I'm working on getting there, especially the procrastination and concentration issues. I would be so much better off in life if I could conquer those 2 things. I have the drive but then my mind just can't focus and then I procrastinate.
I finally admitted myself into a psych ward after attempting to take my life, because I did not feel worthy as a human being, not knowing I was surrounded by evil. And not understanding I had complex trauma. Biggest save in the world, now I know. Now the true healing begins. Prayers for all who’ve been through hell and back. So proud of you for keeping it pushing no matter what. You’re a blessing and light in what feels like, a darkness you don’t understand unless you’ve lived to tell your story. 💝🙏
I’m glad you didn’t end your life. God has you here for a reason and a purpose that is bigger than yourself. I promise he loves you and I promise you are worthy. Keep seeking to get to know God. Read the Bible. Talk to Jesus. He is my healer and my savior. He saved me from darkness , depression and bondage. I am now free because of his love ❤ Jesus is the way, the truth, and the LIFE ❤ God bless you sister
@@KamDashcamthat isn't what that means it means look at me look how Holy i am I'm praying everyone look. God isn't mad when we share out stories with others and give them hope
Ive been like that , still am, get scared when someone walks in room., or noises. Want to start my hobbies but get distracted easily , end up not doing them
It is. I chuckled TBH when watching because "so relatable" but also felt sympathy watching and recognizing how much it can be. 😢 Reminder to have kindness with ourselves too...going through this. Just like we might for others! To think we can be so much more gentle and understanding with strangers than ourselves.
Sever childhood trauma, at 60+ I still startle when grandchildren walk into a room I’m in. PTSD and generalized anxiety. Tears when I saw this short 🤦🏽♀️
I have complex PTSD too. I’m in my 60s and have generalized anxiety disorder, too. I’ve experienced flashbacks and SI. I’m here to tell you that I’m healing because I’ve found a therapist who has done EMDR and trauma focused therapy with me. Stay hopeful my friend. Healing is still possible.
Trauma effects all ages. I went to a program where intense group therapy took place every day. The oldest person there was a women in her 80’s. She was finally getting help for the first time in her life. But much like the older generations she felt guilty bringing up her past to her husband because she didn’t want to be a burden. As she put it, she was someone who preferred to care for others. And since she cared for her husband physically when he needed it, when helped her realize that it was his turn to take care of her as well. Not sure how things turned out in the end because after two months insurance wouldn’t pay for it since I was showing progress. I hope that she is doing well though
Big hugs to you, as someone who knows this pain all too well. May Jesus continue to lift our load and be our peace that passes all understanding. Bless you! ❤️
Building my faith ,prayers , meditation , spiritual awakening Is Tremendously helping me with life , with my trauma , helping me to build my elder children as they went threw trauma too , We have succeded With Love, Light , Wisdom in our Lives Thankyou Amen 🙏♥️🌈☀️📚🌍
Yes! This used to be me. Man, I have so much compassion for that me now, even though there was no one harder on me then, than myself. If this is you, you need to find a safe space. You need to do the very difficult work of learning how to put yourself first by learning boundaries, this often looks like separating yourself from negative people/voices in your life. If scrolling social media triggers you, cut it out of your life. Do an inventory of feeling through your triggers to get to the roots of fear that are causing them. And stop overloading yourself with more to do. You need REST and SAFETY. You need more space to breathe and move slowly in your life to cultivate healing that stays. It is so, so, so important. I tried to end my life in March of 2019, and I swear the Lord stilled my hand and in that moment, I was so angry about it. I wanted an end to the constant torture within myself and the first lesson He taught me was I do not owe anything to anyone. My existence is not made valuable by what I can or cannot do. I am worthy of rest, I am worthy of life, I am worthy of being enough even as an imperfect human. Healing from there was slow, steady, and painful at times, but I kept my eyes on the light, on who I AM and NOT who this broken world and my broken mind lied me into being for far too long. And I am so proud of myself now, I am SO thankful to my God and Savior now. I am not the same woman and what I never thought was possible before is now my daily walk in peace and purpose 🥰❤️
I startle very easily and i hate when people find it funny, then do it on purpose. It's a remnant of trauma that I can't get rid of and people just think it's good for a laugh.
