🔥When narcissist Hoover-you discard 

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familiarity is comforting. and they start to miss the stuff that bugged them when you lived together :P

modern hookup culture is narcissistic in nature. That doesn't make everyone a clinically diagnosable narcissist, that means, the current culture allows for cluster B disorders, the current culture is about rights not responsibilities. A quote comes to mind from a movie can't remember which, "People don't have ideas, ideas have people"

@@joedohn9727well said 🎯

All of that is true-very true❤️💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Alone...is pretty sweet after the Narc🙏🏽

I agree with you. I went no contact changed my number and checked into therapy. I will Never go back to. I enjoy being without him.

Some don’t want to replace you but want to ruin you mentally and emotionally until you give in. Total torture!

Damn

Absolutely,,wish everybody we do the same

I have huge respect for anyone who owns up to their bs .... But for a narcissist , to do it as anyone knows they are always right regardless of the situation right or wrong ... well thatz huge and i think id fall off my seat if some i know did ,id be like bro dod you wet the bed 🤯🙏🏼💯

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Yes 💯💯💯

Absolutely!! Accountability, forgiveness and growth are both imperative and beautiful. The more people who do this, the better the world will be.

Exactly. Neither + or - energy bestowed

Exactly 😂😂 I feel the exact same way about my ex also.

Amen!

Amen ❤️

Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s not hard but tough and I have to continue

Yessss

Yessss thank you very much Leon ❤ Your videos are helping me heal 🙏🏾

​@@leonrwalkerjri wish they would tell us this before they marry us!

Amen

Yes! I left someone who was keeping me on by a thread but made it seem like I was the problem. Once I detattched doors started opening left and right! Amen.

I detached from a person who I thought was my friend but she's a malignant narcissist making herself look like the victim and made me like I was the villain and she started to round up her flying monkeys so I left b4 I had to endure her bs and she wishes she could of hurted me but I didn't give her the chance and she can say that I'm a "COWARD". She loves putting a show at work making herself look like she is the popular funny and cool girl ever but in reality when she leaves from work, she goes home miserable to an empty broken home.😎

Amen!!

Yesssssssss

Me too!!!💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

GOD, made the universe. Thank GOD ALMIGHTY

What a crock of bs they are great actors

Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s tough but I have to do it. 🙏🏾🙌🏾💯💯

Brother, I think there's hope for you, your confession is a sign of healing. I would rather confess now than to confess in a lake of fire..

Wow!!!! That’s very important for your health as you know. Damn!! You endured a lot!! You have a new life now🙏🏾🙌🏾💯❤️

So I know exactly how you felt…

He’s not the one for you to give that love to - he can’t receive it. Nothing to do with you.

I understand how u feel I been abused in so many ways and he just left and I just given birth

30 years... I feel you.. For me to say you are better than and you deserve better❤❤❤❤❤😇🙏💋💋💋💋💋💋💋

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Me too filled today done and he been coming with his broken promises and blah blah I’m so done

Don’t give in & don’t look back, you are correct. The ONLY time they “change” is when one speak about throwing in the towel. Change never last long

I kicked mines out and I'm filing for diviorce I can't do it no more

​@@shirlspark_stardust why and be honest

​@@Tee-Tee_APRN tell the truth, is he really the problem?😑🤨🤔🧐

Girl me too!

Girl God warned me too!!! I didn’t heed to the warning.

Same here

It’s demonic. I wasn’t warned but there were lying signs and wonders he’d be my husband. We even had a psychic connection. I had to block him and go no contact. Be strong all of you!!!

Yes!!!

Right. It does not make you a bad mom. He got addicted to the good life that you provided. We have to disconnect sooner or later.

@@leonrwalkerjr Thank you Leon, hearing that from you is the confirmation I needed. God bless you for being a blessing.

@@michellejoy6752I hope you all are doing better now❤

I went through the exact same thing. The emotions you felt same. Thought it was only me 😢. Glory to God he is out of my life. God bless you 🤍🤍🤍

I know exactly what you feel and mean. The fake can only last so long. Thank God for giving me a way out of that marriage. And thank Him for forgiving me for the role I played in allowing it.

He'll be back, stay guarded. These people do this stuff for years. It's a cycle, don't fall for the temporary peace like I did. stay gaurded and protect your energy babes😭😭we pray that you are free for good.

