Ladies please stop letting men move in with you & don't give them access to your bank information, respect goes both ways, letS end this BS & love ourselve, Life is too short.
I just walked away from a dude I dated for 10 months, that mask came off pretty face but I failed at the red flags 🚩 in the beginning because I was too emotionally involved. I went full no contact, and found god and myself!!! When I say silence is my super power it’s amazing!!! I’m thriving and learning so much about myself. I’m taking travel contracts with my career and focusing back on my podcast and writing my book!!!! The power of walking away from a potential man, fuck that he need to be equal. I’m not building another man, I healed all my abandonment issues, my insecurities and my rejections issues during my solitude period and oh my god it’s a beautiful transition!!! You cant heal in the same environment that hurt you!!! Please ladies walk away !! Much gratitude 🙏🏾… Thanks @acemetaphor your golden sweetheart!!!
@@summerdior459 Hey 👋🏽!!! After walking away I was able to sit with myself and reflect. Once I reflected I found the deeply rooted issue within me and it was childhood abandonment from my parents that kept me with this person. I became afraid to be alone and that made me settle. Once I recognized the issue I took it to god and ask for healing and releasing from this person. I forgave him and myself for tolerating his behavior. I learned to be alone in peace with myself and begin loving god and myself more!! You can’t heal in the environment that hurt you, so you have to leave in order to gain clarity.
6months of silence and reflection prior me leaving a not physical but mentally abusive marriages payed for my divorce and asked for nothing throughout the entire process he talked hella ish but what happened within that 6 months I WOKE THE FU. I left weight 216lbs and mentally drained and financially tapped the freakout. That was 3yrs ago I am 179lbs learning about myself hard working in theropy in school full-time and my daughters have never been happier. The moral of the story is the work I begged him so hard to do in our marriage I applied that work into myself which gave me the ability to get into the mindset to get up and leave.
Why man online dating says on their profile "long-term relationships".. meet you in person and the next day their saying the gonna keep dating their not looking for a relationship 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🙄Make it make sense.
To reel you in and give you false hope. Take them for what they say out of their mouths AND show you in their actions. A genuine person is not going to confuse you and their words will align with their actions and vice versa. If there’s ever a question mark, put a period right there! No more playing with these manipulative behaviors in 2024!
OMG I see that all the time online. That’s why I officially stopped online dating a few weeks ago. Men treat it like the players club or something. You see the same person still on there months later. Make it make sense. They say they want long term but they are casually dating and hooking up 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
MOVE means - proceed, advance, shift, and go! So MOVE! Move into prayer, move into praise, move into the Word, Move out of distractions, move into position, and move out of offense! Don’t just stand there MOVE! So you can MOVE the enemy out of the way!!!! ~Vanisia Tapia
I went on one date with him and he was talking shit to me. I told him I'm too good and blocked him. Thanks! I'm no longer throwing my pearls to the swine.
I was walking to the store with my boyfriend. I was purchasing a car I had an apartment and a job. He had no job and no license and he said ...I NEVER DATE A WOMAN WITHOUT A CAR AND A DEGREE. SAID HIS EX WAS A PRINCIPAL OF A SCHOOL. His standards were higher than mine and he had NO qualifications.
It’s my opinion: ~ Kevin Samuels could have learned from you for this is what constructive criticism sound like enveloped in LOVE~ thank you for planting seeds others will water😇
WOW! Last year at this time I was trying so hard to get my cheating spouse.. We are now back together, and we had a fantastic Christmas and all is going well...for now... But this spouse has done this twice to me, left me to pursue other interests and then came back.. so although things are good now, I live with a constant knowledge that this person can leave me without a second thought if something "better" comes along.. what value am I giving myself? I'm basically saying I'm qualified to be your space holder until something better comes along... This video has made me realize that I need to go into the new year alone - taking time to realize that I'm not just qualified to be a space holder, rather unqualified to be a cherished woman who has a spouse that would never think of displacing me as his one and only... God give me the strength and courage to exit this relationship in 2024.. and to discover the qualified woman I TRULY AM
You are suffering from extremely low self esteem of yourself. That’s the only way to explain taking a man back after he’s stuck his 🍆 in another person and had fun with them while not giving a damn about you or how you would feel about it. He’s back with you because the other person didn’t last. You right though if something else better than you comes along or something shiny and NEW trust and believe he’ll be cheating on you again in a heartbeat. He knows your weak and not going no where and will settle for any abuse or STD he brings to you because you keep taking him back. Stop being WEAK and leave this fool alone.
