Thank you for talking about your struggle before marriage. Sometimes, I feel like married women only spend time talking about what single women are doing wrong and why we aren’t married. Or they declare they never struggled with being single. The whole “I’m totally independent and didn’t even want to get married”, or “he asked me twice”. Everyone is a feminist today🙄It’s nice to hear a woman who will actually confess that she wanted marriage, and waited for God and ended up married. I’m happy it worked out for you♥️
I am married now having gone through hurt, pain and disappointments. I believe that I followed the 'guard your heart' rule this time around. What you are saying is true. Even though your heart may beat faster at the sight of this person (male or female), ensure that you follow your head and not your heart. Pray earnestly for everything, especially in choosing a spouse and commit to wait patiently for the signs that this is what God has for you.
Do not follow your head. Do not follow your emotions, do not follow your body. Follow your heart and your heart is your spirit. If you're born again your spirit can be trusted. Because it is in connection with God
I love this. Thank you. I've been trying to Guard my heart and I feel like I've been doing OK but it's better to have guidance. I'm 16 and young, I honestly fell in love with the idea of the people I liked and me so many times. But your videos have instructed me to do better. Now when I look at any male, I don't wonder if they're my future husband and if I do, I don't dwell on it. I thank God for helping me with that. For the first time in a while I can say I'm just focusing on school, friends, family, life, myself and the Lord. If the Lord wills it, then nothing can stop that.
Wow, these are true words of wisdom from such a young woman! I am thankful for your ear to catch what is being taught here. May God bless you richly! Your comment has blessed my soul 💖
This video is what I needed to hear at this very moment. I want to get married badly but I realized I was idolizing marriage. During my prayer time I now thank God for my future spouse. But I’m not going based off my preferences anymore. I’m surrendering all that to God now. Im no longer giving God a list of specifics with how I want him to look and giving God deadlines. I’m finally trying to just trust God with my life since he knows what’s best. Thank you for using your platform to spread the word of God. Your ministry is really blessing me ❤️
There's nothing wrong with preferences per se. But I would make sure I go over them with God and let Him help you sort out your deal breakers and get rid of the ones that aren't reasonable or necessary.
Great message! Thank you! You guard your heart by not standing still for a relationship that is one-sided in your mind; vain imaginations. God is not that cruel that he would expect us to stand still for a man for years, remaining single, while this man goes and gets married and pursues other women. What helps is to always remember that God is not the author of confusion. If the situation is stealing your peace and causing confusion, it “ain’t” God. God is a God of decency and order. Some women believe that God told them that another woman’s husband belongs to her. How cruel would God be to “steal“ another woman’s husband and give him to another. If it goes against God’s nature, it “ain’t” God.
True! I am a big person and a daydreamer, which led me to idolising a man. Thank God, the Lord has corrected me and provided this video to top it off. I will wait on God's perfect timing for my "Adam". Until then, the Lord Jesus is my husband, according to Isaiah 54:5 For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called.
Thank you so much! I guarded my heart from the moment I saw your last video! Last night, God showed me that the guy I thought was the one, was not. I thought this guy was the one for me 2 years ago. I did not guard my heart at all back then. I was completely heartbroken...completely devastated when it did not work out. This time around, because I applied what you taught in your last video, it did not affect me like that. Sure I was a little sad, but I am not devastated! If I had not guarded my heart it would’ve tore me up all over again. I’ve moved on and it’s only been 24 hours. Glory be to God!!!
Amen amen! All of this is very true! Guard your hearts. I can testify that until I understood this and kept my focus and eyes on the Lord He brought my husband. And it was not who I thought it would be. I submitted my heart my mind, my desires and body to the Lord. And trust me when I say the Lord gave me peace and fulfillment in Him completely. I became content in whatever He decided, whether it be married with children serving Him or single serving Him. But His will is for me to be married. I just want to encourage everyone to just desire Him and be close to Him. He is the only one that can give you direction and purpose in your life, whether married or single.
