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All of those are good character and traits in a man. The key is not stopping those things once they are married. Continue to make your wife feel like royalty.
Hello Jo 👋 missed you, hope all is well. Filipino guys are a really cool guys, there are bad apples in every culture. Seems like Filipinos and Filipinas use the courtship time to build trust, once established they move deeper in the relationship. By the way I would give my seat glady to my love interest or any woman on a crowded bus or jeepney 😊.
A Filipina appreciates the Filipino man who provides & that's understandable, yet why don't Filipina women take their time in getting to know the guy properly to find out what he's about, before making babies? & then in many cases the Filipino guy runs away? The Philippines has one of the highest number of single mothers in the whole world. The Filipina must start to take her time in getting to know the guy, any guy, any nationality, before bringing more & more lives into the world without stability. The guys should also 'man up' or leave women alone.
@@ken.cade5 It happens in every country worldwide, but the Philippines has one of the very highest single mother counts in the world. Until the Filipina & Filipino take more responsibility, this won't change.
I met my Filipina wife, of 10 years, in Hong Kong. She knew I was doing ok, but not just how well until we relocated to the Philippines after having a child together. I look after her daughter. We provide for the education of some of the kids in the family. We employ her family in our business. There are no handouts. We own property and have a decent income. She is 11 years younger than I am. No flags, of whatever colour.
The problem is that this seems a very "no money no honey" type of arrangement. Most older foreign guys will worry about being loved for their cash, rather than who they are. Dating an older filipina will alleviate many of these demands.
I am waiting until I get back to the PH to seek a LTR/wife/domestic partner. I want to date for a long time to find out her character. I would not give money to her parents until I have met with them and learned their character. If the Filipina I want is demonstrating major green flags towards me, then some of what you said might happen. I will treat every Filipina with great respect, kindness, gentleness, self control and lots of hugs and kisses. If she needs more than that before marriage, that's a red flag. I want a girl who has a genuine burning desire for me, not my money. If she does not have genuine burning desire, your marriage will suck just like in the west.
Interesting video, Jo. What if the foreigner offers to send money or buy something she needs, but she refuses because she is concerned about it raising jealousy with friends, family or roommates? Would that be a yellow flag? I have heard there can be a lot of jealousy between Filipinas, and it can cause issues. Just curious. Take care!
Yellow flag? First time hearing it. Learned something new today! 😅 I seldom heard Filipina refusing to accept money from foreigners, usually they're good at asking for it. Unless she's buang.🤣
If the foreign guy does all what you say & it's expected by the Filipina...what is the Filipina bringing to the table? Will she do all the same for the foreign guy? If not, why not?
@@filipinamindset Aha that's funny Jo...yet in reality if the Filipina really wants so much from the guy...it's backwards thinking & absolutely not realistic in a balanced relationship. It's 2024 & not the 1950's A good woman in the West wants to pay her way in life, including in a relationship. It's all about respect for eachother. Think about it.
If the foreigner is sending/supplying her money, then the Filipina had better be bringing "virginity and purity" to the table to make herself worthy of the hard-working foreigner's resources/money. Real Talk!
@@USA_to_Asia_in_2024 Well said, in other words, it's not going to happen. The only guys that are going to do as Jo says, are the very very desperate...personally I'd stay single in the Philippines than bow to such backwards demands. Fortunately there's hard working, independent & beautiful Filipinas to be found, that realise it's 2024 & not only want to pay their way...but insist. Don't settle for anything else guys, I never have & i'm respected for it.
Just out of interest, would a Filipina also expect all these things from a Filipino? Or, asked a different way, what makes a Filipina think a Filipino is a green flag?
A green flag Filipino is one who has a job history of sticking with an employer long term. He doesn't whine like most of them. He is outgoing and eager to get ahead. Basically, he has a foreigner mindset. And No, Filipinas do not expect the same from a Filipino. Once a good Filipino has become a parent, he will only spend money on his immediate family. Once his family's needs are met, he will help his parents and then her parents. So no, a Filipina does not expect any of these things from a Filipino unless he is wealthy.
