The One Trait That Makes Guys Extremely Attractive - Sara Saffari 

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I think some women overestimate their own maturity

Anytime a girl says she is mature for her age, immediately ignore anything that comes after

Gen Z girls complaining about Gen Z guys knowing that they're the same level of immaturity is comedy gold. "im mature for my age" said every immature person ever

She gives me every single vibe of “random girl you met at a house party that you regret starting a conversation with”

has anyone ever encountered a young woman who didn’t think she was “pretty mature for her age”?

She sounds anything other than mature. She sounds like she’s a teenager.

IMO "I'm pretty mature for my age" actually translates to "I've dated older guys and the conversations went smoothly, ergo I'm mentally equivalent to them" not realizing that it was the result of those guys' experience & comfort with talking to women that led to that outcome.

"Am pretty mature for my age" and then goes ahead generalizing people based on age💀

She definitely projects the "young enough to know it all" vibe.

Wait a minute, she's complaining about guys her age, but she doesn’t even cook or clean herself?

2 young successful influencers with no children (possibly both single) talking about getting a maid or pay someone to do anything you don't want to do in the house... We could not be more detached from reality of marriage and family building.. relationship is serving not excel spread sheet of "what am i getting?"...

She's a single mom who makes her living online and only hangs out with guys who do steroids all day. Now here she is to tell you about dating!

“I want a traditional man, but I refuse to take on the responsibilities of a traditional woman”

She talked about being mature for her age, then promptly stated she couldn't see herself doing laundry for her partner.

"Im mature for my age" Also "I dont cook or clean"

The fool claims he isn’t a fool, It’s the wise man that admits he isn’t wise. It’s the mature person that claims they aren’t mature. If you’re so confidently bragging about how mature you are, you aren’t mature. Have some humility damn.

If you can't be bothered to do menial tasks for someone you love then what are you willing to do? Relationships aren't about serving one person or another but loving and supporting each other through life. It is the small acts of kindness we do onto others everyday that truly shows our love for one another.

“I just can’t be bothered to defend her. I definitely could never see myself pay for food for her, I just could not. I just could not see myself cooking for her, not at all. She can cook for herself.” I literally could not see myself fix anything in the house for her, I don’t do that, if she needs her tire changed I’ll tell her to do it her self, or if she needs someone to pick up something heavy, I’ll tell her to call her dad.” That’s literally what she sounds like if she were a GUY.

She’s extremely immature but with a know it all attitude.

Very kind of her to stoop low enough for a plumber and then he also get to do house chores, very epic.😂

LMFAO. We really scraping the bottom of the barrel here. I like Chris as an interviewer, but for the love of God, please find someone that actually has something valuable to say.

Saying that you would never do your partner's laundry is pretty immature and entitled.

One of the main issues I see in the relationships of my (Millennial) younger siblings (GenZ), is the mindset that a relationship needs to bring benefits for my persona. Like a business relationship, where knowing you brings benefits for my company/career, and therefore we keep in touch. They don`t get involved in a person and create a team together, but rather find a suitable addition to their persona and see the partner as an add-on. This mindset might keep you for very long invulnerable and on your feet, but will never open up the door to a true engaging partnership.

4:11 "yeah, I was like, bro..." Ah, the vocabulary of someone who's very mature for her age indeed.

People have completely lost the plot when it comes to relationships. It’s all about a relationship as a selfish endeavor “what’s in it for me?”. No wonder divorce rates are through the roof. If you approach a relationship entirely concerned with what you get out of it it’s bound to fail.

A more mature gen Z guy is going to see that she makes her way and gets attention through social media platforms for her looks and avoid the clear problems that will be associated by someone making their way through external validation as a lifestyle. If you want quiet family life, this isnt it, chief.

If a person uses the phrase: "Mature for my age" that has got to be one of the best ways to identify an immature person.

It’s not about “cooking and cleaning” it’s about the selfishness in saying that you wouldn’t do something AS INSIGNIFICANT as cooking or cleaning for your romantic partner; someone who you would profess to love. It’d be like a man saying that they would not lift something heavy or work on a car belonging to someone THAT THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH.

