This is exactly how it is for us. Makes you realise how strong we are. They mock you for being okay with being alone. Can remember vividly how many people in high school laughed at me for being okay with being alone and going to restaurants alone and being okay with it. At the time you think there may be something wrong with you, but fast forward 13 years later you realise that you were actually strong, and they are still exactly as they were back in high school.
Agree! People are conditioned to blend in the crowd and they can do whatever they want to hurt our feelings because how lonely we are. When they see something different from us, then they see it as their enemy. Society is a judgemental place. No doubt!
true solitude is living like that guy from the movie born into the wild. if you still live in civilization, youre not experiencing solitude since you depend on others for your survival ..
@@Uranianth Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company...according to Psychology Today. But feel free to continue being a know-it-all.
This Is spot on they will talk behind your back but not too your face. They will act friendly nice to your face then you'll hear from someone else that they had a problem with you. Most people are cowards with narcissistic tendencies and sometimes even the best of us will let our guard down.
That crap is very common in toxic friendship. Turning other people against you and hearing only ONE side of the story in a low key way, can def destory your character and mental health. Speaking of turning other people against you, they made the situation worse. They could have resolve their issues by speaking up and set boundaries to grow. That's what real friends do...make mistakes, reconize and it won't happen again. That's it!
@@LongCOVIDAdvocator Yes instead of telling the person their wrong for talking trash on you they will just go along with It only to turn around and act like their doing you a favor telling you when in reality they are just as bad If not worse
Agree 100%. Sometimes the gaslighting becomes so hectic that we start to doubt our perception of reality and thats dangerous. I have done a test though and noticed that once I removed myself from social media and any of these platforms where people can get info about you, strange things started to happen. People who never talked to you start to approach you for a visit, give you a call etc to get info just to dissapear again. Then shortly after that, you hear about more gossip and other so called friends stop talking to you for no reason at all. All this did was highlight who the real snakes are. Depriving them of info about what you're doing brought them out of the woodwork as their information source dried up and they were so desperate for info that they had to reach out to you directly.🤣 Sometimes i'm also just glad that they're turning people against us, as it exposes who your true enemies are without having to guess. Anyone who entertains gossip and goes against someone based on what gossip theyve heard, is clearly not someone we want in our lives as we level up.
After many years in corporate office environments that was always the ultimate painful betrayal. People smiling to your face and behind your back trying to get you fired!!! Because I made them "feel" uncomfortable in some way and for that they didn't like me and want me around. I was fired often. I also now have trust issues I'm working through unfortunately 😔
Word I been around too many toxic people I'm done the only time I surround my self with people is at pool bars or night clubs that are not in boujee places
@@kisigma1011 I don't even go out like that...to each is own though.. but to me those are the worst places all the sheep lurk there.. give me a decent female and some TV indoors and I'm good
@@SR-hf3hx you ain’t lying brother I’m a DJ and I quit doing bars and clubs as gigs because man don’t get me wrong it was fun and had met some cool ppl but in the end it’s a lot of shady people and u surrounding around lots of fakes,they seem cool as well but they have a hidden agenda. Since I left it I feel much more in peace and nothing draining me or getting consumed around bad energy. Now I’m trying to figure out what path to take that’s gonna be good for my well being and where I can feel right!
EXACTLY YESSSSSS💯💯🔥🔥‼‼!!! I don't believe that word "Friend" anymore because people nowadays don't give a damn how loving, care, or loyal you are to them!!!
Got rid of 4 "friends" and left the entire friend group because I don't like people who manipulate the Word of God. Bible said separate from among them, and that's what I did. No regrets and no looking back. I'm forgiving, forgetting and moving on.
God continues to tell me to cut off the evil doers - be them friends, relatives or companies I work for or businesses I frequent and put money into their pockets.
They sure do - they need our loosh - human life force energy. They feed their demons our loosh for favors for their worship of all things dark and demony - the witches of our world are all around us and we never saw it coming. Some did - but not many. Formal religions are packed with witches and demons and sorcerers. Narcissists also let demons reside in their human skin suit and move the human's soul on out for for them to do this. EVIL comes with narcissim - - they are plagued with demons and bad choices. In the mind programming of these folks (usually in childhood) demonic entities are inserted into other personalities so they can always call back home a multiple personality even if they heal. The brain washing of these victims starts from birth or early childhood and continue throughout life. The controllers can activate the hidden program that brings back the demon and erases the good. However, that said, the human heart and spirit is an amazing thing. And this too can be overcome by strong souls. And funny thing about it . . . Old souls usually pick the most difficult beginnings - it hones their empathic and healing skills in that life.