Try not to take them trying to scare you on purpose too seriously. My boss's son was deathly afraid of spiders & If he ever saw one he'd shriek with the tone of a boiling tea kettle & start wailing like Nancy Kerrigan. I don't consider myself a bad person & I have good intentions for him , but from then on we would purposely leave rubber spiders around to get a startle response from him. I don't know why I did that.
@nervesdarocha Oh my gosh!! To me it’s so cruel of them to laugh. Whenever it happened, it actually tired me out. Doesn’t feel good at all. What’s been 100% helpful is working remote and STRONG boundaries. It takes me a little longer to recharge so alone time isn’t necessarily a problem for me. Outdoor time a great as well. God will get us through it all. God Bless you ❤
My neighbour & son knocked on my window when I was sat relaxing at home. It startled me. I then frowned and said "It's not funny to make someone jump. I startle due to my childhood trauma" and they both apologised and I chatted to her a lot more. Being honest and owning it in a vulnerable way may help. If it does not then going to HR and reporting the abuse, telling them that it is not appropriate to do this and you will not spend time in their company if they are not safe or using boundaries to not be around them are steps to take. People generally empathise when you take them to one side and explain it.
They are ignorant and not worth your time. They do not have the privilege of knowing your business. Walk away. I live alone and the peace of my home is wonderful. Only a few friends can come in.
I get so embarrassed when I do these often times when my husband asks what's wrong, I'll lie and say I accidentally bit my tongue or stubbed my toe to brush it off. He probably knows I'm lying because he gives me a big ol hug anyway, tells me I didnt do anything wrong and that I'm safe. I'm so grateful for him.
😳😔 You just described me. 🤔 I had not realized or known that these behaviors were trauma responses. With My Deepest Gratitude! ! !❤⚜️❤ Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤
This is why it’s so easy to mis-diagnose CPTSD as ADHD and vice versa. Almost every symptom you listed is also a classical symptom in ADHD. It’s why a detailed and thorough history taking with new patients is so important.
I agree sometimes I wonder if my daughter who has recently been diagnosed with ADHD has complex PTSD instead has she has had some traumatic experience since high-school
@@audreydoyle5268that’s just not true adhd is a developmental disorder and can be a comorbidity with CPTSD it’s not infantile cptsd stop spreading misinformation and maybe read the latest dsm-5 revised text and speak to an adhd specialist if you have questions.
My therapist said I have complex ptsd, I rock myself to sleep every night. And staring at the shit I have to do instead of doing them drives me insane. I feel like I’m fighting my own body to get it to do something. Never really think about how much these small things bother me until it’s pointed out by videos like this.
One of my sons has done this since he was a baby.... And couldnt and still dont know why. Hes not autistic. But possibly ptsd.... Hang in there you are so much stronger amd resiliant than you feel at times. Ypu got this. We all do.... Keep going it eill be worth it in the end... Xx
When I was a child my older sister rocked herself to sleep sideways back and forth. She had been sexually assaulted by a male babysitter. Tied to the bed posts. My parents didn't believe her, so it continued. There were more signs of it too graphic to share here. Heartbreaking. I don't know if I was born yet as I'm 6 years younger, but my memories of her rocking are from 5 years old & up. I asked her if I was born yet and in the room, but she said no. I don't know. From this she became a bully and mistreated me until I was 16. I've often wondered if that rocking had an affect on me. I have my own trauma issues from childhood and in them right now at 74. Hoping and preparing my escape. I don't rock but rub my skin until I accidentally make an open wound. Startled easily & many more symptoms. When I was 17, I babysat a foster child who rocked on he's knees frontwards and backwards. I knew something wasn't right, but had no idea what this child may have gone through. I've had lots of counseling but my sister never has and now I've had to go no contact with her as she's a mean, bullying alcoholic, but only treats me this way. Thanks for allowing me a place to share something I've never have shared with any one before. God bless you all.
