about yourself in relation to love are things I only started to become aware of in the last couple of years. You and I are very similar, except I am far more introverted. The part when you said you realized you may be in love with love far more than the actual person you are focusing all of your attention on at any given time was huge for me. I would give my all in a relationship not too long after being together. And I would actionably begin loving them whole heartedly. when overtime, they would stop giving me back those efforts that are there in the beginning, I would start overcompensating even more. I would always come to the end of the relationship wondering what my part was in this going so wrong. I would feel like the victim and become so broken not understanding why I was willing to give my all and that wasn’t good enough. And I eventually discovered that I am a people pleaser who over gives for the external validation I am desperately seeking. I had to get real with myself to grow and I stopped framing my actions as all innocent and genuine people pleasing, and started calling it manipulation. Yea. And that was a hard pill to swallow. Because I hate seeing myself as anything less than “good.” Because I truly do have the best of intentions. But who wants to feel like someone has these grand expectations of you that could have been packaged up and sold to anyone else, they just happened to pick you and obsess over making you fit into their fantasy of love? How disingenuous. I realized that I had experienced men doing this to me and they were the ones I had been weirded out by because I was, like what do you mean I’m the woman of your dreams and you love me!? You don’t even really know me. Yuck! Then one day, I actually fell in love. Even though I had still done my same habit of people pleasing all over him, simultaneously I fell in love with him through a genuine friendship. And when we started having problems it forced me to take a hard authentic look in the mirror and say, self, you got issues to work out! And that’s when I figured out almost all of these things you are describing at only 20 years old. So kudos to you! You have so much time now to cultivate true authentic connection and love and save yourself some of the heartache and loneliness that comes with feeling unable to find something to take accountability for in why your relationships keep feeling so unfair and one - sided. That’s major and I’m glad you are sharing it.
This girl is simply incredible, wise reflections and sincerity. Thank you girl, I was needing you today. Also, you feel like spring brease, limonade in the summer, salty caramel. It was amazing meeting you and your ideas. Stay fresh ;) love u
The timing of this could not be more perfect , and I think it helped confirm my sexuality. with men, it was never love, it was attention and validation. I recently realized that I underwent comphet heterosexuality, and now that I’m hearing these messages I feel so seen :) I cannot thank you enough for this video, I’m currently on the journey of loving myself for who I am and this video is in the perfect timing :) there’s so many takeaways i took from this
Love in my eyes... Is feeling committed and infatuated with someone as a human being (for who they are ,,for their soul) beyond the months long honey moon phase. After the hormones of the honey moon phase stop being produced, many relationships fall apart. Love is a commitment, and is much more than just an emotion. People like to lump together infatuation/attraction and love. You can be infatuated with someone and not love them.. but you can't love someone and ever stop being enchanted by them, even when it's been a life time. I believe elderly couples know what love is...
Hi jazzy! I think this is my favorite video ever. Everything you dive into is so extraordinarily interesting! I do have a question tho. What cover of “algo tonto” did you use in this video? I’ve even asked my mom to help me figure it out since she loves old music. Thank you so much if you respond! And if you don’t, of course no hard feelings. Keep doing what you’re doing. It’s all so extraordinary! :)
The way she’s describing how she writes about men who she litterally hasn’t dated is me it makes me feel validated lol like just knowing the Person your attracted to it feeling the void with is not healthy for you at all and you know there is no future there but having someone there for the moment that you are attracted too feels so good in that time it’s just so shitty and it’s really bad for your self as person but you don’t care cause ur lonely I fully am so glad I’m not the only way who feels like this seriously I’ve been watching jazzy since the ssg Lmfaoo🫶🏼
As someone who is aromantic, it's so interesting to see people who do experience romantic attraction reflect on what that and love means for them. It's nice to see people acknowledge how the idea of being in a relationship is often prioritized over actually connecting with another person.
@KittyPikaChu An aromantic person would more than likely just not understand the feeling of romantic attraction. Some may be favorable to the idea of romance while others may be repulsed by it. Any issues I have concerning romance is about the culture that has cultivated, in which single people are stigmatized and romantic partners are treated as the only thing that gives a person value.