You motivates me always.... I have listened to all your stories and is almost same with mine... God has his time table for anything he does.. Thank you for being a blessing to our generation 💓
Thank you so much, I almost want to cry cause this is me. Just went thru a break up and I'm like "God i thought that was you" :( But 1 thing i know: God loves me, and He has great plans for my life. I am loved, single or not.
God is so intentional. He allowed me to go through this couple weeks ago then allowed you to post this video now. I think that he wanted me to experience it at least once so that I will learn from it. Thanks you for being obedient to God and make these videos. I pray that God blesses you and your marriage ❤
What do you think God wanted you to learn? Because if you didn't learn it, it'll keep happening over and over. It happened to me too! Then one day, I had to sit with the Lord to really thrash out what he wanted me to learn and when I did, it gave me the courage to move on. Now i know it's a sifting process that the Lord wants to be the strength of your conviction for confirmations. How do you know the person is of God, dreams and visions? The answer is no!
Sis the reality of not being able to handle certain things - even what seems as simple as music 👏🏾 thank you for calling this out! I needed this message, this is so well timed. May God continue to use you as His interpreter on this earth. Thank you ✨✨
I keep just leaving the comment "God bless u" cause what else can i say, He is definately using you, May He bless you, your family and ministry!! God bless you
God bless you sis. Wow...i mean..how can this be so exact. Lord Jesus I hear you.Grace my life that I may guard my heart and seek you as I wait for the pursuit. Amen.
Well I have decided to totally cut him off my life coz I was getting too attached yet he was so comfortable in the "friendzone ". He wasn't pursuing me. Hope amnot making any mistakes..
If you wanted commitment & love and he wanted a friend, you did the right thing. Don't settle for this. What did God say? Your God ordained husband will pursue you sis, but still there will be challenges.
I needed to hear this. Thank you. I am sad to admit, I fell into this for over 14years. I am battling feeling disappointed in myself for not seeing the truth the many times the Lord tried to show me. Naively, I believed the Lord wouldn't allow me to be decieved and led astray. But it was my responsibility to use wisdom and discernment. What I do know (also from experience) is that guilt and shame will get me no where, so I am considering it lesson painfully learned an trust the Lord to redeem my life. This is what seasoning is sometimes about. Let us have ears to hear what the Lord is saying. Amen. Thank you Kasheena and love to all my fellow sisters in Christ out there. We are loved.❤
Yes Lord i need an overload off your heart, i have been not guarding my heart after a relationship i always find someone to fill in the gap in my mind. Help me Lord🙌🏽
GIRL! You just got me ALL THE WAY STRAIGHT! You described my weakness to a "T". lol. You have great wisdom, and I appreciate your ministry. Keep doing what you do.
Sis this is awesome! I had the same experience. I would have peace, then I'd be unsure days later. This went on for months. Talk about torment. Thank you for breaking down the true meaning of "peace."
I wish I felt that way.Its the exact opposite.Hes so young.The thought itself scares me.But he's coming in hard he's so sure I'm the 1.Im praying to God to make the pieces fit.We praying together so I wish him well in everything.I have most signs too but m like Lord where to from here?Every time fear and confusion come without him knowing it he assures me so let's see what happens.
Good word!!!!! I wasted so much time. Riding over the what God told me - riding my emotions. I am thankful to be free of those distractions (wasting time). Take the time to grow in the Lord and trust.
Timely video and thank you. Also, y’all need to get her book. I read it in couple of days. I appreciate how she was so candid. Also, a lot of her experiences resonated with me. I feel all she shares we can all relate to in some way shape or form. So get her book!!!
Thank you for your obedience! God has used you to encourage me and bless my life. I just wanted to say what you do matters-sending you love, my sister!
Sis Shashenna thanks for the inspiring messages as usual you’re right on time with another good message, recently I have not been guarding my heart, worrying about when is my husband going to come making the issue my focal point in my prayer life, in my every thought that’s all I’m focusing on getting a husband because of my age. Not guarding my heart also landed me in the hospital which is what happened to me recently so thank you so much for reinforcing that guarding our hearts are very important and never ever go ahead of God with our own plans and ideas. As scripture said wait on the Lord and he shall renew our strength.