As a Gen Z male I might just wait 15 years for the next generation to grow up at this point. It's not only her, they are all like this, fucking hell.

I had no idea who this person was before this episode...man, do I miss those days lol. She has an arrogance that's hard to take. Gen Z men, don't worry if someone like this won't date you. You're probably a solid man if they won't.

the "instagram model" with the teenage woo girl accent, is telling us she is very mature compared to boys

“I’m mature for my age” behaves like a 14 year old around Bradly Martin, Sneako and other men. On the other hand My wife is actually very mature for her age. My wife doesn’t play games, she cooks, she washes clothes, keeps our place clean, she mops, she vacuums, she makes the bed, she keeps records of my appointments (doctors visits), she donates money to orphans, she reads her Bible daily, she prays daily, she is submissive not combative, she is frugal. I am beyond blessed. And she she just turned 30 years old. She has been like this since I met her 11 years ago. That gorgeous girl to my right that’s my wife.

As a 21 y/o Zoomer male who lives with his parents and is still working on an engineering degree, there is literally no way any of us (average, Gen Z guys) can afford a house cook or a maid. You'll only find that in the people who got lucky or were born into a wealthy family. Her description of Zoomer men kind of fits me, and that's part of why I don't plan on dating in the near future. Also, from what I can tell, she's one of those lucky people that I was talking about. She's a fitness influencer. Of course, she's not going to want to date someone like me.

Selfishness is the hallmark of the new generations. Never do they ask themselves "does this make OUR lives better?" Its only "why do I have to do it?" Cook for your significant other when you cook for yourself. Do their laundry when you do yours. Expect they do the same, because your in it together. Stop demanding all the damned time and treat each other like theres actual love there or leave and let them find someone who will

My Pastor said, "Y'all ratchet inside, but want the perfect Christian partner that is honest, truthful, has the fruit of the spirit." I'm not making any insinuations, but there's a lot of blame on Gen Z men not being up to standard, while there being a lot of ratchet inside on this podcast - and I don't mean from Chris.

“I’ll never do my partner’s laundry.” Yea, she’s real mature. She’s just like any other 22 yr old woman who babbles like they’re saying something profound but really knows nothing about how the world works.

That take on the cooking and cleaning thing was wild and I was not expecting Chris to agree with her. Cooking and cleaning is like bare essential tasks. No one is asking you to be their "maid" but ffs if you can't even do the bare minimum but you go on a rant about how guys need to grow up. Whew this conversation is hilarious.

You tend to attract what you put out.

To anyone who was annoyed by what she said, she is not talking about you specifically. You are unique and authentic. She is talking about her experience with the average Gen Z guys. I would argue that the average Gen Z guy who watches Chris Williamson is much more mature than the average Gen Z guy in general.

A real man should be able to do everything for himself, cook, clean, shop, iron, wash, everything! he shouldn't need a woman or anybody else to do anything for him a man should be totally self sufficient, one love from the UK 🇬🇧🤜🏼🤛🏼

This woman cant even cook but thinks that she is mature 😂

It’s not just an LA thing; it’s a Western society thing. And this young woman clearly does not know herself as she comes off as selfish and immature as well.

She talks about motivation, but forgets that the prospect of a wife and children were the number one motivator for young men. Now that women no longer want marriage until their 30s, that motivation is gone.

I have been in a position of evaluating people for the last 13 years. 1) Listening to this girls speech patterns and way she carry’s herself. She is no where near as mature as she says she is. 2) Having lived in LA. She brings very little to the table that would keep a man interested in such a competitive dating scene.

Oh good luck lady. I fix my girlfriends car, i cook her dinner a bunch, she does 90% of the laundry and generally manage social events. The idea of marriage and parnership in general is to diversify your roles however you want to be overall more efficient. Thats partnership.