@smeeely When I was 16, I started messaging a guy I had previously added on Snapchat. We started "dating" over Snapchat -- in-person dating was a no-go since he lived in a different country -- and continued messaging one another. I kept imagining the cuddling and sweet talking in a physical setting and found myself uncomfortable. After a few days, the constant messaging was beginning to annoy me. Both of those things made me reconsider the relationship, which seemed very one-sided. I broke up with him and started reflecting on why the 2 relationships I had ever been in made me feel weird. Upon finding the word 'aromantic' after looking for people with similar experiences, I looked back on the crushes I've had and realized I really only found them physically attractive. I had no desire to get to know them, let alone start dating them, which resulted in my confusion whenever my friends told me to go talk to them.
Not to sound rude or anything, but if I’m being honest: I sometimes get so annoyed by other people seeming so desperate for relationships as if there was nothing more to life than writings someone’s name with a heart in your insta bio. Like they aren’t in love with someone specifically but just trying to get a relationship for the sake of it. Because it’s a status symbol or something I guess. I don’t know if I should feel the same way and if there’s something wrong with me but I’ve always just kinda had the attitude of “If it’s time, it’s time”. I’d rather be alone than in a relationship with someone I’m not really in love with.
I'm 21 and never been in a relationship. I didn't date in high school because people don't have a stable life yet. Most people in my high school were going off to college far out and I wanted someone in my life for a long time.
Gabe is so emotionally intelligent, holy shit. The whole “love as an escapism” thing is so true and I related a lot to Jazzys experiences of not being excited about life if I wasn’t in love and wanting to be swept off my feet with “love at first sight”. It’s refreshing to hear her talk about being obsessed because it’s something I did and was ashamed of, but did because it felt good and like gabe said, it was an escape. It’s really nice to see them healthily break it down and makes me more confident I’ll reach a place where I can also be excited about life for the sake of living. Seeing their journeys and seeing them come out the other end makes me happier :) as does seeing Jazzy on UT campus (I go to UT LOL)
as someone who hasn’t ever been in relationships and wasn’t allowed to be until high school - the concept of someone actually wanting to be with me is genuinely foreign bc I am always the one putting in effort and not getting it back. So the want to be loved for me isn’t out of escapism but rather to understand what it feels like tbh
The timing of this video is impeccable for my life right now. I really needed this. My respect for Jazzy and Gabe’s humor, creativity, and wisdom has increased tenfold, and it was already as high as Mount Everest before this. Thank you Jazzy
never agreed with anything more,, it’s nice to see other ppl going through experiences that i for some reason thought i was the only one going through them at this point in time
@@llola8466 Dw ur not alone. I told my cousin abt how I was feeling ( she’s in a relationship) and she was like “ u need to stop being jelly” but that’s the thing I’m not jealous the way I feel I can’t explain but basically, I feel as if it happens around me but not TO me.
What you’re describing is called ✨limerence✨ I’ve struggled with it my whole life and it’s so annoying to me. I don’t want to be ruled by my daydreams 😶🌫️😭
Oh my god. Thank you. I thought I was insane, that this obsessive nature of mine was just my own warped mind's doing. There's a term for it!! Holy shit!!
