You Need To Start Ignoring Yourself 

*You Need To Start Ignoring Your Impulses

as someone with ADHD this is something I strongly recommend. it won't solve everything, but it will help stop the more destructive impulses and help with the emotional dysregulation. (obviously with a medical regimen as well)

I think it is important to be able to notice your desires first without ignoring all of them. Notice it and ask yourself if it is good or bad for you

I literally talk to myself out loud to tell myself to stfu 😂 works every time!

I swear i don't watch enough of this guy. He really does open up a new way at looking at things the more and more i see of him and ive been subbed for so long.

My therapist calls this, "Therapuetic Apathy" and it has helped me recognize terrible thoughts and emotions and then be able to move forward in a neutral manner aka with control over myself.

I am autistic. Constantly having to ignore myself for everyone else's comfort is what turned me into this wreck in the first place.

Very interesting. It’s a tightrope walk for me between maintaining distance from my impulses and maintaining awareness of the data my body is giving me (for example, should I ignore my hunger and get back to work or eat dinner now?)

Recognize your emotions and feel them. That is very important. See where you feel them. Don't judge just feel. Let it come and don't force it to go away with stimuli (impulses) out of these emotions and don't act to fast out of these emotions if they are bad habits. Then you'll see that you are closer to yourself and can start taking actions that feel more close to home.

The point is not ignoring your desires. Its recognising which ones can actually benefit your life. For that you have to feel them all and sort them out. THEN it goes around ignoring or rerouting the harmful ones.

Ignore your impulses is a more accurate term.

as someone who ignores itself i can say sometimes I don't understand that I am thirsty for like hours

See this is actually really helpful for someone like me who generally thinks too much and spends waaaay too much time worrying about my situation rather than try and fix it

I agree with this to an extent, I feel like this is what I was master of when I was younger. I had a 7 hour concentration span, highly disciplined etc. But I've come into adulthood not knowing myself and with a great deal of shame. I think discipline was my coping mechanism for my surroundings but also a crutch and stopped me from knowing my social self or just feeling any sort of ease within myself. I can go back to discipline because I've known it, I definitely overshot on the lack of discipline later in life- I'm sure there's an in between too where you can know yourself as well

I listen to what my body is saying. I’m in pain, I want chocolate, check your phone. Then I ignore what my body is saying. Which I feel is different than not listening to my body.

I already do that. My psychiatrist calls it dissociation 😅

Sir I’m autistic. I ignore my body so much that I sometimes don’t notice that I’m in pain until days after getting hurt. I don’t usually notice I’m hungry until I feel my stomach rumbling. If anything, I need to learn how to notice my body more.

Ignoring myself was a pretty big component of the therapy I was in as a teen for my OCD. I still have counting and OCD obsessions going 24/7 in my mind, but it's background noise. I ignore it, I continue on with my day.

The mind can be seen as “the great trickster” and will fabricate things that make us get in the way of ourselves. Making us wonder away from the present moment which is called the present for a reason bc it is a gift. Guard the gate of your mind as to control what is allowed in and out. Difficult for a reason.

Why would I ignore myself? I have everyone else for that.

you should ignore yourself NOW!! 🌩

I gave up 3 of my biggest bad habits for lent and sometimes it's really hard to keep from giving in

Bro im so confused, most days ur all about awareness and being present and listening to your body and emotions and shit and now u telling me I gotta ignore myself. Make up ur mind man

I have ADHD sir! I need a little more help than that! Lol

Yo, that title is fucking awful. Notice the impulse and make the conscious decision not to act on it. Ignoring yourself leads to acting impulsively without even being aware of it. Very relieved to see most of the comments picking up on this

I feel like these have a message but it's so much easier said then done. It's very hard to stop playing a game of league until you have that one good game that you're satisfied with. It's very hard to not get on a computer or on my phone all day. These things are extremely difficult and just saying to ignore impulses that you've been used to dealing with on a daily basis isn't enough to convince me when it's the only thing that makes sense to me.

I don’t think it’s actually ignoring “yoursel”. It’s ignoring the mind.

