The INFJ Circle is a safe place for INFJ's to learn, grow, and connect with each other. My name is Jay Scott and I am an INFJ. As you probably know this means that I have felt pretty isolated and confused in my life. However, after learning that I was an INFJ (and that others out there were like me) I have been able to transform my life into a much more fulfilling place.
I created the INFJ circle to allow INFJ's to have a place where they can learn, grow, flourish, and belong. The way to do this is through knowledge and community. I hope that this channel delivers in both of these areas. First, with excellent information that helps the INFJ understand themselves better - and second by allowing a group of like-minded individuals to gather, learn, love, and grow.
I sure get the "ghosting" thing. Be awful to me enough and we are DONE. I will work on a project with someone, but if they are awful, once that project is done, it will be as if they never existed. I guess I am a true INFJ...lucky me.
I'd rather be an INFP! since I'm an INFj and ASD, I cannot stand conflict and feel as an infj yet I'm very unflexible with my values and cut contact quickly if people do not align with my inner values. I keep quiet though to avoid conflict. Thsi is quite uncomfortable actually....
You are right on it, i made that decision. this year. I will zip up my lip. i have always been my best friend, and i will continue. to smile. but nothing more. i have been kick to the curve all my life, so it's my time to shine.on my own. what i think about is i can pick up on someone in a second. but i dismiss it and i pay. i am going to shine for me. (THANKS)
Im INFJ and I cant fathom why so many people want to stay unhappy. Theres no self reflection, no self love. Being INFJ wrecked my marriage. My ex resented my relentless need to learn, heal, do better. He just wanted to stare at the tv and be “off” then go to work.
Hi, thank you very much for the this amazing video and to all these wonderful comments in this INFJ circle. I've started to understand the fact I have a different way of approaching and processing life last month. And it's been awesome. I don't have social media but sometimes being young, introverted, and shy can attract comments and advices assuring I should not waste time and opportunities in life by being a limitation myself. People normally do it smoothly with good intention, and I appreciate it. I used to force myself to do some the things that are supposed to be done, but I always came back to the same question: "Am I living the life I want to?" I'm learning this things step by step, cause patrons of thoughts can be such a curious and hard task to do. It's important to know you very well, and when you are ready and in the mood to explore and expose yourself to new experiences, you will do it. Maybe you enjoy them more or don't like them. But above all it was a decision you thought about, and both of them enrich your life. Big hugs from Barcelona. I've discovered your channel, and I love it.
I met a guy and after talking to him it occurred to me he may be an INFJ. I told him people think INFJs are stupid but they are not and it struck a nerve and his eyes got watery.
I've tried journalling and to be honest it is one of the most life-changing things I have tried as an INFJ. And by journalling I mean writing out the most raw, unfiltered and straight out of your mind thoughts that you have, and if you can make sense of it, try to but it does not matter if you cannot make sense of it. Sometimes your feelings are a results of thousands, millions of life events that you have observed through out your life and especially the traumatic experiences that could have made you feel that way, and it is okay. Acknowledge your feelings as it is and accept what you are feeling.
Ultimately everyone has answers and explanations for everything and no questions. Auguste Comte's tendency to answer and deny the question, segmetarianism, separatism and the categorization of all things, in which anything can be classified and fits in a watertight, pre-labeled drawer, to the point of laughter. A Society that stopped questioning lost its social and scientific capacity.
I always called people out on fake, non-genuine, behaviour if they can’t back it up statiscly, factly and especially on paper which resulted in me backing off and taking a more defensive form with my own relationship or possensions!
Related to clumsiness when feeling the spotlight: I drive well - unless an officer pulls behind me. Then, I can’t maintain a speed, I can’t maintain a lane, and each goof ratchets up the stress and frequency of infractions.
Practice some form of stoicism...it might not be natural to us but after years of beeing taken advantage of and mistreatment by people i have started to protect my peace and starting to become more stoic in my thinking. Meet an INTJ, they are extremely similar to us but less emotional. We can absolutely take a few pages out of their book. Lifes short, lets not waste years of our lives being stuck in worry of what other complete strangers feel and think.
I could listen to you all day! You have such a Soothing Voice! I am very good at Door Slamming! I am a very Compassionate individual, but if you Abuse me in any form, I don't care if you are Family....I will Slam that Door so hard, you won't know what hit you! I am exhausted from ALL the Mental, Emotional, Spiritual Abuse. I am EMBRACING my Quiet time to Rediscover myself and Pour into my glass now! Enough is Enough! Thanks for the video! It is very helpful! 🙌
I am trying not to say everything I know about possible outcomes & facts/ connections, blah..blah, blah. Not listened to or... Anger someone... Practice saving my... Now if my brain would just take a break. Too much knowledge is Overwhelming as is the lack of power to initiate change, help, etc.