The people caught saying “I’m pretty mature for my age” are the same people who say “I don’t like drama”

I feel like Chris was honestly simping on her. There was no testing of her statements, just pure agreement when it’s obvious she’s an immature gen Z girl. Mature guys don’t want her, which is why she can’t find them

2:33, 3:10 (aspiration+discipline+competence/capability) What I look for personality-wise (and therefore the standard I set for myself): devotion/passion/conviction, discipline, intolerance, virtue, goodness, honesty/integrity, humility, punctuality, respectfulness, peacefulness, kindness, loving, patience, uplifting, generosity, contentment/thankfulness, capability, responsibility, intelligence, joyfulness/positivity, confidence, and extroversion 7:18 it's not virtue-signaling if you actually practice (and therefore are) those virtues

This is weird because people who love each other want to cook and clean and do other nice things for each other!!!

Relationship is about communication. Shameless, raw, honest and tough conversations. These reveal your personality and traumas. If you find a person who listens and loves, admits faults and wants to grow with you, consider commitment. This DOES NOT apply to casual dating (i hate it).

You are who you date. Again. You are who you date.

When a modern woman says, "I'm mature for my age," it usually means she thinks doing basic grown-up things like paying your bills means they are mature.

“Even if that’s plumbing!???” Honey, You are about 2 years away from paying more for your plumber than your doctor. He will likely have a wonderful trad wife too.

I was wildland firefighter starting age 18 to pay for 5 years of school to get a degree in the medical field. Started in the medical field at 23. Became a single father at 26. I'm now 42. I wouldn't have "dated" someone with her personality now or then. I've slept with plenty of attractive women like her (and similar personalities). Did you notice I said "slept with" not dated?

ahh yes, the influencer with vocal fry and nose ring claims "I'm the mature one", classic

Women complaining about gen z men is hysterical 😭

Relationships are not for selfish people

What can she offer, beseides looks/sex? Good luck to generation Z... Gen Z scares the heck out of me, knowing they are the future! 😅😅😅

My step sister turned 16 in 2015 and she didn't like driving. Her mom pushed her to try and get her license. She was involved in an accident that totalled a 5 thousand dollar car and was uninjured. She said she'll never drive again. So it definitely wasn't covid for her.

“Then get a maid” Maids/meal prep is pretty affordable. Cheaper than dates. Much cheaper than divorce.

Dating is so superficial now. It ain't even about the other person. It's about the restaurant, who pays the bill, where's the sex ect.... no one looking for love anymore. Just lust and financial security

Sounds like girls today want MEN but aren't willing to put in the work to support guys their age to grow by marrying them and supporting them. People have lost the point on marriage I think. Seeing Alex Hormozi almost cry when speaking about how his wife helped him when they were young and he was broke... brings tears to my eyes.

Men and women are of equal maturity at the same age. (Sometimes men are more mature due to societal expectations that they "be a man" and take on lots of responsibility and accountability) The problem is women typically expect man to be MORE mature than her at the SAME age. This rarely happens, so women typically look for older guys. Also, older guys are more established and aren't desperate financially. They have their own place, their own car and likely got a promotion or two. Women do typically mature faster than men, but this difference evaporates after early 20s.

I have two roommates. We regularly ask each other for assistance with menial house chores like sweeping, mopping, loading the dishwasher. Maybe we’re not home and we ask them to switch laundry from the washer to the dryer. Those are my *roommates.* If you are romantically involved with someone and you’re cohabitating, it is not only reasonable, but necessary for them to ask you to do housework for them, and vice versa, if that relationship is going to have legs. Saying “I’m not gonna cook/clean for someone” displays immaturity. That is a necessary part of living together.

Chris, it would be good to get the perspectives of the elderly married and divorced to find out what has been truly important in their relationships. Hypergamy for a woman and physical attributes for a man might work in the early stages of marriage but if there's a lack of emotional intimacy and shared interests don't expect the relationship to last.

As a father I do my wife’s laundry and my children’s. My 10 year old also does laundry for our family and so does my wife. If this is genz mentality it’s incredibly sad.

True mature people almost never say "I think I'm pretty mature".

This was a setup. 😂 Nice job Chris. 👍

Could it be the kind of guys you go after?

