As a late diagnosed black male who has been diagnosed with ASD at 39 years old this year has been A LOT!! But I appreciate you both so much as black women sharing this, In solidarity 🙏🏾
On 8/20/24@the age of 54, I was diagnosed by a licensed Psychologist that I have Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. As I reflect on my past, there were tale-tale signs such as the Rubik's cube, slinky, and other items considered fidget toys. My son has ASD, and my daughter believes that she too has ASD and ADHD. I asked my friends and they said yep I already knew.
i had to subscribe. I am also black and AuDHD (autism [formally diagnosed 7/25/24] and adhd [formally diagnosed 11/2018] and i only recently got my adhd medicated at a good dose for me. I recently ended a friendship with a friend because I burnt myself out trying to be as present as I could for her but we had too many differences and she crossed my boundaries too much and I didn’t feel safe fully unmasking with her, to the point that when i did, she couldn’t handle it and ended a facetime then sent me a passive aggressive voice memo and was facetious about how good of a communicator she was and how present she was in our friendship when she likely has adhd or some neurodivergency herself but she’s unaware and immature and she also had a lot of internalized ableism and unconscious bias and other things she needs to work through. It’s for the best it ended but i’m working on self-honoring boundaries and i’m seeking to be in community with more black, queer and neurodivergent folks *self-dianosis is valid too btw* thank you for this podcast. I’m so glad I came across y’all and i’m subscribing and following y’all on socials.
Thanks for subscribing and sharing your experience! I'm glad the podcast resonates with you and appreciate your support. I hope you find the supportive community you're looking for. 💕
about halfway through here... what was said about always needing more healing even when you think you've healed... I think that was something I've needed to hear. I'm only 20, so of course I need to heal, it's only been two years since I was legally a child... There's been so much that's happened and I haven't given myself the space to process, only bickering with myself about what the results of it were and if it was even that serious at all. I'm not sure where to even begin...
This makes me so happy to see bc I was searching meal prepping for autistic ppl bc it's so daunting for me that I don't eat so thank you for being like the only video I found on that topic
The advice about not showering is good. My water bill is so high. Its more important to be in a flow state than have that physical relaxation if your trying to de-stress. Also I love your voice! This video was so cute and just what I needed to remind myself what I need to do. Life has been stressful recently.
Appreciated this so much. I moved to LA a year ago and in the last 7 months 3 people have asked if I was autistic and for me it would make so much make sense after doing some research. It would be nice to know for sure so I guess this is the journey I’m on now
OMG, the stuff about drinking in uni; so relatable. With the benefit of hindsight, I was pretty much an alcoholic during that period and for and for a few years after. Being the Autistic dork trying to reinvent themselves in uni, not drinking didn't even seem like an option. Ditto for marijuana.
This has been soul insightful & affirming. As a black nonbinary neurodivergent who lives in a prodominately white place with prodominately white spaces I isolate a lot. Yall made me feel so valid and less alone. May you both be well & at peace. Hypermobile girly too and love how yall tied that in.
I too hate small talk but it's something about a genuine southern "how are you" that makes me remember the good things about Atlanta like the sweet tea from Waffle House so comforting.
I fully agree I think this hypersensitivity to positive affect is a pleasant expression of introspection and self awareness that is often associated with high masking and thus often late diagnosed autism
They don't care and will be condescending in most places if the application says no specific treatment for disability specifically like applications have that on the top now
I was diagnosed verrrrry recently but I can relate to that slow realization of having to become more judicious about your time post-diagnosis. It’s the weirdest thing, because I’ve *known* I was autistic for a while but it was like the confirmation was really what kicked it into high gear.
But you girls work as youtubers right??? I'm kinda newbie to youtube but I've been burned out for months since loosing my job.... because I unmasked.... 😮
Please dont hate me for saying this... but as a woman/female... the ones hating and going for my head is the other women/females EVERY TIME!😮😢😮 Is it like that for yall????
I find the flat affect fine (as a NT). I'd prefer it to a contrived smile (which is easy to spot), regardless of whether the subject is NT or not. Thanks for the video. It does need to be explained to be understood by NT subjects (where feasible or safe). Thanks for the video.