I pray you continue to believe in yourself & do what needs to be done. God has your back. Put your faith in Him … not man! Bc man will disappoint you every time. God Bless! 🙌🏽💜
Thank you, Ace. I am a senior citizen. I don't need you to ride me all night. I didn't like that when I was young. I crave consistency. A man ♂️ who keeps a job. A man who can keep a roof over his head. Last but not least, a man who has his own transportation. The bar is low. And I don't meet men who meet it. I will continue to work on me. I refuse to settle for less❤
Ace... I hear you. Sadly, some of us are not as "qualified" as we would like to think that we are. We're nice, educated, loyal, supportive, wifey material,... But unfortunately many of them will never see our value because they will not give us a chance due to "lack of physical attraction". So out of desperation, many women like that will settle for less than what we deserve. Until one gets to the point that a toxic relationship is worse than being single, one will continue to settle.
REAL TALK. I’ve gone no contact and I’ve signed them papers. This is so true and I’m glad you solidified this. Ladies this is gold❤. No more talking just walking.
😂😂😂Ouch!!!!!! This message is exactly how that old toxic relationship played out. I overlook the one that was there for me. I now know the difference between sex and lovemaking.
You explained co dependency so well. I have a friend who is a codependent marriage. She is loosing herself. I can smell the manipulation but i can’t do nothing about. I am loosing my friend and it hurts me. She is like a sister to me. I hope she wakes up one day and sees that she deserves better.
I needed to hear that message on f boys hitting harder when I level up. Just knew when I finish school I’d up the playing field on a selection.. but never thought I’d have a greater target on my back because of my accomplishments 😭
This video is the most spot on video I’ve seen in a long time! I used to feel Bad for cutting people off so quick without looking back but now I know I’m on the right path! Thank you
Love this message Ace and I would like to add, mothers...if you are raising your sons the way that you are "raising" these men, you are creating these F-boys! Stop being so passive! Raise these boys to be good men dammit! Set healthy boundaries with your sons too! Ok, bye👋🏼❤️
He came off like he was a spiritual But now I know he's not I got to go my way Thank god I move slow I feel good With that been said I can't walk away now.
My ex is the same way. He talks a great game and appears to have his stuff together. Under the facade is an angry, porn addicted, lustful, manipulative demon!! Next month makes 1 year of limited contact since we have an 8 year old. I am so proud of myself!! Never going back!
All I can say is you are telling ALL MY TRUTHS ✅🧘🏿♀️🎯⚔️🛡 I'm learning my lesson from it but getting my blessings by releasing people. It's not easy but I feel better everyday now. Thank you🌹 Thank you🌹 Thank you🌹I'd rather choose myself from now on. 🎉❤🙌🏿🔐
So true I took years to work on myself, but I almost let my ex boyfriend pull me back down by running games and going back and forth with his baby mom. I let him go and loving myself
I just went through this at the end of last year that i dated someone for a year and i found my voice and stop letting him take control he thought i would never leave him so i had to show him my actions
Ace you really hurt my feelings with this and I LOVE YOU FOR IT! Sheeeeeeesshhhhh 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Thank you so much because I truly have a problem disqualifying unqualified men. Bless you Ace❤️
22:38 yes, go no contact. Revoke access to you. Walk away. Im on 28 days of no contact. No contact is forever. Until they man up and meet your standards, treat them like a stranger. If they dont, then no contact helps you move on and get your power back. No contact is a win win situation.
Literally sitting here in tears bc the way you just yelled at but I needed it. While I was building him it was breaking me...Thank you I'll never try to heal and build a man up based off his potential again! Never 🥲💔
I have learned who they are. And I take better care of myself,then they ever could. Single and stable. No more poverty for me.Bscause if you are not careful, they will suck you dry. What's love got to do with it. Nothin😊 Do yourself a favor get to know someone for at least a year You will see. They will run off and forget about you.
I love u Ace Metaphor this I really do...When u decided to take on Tony. G which is a person I listen to for my spiritual side! But I realize I like u too cuz u give it to me in a way that makes me upset enough to get my shit back together 😅 I love your work too and I can't help there is 2 sides to me I need this real sometimes too in however it comes out no judgment! Thank u...
So many Red Flags i ignored from the beginning...last year when our relationshipm started around Christmas....well this Christmas i was alone and hurt by this man...because he dumped me in October...im sure he was with someone else...i suffered threw xmas knowing it was part of my healing to detach...he did text me saying he wanted something back i had of his...and did say..Merry Christmas...indirect, direct text...yes he was a terrible lover..so so selfish..this was a red flag from the start..and when i mention it..of course he gets mad at me...communicating with him..just doesnt happen with him..he can not have a calm conversation to help us fix things...another Big Red Flag
Hi Ace I just got this video and I love you and appreciate you so much thank you so much for telling us women and showing us the ways my dad and my uncles and even my cousins used to be teaching us beautiful blessing you are to us and you always be on point no matter what the topic of I can’t say thank you enough 🙏🏽🙏🏽🥰🥰🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️💯💯👍🏽👍🏽🔥🔥