I used to get yelled at for fidgeting so I started clinching my butt at a young age. I’ve got a butt that Kim K would be jealous of. It’s the only good thing to come out of my trauma! 😂
Sending lots of love to everyone who is experiencing this in their lives. You’re stronger than you know and you’re on a path of healing now. Things will get better 💙
And there’s so much more to CPTSD. The anxiety, the OCD, the shame , the body pain from being triggered. I’m on my second year of healing, but it’s so hard. No one gets how torturous it is. Wishing everyone peace and love.❤
I totally get it, it's very hard living with Complex PTSD, I can't go where there are large crowds, will get an anxiety attack and can't leave fast enough, on top of being a single mom, everyday slowly gets better
@@loveinstars I have been doing trauma work 2x a week for two years now. My ruminating and fear is OCD. They all tie in together -not saying everyone who has CPTSD has OCD -it’s just one of my symptoms. have a nice week.🙂
Ahhh, when I came to this short, I did not expect for most to be so relateable 😭 And do not even get me started with the startled easily one, that one is just, ahh, INSANELY accurate!!!!
Having CPTSD and ADHD is wild cause some of the symptoms are similar so for a long time I had no idea what was wrong. Therapy has helped me tremendously!
Great video! I would also add constant soreness from muscle tension, headaches and migraine, dizziness, the urge to withdraw and isolate, excessive uncomfortable crying, vomiting, itching or skin problems, extreme fatigue, bowel and bladder issues, paranoid hallucinations, and nightmares/sleepwalking/insomnia.
@@carmenl163Exactly this. Our brains know it's fine, and that we are just trying to not die, but society makes us think it's our fault for not being "normal". It sucks, and society needs to do better
The Body Keeps Score is an excellent book! Helps understand what’s behind the manifestations of reactions to trauma, remembered or blocked. Highly recommend it!
I was not aware these were C-PTSD symptoms. I've always thought about getting help or talking to someone about it, but always felt I missed the mark so I never tried. This video definitely changed my mind. I think I need to reach out for help with this. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Routine. Therapy. Encouragement and commitment. That is what it took for me to overcome these issues. Of course, there are other things. But routine is what saves me more than anything. These things used to control every aspect of my life. I have worked hard to change that. You can get better. You just gotta have faith in yourself and remember that you deserve everything you are sacrificing for. It will be worth it, in the end.
Thank you for sharing what works for you and many others. I was so depressed while also tortured with chronic anxiety , never knowing why. Truly I was isolating and afraid to go into the world and ask for the simplest thing. I started attended a twelve step group where I learned the source of my physical and emotional pains. I learned not to be afraid and found the vocabulary and patterns taught by my "sick" family. Having the opportunity to hear others describe the exact behaviors I experienced , I felt validated and knew I was not the person my toxic, triangulating, narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, judgmental, mother and her toxic religiosity trained me to be. Being in a room where I felt 100% safe to be me, I could finally exhale and relax. I learned I could NOT learn when I didn't feel safe or loved. Bit by bit and with the help of others, I learned I had the choice to change. I made that choice . With the help of the 12 step materials, the other people in those groups and a loving sponsor, I learned how to change. I also had some help from EMDR and learning new language to replace what I had been taught . It is a day to day, sometimes minute by minute experience. I learned I could trust trustworthy people, and that " my higher power" who I call Jesus has and does love and protect me. Blessings and peace to all who have and continue to suffer. 💕🙏🙂 The lady creator of this channel is a blessing!
I’ve lived 32 years of life not knowing about cptsd. This channel helped me open my eyes. I’m 6 months into EMDR therapy and feel optimistic for the first time in my life. The barriers to recovery are so hard currently. I hope for a future where we can all have the space to grow and flourish.