Feminists always die alone. They realize too late that being a wife and mother was the ideal gig.

"Everybody in my generation sucks except me." ~Everyone in Gen Z, including myself

you can tell just by the way she talks her self-importance is off the charts, she was clearly trying to sound deep, but all I could hear say is "like"

Laundry and cooking are simply signifiers of caring and nurturing. That’s the female counterpart of the drive and focus women want from their partners.

"Prettry mature for my age" never heared that one before

Problem with the new generation is they mistake luck for maturity and talent. Especially in the social media world, people always say “oh she or he’s special” There’s at least thousands of kids who would be able to do the same thing.

The problem with 22 to 27 year old men is that they are 22 to 27 year old men….This crosses most generations.

Chris isn’t going to push back on the “cooking and cleaning” bit? BS. Those are essential skills for just living as a human being. If women can have a whole movement based on refusing to do those things anymore for their 1950’s husbands, then in 2023 men can throw their hands up and say they’re done baby sitting modern women as well.

Totally lost me at the laundry / cooking and cleaning part... I'm honestly kinda shocked that Chris didn't push back on that :/ Honestly this clip got me kinda' pissed off... I was in a long term relationship where numerous times I was criticized for coming off as "immature" because I collect Godzilla figures, and had lots of struggels in uni/job searching from then undiagnosed AD/HD, yet I never drank or partied and I always put her happyness and our relationship first... And just like this person, she had so much about her that I could have criticized as "immature" too, yet I was the one made to feel bad for it, over thibgs that for the most part I couldn't control. So now I'm pretty sensitive to that kind of hypocricy. Furthermore, when we did move in together I was the only one who did ALL the cooking and ALL the cleaning, for years... And ofcourse that inclunded doing the laundry. ( how the F dose someone get to her age without doing someone elses laundry ? Even as a child isn't it normal do help out with your families laundry ? It's not that hard or weired ) And no, getting a maid isn't an option and it's not what guys want our partner to be either, but having someone who might on the odd ocasion step in and do the dishes once a month, or so, to give you a little break so your not the only one literally doing everything every single day isn't an unreasonable request....

Chris why would you give someone like this a platform to talk on?

It’s not about guys needing things to be clean. It’s that young women like this, for the most part, actively invest nothing into relationships. They are the receivers and want to receive the byproduct of masculine drive and dedication. Men initiate, men treat, men protect. We don’t have a problem with it because we like playing our role and it’s our nature. Women’s nature is to care and nurture so why don’t you nurture some dishes every once in a while instead of sitting there staring at your phone. We want a team player not a liability.

There is 0 surprise on why she is single. Hope she learns to be giving and not just taking soon. 5 min on what guys should be doing? Guy asks her to do laundry and clean: Wow no way get a maid.

She's describing every generation in their 20s ever.

An unwillingness for a woman to want to cook or clean is a major red flag for a relationship. It’s not only a woman’s job. The man also should contribute. However, a woman being adamant about not doing those things leads men to believe she will be a terrible mother and partner. My wife and I share house hold responsibilities but she does the majority of cooking out of choice and wanting to provide that for our kids and myself. And when she has a hard day or doesn’t feel like it, I’ll cook. My friend had a wife with Sarah’s mindset. They’re divorced after only 5 years. He did all the cookin cleaning, fixed the house up and worked

Don’t know if this is gonna be seen but maybe a challenge for anybody that has that mindset that a woman needs to do this and that. STOP putting conditions on women. Somebody is gonna say women do that to men too but they shouldn’t put conditions on men either. Love should be unconditional, a choice not a feeling. I’m 30 and take care of my mawmaw who is 89. I wash her clothes, I make her breakfast, lunch/dinner, I wash dishes, I clean the house, etc. Edit: Why do people think a woman’s role is suppose to be those things so they’re not inadequate? Like it would be nice to have help don’t get me wrong but just to solely put those responsibilities on another person says YOU are too lazy to do them yourself. We came in this world alone, we’re leaving alone. Do it alone. Do it for you. No expectations and don’t wait for somebody else to take care of you. Take care of yourself. Your partners aren’t your parents 🤝

"even if that's plumbing" wow how gracious of you, you'd stoop that low would you to a plumber!? So she wants him to work hard with a sense of direction and competence but she's not prepared to put herself out to do his washing. The sense of her entitlement is strong.

