Your Ex's Heart During No Contact 

I broked up in last month and doing no contact since 10 days ...i talked to her best friend about whole situation and now she's on my side to help me in getting my ex back ...her best friend advice me That what if we together make her jealous by making her curious and anxious that her best friend is showing interest in me....and want to be in relationship with me Does it gonna work

Vinay Singh that will only make matters worse! I would NOT recommend doing that. Just stay no contact and work on yourself. Any tactics to try and make an ex jealous may backfire!

Again, what about work every day?

To elaborate, when you see them every day at work and need to talk.

I really like coach margret I wonder how much it cost to have a session with her

🤣 same!

Cold heart

Finchopolis I am still not sure, not sure if there’s a soul there either. I always knew she had an empathy issue she can turn on the charm on and off too easily. Possible Sociopath...

Lmao I agree with your comment

Finchopolis 😂😂😂🤚🏽me too🤣🤣

This is so encouraging to read.

This is very inspiring...

In your case, WHY would you jeopardize the happiness you have now by returning to the one that smashed your heart? 2 years? Move on darling...

Oh dear…. Move on already

Man move on, she can’t find another one like you in two years and that was the real reason she came back. For me if she leave me to find another one that is the point of no return.

Will they go through the same process for the rebound too? I dated my best friend, but I was the rebound. We loved each other very much.

My ex grieved the relationship while she was still in it. She would randomly start crying and ask me to hold her. I thought maybe she was going through some family issues...nope. She was crying because she was letting go of me while I was sitting there trying to make her feel better. She finally left me when she vastly improved her life and I became "not good enough" for her. She came over, broke up with me, went to a friends house and then to a football game the next day. It's been a month and half and I've heard nothing from her. I don't think I ever will. It almost feels like she's using my pain to motivate and improve her life even more.

@@emanuelmarcus4602 then you should also use your pain to motivate yourself and improve your own life. make it about you, not her. work on yourself and move on. life's unfair, people rarely treat us the way we deserve to be treated but there's nothing we can do. we can't control what others think or how they feel, so our only option is really to try and use all the shit that happens to us in our favour. I know your comment is 8 months old and I really hope you're over it now, but I'm in that situation right now. my ex of 3 years got a cool job and started meeting cool people and all of a sudden realised he didn't need me anymore. I tried HARD to get him to change his mind but he wouldn't take me back, and roughly a month after we split, I heard he'd already started seeing someone else. I cried every day for 2 months straight until I decided enough was enough, cut all contact with him and started working on self improvement (in my case through studying, going to therapy, improving my art and exercising). one month in, I realised I no longer wanted to be with him. I feel no anger towards him, I just feel that I deserve better. it's not an easy process and it certainly doesn't happen overnight, but it is the ONLY way

Very true! My ex really cared for me, since we’ve been together for 5 years.

@@Polly1589 That sounds awful, I am sorry for you. But tbh I think you can grieve in advance just to a certain degree. Image you know someone close is going to die, you can prepare for that moment when they will pass, you can cry and be sad before but once they are gone it hits differently and often isn’t the way you thought it was going to be

Unfortunately it's more than likely for a day or two.

@@alwaysalways1392 Yes... if they are 100% avoidant, that's right xD And as you may know, it's really rare to see that grade of avoidance.

Maybe some. My ex of 3 years had a guy lined up so I doubt she grieved at all

my ex is grieving and depressed all the time because they're depressed all the time anyway lol

shav12 my ex has a new bf and she definitely grieved. If they get someone new they are just delaying the grieve. Mine writes me every few months and it’s every single time about her being sorry for breaking my hearth and that her new bf is being abusive. Last time she wrote me was this Thursday and she told me she isn’t over our relationship.

U so right I had the wrong men

My recent ex meant everything to me, but unfortunately, I never had any worth for him

That's way too black and white, I don't agree at all

So powerfully true.

Loved this expression

I want Coach Margaret too ❤️

Same 🥰

Can i kindly ask did he come back?😩

Lord bless you and wish you the best

I’m proud of you❤️

@Rick Hanson updateee???

53 days...

Your secure because she's back

❤️💪

keep strong

Keep strong!

SJ Agree... :(

amen

I rather breakup the first couple of months than years later after having a child and stuck dealing with co parenting and moving out plus splitting the baby time on the holidays so are yall sure breaking up during the first couple cut your losses and move on at least you can just move on without having a child or something legally binding to that person

So much truth in this. I was also married before but actually recently had a breakup after ~2 months which hurts so much worse and affects me so much more. Just glad I'm not alone because this doesn't make sense 😅

@@ty8255 Well that's why. You spelled separate wrong. Just kidding ! I know it hurts like hell. In the long run she did you a favor !

Brother? 🤮 😜

did she ever reached out?❤

@@Swiss_Girl eventually but I’m good without her

@@Himothy_xx good for you😃 I am on day 15 of no contact…

It will work. She may not get him back but she will go stronger and heal faster. But it’s not just about going no contact but also about taking space to learn and grow and do personal growth. You either get the ex back or find someone new. Either way it works and you win.