Your video is spot on. I’ve lived with PTSD for over 40 years. I have family that have told me to “get over it”. There was no “it” but rather many times ex-boyfriend put a gun to my head, stalked me, always catching me off guard (i was 14 the first time and at high school). The courts did nothing…thank God I lived….so many do not. Thank you for your video and raising awareness. The book the Body Keeps the Score was insightful, too. Thank you!!
Yes they just don’t get it do they. Dispassionate or may be a critical or judge mental spirit. Keep praying for them watch what happens. In Jesus name.
@@salsadip7453it was a hard, triggering read for me. I started it once on audible then had to stop. I didn’t even realize why but it was just too many triggers. Then my husband died suddenly (were 40 so I wasn’t quite expecting it at our age) and my therapist and trauma therapist both recommended it so I picked it back up. It was very painful at times and I had to go slowly but it was helpful. Very good book. May be time to read it again.
@@salsadip7453 It can be a difficult book to read as it talks about individuals who have experienced great trauma and is pretty descriptive. But overall it is a very insightful book. I'm sorry that you had to experience that. No one should go through any form of harassment, whatever and wherever it might take place. I hope this book will provide you with some comfort.
I'm currently reading it, other than the insight, does it also provide some useful advice on how to help oneself? It would motivate me to read it faster lol😊
THANK YOU - I think the easily startled is the one for me. But just THANK YOU Most people just meet and say hello, they ask how each other is doing. They never know each other, or care to. Sometimes people can SEE others and understand what they experience. You see people, and this has great relief for the ones being seen!
Yep, in mid 50’s and just now started to figure some stuff out, turns out its not normal to be startled just because someone in a calm home walks into the room
I have this weird a*s habit where i physically tremble whenever I'm slightly stressed, so I could be smiling at you and talking casually and confidently but those trembles appear and disappear as quickly, I personally try to supress it when I talk to ppl (with ppl in general) I'm not necessarily scared just stressed all the time, and it's a behavioural habit i intergrated too much to an extent it could happen automatically sometimes... Usually when I'm distracted from my thoughts and how am doin it doesn't happen at all, i just realized it's a bit of a problem when other ppl noticed it (even tho it happened only about twice..)
I have every single one of these symptoms. I look back and it stems from being bullied as a child at school & on the bus from 1st grade through 8th grade, 8 LONG & BRUTAL years at a snobby little private school. I'm 53 years old now and I still have these issues while on medication to ease my panic, sudden startling & anxiety attacks because of something that happened so long ago. People, PLEASE talk to your children about NOT bullying others, not participate or join in when some other kids have started it, even speak up for the one being bullied; it is so important to try to put an end to bullying. However, I know that is almost impossible because there are ALWAYS going to be a$$holes that think they are better than other people.
Relatable, fun fact your words we're probably heard but never understood amongst folks like that. At times it's just hard luck and everything sucks. Just another cinderella story with different characters.. It's always complicated. Part of it will stay with you. Some days it'll be stormy, some just suffocating , the rest will take you on self sabotage or blame rage ride. It's Okay, It's alright. Hang in there little tiger You're an amazing survivor ! Keep going find what works for you Take a break Stay away from bad vibes You're a beautiful bud Get some fresh air, food and sunshine Dance sweat your heart out You're stronger than the storm, the lord is watching over you Affirm daily before sleeping after you're awake.. When your time comes You're ready to bloom 🌻 Sorry it's long 😅
If you can...when you can...leave. Get away from those people, even and especially if they are family. I did and, when I wasn't there to abuse anymore, they found a new scapegoat. New scapegoat reached out to me recently to tell me that now they understood that I wasn't making it up or exaggerating. It's nice to hear that one of them now understands I wasn't crazy, but I'm not going back to anyone who was ok with the abusive behaviors. I'm out! You Can go out and make your own "family" even if they aren't your blood. You can be happy.
