There's a lot of single moms because there is sex happening outside of marriage . It's really that simple. Maybe young women could learn from observing the life situations that single moms are in and stop repeating their behaviors .
Thanks so much for covering this topic. I was one who asked the questions. You've covered many aspects though i've been researching the issue also... i've found out there's a STD/HIV Aids epidemic in the Philippines, statistics & information as of April 2023. There have been 46 cases reported daily [5], a stunning 411% increase in daily incidence in 10 years. Late presentation in care remains a concern, with 29% of new confirmed HIV cases in January 2023 having clinical manifestations of advanced HIV disease at the time of diagnosis [5]. Figure 1.29 Apr 2023 This & much much more is littered a over the internet. So not only is it the children who suffer without a stable upbringing/no father, but also the unwillingness to use safe contraception, spreads STD & the Philippines ranks as one of the highest % in both, worldwide. Much more than any other Asian country.
Cute video. I am not sure if the story at the end is best to describe a single mom. I agree that having a child does not reduce the woman's value. But it adds to the cost when you talk about children. So the example you gave about the 50 EU should include, if I give you 50EU AND you need to also accept this large box. You do not know what is inside the box. It could be a pile of trash, or a cute and loveable thing, or a very mean thing. But to have this 50 EU, you need to accept the box and live with the box's contents, too. This represents a problem for the man because he will have to accept the children, too, and there is no guarantee that everything will work out. Many men might not be willing to take a chance on that. So what can a woman do to improve her chances of finding a man who would accept her children? Raise the kids well, make sure she balances time between the man and the children, including the man in the lives of the children, and be patient. Accepting a single mother is asking for more from a man than a single lady with no children. Everyone should try to work together to make it work. Sometimes, it is best to let those who do not want to be part of it go without a fight. They are probably doing you and your children a favor by letting you know in advance that this might be a bad idea. In theory, I have no problem with accepting a single mother as a wife. Before I get involved, it all depends on how that single-mother family functions. If the family is a mess, chances are, it will still be a mess, and now the man is involved in it, too. That is not an enjoyable thought. But if the man and woman can work together and everyone tries to work through issues with love, it could be a beautiful thing. Good luck to those that try.
I agree. The banknote analogy is encouraging for a Filipina to hear, but it is an example of 'false equivalence' when applied to the landscape of dating and relationships. For one thing, you can wash a banknote as soon as you receive it. Furthermore, its purpose is to be used as a 'medium of exchange'. In other words, you are supposed to part with it in order to receive a good or service that matches its value. If a banknote has something wrong with it, you are not stuck with it. But if a Filipina has potentially problematic 'baggage', you can't remove the baggage, as if it were dirt or sweat. And the purpose of a relationship with her is not to exchange her for something else.
Thank you for taking on such a sensitive topic, and for your candor. The Vatican's position on contraception is changing. Not quickly, but perceptibly, because it HAS to. It's currently viewed as a forgivable sin, which while not saying "yes," isn't saying "no." It's an acknowledgement that even if the ideal of no sex before marriage is adhered to, a married couple can be just as poor with multiple children as a single parent can be. Thanks also for pointing out that girls are often forbidden to date by their families... until they are expected to marry. I agree that this is ludicrously unreasonable. Lack of dating experience is exactly what leads people into trouble. Discernment comes from experience, and women are expected to attain this discernment rapidly. And if they happen to be the eldest child and are shouldering the financial burden for other family members, i.e. "breadwinner culture," then it's easy to see how relationships can end in disaster. There's tremendous toxicity in the "manosphere" over the topic of single moms. I was raised by a single mom too, so my position on the topic is potentially (though not automatically) different than that expressed by many men. I would see advantages to "raising another man's child" as the manosphere puts it (let's not forget, that child is hers too). Being older, I may not necessarily want to have more kids. Having one "baked in" removes some of that pressure from me. As long as the dad absolutely is NOT in the picture, doesn't periodically exercise a parental right to insert himself back into the child's life (and the mom's other parts), and as long as there's good chemistry between all involved, I'd be fine with helping to raise another child. To your question about whether a woman's value decreases if she is a single mom... if we look at the issue purely pragmatically, then I think it probably does. Not personal value, but desirability as a mate compared to childless single women. For example, in the sewer of online dating, most men would probably not choose to contact a single mom in the first place. They know that she has other priorities and that because of those priorities, the "getting to know you" phase of dating, the part where chemistry flourishes (or doesn't), is going to be circumscribed. I have also heard that many Filipinas are not truthful initially about their status as single moms. That's not cool at all, and I think that it speaks to single moms' self-perception of having reduced value or competitiveness. Your metaphor of the 50 Euro note is sweet, and of course nobody is likely to disagree with it. However, it misses an important point. Single motherhood does not devalue a person in any way, 50 Euro is the same whether crumpled, stepped on, or smelly, but the context of a relationship with a single parent is utterly different. A foreigner who takes responsibility for a young Filipino child may not even be able to talk to the child until he or she starts to learn English or the foreigner learns Tagalog or dialect. That is a steep hill to climb. What's more, step parenting is full of painful moments since most stepchildren play the "you're not my REAL dad" card at some point. This would be painfully obvious since you don't resemble one another. There are many, many rewards too, of course, and I've seen mixed-race step parent relationships work beautifully. On the whole, taking on that role bears a great deal of sober contemplation. Many of us are quite willing to undertake a ready-made family, but I think that many, many more of us would prefer not to. WHO she is doesn't change. WHAT she is, where her priorities are, and where we fit into them... that's a different story. Many thanks for sharing your video!
good topic, but I met a single mother who cheated on her husband and have children from different men. mind you she was married and had no children with husband. so it go both ways.