Stacey Smith so sweet of you

Did he come back?

You are the best mom in the world tbh.

the mom i wish i had :"(

Amen brother NC works with or without your ex

True, move on... if the relationship is not mutually sacrificial, then it’s toxic. Take that 8 billion and cut that in half to separate genders so that’s 4 billion. Take that 4 billion and cut that in half,considering the already married/taken people so that’s 2 billion. Take that 2 billion and cut that in half, for those that adults are not able to marry or be in a relationship, 1 billion left. Take that 1 billion and cut that in half for those that are minors (underage) that’s 500 million left. Take half out to narrow it down that interests are different, that’s 250 million. Out of that Take half out that fall within the age group u prefer (obviously 8 billion ppl are not all over 21), that’s 125 million, so let’s take out half for those that are just not compatible and that’s 62 million 500 thousand, take that and divide into the preferences you are looking for: religion, eye color, hair color, political preferences, hobbies, nationality, education, financial level,physical stature, height, language, with kids, no kids, married before, never married, virgins, etc. and what are you left with? My point is, it dwindles down and it feels like there is not enough good, quality, connections there are out there to make. Definitely not the 8 billion number range. The ones remaining and seeking should work on themselves, get your mindset better, get your emotions more grounded. Value yourself that if one of those dwindled down 8 billion breaks your heart, it’s easier to recover and change for the better. Change to be a better person, if not for the next relationship but for oneself.

You're right but sometimes if people think that they can rekindle things then they should. If people think that this particular person has future potential they have a right to 'indirectly' pursue one more time. If things don't work out, then yes... there are so much fish in the sea!!!

And that is the beauty of NC.

@@InnKogNeeto Plus.that guy.had a lousy attitude lots.of broads out there. Thats way.she left.him he is probably nothing but.a fk boy.

She’s beyond amazing

Judy Jack-Burton I find her very likable as well.

I would so love to speak to Margaret

@@CoachCraigKenneth yes she's amazing

Hello beautiful angle how are you doing

Old lady. That is very rude to say

It gets better

Hello beautiful angle💕💕💕

Update? My heart goes to you. I'm blessed mine was long distance so I didn't have the chance to do the very very bad things like stalking or handwritten letters

I think about these same things a lot. I wish i could hug him and watch tv or a movie and snuggle up like we used to. But I know he won’t feel or miss these things because he avoids these negative feelings. I’m tired of feeling hurt because of him.

Me too

I know that feeling cause I was mentally obsessed with my ex

update?❤

Bullshit, i dont mean you are but the excuse is. While there are silly people who show you their true colours. There is more than enough afraid little boys and girls (emotional maturity) that this is not true

Most break ups don't happen for these reasons, and obviously dumpers usually don't feel as hurt. Especially right after the break up. Unless they actually had to break up while still having feelings for their partner. Which is pretty rare

..... or they thought they had better options? Your comment is emotionally charged and illogical.

Wow! I have A LOT of respect for you after reading your comment. Honest. I hope one day soon to be where you are inside with all of this. Similar situation here. Thank you for your post and my sincerest best wishes for you going forward!

@Andrew Peters In regards to your response to Cecilia k. You are so right as to the power of admitting/expressing just that. A LOT OF POWER! He'll of an observation, Andrew!

How are you doing now?

Its almost 6mos but it feels like it still the day she broke up with me. 🙁 She reach out yesterday asking about the password of my account. What to do? 😑

6 months on & you get clarity... kicked to the kerb , lost everything apart from myself & with the help of my good friends & family, I gotten through the worst & moving on xx

The critic you don’t know they’re not coming back.

@@songsforsale427 too late.. Already give it to her thru viber. Just the plain password. No other messages from me. I think its just a direct indirect message because she did not open the account. I know because that account will show when is the last log in. I miss her so badly and i still cry😭😭.

mai mai sounds like the indirect direct contact coach speaks about.

update?❤

5 days are nothing. Keep no contact Up, it will Help you.

how did it go? I am on day 14 of the breakup/no contact😞

I am on Day 1😢 i just cry n cry but wont let him know no matter how much i want to call i aint doing it. He beat me chwat n i always forgive but now i am The bad one of how i been tracking of his actions.

@@user-vp4lo3yj8rI am so so sorry!!! please stay strong! it will get better I promise! go no contact!

Update?

Update?

Moxy ThePirate kudos to you

I was with mine for 8 years (engaged for the last 4) and I got a voicemail

DonnaNoble MD .... mine was going into 4 years and he lined the next girl up and ghosted me. No emails, no voicemail, nothing. Happened around the time I got hit by a car too... after that I think I was just pretty disgusted and turned off by his behavior. So no thoughts about wanting him back, think I deserve better than that. I’ve blocked him since. If he can’t even handle a breakup like a mature adult, I don’t think I need to expect too much from him. I saw his true colors, end of story. I hope I learn from my experience to learn to have Better judgement and to heal my attachment trauma so it doesn’t happen again.

@J J people do weird things. A lot of humans can't handle guilt, so they do whatever they can to have the easiest way out for themselves. That said, definitely grateful to have walked away with immediacy, strength beyond what I thought I'd ever have.