This is such a great video, so simple, so easy to relate to and clearly shows what distress language looks like. 🙌 Folks this is not "normal" behaviour. These are extreme states. Normal is harmony, Normal is peace, Normal is optimism, Normal is neutral. You are worthy of "normal" 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Wow this explains so much. Thank you. I was raised in a horrific environment and when you try to leave it behind it surfaces in other ways. Healing takes time but I found God gives us the time we need to be able to handle facing what we wanted to forget. My kids use to laugh at some of those behaviors I did while they grew up and so did I because I didn't know the full magnitude of what I was carrying inside. So glad to be on a healing journey in life. I'm so much better today. ❤
God doesn't give us the time to handle what we want to forget, He heals the pain and removes the inner scars and trauma. He restores our soul and gives us the peace that surpasses understanding ❤
@@GameChanger597for everyone is different and He works differently. For some it's straight away, for others it's a process. Sometimes this process can be sped up when we are completely open to it. But that's something between the person and the Lord.
I feel you. Same thing here. As you are growing up in a violent household, all you want to do is escape. It's too late by the time you are 17 or 18 and free to leave. The damage is done. You move from here to there in this world, looking sideways at those who are full of life and have happy families and carefree lives. It's hard to grasp the intricacies of the damage done to the mind.
You didn't know the full magnitude of what you were carrying inside. Perfect. Thankyou. I'm just beginning my journey of healing & I'm 71! I used to think that the humor helped but I think it just covers up a lot of pain
"The body keeps the score" is the title of an absolutely amazing book about PTSD that I wish each and every person would read. I learned so much and it helped me consolidate the knowledge I already had. All in a scientific rigorous way but without the typical strict attitude of Western medicine
I had most of these symptoms. And I was so tired of not going anywhere in my life, knowing I'm an intelligent person. It took me some years but I did all the changes by self educating and applying that knowledge in every day life. I feel I'm unbreakable now ❤❤❤ God bless you guys, all the sufferers, keep on fighting 🙏🏼 And remember, when you fall, you get up and make another step. When you fall again, you get up and try again. You always get up and try again, there's no other way.
@marib9721 I learned mostly from the internet, and talking online with people, hearing that there are a lot of people with the same problems, and listening to how they dealt with it. I started setting myself small, achievable goals, and learning small good habits. For example, one habit I learned was to make the bed once I got up in the morning. Sounds silly, right? But for me it was one of 5he first steps. Because now I do it without even thinking. Another example, I've learned to use calendar for my due dates, and appointments. I don't miss anything now. I watch the videos of the successful people, to learn how they live their lives that helps them being successful. It all took some time for me, but I'm so much better organized now, and my life improved so much. I keep working on myself, and I know I'm on the right path. I know I'm strong. Wishing you all the best ❤️
@@Barbara-hw3xzMaking the bed, small routines and keeping lists, notes and reminders for things to do helps me a lot as well. I didn't realise that startle reflex has to do with childhood trauma but it makes sense. I too have become very organised and less stressed out over the years. Meditation, introspection and mindfulness helped a lot.
This made me cry. I’m only 19 and experiencing all of this so intensely. Particularly since last summer, I can’t really see what caused it clearly. Although there was a lot of family stress in the past … the body keeps score
Yep. That was basically a snap shot of 40 years of my life. Last 10 years, much less of any of that, but it took work and daily tweaks. Being human is hard, but a better life is possible.
This is me to a T - I just thought I was an anxious person but I’ve come to realise through watching your videos that I have had a lot of trauma in my life which I haven’t dealt with. Thank you for your help 💖
The startling, the self-soothing ... This is my life right now. :( Living with trauma would be so much easier if people didn't bully you over your symptoms.
I'm sorry you're going through that and that anyone would think that it's okay to bully you because you're traumatized. That's sick behavior. You don't deserve that. I hope you find healing. Hugs.
