Go to club: Spend $300, get rejected by every girl, get into fight with random guy, get hit on by gays. Stay home: Eat and sleep. Oh i wonder why people perfer this.
yeah clubs are dying becuase women dont put out anymore. Guysare the ones that spend in the club and thye usually spend more on themsleves to get drunk and on women to fuck. If they arent getting attention from women they just dont go and then the women stop going as much aswell becuase they dont get the validation from guys looking at them.
Clubbing can be disappointing, but I'll be damned if it's not 100x more exciting than just eating and sleeping. Why not live a bit, instead of just existing?
This is sort of predictable. With the advent of PCs, indoor entertainment is so prevalent that you don't really need to go out. We use to go to picnics, dances, social events organised by local community. Then with the car, teenagers had access to cars, so it was hamburger joints, cruising streets, shopping malls, cinema's, arcades. We then progressed to night clubs, roller rings, bowling clubs and pubs. With PCs and Consoles nerds didn't want the stress of socialising, and then the internet where we can game with other people and gaming popularity normalised nerds, and no one can be bothered to go out.
Y'all old heads always think all of Gen z like myself are just mindless zombies that are glued to our phones, we dance drink smoke and barley use are phones when we are out
@@christianr1941 drinking and smoking is not a flex my guy. Feeling the need to drink and smoke while going out is actually one of the best examples of "mindless zombie" behaviour. 🤣
@@JulianAguilar-gc2vxthere’s a difference between hanging out with friends and clubbing and partying. Just because he prefers the former doesn’t mean he doesn’t socialize lol.
Yeah I agree. Kind of wishing there were libraries open late at night. I love dancing to Drum And Bass music at the club though. I wonder what else there is to do at night. One could probably play sports with friends at night, fields are always lit up with lights.
you are missing the point. "they" as in the people concerned with this story. Are only worried about the economic impact. You going to your friends house so you can watch a movie, doesn't give them any money. All these clubs and bars were built off of getting women to trick men into overpaying for drinks in the hope that they will be drunk enough to sleep with them anyway...it's a disgusting scenario. I actually sing in a band at bars, we just had our latest gig canceled because the bar decided to close, not enough business.
Brett didn't talk about biggest factor: 80-90% of clubs' paying customers are men who's looking to meet women, but in today's generation most people meet online.
@madams989 the problem with dating online is you don't know what you're getting into. The person could be one thing online, and something completely different in real life.
Expensive FOR MEN. Men subsidize night life. Men spend money to get into clubs where whymen go for free. In addition, despite whymen's salaries increasing and sometimes outpacing men, they STILL get in for free. Simultaneously, many of these same whymen have been increasing their standards and going for men FAR outside their league. In conclusion, you end up with men paying for whymen to go to clubs and chase the top 10% of men. And then the rest of the men that paid to get in go home empty-handed. Thankfully, most of them are waking up and saying "no more."
I've been use to staying home my whole life lol, now I just have a laptop to entertain myself instead of staring at the wall. It just feels like once you turn 30 all there to do is work save money and watch random youtube, shows, movies and game when the burnout wears out
It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to socialize though, liquor/BYOB and some board games and you’re set for a few fun nights with friends. And you don’t even neeeed alcohol. People just don’t have social skills anymore
@@brianboye8025 Difference is, at the time there was class, theres was a social spirit. Nowadays kids either do hard drugs, have sex like crazy with people they dont even know, or just straight up harass others for no fucking reason
@@tjrex9458 they all started to become trendy and cool before gen z were ever born...blame that generation of idiots who made this miserable world for gen z
im 32 i never went out, i was a loser in school never had any friends so i just got into video games and painting at home continues in my 30's but i enjoy it honestly
There are so many people who have no friends or very few, but I feel like a lot of them are hesitant to make new ones. I'm not even sure how to start being friends, and if it would be weird to ask someone to hang out because nobody has asked me in years and people do that thing where they'll "be nice" and say, "We should get together sometime," but never make an effort to do so.
@@Deehydrateit's a cycle. He doesn't know anyone, so he hangs out at home. Because he hangs out at home, he doesn't meet anyone. It sucks going places alone, and it's super expensive now. Can't blame him.
I'm the same I'm gen x and I got that stuff all out of my system by my early to mid 20's although I do get together with my brother 2 or 3 times a month for dinner and a movie on Friday nights.
As someone living in CA, I feel increasingly like existing is illegal. I have been stopped by the police for hanging out with my friends in my parked car because it was "suspicious". I have been stopped by the police for leaving the movie theater at midnight because being out at midnight is suspicious. I have been stopped by the police for drunkenly waiting on the sidewalk for an Uber to pick me up for the bar because they thought I was going to attempt to drive. All of this makes it feel unsafe to go out and live life. I am 25 and I have been stopped by the police 16 times in my adult life. Not ticketed or arrested because I was not doing anything wrong, but it definitely makes me want to just stay home where I feel safer.
Maybe look in the mirror I'm not saying your doing anything wrong but you gotta be doing something eye catching or wearing something idk but respectfully it seems like your the common denominator
My kids are highschoolers .. there are no places for them to go & hang. Malls are not the place, arcades are no longer a thing or cheap. The other day, they decided to meet at Pinstack and they couldn't afford it. Food was like $30 a person! For stupid pizza & a coke! Unlike the generation before, they elite have taken everything from us. Movies, games, pizza hut, stores for teens, clothes, everything is gone
Throughout my teen years it was hard to find stylish clothes that were affordable and appropriate for my age. After quarantine (I'm still a teenager), it was also (and still is) hard to plan outings with friends. Not a lot of fun, safe and affordable places for teens to go to.