@@halfagony-halfhope oh haha you’re welcome 😅 yes there is a term! I felt the same way when I learned it and I was surprised she didn’t mention it in the video at some point. But you’re not crazy, there are lots of videos on yt about limerence and how to manage it. Not saying this is you but in a lot of cases this is how our brain reacted in order to cope with some form of trauma/emotional neglect so it feels hard-wired but it’s not impossible to change 💖✨
Romance has always been a touchy topic for me. I had my first crush in kindergarten and it's one of the first clear memories that I have. I don't even know where I got the idea of romance from, but it has always been such an important thing for me. I feel so pathetic for making romance, or in this case, the lack of it, such a focal point in my life. Of feeling lost whenever I don't have a crush. I have fallen in love repeatedly with the idea of certain people, it's almost like I use the very reduced amount of information I have of them and make a character out of them and then fall in love with such character. In my brain I have already fallen in love and been loved back, but in reality, I'm terrified of love, of relationships and romance. When things actually get real and it looks like my feelings may be reciprocal, it's as if everything becomes tangible and pretty much crumbles. Questions after question left unanswered, "is this person right for me?", "would my parents like this person?", "what do my friends think of this person?", "do I even like this person?", "am I even attracted to this person?". It seems to me that I only like love when it remains unspoken. I'm 21, and I haven't been in a real relationship. I have never even kissed somebody or been embraced in a romantic way. Part of me yearns for affection and love and the other part of me is scared of it. Having all these expectations makes me hate myself because even if someone who were right for me were to come along, I've already messed everything up by having such ungrounded ideas of what love should be. They'll never live up to be whatever I've made them up in my head because all that's in my head is an idea, as real and tangible as any other idea; not an actual complex and imperfect being made of flesh and bones. Anyways, if you actually read everything, thank you.
'It seems to me that I only like love when it remains unspoken', this sentence just made my week. Thank you for articulating this feeling, I've struggled so much trying to define the 'problem' in my head, I can relate so much and I have no idea what the cure is.
I literally started crying reading this because you’ve described what I’ve been feeling for years now. My thoughts run wild when I’m validated or payed attention to and I automatically think about getting into a relationship. It has been happening more often the older I get. I feel like I have a specific time window to fall in love and if I don’t before that time runs out, I’ll never get another chance. I’ve realized whats been happening and I’ve better accepted the fact that I feel lonely and that I don’t need a romantic partner to fix that.
Gabe is spitting the most factuous facts I wrote them down in my planner to look at I needed this so bad today and I feel so validated this is awesome I have a strong parasocial relationship with you (my version of I love you)
i thought i was madly in love with this one guy but now i realize that i kind of forced myself to like him because he liked me. the i love you was almost like it wasn’t real. For so long i’ve wanted to be in a relationship because i feel like when i’m with someone i’m happier but that’s not the case. I want to be in love, i want someone but i’m not going to force myself to love someone.
The part about being so young is so important. Like maybe it’s just not your time to be in love yet. It doesn’t mean you’re not worthy, it might just mean that life wants you to focus on something else. Whether it be your education or yourself. Or maybe the person that you will connect with isn’t ready yet. But everything has its time. ❤️ Trust in yourself and take it a day at a time. Also Jazzy your singing is so lovely :))
14:48 That wasn't being in love, that was being limerent. Learning what limerence was in October changed my perspective on my crush because I realised it was extremely unhealthy.
I accidently developed that for a celebrity once and felt awful about it because I knew I was obsessed and felt wrong about it. It started as euphoria but then I developed intrusive thoughts and my mental health spiralled down. I was a MESS lol
My roommate and I had a conversation the other day about love. She's in a relationship for 11 months now, whilst I am consistently in and out of situationships that hurt me more and more each time. And despite that, and our very different perspectives, we agreed on one thing: love and being in love are not the same thing. You can be in love with someone without loving them, but you can also be in love with someone whilst loving them. Being in love is as they described in the video, you romanticise them, and its obsessive, and to me its always seemed painful. They are your every joy in the world and any wrong they do you ignore. Meanwhile, when you love someone, its about the little things. Its much slower, and its not that you love everything about them and see this ideal version, but rather you see the real them, and you love them despite their faults, and you try to help them with them. We've both been in love once and loved someone as well, and yet we have very different experiences. I'm sure other people feel other ways, but these are our perspectives :)
jazzy my jaw is literally on the floor. im so amazed with the way that this was made its genuinely one of the greatest pieces of media i've seen in a while on this silly little app... i had so many realisations watching this ur a lifesaver
“What is grief if not love persevering” is a quote from Wandavision i think about a lot. It basically means when you’re grieving, it’s really just love pushing through. I think this quote is a good statement for the concept of this video. Really, when we are dying for a relationship, the chances are we’ve already fallen in love with someone and think of them subconsciously or what they offered in the best moments. Realistically speaking, I can’t think of one good reason why someone who has never experienced love from someone or fallen in love with someone to want a relationship. Really it’s just a longing, a yearning for something you once had.
