Boy I was not a good a Mom ...but then neither was mine..but I will apologize & take responsible for it to my daughter; who by the way is 49...I suppose se better than never getting it... thanks Jeff!❤️
How amazing that you can see it and speak out about this years later. I wish my mom could do the same. Just recognition about what happened would mean everything to me. You are doing the very very best thing you can do right now. 💚
I’ve actually found that my trauma forced me from an early age to consider that someone always had it worse than me. That default helped me navigate the difficult times. If anything it’s given me a chronically positive outlook on everything. So my question would be if the trait we’ve adopted to cope gets positive feedback in your personal life, is it something that still needs addressed? It’s kind of become my hallmark personality trait lol…
I remember that I only started tuning out when I was a teenager to prevent me from listening to both of my parents talking trash about each other. Before that, I would hone in all my anger (especially towards my mother) and idealize things such as "taking over the world". Now I am both constantly angry at my lack of control over myself and my issues, and constantly tuning out from everything with no real way to cope with my stresses. I need practical solutions for my problems, but all I'm being told by my friends and therapists is to "focus on myself" until it makes no sense anymore. My trauma is very much affecting me to this day.
Is it a bad thing to become a therapist as a response to childhood trauma? I had the opposite issue, incredibly over-surveilling and gaslighting parents so I think the reason I want to be a therapist is that it would give me greater clarity in inter-personal interactions and provide me a safe seat of ethicality to fall back on, because I would *know* how to treat people appropriately and *know* I was. I was telling my therapist I didn't know what to do and he actually got me to start thinking about becoming a therapist, I think I'd be a good one, and I know I'd be able to help people, but is that a disingenuous engagement with the profession? Would that be doing my clients a disservice to derive that kind of satisfaction/validation from our sessions? It feels kinda implicitly icky, idk. Sorry for ranting, genuinely curious to hear what you think about this because I love your content.
Hi what are your prices I have a therapist that is not spiritual and I feel that she’s not helping me at all and I’m getting into my spiritual awakening I need to heal a lot of trauma from my past and it’s affecting my present and I need extra help
This is exactly why I never became a parent. I used to joke around that I never wanted children because they’d just grow up to need extensive therapy later. Sometimes, it’s just best to not make new humans because we will do it wrong.