Didn't you previously say attention to one's temptations is key to not giving into them? If so, maybe "ignoring" isn't the right word.

What do you think of people who say avoiding obesity is fatphobic?

Do you have any tips for addiction to hard drugs. Will my serotonin ever go back to normal? X

Criminally underrated piece of content. 10/10.

Please is there any links to books or materials that talk about this? Dr k says the yogis etc say this but where? I would like to read

In Islam we call this controling our nafs, our desires/impulses. You have to take responsibility and discipline yourself to stay healthy both mentally and physically.

This is why i deleted every social media

Fuck I love this guy

Follow in the steps of yogi bear 🐻🐻🐻

I've been doing this for so long without even realizing it, yet people have told me it's unhealthy... which is it? To be fair, I've kicked many bad habit because of this (mainly drinking lots of soda, eating out, and eating processed foods. Still working on getting rid of the last one, but I've improved a lot because of this method)

The irony of watching this because this channel spams us with notifications of Dr K shorts is pretty funny

Ignoring your impulses = discipline

Bro discovered sugar

Suppressing your desires will lead you to succumb to them so it's more important to acknowledge your desires instead of ignore, then you can autonomously make a different decision if you think that will serve you. cheers.

i ignored myself and my health plumetted.

I think it's a good thing that my desire is to just be better.

Your videos have made my life so much better. Found you when I was struggling with getting past certain road blocks and here I am thriving and getting better!

bro dropped 'do something impossible' and called it a day

What ingredients? What research

This is why processed foods are so addictive, this is why I crave desserts and sweets and packaged foods so much.

People with chronic pain are legendary at this skill. But it is also our downfall eventually

Control your nafs ..

Can't trust anyone anymore. Least of all, yourself.

well now I want a donut...thanks for that, Dr. K 😂

😮so thats what cookie's do 😂

The food thing is so true.

Why is everything about food? I don't even think about food until it's an hour past meal time and my stomach is rumbling. Anybody else feel this way?

Can't even trust food, man I can't have anything

Problem is, people confuse intuition with impulses. And when you give them this advice, they will stop trusting their intuition

I have the opposite problem I will just not do anything I want to do.

Even discipline requires energy.

Been working on this, for sure in my emotionally reaching and saying stuff that I wouldnt say the day after.... Gotta give myself some time to let things sink before hurting others with my Hurt and overly emotional self 😅

Time and time again, many of my best experiences have come from ignoring myself.

Please don’t follow this advice! Ignoring yourself will create anxiety and depression loss of identity etc ! Please do not IGNORE YOURSELF!

Ignoring impulses sounds bad to me. It sounds too similar to self-abandonment. How about instead of "ignore" we use "control" ? How about being mindful about our impulses, questioning our REACTIONS instead of ignoring????

Is this what impuls control means?

i ignored myself and now im a wreck. Thanks!

This is horrible advice. Ignoring yourself is NOT what stoicism is about, it's the dead opposite of what meditation is about. DO NOT IGNORE YOURSELF. LISTEN TO YOURSELF. One of the biggest problems of humanity is that we ignore ourselves and eachother far, far too much and foundationally, we constantly ignore so much of our own emotions and intellects. What you need to do is not ignore yourself, but rather sit down and listen to yourself, regularly try to listen to yourself on deeper and more comprehensive levels, then communicate with yourself. Seek self comprehension, acceptance, and improvement. Then, seek collective comprehension and improvement, together.

Funny enough, my anhedonia helped to silence my impulses because I didn’t care about much. But now recovering from it, I know the difference between an urge and actual fulfillment.

Its like playing a 3rd person video game like gta. You wouldnt just set there eating snacks all day in a virtual world. Thats the least fun thing to do. But in the game your characters feelings have 0 effect on you. So you have no restraint to his physical assurtion or social interaction. You can max his levels easily and its fun. The more you let go of the fear of pain the more you become a character in gta.