@@rainbowconnected Thanks. It’s because people don’t understand trauma. Or life with any sort of disability or special need. People tend to fear what they don’t understand. You get used to microaggressions, to masking and pretending to be “normal” so you don’t have to feel shame for inconveniencing people. Or worse, lose your job or home. I’ve been thrown out by a landlord because of my mental health problems. He seemed to believe I was somehow dangerous or contagious and a threat to other residents. Social media has made it trendy to be mentally ill, but this has only made it harder for genuine sufferers to be taken seriously. Knowledge of how selfish & cruel human society really is only comes when you’ve fallen on hard times. People you thought were your friends will close their doors & hearts. I’ve experienced kindness, too, and that keeps me from becoming a complete misanthrope. But damn if it’s not hard to keep my chin up sometimes.
I understand. I startle, and when my dad sees me startle at him he gets passive aggressive about it. I also do the self soothing. I have a lot of those symptoms because I have adhd so I am not sure what is what but I am dealing and in therapy right now
I've known for some time that I have complex PTSD. I've wondered forever why I procrastinate and struggle so much with completing tasks. I thought I was just LAZY, even though I work two jobs and don't procrastinate on completing THEIR tasks. THIS VIDEO connected the dots for me, and I'm bawling my eyes out because this is me! HOW DO I BREAK THROUGH THE FREEZE STATE AND STOP PROCRASTINATING?
Wow thank you soo much for your videos ! I had all of these my goodness! Grateful for my healing and feeling my feels as they surfaced, no more holding in, letting go ! And toxic people, get away from me ! I learned what was wrong with me !
Bruh I’ve been trying to get my vagus nerve to chill out for like 5 years. Massages. Meditation. Yoga. Chamomile. I still find myself feeling this constant urge to just… run? Run away
Calming down is well and good but maybe you should actually take up running, too? The stress might still be trapped in your body and when you move in the way your body wants to move, it can be released. Look up somatic experiencing therapy
If your body wants to move, let it. As mentioned, that can help complete the the stress cycle that's trying to play out and let your body feel it's done something to get to safety. It's also worth considering that for some of us, trying to force ourselves to chill out can actually cause more stress. If someone grew up in a very unsafe environment, turning inwards and slowing down can feel dangerous, because it means we're less available to respond to potential threats. It doesn't matter if we're safe now, the brain can get pretty set in those patterns, even if they're maladaptive. I hope you find relief so that you are able to settle into your body in the present moment and feel safe there.
This has just made me cry uncontrollably. I didn't realise that this was a thing until watching this. I am 64 and have suffered with ALL these things all my love . I start every sentence with an apology which irritates everyone but I can't help it. I have been shouted at all my life for these things and I cannot take any more. Goodness knows how I managed o work and bring up healthy. well balanced children. I really don't know any more.
@@sbeaney9289 Thank you. What makes me happy though is that I haven't passed that on to my children and they acknowledge that, saying that I 'broke the wheel of abuse', xx
I never heard of this complex trauma, but this short video pretty much describes what has been happening to me in recent months. I would say the past few years have been and continue to be traumatic. I subscribed and will be watching the videos. 😮
Thank you for posting this. For the longest time I took ADHD medication, which only made things worse. I'm trying to accept now that I am a naturally anxious person by no fault of my own, and am trying to just move forward one day at a time. We all have trauma and I wish we didn't, but at least we all have each other
❤ That's me - at 60, with your site, therapy & all-around care, am learning!. Even as a Nurse, couldn't see it bc it was easy caring for others, never myself. Still happens, but it gets better. 🎉 Thank you.