@@neuroleptikaAnime is not a subculture? Wokeness? Redditors, Steam gamers, metal heads, DnDers, Nerds? All those could be concidered a subculture. Of course its not the same thing as punks and hippies, its not the 70s anymore. And no one complains that the dandy is not a thing anymore. Why? Bc it is to old a social group so no one remembers, so no nostalgia.
Is there a game store in your town. How about the youth group at a church? Scouts have groups for older teenagers. It just takes enough people to go once or twice that it will become habit. Also, when I was in high school we did a lot of walking around the town and hanging out outdoors. Basketball courts/tennis courts are free. In the winter, it is tougher, but you can still go spend $5 on a coffee and cookie at a coffee shop and chill for a while.
Hello young folks, millennial here. I applaud y’all tbh. I have SOOOOOO many friends in their late 20s/early 30s who still party like they’re 21. It gets old very quick and a lot of my friend’s whole personality is still partying and clubbing. Good for y’all to appreciate the quality of other things in life.
I feel like I tried it all. Managed to develop a real bad habit at one point where I felt a real urge to have a drink at all times. It kind of worked while I was in university, but I knew it wasn't gonna last. Now I'm turning 30 and have been totally sober for a whole year just because I wanted to try being sober. Will probably get back to drinking, but moderately and definitively not by myself, because I have an addictive personality and no self-control when I'm by myself. So right now I'm just raw dogging life; sleep, work, eat, gym, repeat and with no clue how to make new friends with better habits. It's peaceful and quiet, but I'll admit it's a bit too quiet.
Got to agree with you in the same boat. I have a baby now with a beautiful family and I am 33. I ahve friends who are same age doing nothing but same thing of going out and doing the same shit
It's ironic, the people who is complaining about the birth rate going down supports abortion and homosexuality. And they're wondering why we're not repopulating as a nation.🤔
Going out SUCKS. It's too loud. It's too late. I'm tired from working all day. The people are shallow and one dimensional. Everyone is just there trying to get laid. You're not going to meet anyone special or have a significant spark like all the movies try to make it appear. It's just not fun, and I always sat around thinking I'd much rather be at home.
it really depends on what you consider "going out" means i tried clubbing and just like you, didn't really enjoy it unless i was drunk (which isn't good for me) but going out with friends can also mean going to a restaurant, going to the cinema, having a picnic in a park... there are so many options beside the club
Hi, I feel you. Most of the time, I do not enjoy going out too, and I do, quite excessively, think: "Gee, I'd much rather be at home." (like you said). But there are a few occasions, that I enjoy the escape of going out with my friends. I don't have a lot of friends; really just two people I enjoy being around. And It doesn't have to be for places to spend money- just long walks, shopping (but not buying anything, just going around) and parks. And it's nicer than nothing. I guess what I am trying to say is find the people you're feeling comfortable with and be comfortable with them outside too.
It’s not just clubs, it’s outside period. I recently got asked “If someone from the 80s suddenly got transported to the modern age, what would surprise them the most?” Thinking about it, I realized…it’s the lack of people outside.
"If someone from the 80s suddenly got transported to the modern age..." - you mean like every person over 50? Try talking to some of us older folks who grew up in the pre-internet era, you might learn a bit of history. We were the generation that got sent to our rooms as a punishment, whose parents tossed us out of the house on the weekends while saying "I don't want to see you until dinnertime". It was a different world.
I would have said: _the number of young people who live alone instead of with roommates._ I'm sure some people still have roommates, but it seems a lot more common now for single people who aren't in a relationship to live by themselves in a one-bedroom apartment or studio. When I was in my 20s nobody could afford their own apartment; the thing was to rent a house with five or six other people, and turn every room that wasn't the kitchen, the living room or a bathroom into a bedroom. We did go out more, probably because rent was lower, but even if you stayed home the only way to be alone was to go into your bedroom and close the door. I don't know though, maybe that was just a product of where I was living then.
@@Raskolnikov70 It wasn't a perfect world then either, but we tended to socialize a lot more because there was just not a lot worth doing by yourself inside in those days. Outside of a few prime time series, there wasn't much worth watching on TV. Video games were primitive and there was always reading if you were into that, but in general if the weather wasn't hideous, you got outside with friends. Or even just acquaintances.
Nothing is cheap anymore. Brunch? $15. Lunch? $20. Coffee? $10. Parking fees at my 'free' public park are $5. Yeah, by themselves these don't look like much, but add that up across a month. Going to do something fun outside the house a few times a week? MINIMUM $300. I got bills to pay.
The lockdowns of covid made me realize I don't like being around others, I found that a life of solitude is more my speed. They told us not to leave the house and they're now confused why we don't go out more? I was 21 when the lockdowns happened and was looking forward to going out with my friends and having fun with them. When it was over, I no longer desired to hang out or connect with friends, it's like the social side of me died during lockdowns. Why is it wrong for us to want time alone if we spend our days working full-time and staying productive?
@@fellowhuman7085 yes i feel for Gen z for that, my 16-20 were about learning how to go out dancing without caring what otjer people tought and meet lot of people
I'm GenX and let me tell you about the "evolution" of a local watering hole down near the beach where I live. I went there a lot in the late 90s and early 2000s. It was perfect for young people and students. It was large, indoor/outdoor, pool tables, and it was cheap. Sure, the carpet was worn out and they had plastic chairs and taped up barstools. But, as I said, it was cheap! Domestic beers were $2, pitchers were $5. If you went on a Taco Tuesday, you could literally cover your whole night, including dinner, for $20. The place was packed and it was a great place to meet girls. Fast forward to the 2020s and they completely overhauled the place. Fancy furniture, fancy lighting, bespoked bar. And now it was $8-$12 for a "craft beer", $14 -$17 cocktails, $50 shots of reserve Taquila, food became expensive, VIP bottle service....you get the idea. So now it is not a great place for broke college students. Young people see all this wealth and bling on TV reality shows and social media and they want that. It was no longer cool to hang out at my old dive. But now they can't afford it at all. Catch 22.
