The world is low EQ. Even professionals have run off with a theory down a rabbit hole. With that in mind it’s important that you learn to cultivate rather than just allocate. You can learn to cultivate by attitude, maybe you feel petty and have thoughts to back it up, by fostering and cultivating a positive attitude you can come out of cycles holding you back. Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the light.
Loved this video. I would like to say, however, that people are not always passing judgement when describing "bad emotions"... As emotions are directly linked to the generation of feelings, and feelings generate bio-chemicals, it is the resultant bio-chemicals that are "bad" when the emotional states & feelings become chronic.
Hi Michael! I am a Registered Social Worker providing counselling to clients in Private Practice. I’ve NEVER commented on a RU-vid channel before. I am so grateful to have found your channel. The search for good quality supporting material to refer my clients to is an enormous challenge. How you don’t have millions of subscribers is beyond me, but please don’t stop. I have already started sending your work to my clients and it feels so nice to be able to trust your content will guide them down the healthy path. Keep up the great work:)
This has enlightened me to a simple charismatic skill or tactic that I was missing in a lot of situations/discussions over the years. I wish I had learned this sooner.
That’s so true about giving advice. Advice can be a good thing, but if you jump in with it first, it can make the other person feel like you think they’re stupid & need to be fixed.
This is amazing !! I volunteer in a hospital and as a volunteer my role is to help with the basics anything patients need & have conversations get them to socialize a bit, and as an introvert I've been struggling and feeling anxious with the socialization aspect like I could socialize if I force myself but I always felt it was not genuine to me or to them, and to me if I socialize with someone I want to leave them in a better state than they were before them talking with me, maybe a bit of people pleaser yes, but I don't like to talk for sake of talking and I think now I know why I didn't feel genuine it's because I wasn't that aware of the way you showed us to validate, when someone feels validated they show their authentic self and when I validate someone I get them to open up and show me some of their true sides that's when I will feel like I've reached that person and they feel seen.. sorry I don't even know what I was going to say 😂 other than thank you so much for the steps of validation.. it's really makes us feel at ease when we experience that.
Your book and this podcast had seriously helped saved my life. As a kid we are not taught how to properly interact. I'm sorry I'm learning this in my 30s but grateful to know it at all. Thank you michael!
Thank you! I know someone like that! For the last 3 years, I have tried to help, I have listen to her issues. I believe she needs help, her husband has cheated on her and sadly I don’t see any improvement! Has not take action, does not work, she said she is looking for work? Her rich father pays for everything! Trips, jewelry, and her husband pays for rent food etc. I think she needs therapy! But I am afraid to suggest anything because she gets out of CONTROL!😮 😢talks over you. And she is disrespectful! Iam 64 and I tried to have a positive llife l Things are not easy, I have vertigo badly, she knows that! I am soft spoken and I don’t mind helping! However I believe a person is responsible for their actions, I had a bad marriage and I did complain at the time but one day. I decided to quit the complain and I moved on other people are not my therapist! I am guilty of complaining due to the vertigo but I do it when I don’t feel well. Again I do thank you for the help
Thank you! You are very helpful. I do know a person who complaines a lot! This could be about a person, dog, husband etc. I tried to help but I can’t she is always telling me what to do I am not doing anymore. None of her family members wants to help her. She is hard to get along with and can be very exhausting to reason with! I asked myself if I came across like that and I probably did. I am learning to be more positive, friendly and help if I can. But I am distancing from her. Maybe in the future thing can be better❤
Hi. Thanks for posting this. I've recently come across David Emerald's the Empowerment Dynamic which seems really useful and I'm starting to explore it.
Yes!, the horrible lie of hearing in the 90s , " sticks & stones may break my nones but words may never hurt me " . Definitely encouraged invalidation. 😑