This is something you learn once you’ve matured enough and life has taught you enough ( shit blowing in your face, and what not😂). Im 38 now and I honestly just can’t be bothered. Life is so simple and peaceful now, unlike my 20s 🤣🤣🤣

As a patient of depression, I want to emphasize this can be REALLY BAD for mental health. I tried being very rigorous to suppress my impulses, only ended up with my unclear mind. Also I dislike the misleading title. Thumbs down and will flag.

Although the term mortification of the flesh, which is derived from the King James version of Romans 8:13[8] and Colossians 3:5,[9] is primarily used in a Christian context,[10] other cultures may have analogous concepts of self-denial; secular practices exist as well. Some forms unique to various Asian cultures are carrying heavy loads and immersion in water.

“Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.” -Matthew 16:24-25 NKJV ❤

Hello? If you figure out HOW to ignore yourself all the time? Suicide time for what are you living for? It's more a question of moderation. I LIVE for myself so if I ignored myself all the time? What am I LIVING FOR? Instead I learned how to redefine my goals in life and make them more achievable. Instead of trying to have EVERYTHING? I instead aim for what's important to me and if it happens to be something big? I also know I'll be saving for a long time for it as I also make sure it is something achievable and STILL live within my means. If it's not? Go down to the next best thing you want. It called controlling your desires WITHOUT killing them. A person with no desires in life? Truly scary person to me.

Be aware of your impulses and desires, yet somehow never let them control and get the better of you. Sure, this is Cardinal Virtue of Temperance that people knew back when... still, knowing it and practicing it are two very different things. That is to say, I too wish it were so simple: when I'm having a bad day, and dopamine seeks to entice me into relapsing back into bad habits and vices... dude, it's REALLY DIFFICULT not to let the Dark Side in -- sometimes I win only by the hair in my back.

One of my issues has actually been almost the opposite, brought on by depression, which is apathy. And yes I know it isn't the same thing but sometimes it's hard to parse between what's just an impulse and what's a legitimate need, especially when none of it feels super fulfilling anyway...

That's so wild, what do companies think would happen, hypothetically, when additives have the masses overeating & everyone becomes obese consumers that can't move, can't work for the money to buy things, and inevitably die... I guess that's too hypothetical cus it isn't having that exact, cartoon like effect. But dammit, I'm tired of wanting chocolate all the time!

Ok, so I ignore myself, cool, sounds good, solid advice. But now what? I’m not sure what I should use to guide my attention then? (Outside of my main responsibilities obviously)

Yeah, but is it such a bad thing? Why wouldnt I want to just do whatever made me happy, because my heart said so? Why wouldnt I want to be impulsive?

Isn't this just...dissociation? Then i guess I'm doing alright. I ignore myself all the time. Sometimes i don't drink water, eat, or shower. Sometimes i blink and the day has passed me by. Sometimes i over eat. I eat without thinking until i throw up. I ignore the self harm i do to myself when ever I'm stressed. I don't realize i hurt myself until im cooking and i feel spices touch a raw spot. Sometimes I'm reading, playing video games or watching videos and don't realize how much time has passed until it's super late and I've held my pee in until my bladder hurts. And then i get stressed about the things I should've done and i end up eating shitty food to cope or stay up all night numbingly watching videos again 😂 I ignore my sleep deprivation until i passed out at work...I don't think ignoring yourself is good advice. I'm on the verge of quitting therapy man. They say the same shit with no real way of getting results. Pay over $100 per session. What a fucking scam.

I think I have stumbled into a cheap version of this due to ADHD, I've learned to be able to ignore impulses for long periods of time due to wanting to continue my activity or whatever I'm doing, laziness maybe?

Ignore your impulses, even with food. *Proceeds to show the juiciest fluffy pink donut on gods green earth* Aw man...

Wait, is that why I don't get cravings for fast foods? Because i barely ever consume them so additives aren't entering my system. Whereas my sister cannot live without satisfying her cravings. My childhood friends almost went into a depression like state because she couldn't eat junk food during strikes (not the pandemic).

um, you shouldn’t give into impulses m, but “ignoring” them us super unhealthy. they must be acknowledged. repression and denial is very unhealthy. it also doesn’t work.