I can give a perspective to the last question: trauma bonding. If you've experienced parental love, you'll go for a romantic person to feel the same (unless ur aro/ace, you'll most likely go for a friendship instead). If you were abused as well, you will go search for a partner who will give u the love your parents never provided. Humans are a species who live off of love, because that is how we survive. By having this, we are likelier to survive, to create a new generation. It's purely biological. But if I have to say it shortly, love is the constant search for replacing your parents love, and it can be shown in many forms :)
I don't think it's necessarily about recreating a feeling you once felt. That can be true for many people, but we do not live in a vacuum. Relationship is seen as socially desirable and by extention it became a broken logic that there must be sth wrong with you inherently to not be able to "love" / get into a relationship (we conflate these two constantly). Finding out that I'm somewhat asexual didn't lesson my yearning for desire, but made it more apparent why I wanted it. It's painful not being to relate to friends who had/have significant others. It's lonely and makes me doubt if someone could ever be interested in me and for me to reciprocate. Maybe I long for a fictional version of love I see and read, or maybe I want to experience what's seen as one of core emotion human and ppl close to me fell...
The points you and gabe made are such real truths and I seriously agree with them. I fr loved this video, it was so real and I think a lot of people don’t really talk much about it, so thank you for this video! I AM LOVING THIS KIND OF CONTENT JAZZY
This video has somehow kind of described what I've always felt. I get infatuated with someone, it could be a simple crush and then I daydream a lot, what would it be like to be with them, the whole thing. As much as I like to spend time with friends and doing the things I love and enjoy, there has always been this pull and feeling like I need to meet "the one" when am I going to meet "the one." Why is there such a focus on finding this special person whose going to help you heal, make you a better person, be your support system and best friend? I've always been a hopeless romantic or maybe over the years I've been fed a certain narrative that you'll know it's love when you know and this person you're supposed to meet is going to be life changing. It's as though I romanticize every person I like because I want to find "the one"
this has really opened my eyes. and I've thought about this for a while too. And its why I love the friends to lovers trope so much. its so healthy to me, viewing someone as a friend first then slowly catching feelings, that's real and also natural. You avoid love at first sight because that romantic feeling was not there when you first met them. Relationships take time and people will hear that and agree but wont apply it. And ask yourself if you're ready or actually want to be in a romantic relationship with that person or if being friends is enough because you dont think of them as that way and you just actually need a friend and not be lonely.
exactly, plus going in looking for friendship takes off so much pressure than going in looking for the person you’re possibly gonna be with for the rest of your life
This is probably my favourite video that you have ever made. It’s so important and I’m so glad this was spoken about because it’s so true. I’m 16 and there is so much pressure to be in love by the media surrounding people my age and it’s been causing me some problems mentally. Thank you for making this video Jazzy, also your singing is amazing!
my current boyfriend/first real relationship is with a guy ive been super close friends with since 6th grade we are freshman in college now and i completely agree i think its so important to build a relationship off a strong foundation like id be so scared to ever date random people i met off tinder again because i just really enjoy the fact that ive known my bf for years and i knew his friends and family for a long time too its like it showed me that this person isnt crazy and scary and is someone i really can trust because we were just friends for the longest time getting into relationships with randoms theres an unknown about them that terrifies me now because you dont know anything about them how do you know theyre not going to become toxic or they have serious issues not saying thats everybody’s experience but i just think if u really get to know the person first you can trust them easier from the start of a relationship and you know what youre getting yourself into more just my personal thoughts tho! lol
Like I moved away to a state where I know nobody am I supposed to have strong foundations with my 6th grade friend? NO I have to go out and be an adult and meet RANDOM women. And I’m not going to just be friends for several years just to date you. If I was interested in just being a friend it’s gonna be like that from the beginning but if there is sexual attraction that’s immediately over.