I am grabbing my popcorn 🍿 and soda drinks to hear this phenomenon that has puzzled me since my very first trip from the UK to The Philippines in 2008 😅😂
I think many men find it to difficult to raise a child or family here because of economics. Once a man leaves all the pressures are removed from him but more pressure for the lady. Always help the single moms of the Philippines
a single mother's value before God does not decrease. But in the dating world, her value decreases. Most men do not want to take responsibility for another man's child. Most would rather marry a woman without children. The majority of single mothers in the Philippines have never been married. If they actually believed the bible and waited until marriage to have sex, there would be far fewer single mothers.
It's normal for men to not want to date, and especially to not want to marry a single mother. It's not "selfish" for a man to reject single mothers, but especially in the West men are told to "man up" and take care of single mothers, and that's just illogical and totally stupid. Single mothers need to take responsibility for their poor life choices. Nobody held a gun to their head and forced them to have sex with low quality men. Now, having said that, I don't think all single mothers are evil, like some men in the red pill community make it out to be. There are widows, and also people who had totally amicable divorces and they both agreed to divorce. For example, the man and woman might have had started a business together that was successful and they decided to equally share the assets, or they might be awarded equal custody of the kids. It's not the women in those scenarios who are bad single mothers. It's the low class trashy 304 type single mothers who ARE a problem. And there are plenty of them in the West and in the Philippines.
Wow dude, you so wise. I thought you was the fluffy blood pressure expert on another channel. Now you a preacher? So clarify. Are you a health expert or not?
@@LGR605 The 2 leading causes of death i the Philippines is high blood pressure and cardiovascular disease. That is all I have said on another channel. If you dispute, you can go the Philippine Dept. of Health. And yes, I am a preacher who has lived on and off in the Philippines for 10 years prior to the plandemic. I have attended the deaths of many Filipinos. One thing I learned as a child is that I don't have to obey strangers. You can command all you want. And be as sarcastic as you want. You will never stand before me, but will stand before Jesus.
@@puppyupper4565 I appreciate the clarification. As far as the leading cause of death in the PI, ain’t that about the same in the ‘white’ world of US? If so, why are you are preaching to me, or anyone else? Whether I’m in the US or PI is irrelevant. Yes, I carry some extra weight here on the prairie, but when it comes to be a bit of life sustaining resources in all to often bouts with deep life altering weather situations, I can survive. I know for a fact, that most ‘regular’ folks, would perish in short order. I’m not regular folk. Most people I encounter outside of my slice of prairie can’t survive two days on their own, and you may be one of them, but I am as tough as the nails through Jesus’s hands, and nothing that you preach to me and others about the Philippines is going to deter me in my quest to explore and enjoy nature on this small wonderful blue marble of the vast universe.
As I understand it, you asked whether we think a woman’s value is decreased if she is a single Mother. I don’t think it is. In fact, as an older British guy, I’d rather date a woman who had children. Maybe I’m odd, but I certainly don’t think anybody’s value is diminished by having a family… in fact, I believe quite the opposite. Thanks for bringing it up❤
Your euro analogy story gave me a chuckle. You see, I lived some in Cambodia, and US currency is used there (along with the local currency) However, if you were to try and pass a crumpled USD 100 dollar bill, it would indeed be near worthless.😅 I have my own story raising another man’s child, but it was my late wife’s niece, not her child. I won’t go into details here, but it was not an experience I am willing to do again. Take care.
IMHO there are a number of issues with a single mom. 1. Is the father still around? If so, it's too much drama for most men. 2. How old is the child and do they remember their father? No guy putting a roof over a kid's head wants to hear, "You can't tell me what to do, you're not my dad!" 3. How does the woman divide her attention between her child/children and her man? No man wants to come in last. 4. How much control does the woman let her man have over decisions relating to her child/children? If he's paying the bills he's going to want to have a say. Overall the real question is does the woman provide the man with enough improvement to his life to make up for the financial & personal costs of raising a child/children that isn't/aren't his biologically. Finally, no man wants to be treated like a walking, talking ATM.
Hello Jo 😊, nice sweater, see you are getting into the clothing styles, wait till spring you will love it ! The smells the sounds, you should do a video about that experience. Your video topic is excellent and I agree, watching my first child being born gave me a much greater appreciation and respect for all women with or without kids. Only love and respect for God's greatest gift can a child be born. And I am glad I was born a man. Respect and love to women all over the world ❤