She says all this with a ring in her nose 🤷

It is funny that as a millennial woman I find males around my age more immature and purposeless than most gen z guys…

I think that female self improvement is keeping your bodycount down, being in shape, becoming more agreeable, being a better cook, being more likely to do the housework etc. Now, you don't have to do those things and you obviously have the right to your personal preferences.

A girl with a nose ring isn't someone I would ever bring to a company Christmas party either. All these women want successful men... but successful men aren't going to bring any of these types of women around other successful people. Just plain and simple.

Her opening comment proves she has a lot to learn and could use a little humbling.

Lost respect to Chris as soon as he said “ just pay the maid “ bro …

To Chris’ point of “I wonder what traits men would see when n a woman and want to absorb”, I work a stressful job and live a stressful life: im always planning for the future and considering worst case scenarios etc. I can get high strung and cold sometimes. So when a women is soft, playful, light hearted, it really brings me back to earth and lets me recover. I don’t need to vent or talk to that sort of girl about my issues, because their presence alone is healing and I’d rather just enjoy the moment, which is somethings by I frankly struggle to do on my own

Nose ring is a huge red flag

The number one trait that makes anyone attractive is doing good for others and being unselfish.

The number of times I hear "I'm a little mature for my age" from an immature girl...

I'm trying to find the most charitable interpretation of "I don't cook or clean", but I'm struggling to derive anything positive from that statement. Both cooking and cleaning are rudimentary life skills, so it's actually a problem if you literally cannot do either. If you *can* do those things, but choose to delegate them entirely to chefs/maids/etc, you live on an entirely separate plane of existence from most people. Even folks who can afford to order out for every meal (while eating healthy) are incredibly wealthy. This degree of privilege is beyond the scope of the average American experience. So that leaves us with an attitude wherein the individual in question can and does cook and clean for themselves, but they are unwilling to do so for a partner. And that just sucks. If you aren't willing to cook or clean for me sometimes, how are we supposed to build a life together? How can we possibly work as a team to address much more substantial challenges like sharing finances and raising children? Hell, I can't even expect you to fulfill my sexual needs if you can't be bothered to throw my laundry in with yours. I wish Sara the best, but I hope she changes her perspective on what it means to be in a relationship. As it stands, she seems just as unprepared as her male peers to engage in a substantial relationship that demands commitment, compromise, and sacrifice.

“I’m pretty mature for my age…” Nobody who has matured to adulthood is interested in comparative evaluations…about maturity. No thirty year old man looks at another man who is wasting his life and thinks, “I’m so much more mature.” Instead, he thinks, “That dude is wasting his life.” “Maturity” is a word that pre-adults latch onto because they want to be perceived by others as being a competent adult before their peers. It’s like describing your day by telling everyone about your relative position on the Earth: if you’re not in space anymore, if you literally live on the surface of the planet - congratulations, you made it - constantly signaling your coordinates on planet Earth is NOT how you communicate…unless you’re still in space trying to convince other astronauts that you’re moving around on the surface. There are no actual adults who walk around talking about how much “adulting” they do, unless they’re being deliberately ironic. The only people who talk about how mature they are with respect to their peers are children who haven’t yet become completely occupied by…the purposeful living of an adult human. And, to be frank, it’s usually something only arrogant girls do…because defaming people around you is a feminine strategy. This guest is a teenager doing her best to impress other people her age. Which is literally what you’re supposed to grow out of. Can you imagine if normal adults sat around talking this way? “OMG, I’ve done so much more adulting today than Tammy or Bobby…” Je$u$ Chri$t.

@3:52 I want a traditional man, but I refuse to take on the responsibilities of a traditional woman.

Mature people never say they're mature enough but think they're not mature enough to yet fully comprehend the nature of reality