i feel like the strongest friendship i ever had was ruined by her constantly getting into a new relationship and craving validation from men instead of from family and REAL friends (like me at the time) i think this video is making me realise that that friendship with her partly failed because of this. i felt idk how to word it, not seen, unvalidated, by her because she'd always be seeking validation from these guys who were terrible to her when i was like "but im right here.... im your best friend why cant you feel happiness from ME?" it caused a lot of tension between us i think and completely ruined the friendship, ended on very bad terms and i havent spoken to her in a year
IM SO GLAD IM NOT THE ONLY ONE!! I used to have this friend who I’d call every single day and although I thought we were close, I always felt that she solely uses her boyfriends as an emotional crutch (and them her). If she breaks up with one she’d jump to the next one very quickly,, it especially made me feel hurt when she’d talk to me alot when she’s going through a breakup but talk less and less as soon as she gets into a relationship- as if I was a temporary replacement. Ngl low key props to her because she’s part of what made me question the concept of relationships altogether, and why as a culture we always value romance much more than platonic love from friends and family.
i like hearing the “i felt like i would change my life for them” answers more than the “i loved getting their snaps” answers. i just feel like there should be more to love then snapchat
some thoughts from an aromantic person, who is pretty experienced in being single lol: I think something that makes it difficult to not be in a relationship is other people being in one, especially your best friends. Something that I realized botheres me quite a lot is a whole layer of interaction that usually gets lost once one person enters a healthy relationship. The partner becomes your number one, they get your random texts, you talk to them about your hardships, they are the first person to know about a success in your life, etc. etc. Now if that happens to your best friends then sometimes you were the person that got all those random texts and success stories and hardship conversations. You still talk to the friend the same way as before and they are the first to hear about your life, but your friend starts to call someone else first. Especially when all of your best friends are in a relationship you kind of start to wonder what to do, when you actually want to share something. Who am I gonna tell that I got this really cool job? Should I even tell anyone?
@@paranoidastronaut5792 trust me, it took me so long to figure it out myself. the moment i did i was actually talking to my best friend who recently got into her first relationship and i think that definitely helped me, because i got her perspective too and i could honestly tell her how i feel!
This this is information this generation needs to consider now I think no shade to those who fall in love young but- also jazzy pleaseeeeeeeee put ur cover on Spotify that was so beautiful!!!!
i really needed to see this video today and seeing this on my recommended was really great timing. i’m a 13 year old girl that is currently obsessed with this guy that shows absolutely no interest in me. he does that push and pull stuff that often leaves me confused and it hurts my little heart. i’m a 13 year old girl that grew up watching disney princess movies, seeing people in loving relationships online, and i read fanfiction ffs. i need to stop thinking that love is going to save me when in reality, nothing is going to save me but the self love i need to have for myself. i need to stop putting my heart into the hands of someone who doesn’t care and start focusing on the ones that are actually there for me. i have so many more years to go, so i need to stop with this unrealistic standards i have for love. i need the time to work on me and only me.
the fact that you can recognize this at 13 is amazing, you’re going places. :) find someone who loves you as much as you love them. And take your time. ❤
22… never been in love. Never been in a relationship. I’ve had flirtationships and little crushes here and there but when it could maaaaybe turn into something real it’s like my subconscious kills all feelings. 💀 Pretty sure it has to with my parent’s vile marriage growing up and the resulting trauma/distrust etc… But I’m human, ultimately I want to love and be loved. I’m hoping with time I’ll learn to put myself out there and maybe meet someone who’s willing to walk that journey with me. Til then… I’m sending blessings from my little corner of the universe to yours.
dude. how is it that you come out with top quality videos every single time??? you are hands down my favorite creator. your passion for film is so inspiring to see. i appreciate all of your videos so much. as a freshman in high school im realizing how scary love and growing up is so seeing this brought me an insane amount of comfort. i hope you are taking care of yourself and prioritizing your mental health always
people don’t realize love is just your body doing the work for the first six months, producing chemicals that make your glasses all rose colored. long lasting love is the work and effort you put in to cultivate that feeling and stability, AFTER, your body stops doing the work for you. men in my life don’t fucking get this
For me it really hasn't been like this. I've only been with my partner for soon 2 years and we've only lived together for 6 months but I still feel like the honeymoon stage is long gone. And I've never actively put effort or work into the relationship. It's all my body doing the work. It physically hurts me seeing him hurt so I always help and I love doing stuff with him and for him.