Not to be a contrarian to what he's saying, but I used the Samsung Health app to heavily track my exercise, diet, water intake, sleep, etc, and I learned a lot about myself. My phone (with the app) became like a best friend who knows me well. I've lost the weight that was killing me and I'm able to dance around and enjoy music again.

That's why I never eat fast food, quit years ago and never going back. They put sugar in literally everything (at least in the USA) so it makes you crave it and want to keep going back there.

Ignoring yourself is not healthy. Ask any tradwife that gets discarded midlife. Mindfulness and awareness is what he's actually talking about where you observe yourself and understand your emotions and make decisions with awareness, not impulses.

AKA self-control. Or as it would’ve been referred to back when the stoics and yogis figured it out - mastering yourself.

GG Paychologist, the first step is to know oneself. To be able to discern oneself from what is and isn't. Assuming the role of a detached observer effectively allows for clarity that by itself helps with self regulation, and surely emotional regulation. Anyway... To wrongly ignore elements that are not ourselves means to become blind to the purpose of this practice/philosophy in the first place. Like it is mentioned, to identify triggers, impulsive urges, stimulants that elicit responses, manipulation or projections of others that is coercive and compelling, and other elements of influence that one would be susceptible to. Ignoring what essentially we seek to identify would be an exercise in vain. Learning and settling into oneself will automatically help your mind to learn how to shield itself from sources external manipulation, which I think is what this video is trying to get at. How to be anchored and stable in your reality and self identity. Cheers.🎉

Oh shiiiit I used to do this all the time. I thought it was keeping me from loving/appreciating myself enough so I guess I stopped doing it entirely. And now getting myself to do anything is a massive pain… damn, reacquiring that skill is gonna sUUCK!

I'm a natural Stoic. Thats how i delt with a severely imbalanced abusive mother growing up..and i came to discover i had actually taught myself stoicism at a very very young age.

I learned this about two months ago, at the age of 22. I feel proud of myself because I finally have control over my life: I stopped smoking weed and playing games all day so I'm no longer ruining my brain and potential, I started writing again because that's my only talent and the only thing I'm good at. Nevertheless I still feel stupid; when the "post nut clarity" reached me I realize that a lot of people develop the ability to ignore and control unhealthy impulses by the age of 18 when they get into university or even before. I'm at least four years behind my generation in that regard, I lost three years of university and barely managed to not get kicked out. Time flyes. The best advice I can give is to stop thinking in today's time, think what you want your future self to be like.

A lot of us have tried to stop overeating based on willpower alone. But as you have even stated in this video, most foods have chemicals, spices, or other addictive properties that make overeating more harmful. It’s not simply a case of mindset when your body is physically being altered on a daily basis. You can have a strong mind, but if you have a weak body, you will always give into your body’s cravings. But I do agree that at

instruction unclear: I'm now completely detached from reality, even when I'm hungry I don't care anymore.

This is only partly true. I wouldn't recommend ignoring a lot of your body's and mind's signals a lot, because they send it for a reason. That is how burn-outs happen, because people ignore the signals their bodies give.

As a person with ADHD, this is SO HARD but sadly, the hardest things in life are the most necessary to practice if you truly want to experience the freedom offered by discipline :/

Another example of advice that is not universal. Some people are ignoring their impulses habitually and this translates to lack of Intuition for your own needs. Especially people with a background of neglect do this and they end up sick and burned out

I don't think i have ever really had this problem. And, whenever i notice I'm going towards it, i just go outside walk up to one of the nearby mountains, and clear my head. Is it really that easy for people to get addicted to things?

It’s not fulfilling in the moment, but it’s actually a euphoric feeling to successfully resist temptation for something that looking back, would have been really bad if you indulged in.

I thought social was about adjusting your perspective..,

"Just" start ignoring yourself. It's like Dr. K has become the target of his own irony with these technology fearmongering tantrums.

I don’t know ignore is the right framing. Feeling fully and responding consciously feels better.