That is saddening. Sometimes there are local non profit initiatives to bring youngsters together, taking advantage of places with little or no rent thanks to a generous owner or local charity or government. And they will have board games and affordable beer. You can things like that on meetup. Or create them...
GenX here, 1973. We were poor (even if our parents were not) and a lot of us collected coke bottles, mowed lawns, and babysat while we waited to get old enough for a work permit, which in my state issued work permits through the school and if your grades were low they could take it away. We were so proud of that pair of name brand jeans and polished our first heap. We were expected to support ourselves through college and move out upon graduation. All those things instilled confidence that we could survive on or own. My kids didn't get any of those opportunities. People wouldn't hire kids from the neighborhood because of homeowners insurance. They didn't get that first car because of car insurance for teenagers was too expensive. Schools got rid of dodge ball and shop classes for fear of being sued. We neutered an entire generation and made them indoor cats and now we wonder where our grandchildren are.
Where are we supposed to go out? Bars/clubs $20-$50. Movies $15-50. Amusement park $65-$100. Bowling ally $20-$30. All my friends live far away or are more broke than me. I have virtual classes (involuntarily). Malls are just terrible now, plus I can't afford to buy anything anyways. Arcades don't exist anymore. I get paid $18 an hour, which by today's standards is actually decent, but I can *maybe* afford to go out twice a month? Seems like a waste though, my rent will probably go up next year again and I'll be kicked out.
It’s so frustrating. My husband and I combined make around $83k a year and we don’t make enough money to take our kids to the movies, amusement parks, etc. because we somehow don’t qualify for a mortgage payment of $1100 dollars a month but instead have to pay $1700 a month for a two bedroom apartment. Luckily my parents live close by and they graciously pay for all of us when we go out to eat or take a vacation with them. If it wasn’t for that, we would have enough money for our bills and that’s it.
BYOB events in small towns Spend $20-30 split with your buddies and get absolutely shitfaced and have a great night with all of your buddies Or get the same amount of drunk with weird vibes in a big city spending $300 or more dollars
@@UltimatePowa billards halls are pretty fun too and affordable, 10-12$ for a few hours where I am at, but for some reason non of my friends want to play with me:/
You get roommates. Split at 4 bedroom house for 3000 a month. Your share is 750. Leaves you with 1650. You probably take home 2400 a month on 40 hrs/week after tax. 700 on food. 80 on cell phone. Now you still have 870. As long as your transportation costs are low and you don’t have high student loans, it’s doable.
My neighborhood Facebook group is full of Karens posting that OH NO - teenagers are walking around! Teenagers and kids are walking around the neighborhood they live in at 7pm! The horror! What would you rather have them do? Sit inside and scroll? They aren’t causing any problems, just walking and talking with friends or throwing a football. There’s something to be said about the effects of not allowing kids or teenagers to play and hang out outside.
Kids should be outside, playing, exploring, working, etc. so dumb that people would complain about that. I was rarely ever indoors as a kid. Only after dark.
sush a dumb note your talking about less then 1% of people and leaving it like this is any majority. Karens indeed are fked people noone likes them regardless of age.
They complained back then too. The only difference is staying inside the home used to be BORING so kids running around outside was considered 'normal'. However, you still had these Karens seeing any kid doing this as 'troublemakers'.
Hello, Gen Z here. My immediate thoughts are $10 for a drink at the bar, $25 for a movie ticket, $20 to grab a bite to eat with friends, Amazon makes buying things way easier than the mall. Why would I do any of those things when I could be safe at home, watching movies on Netflix or other subscription service, make food at home, and buy things from my phone which then gets shipped to my home. I can do everything from the safety and comfort of home for significantly cheaper.
@@IsaiahMiguel for people who use thier brain and evolve with time...this is simple...he gave u every reason and all u have is this quote that don't make any sense anymore...who told u his life is miserable he could be much happier than u ever were
@@IsaiahMiguel im Gen Z as well and tbh it is miserable sometimes, I love going out with friends, love shopping in actual shops but it is so much more expensive to go and do things outside of your own home, it got to the point that I have a bar in my pretty small living room just to still be able to have friends around and afford having drinks together at a bar, and my GF's family are doing the same thing now too! I personally work 2 jobs and I still cannot afford anything, it can cost up to £200 to go out clubbing (drinks, entry fee, taxi's home) which is why we only do it on special occasions. to go out shopping we literally just find something we like and will look on vinted, eBay or Amazon just to get it cheap and the difference is usually very significant. So its crappy that we cant go out due to cost, but bc as humans we are naturally social we've started coming up with alternative to be able to still go out and see each other which unfortunately just hurt local/small business' but we have no other choice if we want to buy things, not even nice things just things.
I went for my first time at age 28. Well it was more of a Bar/night club. The basement was the club area. Holy shit I had the biddies just grinding on me! Haha it was actually pretty fun. Every dude there looked like an NPC and I was just walking around with a smile, going up to all sorts of girls chatting with them and just making their night. Remember kings, no girl is going to come up to you. It's up to you to make that move., unless you're on semen retention like me, then you'll have chicks coming up to you asking you to put your number in their phone.
@@mknight6556 never heard of semen retention but I do know old fashion bars and clubs deff work in this day and age where nobody knows how to communicate off line. If you have some social game I’d argue and say it’s easy to meet girls out these days and make guy friends if you want. Male/straight/30 my experience.
@@StinkyGringo And here we have an old person who has to act like a snob towards younger people. Instead of repeating this tired cycle understand that trends and people’s interest change over time
@@StinkyGringo it has nothing to do with laziness, I’m just naturally a introvert. It also costs money that I’m not willing to spend, and I’d rather relax at home after a hard week of school and work
There is no freedom when one is independent.... You are actually being even more controlled by bills that need to be paid, you have a reputation to hold (for yourself, but still), a job to keep, and more responsibilities to uphold..... So now that this generation has a choice to stay home with their parents or be independent..... Who wouldn't say no to staying home?
