Wow, that’s so enlightening. I felt so disappointed when I misinterpreted what I perceived to be my whole family laughing at me recently. The nuance in their intentions vs their impulsive reaction almost caused them to gaslight me into thinking they hadn’t laughed at all. But now I understand it just wasn’t malicious or directed at me, they just thought my idea was silly and it was! But it mattered to me 😂
Lol call me crazy but I don't think she needed to apologize or else they both could apologize... Saying "You're so crazy..." can be triggering for some so at least make sure they know you're joking if you truly are.
That kind of sounds like your friend has learned not to believe it bc of a previous person/friend group. If she's like me at all, figuring out who are and are not good friends can be difficult. Especially if this is a newer friendship, it might take more time for her to realize that you truly don't mean what you say in a negative way. Also, it's super frustrating when I misinterpret what people say incorrectly. I don't know her obv, but I hope I've been able to provide some insight :)
"Oh, I don't mean you're crazy, I just said 'you're so crazy'...." Uhm... yes, you did call her crazy. There's a difference between "it's so crazy" and "you're so crazy". That was gaslighting.
I'm sorry to ask this but if its too peronal then no need to answer.. is the beautiful young lady autistic? I'm curious since this is the 1st time i found this short.. I have a sister diagnosed with ASD and she's 23.. she doesn't have someone special and we don't expect her to have one so that's why i'm curious..
I see your point and I'm confident you didn't mean any harm, but calling people on the spectrum abnormal (even indirectly) isn't including nor is it very nice. At least I feel that way :)
This ain't autism. And even if it's apart of ger please don't make it an example that the partner should solve it. Autistic people are able to express their feelings and should not need this.
