Hi! I'm Maika - a clinical and educational psychologist passionate about sharing uplifting and practical insights from psychology to help you empower yourself to do what’s important to you on the deepest level of your heart. Life can be confusing and hard. I support people in making sense of themselves and connecting with, unleashing and guiding their inner power.
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Thank you so much for making videos like this one accessible, for sharing your insights in this channel, it really has helped me a lot and I’m so blessed to have found your content
My ex broke up with me 3 days ago, he said he couldn't feel what he needed to feel to keep going, and that wouldn't be fair to me. He was honest and gentle but it hurtted me o much the rejection...we were dating for almost a year, he said I deserved someone who was in love and saw a future with me because I am amazing. I don't feel amazing, feel like the worst person in the world. The pain is unbearable 💔
It was a 8 years old relationship..n iam unable to process this breakup..i don't understand why a man put so much in the initial phase of the relationship and when it comes to marriage they will be like we r not good for each other ..thn what the hell were u doing from the last 8 yr..iam a brahmin hindu girl and he is a Christian boy...he always use to tell me u don't need to change.. but now there family is saying me that if i will be a Christian after marriage thn only they will accept me..n on the other hand mu parents wants him to be a hindu man...i just requested my parents n they Said we will see it..but my parents want me to come to their home while puja s and all but my boy frnds family cleared that i can't go to temples nor to my mother's home in pujas...n i was shockd by seeing my boy frnd's reaction to everything...he is ok leaving me ..n here im fighting with myself every single day to forget him... plzz god help me with this.
What would the world be... what would we do with life.... and how would we recover ourselves without people like you, who have such a kind heart and soul to share the truths about life with the world in times of need? You earn my full respect!
Break ups hurt and what kind of works for me is just remembering that i rather the break up happen sooner rather than later. A break up after 4 years is much more manageable than a break up after 10+, 20+ ,30+ years ect
when someone explains in 10 minutes what you have been thinking about for 40 years. :) I want to thank you for this and the other videos really, really much! They help me at this age to open "locks" in my inner self and grow as a man.
Thank you so much, very helpful!! I wonder if it is better to eventually “forgive” them for healing?? I am hurt so much- on one hand, I wanna forgive and be peaceful, on the other hand, I want him to go through exactly what he put me through and be in misery as he dumped me like a piece of trash😢
I would love to have a healthy relationship with my parent. But I can’t remember the last time he called to ask me how I was doing, or even reciprocated a relationship.
My gf for 4 years left me a month later she dating a new guy. She says she's really happy and in peace now. She’s now getting high, she thinks this man is perfect he’s Dominican too I know he giving her drugs and her new friends too. I’m worried about her because she’s a good girl. But she changed a lot. I work out im in last year of college plus I work for a business company I go to church. everyone is telling me she will regret it but time will tell I guess.. I messed up before in the past but I changed to be a better man for her. I got karma maybe I deserve it.. but it broke my heart she found someone already.. how do you feel about this?
Why should I want to “heal” it anyway? I prefer solitude and a few good relationships by my standards while swerving any romantic attachment, which is stultifying and intrusive while offering nothing other than having my life hijacked. Nor do I feel empty or unfulfilled, it’s too much closeness which irritates the life out of me.
this was so, so helpful to me as an avoidant leaning anxious avoidant who has been doing a lot better in general lately but continues to have nasty fights and shakey relationships 🥲🥹
A great video. I am pretty much through the whole lot of it after 21 months. Your videos have helped me immensly, thanks. Now, my biggest problem is actually going through everything that needs to be done after 30 + years. Any way, Maike, thankyou
I'm a hsp and I love it. But being too nice is a prob so I try too hard to stop being too nice. You know it's not good with relationships and people, I have problems bc of it. Should I change or how can I cope with this ?plz reply
I'm a hsp and I love it. But being too nice is a prob so I try too hard to stop being too nice. You know it's not good with relationships and people, I have problems bc of it. Should I change or how can I cope with this ?
I'm a hsp and I love it. But being too nice is a prob so I try too hard to stop being too nice. You know it's not good with relationships and people, I have problems bc of it. Should I change or how can I cope with this ? Plz reply
Wife and I were married for 8 years, she was more attached to her family than me but overall our marriage was pretty good and a relationship requires patience and tolerance. When she left, for reasons that I still don’t completely understand, I immediately subscribed to a well known dating web site and met my now long time GF within a couple of weeks. Life goes on.
Kids say no to drugs and alcohol. Don't cheat while in relationships,try your hardest not to divorce if you have kids. Trama is passed down from each failing generation. These two adictions alone are why so many children don't talk to a parent into adulthood. Making wise choices today and in the future. Will build a much more healthy society. Filled with love and not greed. 🙏 godbless everyone and stay safe.
Reason number one is a bit misleading, I am a victim of parental alienation from both sides but their coercement never really weighed on me, I was able to see their true character for myself as a child based on the values that they preached and if they way they acted on them. My parents split up when I was 6 so i knew that they both had solid biases and being between them I would still have my own private opinion on how I viewed their character without how they wanted me to view eachother. I will say that this isn’t always the case and I can be easier for some kids to be persuaded depending on the circumstance. Adults also forget how tough a child’s mind can be and an imprinted love can outweigh their words against one another. It’s mostly the action of the parent directly on the child where the child is hurt.
very much a female view of this. .. look, there is no right way leaving. There is no right way moving on. there is no “right” way breaking up. But obviously no one was happy, and that’s why the break up happened
Do you think the brainwashing of the past two generations to despise their country, religion, patriotism, everything good about America might have something to do with it? Not to mention the brainwashing of the gender nonsense going on. You yourself are brainwashed by mentioning that. You are what you are born as. You are not a professional and your robotic voice is creepy.
My instinctie thought is this: Haha, if I find out an ex is with someone else short after the breakup, that can mean one of only two things: 1. They already had something going on before our breakup. 2. She was very lucky. :D But then I realise that there can be other possibilities, like: 3. Maybe she felt terrible to find herself single all of a sudden and it was more important to her to find someone immediately even if this turns out to be the wrong person in the long run. 4. Maybe she simply willingly and well aware of the risks, took a wild chance and is ready to break up quickly again if it turns out not to work well. 5. Maybe she just felt the urge to get someone in her life to have sex with now when she was single again and didn't have a partner.
I accidentally lended in the environment (city) where I spent some time at my worst time in my life. I felt like in heaven how much my iner world resonated with that environment and beauty. It helped me to heal and at the same time I couldn't overcome feeling that's not possible for me to build my life there because I didn't know anyone and felt unwelcomed. On the other hand I felt so excited to be there- almost unreal experience. The predominant feeling was like I am so happy and resonate with the environment but it's not possible for me. I gave up and force my self to get rational l..
AFAIK: Your attachment style can shift over time. A combination of both anxious and avoidant is also known as fearful or disorganized attachment style.