@@Shiveone ahhhh 😁 I think I like it… but sometimes even these interdependencies seem to have a few… entanglements 🥴😭😂 & the occasional elevator feuds 😆
I no longer have any friends because they were here for a time and a season. I keep busy focusing on my health, peace of mind, goals and becoming a better person 🙏each day.
True story: I met up with an old friend and he was going on and on about how misreble he was with his wife. Then literally about 30 seconds after his rant about his misery being married he ripped into me for never getting married. Saying things like, "Why have you never married! "What's wrong with you! Why don't you grow up! You always waiting for a Mr Perfect, don't you know it doesn't exist! You always have been bullheaded! Selfish! There must me something wrong with you everyone we know is married!" Etc. At the time my mouth had dropped to the floor in shock. I felt mortified, ashamed, embarrassed, all of it. I was still vulnerable at the time bcuz my mom had just passed away and I had PTSD at the time so I didn't react at all. But looking back in hindsight I wish would of said "are you done? Ok good. Now get the fvck out of my house. You don't come in my house and berate me like that. Don't ever talk to me again". (I always think of things I wished I had said after the interactions. And then I scream it in the air when I'm by myself. I can't think quickly when I'm around a narc)😔
Not everyone married that dude delusional like the rest I been out to clubs and night clubs people are still having flings and one night stands never settle like the rest bro they know damn well their foundation was built off of ego
It’s a rough road when you don’t have friends or family. People who occupy significant roles in my life act like they were never given that role to begin with! May God have mercy on their souls!
God is my validation. Friends and family members disappoint you every time. I will continue to help myself because I have no one who saves me as a man.
@Kate Goodyear true to a certain extent. Only a few women have no one to save them but the majority of women have support from family members or a guy friend, or a beta male simp that she can come to for money and resources.
Have faith that good people exist and you will find them . To despair is to turn your back on god . Yes there are more narcissists but hold on to hope you will find beauty in others
🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 I’ve been an introvert all of my life, so I’m often misunderstood by others. I’ve learned to accept it and embrace what matters most: being able the best person I can be and try to do God’s will. 💜💜💜💜💜
Truth truth 💯 percent Terryjoel - Took me until I was 48 to get rid of my own toxicity and that around me. Two years later I'm sober and getting better daily, by the grace of God 🙏
God has shown me those I had in my life were anything but friends. God is my best friend I put my trust in him and him only. Others will let you down every time!
Proverbs 3:5-6 King James Version 5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
You are so truly blessed 😇 💕 Spiritual growth is sooooo friggin painful!!! You can't unsee the truth. And, since I'm not an actress I can't play along in the game. But, the more people I deflect the happier and more empowered I feel.
Matthew 7:6 NIV “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. New Living Translation “Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you.
There’s nothing wrong for having friends but your friends have lives too so don’t expect anything from them that you’re not willing to have expected of you. Never put your expectations of happiness in anyone else’s hands.
When the Holy Spirit is strong within yourself when you are living your happy self, the negative people leave on their own and you attract the positive people. Like attracts like. But we are human with highs and lows.
Sad truth about life. My parents warned me when I was a kid that there's no such thing as friends but my naive young mind couldn't digest what they were saying. But after being burned by so many people who I loved and cared about and considered friends, I realized that they were right all along. God has always been my best friend and He will always be my best friend.
This is true in my life bro. People who just take but can't give. We have things in common like a sense of humor and that makes me happy but when a friend isn't loyal to me to the degree I was/am to them, it's a real eye opener!
I'm waiting for my last "friend" to come get the knife they left in my back...(been about 4 months now) 🤷 Must be to scared to show face..🤣 Anyway Joel...this video is priceless...this is exactly what keeps me coming back ❤️ Ur a "truth teller"...👍👍 Thx for being you ✌️
I don't have none I'm free and single and don't care what anybodys doing or what they got you can't take them with you when you leave this planet the only true friend I have is the lord my saviour Jesus Christ and his father the almighty God 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I have always been told that as you age your friends disappear one after the other. You eventually become or seem invisible. What really hurts is people who you thought were friends that you looked up to are really not your friends. In secret you are their punching bag that they beat on around others when you aren’t there. We all will be alone in the end. Better to know the truth now than later I suppose.
I like what you said, “ going back to the roots of before when you were happy “ This is what I’m facing at this point, I have to go back to doing the routines that made me a better man, like going cycling at the park, working out, actually getting to sit down and enjoy a decent movie or show from finish to end, enjoying my solitude listening to my music walking in the park surrounded by the pure vibe of nature. Maybe start my own small business from home. Maybe leave my toxic overnight job that consumes me dry and sucks up all my time. Just things that have slowly drifted me away from the good things I used to do. As far as “friends”, I stop hanging out with so many of them, not so much because I don’t like them, but because I was losing focus on me and spending too much time with others.