Really needed this video, made me realize that yearning for past love just to feel something is really damaging and I should re-find passion in myself, not in others.
I resonate a lot with what you and your friends have said about past relationships and what you thought love was about. Ever since breaking up with my last bf; I had to reevaluate A LOT about how I viewed relationships, what I want in a relationship, and the relationship I had with myself, all while questioning for the past couple of years. Now that I know who I am and I'm comfortable, I can go into dating/relationships with a healthier perspective. I still have a long way to go but I have learned so much.
1:27 ME. I am 17 and I pretend that there is like a ghost or somth that stays in my room and is in love w me. I unfortunately, have never held hands with a boy before (other than the vietnamese guy who does my nails)
So glad i came across this, as a college student I've met so many women and had a relationship as soon as I moved in. Things didn't work out but i continued to pursue a relationship. Only now I realized that i have been doing it for the wrong reasons. I ultimately put to much emphasis on the fantasy and thrill of being with someone and giving them attention. I forgot to ultimately love the person for who they are instead of the idea of staying with them.
You mentioned in the LPS video about how crazy it is for something on RU-vid to be such a foundational part of your chilhood, and such a spark in your creativity, and you should know that you totally are that for me and probs for a lot of other ppl. I can't believe I'm still geniunely getting so much inspiration and enjoyment out of your videos after all these years. I'm applying for film school right now (pray for me lmao help) so thank you for all you make!!
Love is scary. I’m taking my time from it right now but honestly I miss it. I want to be in love again but it’s just not my time right now. Healing is the most important thing for me right now.
I feel the exact same way. As much as I would like to be in love, I need to take time to myself to heal and re-evaluate myself as a person. I need to learn how to move on, let go, and improve myself mentally and emotionally. My actions have hurt so many people, including my previous partner. And I don't think I'm in the right place right now to love again. Learning from my mistakes and working towards improve myself is more important than seeking out a relationship.
This is probably my favorite video you’ve ever made, and I’ve been watching since SSG. You and Gabe are so intellectual, and I love everything about your perspectives. I love you guys! Keep making amazing videos❤
I recently ended things with the first person I have ever liked. Since it ended I have felt that my life is not as interesting as before. That I need a boyfriend in order to be happy. So thank you for this video and reminding me that it’s not the case. Also, loooove the editing of this video. ICONIC
i wish jazzy would make her own music! she would be so great at it ❤. jazzy, your voice is gorgeous!! also, i haven’t been able to stop thinking about this video. best part of my day
This was amazing the way you say things and the way you talked with your friends made me feel like I was in the conversation as well! Props to jazzy and her friends this was amazing 💗
We I was younger I would force myself to have crushes and that so not healthy for myself. I wondered why I did that. I didn’t really like them that much. I generally confused with the idea of love at the time. Thankful now I discovered I’m demisexual. I fell love with myself and my friends before than having partner. Honestly I’m ok with that. This video is a wonderful reminder of my journey of discovery. And I hope everyone who watch this discovery something about themselves.
When we’re young, we tend to become infatuated rather than in love because we don’t understand the difference between the two. Infatuation and Love are two different but similar concepts.
This video really helped me better understand the concept of love. I never knew what having a crush was like (and I still dont) and thus I began questioning my own identity GREATLY, I’m much more comfortable in my own skin now. But back then there was always that thought of “what am I doing wrong?” Not to mention media always made love seem like a giant spectacle that would be the fix all solution. I realize now that a person isn’t going to be the fix-all, instead I should just focus on loving myself :)) a hard journey to follow but I’m glad I got there eventually lmao
This video couldn't have came at a better time. I'm so desperate for love, that I even forget about myself. Seeing people be super happy with their significant other breaks my heart, because I still haven't experienced that, and honestly, I have to wait until I come across the right person. And what was said in this video is so true, love isn't only you that shows attention, that's basically just fantasizing love because if the other person gives you nothing, than it isn't love. I'm only 16 as well, still very young, but just seeing so many people my age of younger already have experienced love so many times makes me feel like I'm an outcast. That just shows that those many other relationships these people were in were not love, and love is something that lasts much more longer.