Lol a bit hypocritical. It’s simple why people aren’t clubbing. Why would you want to be spiked, beaten up and harassed in an environment that is supposed to be fun. There’s now awareness how dangerous and vulnerable those places are. I have never found clubbing that interesting there are literally better ways to spend your time than getting drunk. Yes screen time has its own effects but as a GEN-Z I can say my friends and I are very social and spend time with one another. And who the hell can afford to go out and drive… WE CANT GET JOBS. Even applying to McDonald’s is getting crazy and getting rejected. I am sorry but Brett is in a better position than most of us, her job is literally a social commentator and she had the luxury of having parents who valued her education and life some of us do not have that luxury.
It makes no sense. How is it concerning that we don't want to party? Oh no, no alcohol poisening, cancer and deadness, what ever will we do?? Her arguement for her claim is simply: i don't believe they do it for the right reasons and i don't believe they do crafts. But this is exactly why i don't do it. My personal reasons are that i have known a woman who died from smoking, i hate clubbing, i hate the smell of cigarettes, the feeling of being drunk and i hate the music they play. I have done it and its so not worth it. Also what is wrong with embroiderie? And sewing and hiking? All things i love to do and you can do them with a friend on the couch while you watch a movie or have a conversation.
She's working under a mainstream news outlet. She'll say anything to get clicks as long as it's within the "I don't belong in this generation" aesthetic. 7:00 lmao, case in point, promoting a service that further incentivizes people to stay indoors. She has no actual moral grounds being displayed on her videos.
I’m 23 and honestly clubbing just doesn’t sound fun, blaring music and a bunch of sweaty drunk people. I’d rather stay home with my wife or have friends over to my house to play board games or go to the park with them for outdoor games.
I understand where you're coming from. I grew up in the 1960s and got married in 1970 at age 21 with an engineering degree. We didn't go out clubbing because we couldn't afford it and we'd been brought up to be sensible and responsible. I've had 54 years to think about whether or not we did the right thing. I've had moments when I thought that my image needed me to be a "bad boy", but I'm glad I never succumbed to the temptation to appear "cool". We cooked together and had better meals than we could get at clubs or even most restaurants. We spent a lot of time getting to know each other really well. I'll never regret that. Do I think that my life would have been better if I'd spent more time frying my brain and paying for club owners to buy the latest Ferrari? No. I think that my mind is still fairly sound and we're financially free.
20 year old kid here. What is so bad about saving money by not going out? We can barely afford to live at home. Besides everything there is to do outside of your home requires a paycheck. For me personally, I've been introverted my whole life. I don't like parties, I don't like any kind of social gathering or interactions. If I do leave my house, it is only for work, appointments, or something I need to get for my house or me. Edit: I forgot to mention I refuse to get my drivers license mainly because everything is within walking distance of my house and if it isn't I have a bicycle.
There's a bare minimum of contact every human needs but you will not get it out of some stupid club. Find things that interest you and that can bring you into touch with people sharing that passion.
That's unfortunate, humans are supposed to be social. I'm 50 and I used to be an introvert. I'm so glad I got over my insecurities and became extroverted.
I'm so similar to you man. From my perspective, spending money or my time with meaningless things , like night clubs or something else like that, at least for me, isn't a good business. It just my opinion.
As an early 30s millennial, I rarely go out either because life outside is expensive and I can barely even afford to live at all. However, I have noticed how Gen Z doesn’t like to go out. Most of my coworkers are guys in their early 20s and they never go out. They have no interest. I even invited two of them out to a bar with other coworkers and they never showed up and said that we went “too late”. It was 8:30 p.m. They would rather be at home playing video games (which I understand because I also do that).
Going out can be terrible but one can learn to enjoy themselves out at bars, clubs, pool tables. It is important to get out there and sharpen your social sword. Ideally the best place to be is a music festival as there are no cops and security guards keeping you safe.
Ok, but 8:30 is kinda late though, especially on a week day. I'm usually in bed by 9:30 to get up before my shift the next day, and my body is used to it so even on weekends I run out of steam by 10.
As a 21 year old guy I can’t stand being at home by myself. I’d rather be with my girlfriend or out doing something. I used to play video games a lot but now they bore me. I mainly work, spend time with my gf, spend time with friends and family.
i’ve seen conversations about people not liking bars and clubs bc of how often strangers record random people to put them on blast online for looking cringe. i think it’s not a major factor but it’s definitely something a lot of people consider. even if we went out people would be too nervous to go actually dance everyone would be huddled together talking and gawking
Clubs before lockdown crowded too many people into the building. Just to make more money. It was not enjoyable. Just makes you stands shoulder to shoulder with others and listening to loud ok music. I rather go to concerts. At least the experience is better.
reasons not to go to a bar: 1. it's expensive 2. you could end up in a fight with a drunk 3. the women are going to pretend to be interested in you so you buy things for them and then ignore you when they see something better. 4. it's loud and uncomfortable 5. you could be filmed being shot down and then go viral for it, like that guy who went in for a kiss and the girl juked out of the way and he ended up just leaning over a balcony, millions of people saw that. the poor guy. Reasons to go to a bar: ...
There is no extra charge on alcohol for Gen Z. Everyone gets charged the same unless you’re a woman and a guy buys you a drink, but that’s always been the case. You don’t get a discount for being from an older generation.
@@johnmartin4641 There's an "extra charge" for everybody on alcohol, and everything else, after years of inflation. Look at the average wages in the 80's and 90's versus the prices, people could afford to rent a place and still go out socially. Even if you were scraping change out of the couch, there were always drink specials or cheap stuff to do like dollar theaters.