Hello thank you for this video....It is always a pleasure to watch....💙 I have a question...when you say this is a season of kingdom marriages did God reveal this to u? I'm just wondering since u have said this a few times in previous videos....it just came to mind to finally ask u...lol...thank you for the inspiration 💜
Thank you for these practical tips Kashenna! I agree with not going ahead of God, it is always a good indication that we are trying to make it happen on our own, myself included. If God said it why not let Him bring it to pass. When His peace is with us, we don’t even feel like rushing things. Your videos are very helpful. God bless!
My man pursued me as Lord told me he would. Proposed as Lord told me he would. We love Lord and no premarital sex. But he is struggling with anxiety disorder and isn't sure about marrying me. He loves me very much but is getting cold feet. It's painful because I feel I have to guard heart now. What is ur email?
I’m so happy you’ve created your own website the other one was hard to navigate and I have a question regarding your sessions : Let’s say I booked for a hour time slot and we are talking and the conversation is still good can it continue and then upgrade the package to the 120 min session ?
😩 it’s funny that God had to speak to me to change it. The other is my website as well. I just tagged it on there. Yes you can upgrade if I have nothing scheduled afterwards. Hope that answers your question.
Beauty For Ashes Yes it did ! I look forward to to booking with you ! 🤍🤍 I’ve been praying for an opportunity to have a mentor whose been through things I know the Lord is calling me to as well. Have a great evening !
Timely word! What if you have peace but because other people (family, friends, church folks) around you make you feel like you r making the wrong choice? Would you say that is also the absence of peace? Thank you!🤍
You've been such a blessing to me, Ma'am. Your messages are very timely. I have been waiting for the next video after the last on guarding your heart. Thanks for yielding to the Lord.
Hi Kashenna! U look so beautiful as always😊 very informative video, thank u for sharing..can u please answer this burning question? Do u think God will point u in the direction of some1 u r not attracted to?
It's 7 months later. My man and I are getting Godly counsel, but separately. Our Pastor thinks we should marry. He's clear this is Kingdom marriage and yet my fiance is still STUCK. I've been bearing fruit and growing but I still believe he's my spouse. God said it was spiritual warfare..causing confusion in him though he is marriage minded and loves mean. I will try to reach out and book a session with you. Help!!
Even if an angel of light appeared to me and showed me an image of the man, and even if he were to show up exactly as revealed, I'm not interested and will have absolutely nothing to do with him unless his standing with God is true. And no matter how convinced I am, I'm having nothing to do with it unless I get confirmation by extra evaluation from men and women of faith. Don't try it! I don't care for it, I'm not interested. That's my default position.
Hi thank u for all that you do, Yah is truly with u. But you mentioned how you should feel a deep love for someone who yet to pursue you but u felt that way for your husband before he pursued you. Mind you I'm aware that Yah made you feel these things for your husband.
Right and I was planning to fast and pray against it until God said it was His doing. Most times it’s not the Lord’s doing. I’ve been there so many times. God bless Sis
I have had confirmation and peace. And have calm steady pursuit from him. But he is completing his own grief from losing his spouse 1 yr ago. Do you have advice on how to go forward
Hi Sis, I would let it go especially if the pursuit stops. If he is still grieving then he needs time to process and probably shouldn’t have initiated that initial pursuit. Either way I would encourage you to let it go, just to ease your heart.
How do you know if God has shown you your husband? I’ve been so focused on my purpose until I feel that even if God has revealed to me who my future husband is, I might of missed the sign. Any advice Kasheena?
If you emerse yourself in God and allow him to guide you, you will not miss the prompting. If your heart is pulled towards someone, as Kashenna said, wait for the pursuit and ensure the person's belief in everything aligns with God's and yours. Be practical and follow your head rather than your heart. And pray, pray, pray...