God almighty is my friend, I also have low, low, low tolerance for bull💩am good by myself! but am about equal rights and justice so I will continue to open my big mouth and shame the devil.👹
Keep up the good fight against these decepticons! As the days go by, I can't think of any good reason to have friends, when we can do everything ourselves. We are also levelling up so fast that we don't need anything/person holding us back.
I've found that it's better to give to random charity's instead of people close to me example Cancer studies feed hungry children way better to be anonymous remember it's better to please God not people God is the only one we should be pleasing
This is the best truth!! You just described a big portion of my life. I wish I had realized this a lot sooner in my life before putting my happiness on anyone else. Its painful when you realize the truth but learning is wisdom.
I was codependent on friends to make myself happy, over the years they changed and left me. It made me depressed for ages. I now find happiness in myself and life is starting to feel great again. Moral of this story is dont rely on others as they'll eventually let you down. Also improve your diet and do more exercise. Dont sit on your butt eating biscuits all night feeling sorry for yourself.
The worst is when you are living with one, or work with one. Or the worst, if you had kids with one. When you cant actually escape completely, its a nightmare. You have to be able to gray rock. Showing them any emotion is a bad idea.
Love yourself, know your worth and be careful who you open up to. People love to lie and talk Shit for pleasure. Could careless what does to the person they don't like? I'm not peoples a person. I can relate Terry. I had a negative encounter at a store that I have been giving my contribution as a customer for 3 years. Some idiot made a negative assumption about me that wasn't true. I had to clear everything up. Peoples perception is based of assumption and ignorance. You can be minding your own business ans not bothering nobody. Some Fool can create a situation out of the blue. This is why you have to be aware of surroundings and in anything. Always observe people through their actions. This Shit cause anxiety, intrusive thoughts, panic attacks, and resentment. Live in nature and Fuck Civilization. Don't trust nobody and that's I love being a Introvert. Don't be afraid, be aware. Even in your sleep. Narcissist are out for one thing. That is to cheat, destroy, manipulate and ruin. Keep seeking truth.
Wow! This is crazy because the exact SAME thing happened to me not to long ago at a store I had been giving my contribution as a customer for years… ( I couldn’t believe it) These evil people are out to get us! Stay strong & prayed up! 🙏🏽❤️❤️
@Queen Q, Yes they're out to go after people on a Higher Vibration out of ignorance and wickedness. I'm sorry you had to go through that horrible dreadful experience. Thank you for sharing your story with me. That does give me hope that I'm not alone. I can relate and know these things are always easy to ignore. That's why nice people become mean spirited and become distance. Have to be confident, control your emotions, be aware of your surroundings. Ignorance is the real problem. But most people ignore it and don't pay it no mind. We all men and women have to take action.
My square face reject sneaky people ! Because it make me feel resistance , contained in my own frame ! And keep hangout with entrepreneurs friends . Protect my incomes and energy
So wise and true. Happy to see a little sparkle in your eye. But still waiting to see that smile handsome. One of The BEST times of my life so far …..is being alone for the last two years. ❤️👋🎤🔥💋
Honestly it feels like everyone doesn't really care. I feel like I care so much about people, things in life, everyone's thoughts and ideas but there is no one to reciprocate that to me. I have so much love for everything on this earth but I'm throwing my love all my love at cold stone statutes. This video did bring me comfort though, I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this.
Holy shit. I needed to hear this. You are spot on. I love what you said about meals - food can make you feel better, whatever type of food it may be - meat, carbs. The way you conveyed your thoughts felt incredibly sincere and empathetic. Thank you for putting this out here ❤
I really appreciate you doing this and hearing your calling from God. This has been such a long journey for me. The gangstalking has been horrendous for about a dozen years. No friends (use to have hundreds - realized they were acquaintances) no family anymore - too toxic for me to live a life of substance with them in it. I find myself on the right track when I see your videos and you confirm alot and fill in other things I haven't put a mind to but I have your same opinon. Watching your videos and reading the comments has been a very positive time in my life - Thanks - I really needed this and didn't realize just how much!!! Blessings to all my brothers and sisters in God. I love you all KEEP ON KEEPING ON Have a great week!