@@Raskolnikov70 the video is about Gen Z specifically compared to other generations in regards to their social habits though. It’s clearly not a price issue considering everyone is charged the same price like you just said considering other generations still go out despite being charged the same price.
I'm a "middle of the pack" millennial, born in the early 90's. I got my first job at 14 and my drivers license at 16. I have 3 siblings that are Gen Z, and this video is absolutely true. Among other things, my Gen Z siblings did not get their drivers licenses until about a year after they had graduated from high school, and with one of them the only reason she got it was because I took on the responsibility of being her drivers ed teacher. I've always considered Gen Z to have gone though "stunted growth" compared to what Millennial's and previous generations have gone though. Gen Z's parents have really failed them.
I can't even find a job. I'm 20 and I've been applying since I was 18. Haven't gotten a single interview and I haven't even heard back from any place I apply to. I have no job experience and can't get any if no one gives me a chance. And when my friends ask me to go out I always have to say no because I can't afford a single thing. Everything is too expensive. I feel trapped.
From my experience you need to have friends working there to land a job. Sad but true. Not about what you know but who I guess. Probably why the unemployment rate is 3x higher for autistics than any other disability group.
-You appear to be deliberately overlooking the fact that you're a cat. A cute little kitten, admittedly, but hey. Back when the internet was starting up, I was a chimpanzee. A chimpanzee with glasses, smoking a Marlboro and wearing an adventure hat.
How does one reach 18 with no work experience? I started working at 8. Had my first “official” job at a restaurant at 14. Why aren’t parents requiring kids to start working at a reasonable age?
I wouldn’t want my sons going to clubs. They’re gigantic holes of nothingness - empty, meaningless noise, bottles of booze that never deliver what they promise, loose women who dress like skanks and break hearts, and drugs like fentanyl with lethal consequences. Believe it or not there was a time in our history “clubs” didn’t exist. And somehow, young men and women still met, fell in love and got married. I fail to see the downside of GZ avoiding them.
Yep I'm 19 and I got dragged along to a club once, it was awful. Just crappy electronic music and a bunch of people getting drunk and touching each other. It's hard to find a place where people want to meet others but don't want... that - especially since I live in Sydney, and nightlife is pretty dead here due to lockout laws.
Yeah, we didn't have clubs during most of human history, but even back in those times people had communal areas, village halls and public houses where most people spent their free time getting drunk, dancing, eating and generally trying to have fun with other people. Also, contrary to what people raised in barrels seem to often think, people have always done drugs and alcohol, gone to whores and had their hearts broken by loose women and men in an attempt to have some fun and build social relations. If people 10,000 years ago had the same antisocial attitude you do now, human race wouldn't be here.
i feel this with life in general. when i was a child i was so curious and wanted to do so many things but kept getting rejected by my parents so eventually my curiosity for the world began to die and got replaced with video games instead. which i'm now convinced slowly kills your spirit and stunts your natural growth which is so important
time is not infinite. it's not stunting your natural growth and killing your spirit. it's just taking up time you could be using to do other things. I do love how your video game "addiction" is your parents fault though. I grew up with video games from the time I was 10 and i'm in my 40's now...I have a house and a career and at this point video games mostly don't appeal to me, I go weeks without playing frequently, even though I used to play games for 8 to 10 hours per day. It just naturally tapered off over time until one day I realized, I hadn't played a video game in weeks. That's what happens when you start accepting responsibilities into your life. It's not that your addicted to video games, it's that you are averse to growing up. You can shut it off and start making progress at any time you want. You aren't going to go through withdrawal, your going to be a little bored at first, until you start accomplishing goals then you will realize that's all the game was doing for you anyway, giving you an easy sense of accomplishment.
@@TheNitroG1facts I used to play video games a lot and then I became an adult and started working and spending time with my girlfriend now I hardly play video games at all. I get bored of them very quickly to where I’m just sitting there like what’s the point of this? Unless I’m playing with friends.
I keep seeing this about gen z not doing all these things like clubbing. I’m gen z and I know a lot of people my age who go out and do that kind of stuff. Only people with friends and social interaction know this is nowhere near as bad as the internet makes it seem
I am a statistical anamoly. 22 years old never had a boyfriend, never kissed a boy or even went to a party lol. Never understood the club culture or the drinking. I guess everyone else is thinking like that. 😂
Outside where? Everything is pavement and asphalt. When I was a kid, we had places to gather and play. Loads of benches and swings in front of every apartment building. There was a little shed where my grandpa played chess or poker with his friends. My friends and I were hanging out on the swings or in the sand pit. My grandma gossiping with the other grandmas on the benches in front of the building. Now it's all gone and replaced with roads...
@@albihysenaj5997I can't lie and say I'm not. I know I got to work on getting out more, but even if I was going out like that, I still wouldn't care about stuff like clubbing
@@albihysenaj5997 both are bad but at least video games can be very cheap if not free means of socializing with friends, all clubs do is drain all your money and turn you into a drunk
@@carlischreiber3852 It is so bad right now the incel stuff is so annoying and sad online they constantly bully and call us young men incel and dumb every chance they get when it comes to criticizing women or older men For being total assholes and cruel to us young men.
@@carlischreiber3852 About 5 years ago, my mom told me that when she was pregnant with me, she wanted me to be a boy, so I wouldn't have to go through the hardship of growing up as a woman in modern society. Now I've grown up as a boy envying not being born a girl instead, ironic.
Brett all I wanna do is go out, I feel stuck inside. Not clubbing, by any means, but casual meet ups and such. But my friends aren’t my friends, and everything is expensive.
26, the groups ive been apart of all had rough starts because their parents didn't do any self discovery before having kids at ridiculously young ages. Majority of issues came from never reading a parenting book and winging it every step of the way.