I'm sorry you're surrounded by such unevolved people. Please know that there's nothing wrong with you feeling or reacting the way you do. I hope you heal from your traumas over time. Sending light and positivity! ✨🙏🏼
I am with you i have been like this since i was 16 it is an awful existence i dont know how i am still here Maybe we have something big to say to the collective, we are all sensitives, there is just something different with us I have no answers but i have give up trying to tell people they dont see it its not like having a broken leg God bless you all sensitives ❤
Definitely how it is. After EMDR treatment, I’m much better, though still disassociate a lot . Can never really trust anyone either, don’t even care , prefer to never trust, too great a risk I feel it’s how I can protect myself.
damn if i have 4 out of 6 of these i should probably explore this more. i’m in therapy but not really the right kind. i did a very intense 2 year 3x a week program i graduated from in May, but since then i haven’t continued with adding anything further which was suggested. i do go 2x a month for 35 min to talk to somebody but it’s more of a checkup on my current medication and not really therapy even tho it’s called that. This really reminds me how much more work i have. i have major traumas i have not even brought up yet with anyone. But my procrastination and overwhelming amount of responsibilities make me not put my needs first as i should. i’m caregiver for my very elderly and very ill, needy, narcissistic and abusive mother. And i’m a single mom with 2 kids, one of which has some special needs. I also am sober after almost 30 years of addiction. so i have to always put my treatment requirements first to not ever go back to that. (4 yrs sober). so i genuinely love this channel, it’s my reminder to keep putting in the work on me. there’s so much more to accomplish.
Other then procrastinating and freezing all other symptoms of CPTSD have subsided. Took years to get thru. Greatful for the experience so I can help others. Thanks for the videos which come from your heart with empathy that was earned thru understanding as you endured so much too. Congratulations on healing so you can truely help others from your heart not a textbook.
Prayers and hugs for everyone. I grew up in trauma from abuse and neglect. Unfortunately, I married what my mom was. My body now does not want to relax. It stays in tense mode even if I consciously try to relax. The scary part is living with someone together ALONE! Don't allow your situation to get to where I am. You can't heal in the same environment you got sick in.❤🙏🤗
This made my chest feel tight. I have wondered about the long term effects of trauma from my past. I’m starting to understand how it is lingering in my body. Thank you for this.
Learning to brake the barriers, learning to step out of the box.. learning to face your Giants head on face-to-face we are here we won’t stop we can’t stop. ❤️👏🏼🕊
I have Complex PTSD and this is a good representation of what it looks and feel like. And not only do I startle easily, but when I get startled, I then get angry and can flip out and snap at someone I love. Which then it makes me feel like a POS afterwards because I've verbally accosted them. Though thankfully, in recnt times I've gotten less and less startled. I still do from time to time but the frequency has diminished significantly. To anyone who has this trauma, know that it does get better with time. Especially with trauma informed therapy, learning good coping mechanisms, and somatic therapy too. Where I was years ago to where I am now is a big difference.
Exactly. For me if I am startled badly, I will shake etc just like a milder panic attack. I am improving on shaking it off, deep breathing and to stop freezing, I set lil goals for myself throughout the day. I don't beat myself up if not all completed, and try to focus on what I have completed instead. 🤷♀️ Sometimes it takes just saying to myself that I am just going to clean the big pan or whatever, the next thing I know the entire kitchen is cleaned. ❤
Best comment. This makes me feel so comforted (I guess?😅) Good to know I'm not unique in this awful way and maybe not stuck as a nutcase forever. Thank you!
You’re always so relatable, Dr Nicole! It’s so real, I can remember feeling like that in my life, but of course couldn’t clearly see why I felt that way. your content is always so insightful & supportive. Thank you 🙏 🕉️🥰
After doing tons of EMDR, mindfulness, and DBT skills practice, I am so grateful to say I've made my way past most of the struggling. ❤️ Shout-out to anyone who is still struggling. You can do this, I promise. 😊❤
So, I have CPTSD. And one of the hobbies I’ve been picked since I was a kid is art. I’m an incredible artist. I originally tried drawing to teach myself how to do things I don’t feel like doing. Or to teach myself how to stop fidgeting. Or to help myself drown out things, and feel real. I’m nearing thirty now, and I love art. It’s become such a special to me.