Mine was phone call and I thought that was bad but an email??! That’s shameful

Update

music man 67 I feel you

You.take care of yourself. Do what you.have to do to find peace in your broken heart. Most of all.keep hope in your heart. You loved once.you can love again.

It really is, Nathan. You are so right, it really is F'd up. Best wishes, brother!

@@barbarariley3488 Thank you, Barbara. Very same to you as well!

Surrender your feelings, heal day by day and accept the situation.

6 String Therapy: Well now he is dating someone else so I don’t even think about dating him again. It’s water under the bridge and I wish him well...

I actually broke things off w my xbf. I didn't not want him in my life. I wanted him to change. We were still seeing each other 3 years later and I hoped we were getting back together. Then he met his current woman. He's been w her 3 years. I know he still misses me and I miss him too. My heart has done a full 180. I took so much for granted. Nobody else I date even compares to him. Hopefully in time your x will feel the same way about you. I wish you the best.

@@patticakesintexas have you straight up asked him if he wants to see you again? What were the things you wanted him to change on?

I'm very sorry for your loss. 🫂

CARMEL COHEN i feel the same way as you do.

What is the situation now

Mine did that also. He had new girlfriend lined up before he broke up with me & yes I believe he is a narcissist. It really hurts

Wow, how are things now? Glad the tables turned 💅🏼

@@Hannah-vw8xd he try to only contact me about our son. He's rude at times & mean, but I know it's because he's fighting himself trying to hate me because he loves me. I don't want him back right now, but I would love it in the future. Breaking up is extremely hard. The no communication thing is tough! I try & fail so much at that lol.

My heart broke, my soul split 26 days ago. Give you a hug, it will end some day.

My heart is broken too. Stay busy and work on yourself. That’s all we can do.

It's impossible to say when the pain will end, but it WILL become less and subside in time. It depends on many factors. The most important thing to do is acknowledge what you feel and process it. Don't let it dominate your daily life if possible, but truly experience what you feel and look at things from both a rational and emotional perspective to see the whole picture of the relationship and what it meant to you. Your post was 2 months ago. How are you feeling now?

Hey.. it's getting better by now. Hugs.

@@michellezheng9881 did ur ex cm bk?

Keep no contact. Any updates? Hopefully you found someone better

Yes, you did the right thing. I wish l did that because l felt l wasn't his priority. I hung in there and it ended badly. He found someone else & left me, but l wish l left him first

Topkat I’m so sorry for the pain of your experience :( Hurt people hurt people. Just remember it was just him that didn’t know how to love you and it is his actions thereafter prove to you he wasn’t worthy for you nor could he see the true value of all you could have offered. Stay strong... heal... and never settle for anything less than a champion for your heart.

I was the person on the other end of your story. I've tried to work it out but she's not having it. 1 month NC so far be we split in April.

I know exactly how you feel. I broke up with my partner who played me & haven't heard a peep from her. She's with her side chick now

I have been grieving for 4 years now. Not ready to see another man. Still empty and a big hole in my heart

Did she ever come back to you? How are you doing now?

Hoping you are doing way better now

How are you? Did his rebound fail?

Dana Bacon same here I never thought that a girl would have so much power over me. It’s just a horrible feeling to go through this kinda pain. I even dream about her almost every night. Definitely work on yourself and make them regret ever leaving you.

Diego Elizarraras I’m still having dreams of him. I had a 3 min convo with him. He seems to be just fine. It made my heart shatter knowing he isn’t worried about me whatsoever even though I’m working the frontlines right now. I’m really broken

Dana Bacon just saw this reply hope you’re doing better. I can definitely say it’s got a lot better still think about her from time to time but if doesn’t hurt like it used to. Stay strong 👸

Patti Hilton hey you got this Ik for a fact that it will pass. I was engaged to my ex so I can definitely say I experienced a brutal breakup and was depressed and even suicidal at one point. But I made it and Ik you can too. Grieve and cry as much as much as you need to get all the pain out. But try and do something productive each day and stay active and social. The key here is to work on getting your happiness back and self worth up. In a few months time or even sooner you’ll look back at this and say it was a pretty good life lesson that changed you for the better. And don’t worry about finding someone. Once you complete all the steps and are at a spot in your life where you’re happy I’m positive the right person will step into your life.

@@diegoelizarraras5909 THANK YOU!!!! I'm really trying. I appreciate your kind and encouraging words 🙏❣️.

If my husband feels intensely guilty for treating me poorly, would that cause him to dislike me, or himself?

J Dee how’s it going? What is the reason for dumping you?

Play it cool. Wait until they make a commitment. If they want sex its a personal decision for you. But if you are not ok with fwb they need to tell you they want to comeback.

Love, a heart attack is a long time coming... it wasnt you x

Hugs 😭😭😭

Be bad. A little. Minimal necessary force. Be a bad boy.

… *what???* … … *what* the *FUCK?*

@@alexislaura9487 thanks but no! Why do you people post these silly comments! It's just spam!