I Buy My Own Roses is a self love podcast that encourages Black women to cultivate fulfilling lives with or without a romantic partner. You are your own love story. 💕
23 here and childfree since I was a kid. Bro, life is soooo good this way. I never understood why people say to me i am gonna be unhappy and regret cause i am already happy since i am a child so 😅😅😅. Thank God.
To be honest, I would choose the bear because I can’t trust more than half of these men with my life. They claim to be providers and leaders, but they do they complete opposite. Then when things go wrong or if something happens to us we get blamed for it. God forbid if we marry or have children with ANY of these men, who won’t support or abuse us in any way shape or form, then they would have said that we should’ve chosen better.
It’s heavy on the future tax payers honey! I would rather eat mud than to open my legs to give birth to future taxpayer any day especially if it’s going to come out of MY pocket to raise that future taxpayer. My nonexistent child is too good to suffer through uncertainty, trials, tribulations, and tragedies of life. I barely can be able to afford to pay my own bills with no job. I already gotta work jobs that I hate in order to survive and if I had a child, they’re gonna have to go through the same damn thing. You gotta deal with people who are difficult and want to hate on one another. Part of that money that I earn goes to taxes, and there is no way of telling where that money is going. In addition to that, when you have to invest in something, you never have the time to enjoy it when you’re so busy slaving. HARD PASS!!!
I appreciate your sentiments on a child being raised without a father. I enjoy it when you talk about being child free and also others being single parents by choice on both sides. I just turned 30 and decided to be childfree at 27 due to the risks of being a single parent even if I was married. To me it’s NOT enough for a child to grow up with one parent. I wouldn’t want to have my nonexistent child to grow up in a family that is not complete. Nothing is guaranteed even if you are married because I’ve heard a lot of couples with children divorce and the children have to grow up in separate homes. I most likely would be the main one responsible for the upbringing of that child after I’ve gone through hell with pregnancy and childbirth. The best way for ME to avoid it is to not be married OR have children PERIOD. My nonexistent children are too good for the suffering that we have to go through in this life. I came from a family of broken home without a dad for the first several years of my childhood being raised by a single mom. That’s not a life that I would choose on purpose. My mom and I have a very close bond as well the love trust and respect for one another as all families should.
Hi loved ur video ❤❤, as a 20 year old man can I also be Childfree?. Because my parents want me to pass down a legacy because I'm also into genealogy but idk what they mean about legacy as I'm not Genghis Khan or Henry the 8th 😂.
Simone aint nothing but a delusional pisces. She living in dream land no reality. He a cancer. Dating a cancer man is like dating a female a whole female. She the masculine and hes the feminine.
⌚Timestamps: 0:00 Why childfree women aren't selfish 10:32 Selfish reasons people choose to have children I didn't think of this until after the video, but another selfish reason I think people have (multiple) kids is because their first child wasn't the gender they wanted! I'm always so sad to see those TT videos of parents showing how many kids they had until they got the boy child or girl child that they originally wanted. Their first child must feel like they weren't good enough because they didn't turn out to be their parent's desired gender.
This is stpd. Romantic love has been prioritized in writing and music since it's inception centuries ago. It looms large in our hearts & psyche bc that's what worth writing about ...worth pursuing. During a time when the church was the authority during the middle ages. Troubadours wrote about a connection and longing for his beloved so deep that they were willing to be separated from God if it meant he could be bonded w/ his beloved. ...Think about the depth & breadth of such a declaration....at that time.
Romantic relationships can be fulfilling for some people, but not everyone. Whether it is worth pursuing or not is subjective. I'd argue that it's being prioritized in media to isolate us so that we focus on one person instead of building community.
@@ibuymyownroses That’s an interesting perspective. I’ll have to sit with it a bit. How are u defining community? And what would be the rationale for preventing us from creating it/them?
🎯 That point about some men weaponizing single motherhood was SPOT ON! 👍🏾❤️ People who don't give smoke to deadbeat dads are some of the first ones who need to STFU. Along with the people who seem to have very little smoke for the high numbers of orphan-makers aka men's fatal v !0l€nce against mothers. Seems like most men in our "community" ARE in favor of single mothers since they make them the most. They blame boy's v !0l£nce on single mothers, then shame men out of being stepdads. Bashing single mothers while ALSO calling good husbands "simps" makes no sense, so men who do that ASLO need to STFU - they sound dumb and recreationally combative.
I don't get why not having kids just because you don't want to have them isn't good enough lol. Like imagine having to explain to anybody your personal choice because that's just being nosey
I really do wish it was this simple. Especially since nobody asks people with children why they had them lol people just look at having children as the default adult reality. Thanks for stopping by ❤️
My reasons are a few Raised my siblings and had child centered jobs. They are a burden to me I would HATE IT Having gay Fathers would make my kids keenly aware of how they're different and could isolate them from their peers I don't like some aspects of Black Culture like: emphasis on struggle, downplaying education and embracing ignorance, glorifying poverty and substandard life I like my house to be a certain way and kids woukd wreck that I want to travel and I don't want to travel with kids I value my quiet time and social life. While it's possible w kids, I just don't want to make it any harder. As I age, I know the circle gets smaller. I don't enjoy parents in general when it comes to things I tend to hear them talk about. Parent culture isn't all that great
Why am I questioning you while I agree that I don’t want kids. Why for the socialization part, yes you have point, you can still guide them (I definitely could have been influenced by my environment, but for some reason I didnt. (No drugs, no weeds, no sex no bad manners, only respect for others and trying to be do good while also being pessimistic) and not all men are like that, yes most are, but I can’t say that to my stepdad, he changed as a man when he met my mom. What are you doing to support / help the community then? I’m trying to help women by being a counseling psychologist and try to lessen it. I understand your viewpoints. While I was kind of worried about not being an aunt since I’m the oldest on my mom’s side, but I forgot about family friends that have kids.
Yes, I’m insanely jealous of her gymnastic ability. I really wish I could do some of the amazing moves she does! She’s so talented. Thanks for stopping by 💗
Are you in my head? You preached everything that I've been thinking. Heavy on the man is not a womans village, we need a village of women to raise our babies.
Wow! Can't believe I just found you. New subsciber. The blk community is dysfunctional and bw and children are not safe there. I crack up laughing when people talk about legacy. I'm like you're going to die. Why worry about what's going to happen here after you're gone? And you won't regret it when you're older. I'm older and not having kids is the best decision I ever made. 👍🏿
I'm saddened because I have been looking up this topic I am 31 and I don't think I want children but people make you seem like my life will be horrible if I don't or when I'm old I'll have no one and still doesn't make me want to have them lol But I want to hear some positive feedback I want to meet women like me
Men are wired differently from us. There are also some selfish women out there too. If the selfish women get together with selfish men and nice men with nice women the world would be better off. But bad boys usually want nice women bc they are more naive. Then the bad boys treat them like shit bc bad boys don’t deserve to be in a relationship full stop. Chaotic world out there