When you say, "We don't shave down there," I think you are mistaken. Of the 12 Filipina girlfriends I've had so far, six of them let their pubic hair grow naturally and the other six were hairless. To this I am an eyewitness. If it were true that no Filipinas were hairless, there wouldn't be any waxing salons in the Philippines; they wouldn't stay in business if they never had any customers. But there are waxing salons at every shopping mall and many other places too. This indicates that many Filipina women do have their pubic hair removed, even without my personal knowledge of it.
Hello Jo 👋, the phrase depreciating asset I s a good description, age doesn't matter to some women and men. Performance always matters , you want a man that help you and his family strive, and a man that shows he has been able to demonstrate commitment can return the same to you
they get away with it because they can u law shit is why this happens as many get pregnant guys want to use them for sex when a forigner opposite there looking for true love not all but majority there pinoy think his tt and the filipina thinking he be the one
Thank you, Jo. I was waiting for second half of the interview! I think in the end, it comes down to the person and how compatible you are with each other. I have a very good friend who is a widower. His wife has been gone for more than 10 years, but he can't seem to keep a relationship because he ends up comparing every woman he dates with his former wife, about whom he only remembers the good times. Other friends, who have divorced, have found very happy relationships. So, again, I think it comes down to the person. Great video!
According to the book The Prophet, we ought to live out Love Stories without telling showing it to world, because peoplr ruin beautiful things. Some people subscribe to such thought, especially if the union is odd or unlikely. They just to keep things in clandestine, until they get to be more secure about what the future holds.
I'm 60 yrs young and divorced (17yrs now) with 2 adult daughters (ages 30.5 and 22) who is looking to find a Philippina relationship / wife. I would like to come there to meet and date several Philippina women to choose for my next wife and have children (sons the next time). Where should I stay? For how long I should stay to solidify an honest and true relationship? Want your advice and yes I am a Christian Pastor/Teacher. blessings
Really good video, Jo. Your guest was very articulate and interesting. I agree with most of what the two of you were saying. With respect to dating, if I ask someone to go with me, I expect to pay. After all, if I asked her, I am in control of where we go and can plan the date such that wherever it is, I can afford what it is we will be doing. I would never expect a woman to pay for her half of the date. A lot of women here will offer, which many men appreciate, but we never accept. Can't wait for the follow up! Take care.
Hello Jo 👋, Hello Jennifer 👋, what is this 50/50 ? Both partners once they decide on being committed to each other should put 100% of their efforts to build a loving binding relationship. You can tell someone loves you by their effort. In the US most people feel you should always be considerate to others, and some don't. It mostly depends on how you were raised. Very interesting topics , two beautiful independent women sharing their thoughts 😀. The smiles on your faces were priceless.
It would be difficult for many European guys paying for all, when they're not used to such in their own countries. I'd like to know why Kenyan women or any other women feel it should be the way that the man provides for all?
@@jennifernjambi4618 Jenny, just so you know. In my country people are seen & respected as equal & that means (in most csses) a married couple who both work, equally both provide in monetary ways. Both feel it's right to do so & is healthy for ones own self esteem & wellbeing. This is considered progress from 60+ years ago, when indeed it was the man who (generally) solely provided in a marriage. Think about it & I've visited Kenya to know, do you want progress of a healthy & wealthy developed European country, or Kenya to remain the country it is?
In my case grew up knowing and seeing my grandfather providing for the family.my grandmother have never worked. Biblicaly i have never come across averse that says its 50/50. awoman gives birth and feel the pain and aman sweats Will working hard. Man providing for the family have never stoped them from having many wives. The problem in africa is corruption and greedy leader that why we are abit poor than european country.
@@jennifernjambi4618 Hi Jenny, yes I completely understand & that's how it was 60+ years ago in many countries, including mine...but things have changed, thinking has changed for the better & mutual respect has grown from it. These days, the any self respecting woman 'WANTS' & needs to pay her way on her own or in a relationship. My wife & all my friends wives do this, it gives them self worth & independence. Sure, we treat eachother on occasions & then that's seen as special & out of love. My countries government is also corrupt, most are...but it's what's inside the individuals that counts. I know for certain that women who pay their way & don't rely on their man, feel much much better about themselves, their self worth increases & their self worth & respect is high. Such women here are desired & respected by men, yet any women who is known to take take take...is kept well away from. Yes the two countries are a world apart, but human beings are human beings & so it's up to us to change if we want better, want to improve. Hand on heart, if you have the means to pay, how does it feel when you don't? When you always allow your man to pay?