I understand your “robbed” feeling. Been there. Understand that. Working through an event right now. I’m in a process. We can’t ever fill anyone else’s cups if our cup is empty. How can we love our neighbor? If we do not even know how to love ourselves. 💋
Friends come and go, but God is always there for us and he loves us for who we are. The most important thing you can do, is to read the Bible, pray and build your relationship with our Heavenly Father. True happiness is getting to know our father in heaven. Don’t lose hope.
Thank you Terry! Invaluable advice! I have not taken the time to learn about myself and I have let people so deplete my energy! Your advice is so helpful! Please continue your videos!
It began in 1948, with "the deliberate dumbing down of america", and that book can be downloaded from this Internet. All small letter and thicker than or as thick as the bible! all to do... just THAT! 😔 DUMB EVERYBODY DOWN.😷🧠 Ever checked the 10 new commandments at the Georgia Stones? 🤔
Ahead of the game......realized that ✌ years ago! Hope everyone who hears this message heeds to it👊💥 The one's you would never ever ever ever......think will stab you in the back! Including family🤔 And believe me the nicest one's are the worst! Glad I'm past all that BS fo shore😂😂😂😂 Here's their motto "IF IT BENEFITS ME NOT YOU" but I'll give you the crumbs jes so you'll hang around to your demise👌
i dont really need other people to be happy, im happy with myself but im losing friends more than ever rn bc they were all fake and now i dont know who to trust, like i have 3 friends rn and him and i were both dpressed today and we both started to cry, my other 2 friends comforted my other friend but didnt care about me.
Yes I agree and I like to do things I don't know my paintings my poems my writing it keeps my mind so healthy that I'm fine I'm fine by myself you know well if that's what it is because I don't know I mean it's so hard you meet somebody and then you take the time to know them and then you realize that well you just wasted energy like I could have been painting or doing my writing that's how I feel sometimes but I mean I haven't even met anybody for such a long time I don't even I just I just focus on staying healthy my body and soul and and just continuing on this journey because well I mean I just wanted to get on with my life I want to have a home I want to have a car I want to well there's other things too but I don't I don't want to say because well I just am careful what I say
Thanks Terry for ur version of taboo topics and the honesty of it... Need more vitamin C... Just chilling time is self care no need to be around vampires who just drains the energy with their bullcrap. ,, its all about healthy choices..... Fresh Lemonade.. DIVINE is my closest friend....
As born again christians (chosen ones) we’re to live in all of Jesus Christs ways and he was perfect therefore we are given the chance to be perfect ☺️☺️☺️
This year when I first come into highschool I was needy of people validation becouse I wasnt okay with being alone just with myself or vice versa. I realised how they don't care about me and ignore me. I can't care about those people too. The worst thing is that I sometimes forget about that and I felt the neediness of they validation again. Like you were saying sometimes I dependet my happines on others
Very good video. Your video went from telling stories to religion. I like the video it seems like you're developing into a inspiration Coach. Good for you stay with it and I am sure you will be needing help soon because you are definitely involving been listening since day one off and on. I feel better health wise as well I am mobile now, now I need to resolve other issues. Good video.
Mutual benefits Common interests Like minded I talk to the people I do business with, and those who gain as much benefit as I do from the relationship as they do. Friendship or business ship, either way it has to be a 🚢 that travels from port to port in order to operate without resentment or second guessing of the 🚢 your build from the ground up in some instances.
Yes it's like a balance and even flow when it comes to eating drinking and I've learned to do that though like I just little by little whatever I'm needing I just I just do it but I know not to obsess over anything or or overeat like I've just learned to really balance and even with coffee just yeah pretty much with everything I feel good about my eating habits and things like that
There comes a point when you realized that a supportive family structure and a couple of solid healthy friendships and even maybe a rotation of solid feminine women in you're life is something that is NOT accessible to you and they it's like you only have yourself to lean on for pretty much all of life's problems. This is how loneliness starts, I've experienced some good times with people but I have experience bad times with myself and I. And that's where the gap for me kinda stretches out far to where I've been through so much by myself that it's gotten harder for me to develop social connections without feeling quickly detached. Being 25, I come to the realization that I never truly needed a support system or friendships to help me through life or for me to better myself. I've done everything for myself in terms of covering all my bases as a man.
7:50 that door swings both way. It’s almost an oxymoron. You have to protect your own personal Spiritual Energy aka being selfish… The difference is the Righteous know how be altruistic once they’ve taken care of themselves, and they actually do it. P.S. I still appreciate the overall message. TY!
I was starting to fail in my 6th grade reading class and due to covid, (and my fault) I failed 7th grade and still got moved to 8th grade. Now I'm in 10th grade and failing everything writing based because I feel like i'm stuck in a 6th-7th grade reading level and can't understand most assignments.