Sounds like your strength & talent could be a great career you’d love, as an art therapist to help others as well. God’s light of love & blessings to you! 😊
Good Reel Been Coming Out Of Narc Abuse Even While Still In It For Two Years Now My Brain Really Has Healed Tho There Are Some Things That Can Trigger A Body Response Glad To Have Gone Thru It To Now Have The Healing It Ultimately Brought But It Was One Heck Of A Journey In Separation Now- he Is Sick- Cancer- Watching And Listening To Adonai For Now Shalom
This is me.. I don’t do the rocking/rubbing- but I discovered the way I sleep is self-soothing. I noticed my wrists were really sore all the time and eventually took notice that I sleep hugging myself, in a fetal position and my hands are bent downward.. it was over a year after I had wrist pain that I discovered sleeping like a “dinosaur” or “T-Rex” is a sleep position directly correlated with trauma. The body does truly keep score, as I had no idea this was why my wrists hurt(one in particular as I would put my body weight on that side).. Just thought I would share this incase anyone has the same issue and is struggling to solve by they’re having wrist problems that started after experiencing trauma.
The body keeps the score is an excellent book! I have both adhd and cptsd. My symptoms are very high, all the time. I hate that other people feel the same way, but there’s also some sort of comfort with it as well. Love to everyone out there living this way ❤
The trauma I've gone through has even put me at risk of physical illnesses. I was hospitalised with pneumonia after each period of trauma I went through. I've developed chronic urticatia (hives) after having to move back home with one of my abusers where the trauma took place. I have PMDD, and am currently going through horrendous issues with my bowels, that they dont know whether it's colitis, IBS, or something else. When I say trauma can cause lifelong disabilities, I genuinely mean it.
I too had pnumonia after every trauma i had experienced once I got away and was in a safe space I got sick and it took months to heal after. Sending you light and love and hope you are in a safe space and are loving yourself and forgiving yourself for whatever may be following you. Being alone and learning to love myself has been the most hardest thing to start but the most rewarding experience in the end. ❤
Es tut mir leid, was du ertragen musstest. Und dass du bis heute damit kämpfst. Mir geht es ähnlich. Ich habe eine komplexe ptbs und versuche bereits mein ganzes Leben gesund zu werden. Es ist so schwierig.
I have chronic urticaria too caused by exposure to the sun worsened by stress, every time I go in the sun I get really nasty itchy hives, which hasn’t helped with feelings of isolation and social anxiety, I have CPTSD but I never really considered that could be factor into why I developed my skin condition, I assumed it was because I spent years struggling with depression and agoraphobia which wasn’t helped with covid and so my skin became sensitive to the sun which doesn’t help with wanting to leave my house and actually live life I also have a hormonal condition that’s undiagnosed but suspected Adenomyosis so I can relate to that too and I’m diagnosed with fibromyalgia which I’ve heard is often caused by trauma yet I still can’t get proper treatment or support, I’ve been pretty oblivious to how many of my medical issues could potentially be caused by the trauma, I sort of just assumed I had bad luck, but it makes sense, I think I’d be shocked if I really knew how much trauma has impacted my physical health as well as mental
😭 I have all of this and I hide it beautifully. I know theres nobody to comfort me, nobody to hug me. I put my headphones on and try to ground/center myself. I show no weakness around others because that will alert the wolves.
Been there and done that so much over the past 2 years. Trauma. Not as easy to get over as a lot of people think. But I'm working on it. Glad you posted this as it highlights some of the reasons for some of the worst issues I've experienced. Once I was highly organised and capable of multi multi tasting, the freeze state has been horrendous. I'd say jumping out of my skin has calmed down due to me working on finding techniques and thankfully meditating, mindfulness and refocusing my attention on one thing at a time has slowly, slowly helped me to ease my nervous system for the most part. Glad I haven't had the PTSD for over a year now.
This acting is so powerful and realistic, it made me cry ❤ Thank you. This helps me understand people with (C)PTSD, and appreciate how privileged I am to not have these symptoms in my own life. I wish love and integration to everyone struggling -- you're not alone. I believe we all have more capacity for self-love and compassion in us than we may think; I hope you find everything your spirit needs ❤