Parenting in this country needs to be improved, require prospective parents to take mandatory classes on parenting and relationship communication Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child
I'm 23. Unless my friends and I go out to see an anticipated movie or a nice fair nearby, I would much rather hang out with everyone at a house, play poker/card games, and watch some memery. Going out to a bar is fun occasionally, but it can just be chaotic and expensive (same thing for going out to eat). Why spend so much $ to have an average time when you can spend little to no $ and have a blast with the homies? Plus, you get more of an opportunity to talk with one another in a home environment.
Yeah even though the economy was much better when I was your age, I was still usually broke. Me and my friends would just chill at one of our homes too. Now with a bad economy it makes even more sense. At least you guys have streaming videos and games etc now. We only had Sega Genesis and VHS tapes 📼😂 God I'm old
This was back in the Long Ago, but us hippies were kind of forced to choose home parties, canyon keggers and park parties. It was way better for conversation and actually getting to know people, we had lots of illegal substances and the music was way better than the local bands or expensive touring groups. I guess in SF and LA and NY they actually had clubs that catered to people like us but most places we just interacted at our own "events". I have to say, sexually, socially or in terms of pure physical "buzz", got zero regrets.
That’s when you have friends to hang out with. I have a very few friends and would love to go out to meet new people. But nothing is ever happening anymore. No parties, bars are empty or there are people just above 18 yo or over 40. I’m 27 and people my age have disappeared.
@@l.jvd1 That’s a fair point too and I’m sorry to hear this. If you’re looking for a community, a church may serve you well as a starting place. Or, the mall/movies.
27 No clubs around me for like three hours. Only biker bars so if we talking about bars and talking with lots of boomers then I'm your man. The only place I've seen young people gather here is a game building that only has pool which is cool, no drinks are allowed no food just pure pool.
Gen Z saw our mistakes and they're just doing everything right the first time, without wasting years making needless, unproductive mistakes. They're getting ahead of their physical and mental health, skipping clubs and unnecessary student debt, less interested in alcohol, and less interested in hookup culture. I respect it immensely. They really are our future.
I live in South Africa,growing up I wanted that lifestyle of patying,now being 22 and living alone I just don't understand why would people subject themselves to such,I mean the level of praising alcohol,clubbing,and stupidity in this country is insane,that's what motivates me to just stay home I'd rather bake,cook,jog,listen to podcasts,call family members and see friends and family every now and then rather than spend my time on things that are worthless
Girl I'm 27 and I live in South Africa too - there is no place in a 50km radius that you can go listen to nice music, chat with your friends and be comfortable. Plus it's damn expensive and people get so stupid when they're drunk. You can miss me with that too 😂
I'm 32 and I still love to go out to dance. Dancing for me is a type of liberation, stress release and a really nice way to meet new people. Here in Colombia we love to dance a lot and we never stop. 😊😊
I wish there were places other than clubs to go dancing at in America
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@@mackenzie305 when you say America, I think about the whole continent, but I get it. Here in Colombia we dance, not only on night clubs or dance accademies, but also we dance in family at christmas, or on new year's eve, or on mother's day, or simply in any place where "danceable" music is playing. We love to dance. 😅😅
My parents literally wouldn’t let me go outside without them because I could get kidnapped even tho I live somewhere with barely any crime. But they worked all the time I didn’t go outside that much. And now they ask me why I don’t want to go outside…like what the flip😭
It’s as young men and gen Z get no respect or love at all and it’s infuriating and we feel lost in society that doesn’t care for us. So we as young men need to make a stand I’m not going out to the dangerous world that doesn’t accept me I rather create a career digitally or on social media or online.
@@JLWprime10 I love how everyone thinks that being an "influencer" is viable. when in reality it's just the "sports superstar" "make it in hollywood" mentality carried over to a new generation. you are all pursuing something that a handful of you will be successful at. We can't have more than a handful be successful at it because it doesn't actually produce anything of value. "Look at what I'm eating." isn't going to get an apartment building built.
@@ceu160193 But you'd miss out on obnoxiously loud, really bad music and random disgusting drunks! How would you live? Listen to Brett and head to the club now!
Here are a few more reasons that is a contributing factor. 1. The merchandise in all stores nowadays are all the same. 2. Can't have a drink and be in public without trouble following or cops stopping you for being drunk in public when one is only trying to get home, no point to bars anymore. 3. No one is hosting any events worth going to anymore. For example, if you go to any parade, companies took over events like parades and filled them with advertisements.
So here is what else has pissed me off that NO ONE is talking about, young people, especially those still in their teens/early 20’s, are running out of things to do. Now I am in Arizona and I have noticed this slow progression through each city. Back in the day if u had no money u could pack a couple of water bottles and go on a nice hike on the many trails available, well in my little town, and I think flagstaff as well now, you can’t get to a trail and enjoy nature, because u have to pay for it. U either need to pay to get through a gate, or parking. Don’t forget that daddy government needs to make their money back from all the dept in this country so now anything that is land that is under government control they are gonna start charging u to enjoy. Back in the day young people used to be able to stroll the streets and enjoy the neighborhood. Now you walk the streets u get bothered by beggars and homeless people. Or someone wants to attack u just cuz they are in a mood. Or better yet people call the police because ur being suspicious. Back in the day young people could pack little sandwiches and water bottles and go enjoy a little picnic at the park. Now days every park has a kids play ground and when teens and young adult hang around there some crazy adult comes up to them telling them how they don’t belong there, this is a place for little kids and it’s creepy that teens and young adult want to hang around children. That there are plenty of other places that teens can’t enjoy. All the homeless and drug dealers are at skateparks, the only other free place for these young people to go to, but they don’t want to deal with that, not to mention that police are always there because of drug activity. Again I have no idea how bad it is in other states, but I’m sure that young people are also genuinely running out of places to hang out. OH YA not to mention that every business now gets so mad about “ loitering”. Even when I was a teen we used to just hang at places like McDonalds and some sort of shake places. Even if we weren’t buying things we would just hang there, use our quarters to listen to music, YOU CANT EVEN DO THAT ANYMORE 😭. I drive by where I used to hang as a teen and no one is ever there anymore.