Hello to Jennifer, who speaks English in a beautifully elegant way. Having dated ladies from Nigeria, Ghana and Uganda, as well as the Philippines, there are definitely cultural similarities. Lovely chat ladies.❤
if you want my personal advice anyone is frre to do his choises and we cant judge-i prefere a 30 years old woman that have no kids.we are not obligated to have they.is in anycase a resonsability to have.not all love havbe that.i have friends not married that live tohghethert and have not kids
My Filipina GF is also jellous and always asks me questions about everythlng like what I am doing or get mad if I don't answer her Video Calls within 3 seconds, or when I am waking up too early. Love is suppose to be about trusting your partner and if a Filipina can't trust her man and constantly want you to answer her text or video calls and keep asking their man weird questions. The man also has a job and in most jobs you are not even allowed to use your phone while working, but if you don't answer directly then she will get mad because she constantly think their man is cheating on her. You know, we men also think a woman is cheating when she becomes quiet for hours or ignores you for days. What's up with that? But we men respect her and never ask her why because woman has so many different reasons to ignore her man... but we men have to constantly update her on what we are doing and where we are...
If a foreigner has an ex-Filipina and that’s a problem, what about single Filipinas? No kids but not a virgin. Ex-boyfriend? Or sexually active? Those aren’t red flags to the male foreigner? Talking sex early in is a red flag to the foreigner too. But having an ex? Only a red flag to Filipinas? Even if the foreigner is always with a Filipina and always wants her to go with him wherever he goes, it’s still a red flag to the Filipina? You don’t think, know or believe it goes both ways?
I had a Filipina GF earlier that got scared and left me after I told her I have been divorced twice (because she asked me), but she never asked me why I divorced them. I have legimate reasons for it. However, I have now a new Filipina GF (for 9 months now) and she has never asked me this question and I hope she never will because I am a honest guy. My first wife was beating me for years, and my second wife never came to my country. We men has good reasons if we divorce someone. I hope Filipinas will understand this one day.
People that go off of a travel itinerary aren’t real travelers I call them influencers and digital no mads running around with a chicken with no head.The other thing is yes I’m born and raised in America and people from western countries do complain a lot.The third thing is trying to make the Philippines like your home country which leads to complaining again.The fourth thing is not interacting with the locals and not trying the local food.The fifth thing is not adventuring out crying touristy hot spot metro areas.
I hadn't seen my visiting before or that my college girlfriend in college was a Filipina as I knew that i was Not going to bring her back to the USA like my Best buddy in the states did. Instead i visited and am moving ther in Mid July as that's when i can be serious with Lady i am in LDR with as I have no illusions as I know about some of her past as she knows about mine. But most important is our present and future as Communication, Trust, Honesty and Loyalty as I look at it as we are Both Building a Relationship like you would build House. Start from Bottom up with a plan and Both put in effort constantly while understanding the others skills and detriments (the good and bad) as Accepting them as they are and Being the BEST version of yourself for the other not always putting either first but like mixing cultures have understanding and knowledge and communication with strong desire to make it work as it will Always be a work in progress and something that needs maintenance, freshening and some added goodies and being open to new ideas and changes. Better to have a strong simple house with nice things inside then a fancy one that is hollow and ugly on inside. Family are like the neighbors and location as they can be an asset or a pain so is best to be kind, respectful and treat them the way you wish to be treated. Nobody wants to feel taken advantage of or neglected or ignored. Things can quickly change as many have seen a house get swallowed up by the Jungle if not maintained well And like bad neighbors with lots of roosters, drunks or pests one has to have a wall around those important and only allow good people inside but welcome the good ones in with open arms. Enjoy the Peace as when it goes bad then you either fix or abandon which means everyone loses. Best to pass it on to the next generation if they are worthy and not greedy, spoiled and selfish. The one thing nobody shared was that by moving to Philippines I would LOSE some family and friends as Jealousy, envy and hurt feelings or even thinking you'd abandoning their friendship as people pulled away as that was saddest thing and BIG difference as Filipinos mostly congratulate and encourage advancement although some crab mentality too.