This video has so much effort on it, and it has so much valuable information that a lot of people NEED to hear, facts that will help them improve not in their love life but just in their life, because we all been thought that love = happiness when the majority of the time is not like that, happiness comes from with in, this video really opened my eyes, thanks a lot.
I’ve found myself really wanting to date recently. I’m not entirely sure why, or if I’m even ready for that. I’ve just been wanting to, so this video came at a nice time :) After watching the whole video, that was genuinely great! Some real truth was spoken ❤️ Edit: HEAVYYY ON THE ROMANTICIZING!!! I do that all the time, in fact it’s happening right now 🤡 I don’t know why I do that, but the truth is, not everyone we like or even have a relationship with will be end game. And that’s genuinely okay, I’m just still having trouble grasping that
Jazzy this video really made me realize that people fantasize relationships bc they think being "in love is what u need, but sometimes thats not always true i needed this in my life sm I'm in a toxic relationship right now and just really needed this ty.❤
I’ve always been wanting to experience love, but felt okay with not having it. Since a couple months two of my closest friends are in very good and healthy relationships, it’s made me desire it too and some loneliness has been acting up again :( I know it’s okay to not be in love, I just have this desire to want to know what it’s like. It makes it hard to convince myself I can be completely fine and happy on my own.
Jazzy I love your new editing style🥹 I can tell you’re in filmschool this is so cool especially since I’ve been watching your videos since the ssg era. The content glowup is immaculate ☺️
Watching this video i finally realized that there's nothing wrong with me, or if there's something wrong with me at least I'm not the only on. I remember actively finding a guy to fall in love with for the sake of 'feel something'. I literally found myself this year thinking 'hmmm, I'm bored, I'm gonna find a guy to fall in love with' and then i selected ONE. And it doesn't end up here, after selecting the one, i would talk w him and then i would literally fall for him. It's like we romantice being in love with someone, but that leave us to seek that feeling and try to find it no matter what, even with the wrong people
This video was so interesting and eye-opening thank you! I think another big reason for this obsession that young girls typically feel is a result of media having such emphasis on it. I recently went back and watched old classic Disney movies, and the intense romanticism of romantic love is crazy
its so funny cause I still remember the first video of you that I watched was something like "how to get your crush to like you back" and look where we are now
I got curious with the title so I clicked to find out what it was all about. I enjoyed the editing of your video even though I'm not used to that kind of storytelling, I was pleasantly surprised! I can see your head is bursting with ideas, that's nice to be a witness of that when a lot of people are doing the same kind of content :) This is so great that you're aware of that difference-being in love with the feeling and loving someone. This will be a great help for what's next in your life, I wish I knew that at your age. And also, I don't think you were crazy. This is just how your brain works and that's fine. What you do with the fantasizing is what can be problematic, not you. That's thanks to your brain and "crazy" imagination that we're all gathered here commenting on your beautiful video ;)
First of all this video is amazing, one look through the comments and you can see the magnitude of people that it resonated with including myself. I think it’s so important to be able to see that we all share these common experiences to an honestly scary level. There were so many points during this video where I realised that what I have been feeling this year and have experienced my whole life is not a singular experience, there are so many people out there feeling those same things, and it’s comforting to know that, to not feel like you are alone in this feeling. I hope everyone watching this video and reading this comment is able to find happiness.
there isn’t words that I can say to describe how much you guys spoke to my soul. it’s so hard, so hard to understand all of this and be aware. you have motivated me to say fuck it and just live my life and stop giving it all to the first guy who gives me a bit of attention. thank you for putting this video out. you truly gave me the reality check I needed. as someone who is 19 and a freshman in university it’s hard to understand what I want and not feel lonely but you have comforted me in ways that I can’t explain. thank you for always knowing what to say and for bringing this video out when I needed it most. 💜