Exactly! As a soon to be 46-year-old, growing up in the 1980s and 1990s, cinemas had good films, pop culture was fun, dance music was great, so great, you want to go to a dance club. Things were cheaper and more plenty We could've gone out and explore, play, go to the mall and make events. Best, crime was less, and everybody agreed to disagree. Now vagrants are everywhere, things are too expansive, entertainment is insipid, social media is a drug, towns and cities are now dead and boring, no one hardly goes out anymore (rising crime doesn't help) Weekends are now downright boring, and many are just too narcistic. I miss the 1980s and 1990s
@@markmunroe-hz8rf see and I was in high school from 2012-2015. I was already part of the generation that was being sheltered so there was no “living in middles school” and by the time I got to high school doing things like going out and bowling was stating to get so so expensive, even if u had a part time job, you could really only do it once a week, so us high schoolers RELIED on the free hikes and just “ loitering” in front of our fave fast food place because one friend might be able to order a shake. Like I understand so many’s argument about “it weird for young adult to be around children” but I also see how that argument is also taking the last free things these young people can do. Like I also agree that phones, social media, and video games is a big reason to blame why young people don’t go out anymore and are extremely anti social, but they also don’t exactly have a whole lot of options anymore!
We've become so reliant on technology but it's time we reprioritize real-life relationships and experiences. It's worrisome that our younger generation lacks exposure to some basic life skills and experiences due to the comfort of their screens.
Having a game night at home with friends and food sounds 100 times better than being in a loud, overcrowded room with drunk people. Clubbing is completely overrated... always has been.
Even back in the 90s, many of us preferred house parties, festivals, museums, bowling, etc. Anything is more fun than clubbing. Our house parties were simple-- board game night, movie night, maybe a small dinner party. Many of the house parties were open invite. That's how we met new people. Friends would invite friends. We'd through out open invites to go hiking at a state park or see play or visit an amusement park.
Why is this a bad thing? I'm 37 and they are living the life I lived for the last 15-20 years. What is out there in the world that would make it worth driving through traffic, dealing with the overall public and noise, spending ridiculous prices an overpriced activities? Nah. I'll stay home on my computer. If I seek socializing, I'll hop onto a social game and talk to friends that way through discord. People went out in the past because there was nothing else to do.
@@jmz2144 it can be at times. It's also peaceful and drama free. Just gotta find other activities that keep your mind occupied. For a while that was gaming for me. I'm too tired after work to go out even if I wanted to anyways. So I'm in a go home and nap in the couch with my cat while watching TV phase.
@@flyndutchmn existentialist fishing is my jazz man. listening no carl jung and descartes audiobook while I get me some 30-inch long trout is an epitome of life.
I believe Covid had a lot to do with this, as a parent with 2 young adults who were not permitted to socialise during a time when it would be the most important to do so, it is very sad as a parent to watch your children not to want to socialise. Australia especially where I live had very strict and long long lock downs.
I went clubbing with a friend recently. I don't like clubbing too much but I did it anyway because I was in a new place. I have lost hope in finding a wife in this generation after seeing the girls at the club.
Personally as a 21 y.o. Guy I love rotting at home crocheting, reading, cooking, or playing video games with my friends. But I also love going out and doing photography, hiking, exercise, trying new restaurants, and just enjoying the diversity of city life. Why should I go clubbing when alcohol has rarely appealed to me and I can do much more productive and enjoyable things? I only have just now gotten my drivers license, mostly due to the fact I lived overseas when I would be learning to drive as a 16 y.o. But even then my lovely parents balked at me getting one because insurance was expensive and they wouldn’t allow me the independence that a license offered. I have strict parents, and there are certain benefits to that. I have been raised with a strong faith and a drive to work hard. But my lack of autonomy is suffocating. I know people much younger than me who get to do many more independent things than what I can even do now and it can be frustrating. My parents wonder why my screen time is so high and why I text all the time, but the truth is I’ve moved so much that all my friends live elsewhere. I got to college in OH but live in FL. All my close friends are there. So of course I’m going to be online. It’s the only way to stay in touch.
I'm 29 and I still go out and have been going out every week this summer. I don't go to clubs that's for sure but I do go to comic-con's Rooftop lounges / bars and cocktail bars with nice house music DJs multiple floors the drinks are pricey but that's what you get when you want something elegant and fancy but also feeling good. The lounges and bars I go to in Chicago are free entrance before midnight. Big loud clubs has been harder to meet people and yes I have been lucky thank the Lord that I have had one night stands while I still go out. You got to know how to dress and style yourself and approach people with friends it's an art to that actually❤
I'm 40, and I succesfully avoided clubing in my 20s, best decition ever, you can socialice anywhere you want, instead of paying overprice liquour and losing hearing impairment
When I was young adult, a woman who was introverted enough not to want to go out ended up having the house everyone came to just chill. She was very adamant that she didn't host parties because parties require hosting. She just had "gatherings". We played a lot of boardgames & watched a lot of movies at her house, because she didn't go out.
recently on my neighborhood facebook page, there was a select group of adult women complaining about teenage boys riding their bikes through the grass of the parks in our neighborhood. they complained that it was “ruining the grass” and that parents should “control their children”.. it’s absurd. they are outside!! they are having fun!! they more getting the social interaction and healthy stimulation they desperately need!! ultimately, they got talked down and dropped the “issue”.. let kids be kids.