'Phone-bia'😅 Topic studies have been varied. Often research medical issues: others or myself may be involved in. Also, medication coindications/interactions/Risks, etc. Have found docs put people on medicine that isn't supposed to be taken with another med the person is on, etc. Also, tutorial on cutting one's own hair (Brad Mondo- Butterfly cut & Wolf cut). Plus... Many other topics😃 Last night was AAA (Abdominal Aorta Aneurysm) & most frequent complication LEI (Lower Extremity Ischemia)... because I just found out my friend's guy is in the hospital after these 2 things. Yep, I was awake all night with this and a ton of other stuff on my mind. 🥱
1:18 My ex would try to read me (INTP) and then start accusing me of thinking things that I did not believe. Most of his accusations would stem from his low self esteem. He’d say things like “You think I’m incompetent” or “The only reason you’re being nice to me is to manipulate me”. I got tired of babying him and dumped him
Video summary Highlights: + [00:00:00][^3^][3] **Introduction to Stoicism and INFJ** * Stoicism founded by Zeno of Citium * How Stoicism can help INFJs * Overview of the eight rules + [00:00:12][^4^][4] **Rule 1: Choose what to worry about** * Worrying is a choice * Focus on what you can control * Avoid unnecessary suffering + [00:00:56][^5^][5] **Rule 2: Accept people as they are** * People are largely unchangeable * Accept people at face value * Don't let others hurt you + [00:02:49][^6^][6] **Rule 3: Limit opinions on irrelevant matters** * Not everything deserves your opinion * Avoid overthinking * Save energy for important things + [00:03:54][^7^][7] **Rule 4: Focus on the present moment** * INFJs are future thinkers * Enjoy the present fully * Techniques to stay present + [00:05:49][^8^][8] **Rule 5: Trust your own opinions** * Value your own opinions * Avoid people-pleasing * Maintain control over your emotions + [00:06:46][^9^][9] **Rule 6: Don't let externals determine your life** * Control your reactions * Escape anxiety * Realize your inner power + [00:07:48][^10^][10] **Rule 7: Don't stress over unchangeable things** * Some events and people can't be changed * Focus on self-improvement * Avoid negative influences + [00:08:04][^11^][11] **Rule 8: Abstain from worrying about uncontrollable evil** * Focus on your own choices * Don't feel guilty for others' wrongdoings * Put effort into what you can control
Gosh, I SO needed to hear this video!! 🙌. I want to Live my Boring Life!! 🤗 And I am happy to FINALLY be at this place! 😊😊. Thank you for sharing! I will be checking out your Newsletter next! 👍
My entire family is in a cult. They for sure hate getting called out for believing in bullshit and have tried to sabotage me to prove me wrong, but sorry, some guy in NY didn’t find a special golden book written by Jewish Indians in ancient New York.
My entire family is in a cult. They for sure hate getting called out for believing in bullshit and have tried to sabotage me to prove me wrong, but sorry, some guy in NY didn’t find a special golden book written by Jewish Indians in ancient New York.
Spot on. I have learned to not go too deep with people, unless I pick up on their desire to reciprocate. People definitely avoid the truth, as much as I avoid their superficiality.
Wow! Creative alchemy! That's me. When my mental health is good. However when I'm struggling, I become highly creative. I always wondered why my creativity only showed up when I was depressed.
I'm clumsy as hell 😂and avoid knives as much as possible. Also, as a Grief Coach, I've learned the hard way that most people don't want to heal (and I don't really understand why not...). Anyway, I help a person as much as they let me and then remind myself to keep my hands off.
I vote that we ban phones permanently. I don’t even answer the phone when my kids or my doctor calls. Then I’ll finally call them back several days later because I end up feeling guilty.
I’ve been known to just disappear from family gatherings. I can only take just so much people time before I’m exhausted. I’ve become an expert at leaving places without anyone realizing I’ve left.
I hate phone calls with a passion. My average phone use per week generally runs less than 10 minutes per week. I use an iPad for research. And I watch documentaries on stuff that interests me.
Being an INFJ is hard. Most days its ok, some days it’s great, but today is one of those days for me where it’s just so hard. I neeeeed to be alone so badly and still I crave the company of someone special who just gets me. I know it will be better again. Maybe even tomorrow. But still: today it’s just hard!