As a young person who always wanted to get her drivers liscence but couldn’t do to visual impairment, it never ceases to baffle me how so many in my generation voluntarily live with the inconvenience. Not being able to drive sucks
I don't have a license because I don't need it, it's expensive to get one and get a car and maintain a car. I just use public transportation, it's cheaper, and fast if you use the subway.
Yeah I had a seizure and I'm technically not allowed to drive for 6 months. I waited one month. It was terrible. I felt like a burden on everyone. You cannot participate in society without cars. I can't walk anywhere and there is no public transportation. Even if they added a bus in front my house it woukd still be too impractical thanks to the sprawl. I'm still not suppose to be driving but I don't care. I need to move on with my life. I guess those that aren't driving live in areas where it's easier not to drive and maybe work at home. This isn't Europe or Asia with walkable areas typically.
It’s wild how America is so car centric, I don’t live in the US and have my drivers license, I use my car maybe once or twice a month. It’s just not needed where I am for most daily tasks
34 year old male in Illinois here. Never been in a relationship, on a date, kissed, or even held hands with a woman. Grew up sheltered and religious and was told to focus more on school and getting a good job. Now I just leave home to go to work at my IT job, then come home and spend my time reading, watching old movies, and listening to music or audio dramas while playing retro video games. I'm naturally an introvert and a homebody so I dont really go out for any social reasons or lead what others would call an exciting life.
As a teenage girl I would LOVE to go outside more often, with or without my friends. However, my neighborhood isn't dangerous, but there's still sketchy people around. Last time I went to a nearby park in LOOSE shorts (nothing sexual or revealing) there were some creepy guys circling around me until I felt weird and just went home. I wasn't even outside for that long and already felt disturbed. Overall, I feel as if teenagers (maybe not just girls) just don't go outside because it's unsafe and there's so much danger compared to 20 years ago. Also without a car/bike, its like a 30 minute walk to the nearest supermarket and the heat in the U.S is unbearable. The lowest in my state was 97F yesterday.
Same here. I'm gen x I don't love going to mall like I did when I was younger but I do go to places when I need to buy clothes or electronics or anything i need instead of shopping online besides by going to the brick and mortar stores I help support them
Same, especially with clothes. If it arrives and doesn't fit then it's so complicated, annoying and expensive dealing with postage and refunds. I want to try things in the changing room and buy what I see with my own eyes.
The internet, gaming, streaming etc is better entertainment than going out. What girls used to get by going to clubs..they can get on Instagram. This explains it. But why they’re not getting their license is still a mystery lol
@@MadScientist267to be fair, a good chunk of Gen Zers are out of college. I’m Gen Z and I’m 25 and got my partying out of the way in my college days lol
I'm 38 and went to a club once in my 20s.The moment I stepped inside the place I knew it was going to be shit. I could not wait to get the fuckk out of there and never come back.
19 years old, never been to a club, and I intend to keep it that way. Nothing good comes from it and it doesn’t seem remotely enjoyable even in the moment. Edit: I thought this video was gonna be about how it’s a good thing less young people are into alcohol and clubbing. There’s definitely an anti-social issue with our generation, but I don’t think people not ruining themselves financially and spiritually through clubbing and alcoholism is a bad thing. I love doing activities with my friends, stuff like watching movies or climbing or trying out sports or stuff like that, I think that’s a much healthier way to socialize than getting wasted and high as shit dancing to shitty music that’s way too loud.
Please, you’ve got youth, technology to use to socialize, all the knowledge of the world on your phone, lots of comments to learn from others, RU-vid to help you learn about almost anything… or maybe you like being depressed.
@@raybod1775tf you mean we like being depressed Don’t even bring social media into this That is what caused this We constantly get called incels and misogynists What do you expect we do ?
It’s as young men and gen Z get no respect or love at all and it’s infuriating and we feel lost in society that doesn’t care for us. So we as young men need to make a stand I’m not going out to the dangerous world that doesn’t accept me I rather create a career digitally or on social media or online.
I find it baffling that we seem to be equating going out with partying. I can leave my house and have fun without even a single glance at a club or a mall. Not to mention, again, the cost. I live in an area where the only really free activities that aren’t an hour away in a city are parks or a library. The most exciting free activity available to me is a freaking library cross stitch group.
I personally just got a car and I love the freedom but I can't go anywhere because I either don't have the money or nobody else wants to go, it's saddening.
I’ve been to college been to all of the clubs, just doesn’t interest me anymore. Would rather stay home and stay out of trouble (fights, drinking, etc.)
As 19 Year Old Young Adult, with a nine month old daughter and A girlfriend, I have rarely gone out even before the baby. I’ve never been a partier, I never went to a party all through high school, and as an addiction survivor, I’ve been clean for 3 years, and don’t like drinking and drugs in general Anyway.
This is true, i have by my late 30s totally gave up on any form of social interaction with my age equals. I do enjoy talking to older people and i dont feel like i have anything in common with my generation whatsoever especially women.
The price of insurance is so high, not worth pushing a kid to get their license just to double/triple the insurance bill. That’s not counting the inflated prices of the cars and the price of gas!
trust me guys, as someone who went to the club thus-sun for the first half of my 20’s you arent missing out on anything. get fit, hang out and home/friends house, enjoy life. clubs are empty pits full of bad decisions and drunk annoying people
Teenage Gen Z here, the latest I got home was 10:30 because I got stuck behind a train. I don’t like staying out late. I save money and only use it when it is a necessity or I have been saving up for it. It’s just easier to stay home. I am officially have my drivers license . My older brother literally told me to take his car and go do something. I love to read,crochet,embroidery, cross stitch, paint and to just be really crafty, but I also like to watch TV. I do really good in school. I’m in student government, have church roles in my young women’s group, I do a lot of things so staying home seems like the best way to unwind and relax.