My ex hoovered after 3 years via Email. He's blocked Everywhere. He doesn't know where i Live. He then Hoovered again after 2 years. It's been almost 5 years . This fool will not rest. Stay prayed up People.❤

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Not possible at all. He’s STILL fooling himself!!! False sense of reality

Does he know/admit he is a narcissist?

I have just ended my relationship with someone I love very much when he talked about his pain a rejection humiliation and abandonedment at them moments when he talked it felt to me that was the person who I understood and respected and cared so deeply for and I just wanted to care and look after him and show him a different way one of love kindness appellation trust forgiveness but I couldn't cope with the confusion lack of respect ignorance name calling yet how do we get to fall for that yet we do if I thought he could change I would of married him in a breath I feel so guilty like I'm another one who has rejected him

Another Davida! Hey sis! 🎉

It’s always anger under their hurt most of them wear it on them

I kinda looked at how you worded this and what stuck out was that he would come eat. Gurl we are nothing but energetic food supply to these energy vampires and they then use that food against us to break us down more like squeezing juice out of a nut. I had anointed my house and my ex couldn't be in the house for more than 30 minutes before busting out and running off...that's after I had uncovered who I was married to. I only acted on it because God said that was my husband, so I was faithful, but God also took care of him. He died of a heart attack after avoiding the judge to finalize the divorce. Can't outrun the heavenly judge. It's spiritual warfare out here. Don't become a casualty. On the other hand I was always blessed and they are jealous of the favour we have in Christ. They want to ride into the ark on our coat tails and God is like no. If you have access to source you are the only way they can enjoy blessings but then they get angry because they themselves have no access so before you share any blessings with other people they will try to destroy you if they can't break you down and make you submit. I submit to God first, not no devil energy.

@@aqua6613 wow he died? Do you see that as Karma? Or the universe giving him back what he had done to you? To be honest I am very very angry. Because I fell for a person and come To find out it was ALL a con EVERYTHING. I didn’t know nothing real about him and in the end I realized I was with a total stranger for 4 years and even worse had 2 kids with him…I keep asking God why? There were men who truly loved me and would have been a responsible parent instead God allowed this dishonest filth in my life…and he gets to get away with it and be happy and continue his treachery on different women and have kids he will never take care of…my mind is blown away with God. I don’t understand.

@Carmolina I had the same struggle...he cheated and it turned out he was a pedophile. He left me because I was nothing the red flags and called him out on them so he needed to apply the crazy making tactics to discredit me. I truly almost lost my faith through it and I asked God the same thing. In hindsight had I not met him, who knows how many peoples lives he would have wrecked with his behavior. It started me on a journey to find out about narcissism and why I attracted them, but also how God used me in that situation to expose him. God showed me Roman's 5 it was saying something about taking people out of the body to save their spirit, like people will sin so much that God just calls them up. I wish I could have had kids, but I'm glad I was spared to have them with a pedophile. Your kids probably have a great purpose in the world. Nobody is here by accident. We all have some purpose in life we serve and we sometimes only see what it was all about years later. We can only now speculate about what is happening now, but God knows the past and the future and He has a purpose. Kids are such a blessing. I grew up with a single mom who was sick and I had a real crappy life because my dad left and had another family and I was angry about that for a long time, but it got me closer to God and I forgave my dad because I learned the truth that his life was crap with the woman he chose over my mom but that other woman kept him tied up with the kids. Kind of a long story...story of my life 😆. We may think of things as mistakes, but God makes no mistakes. You're not a mistake, choosing that man and having kids was not a mistake. He will find his karma in due time, but if we keep looking and checking and chasing then we can spend years missing out on the blessings that are right infront of us. I hope it makes you better and not bitter. I was deceived by my ex also and his whole family backed him up and even the friend I had warned about him and told him to be careful having him around his little girls. God just told me to move on and I had to leave with nothing. That man tried to destroy me where he could. Took me 3 years to recover financially and emotionally, but instead he was destroyed. His girlfriend couldn't sign him out of the morgue and since the divorce wasn't final I showed up to sign him out with my marriage certificate and I had him cremated and sent to his family. It was only then that I called his friend and he told me he had a warrant out for his arrest for molesting his 7 year old girl. I was vindicated after 2 years...everyone who called me crazy for thinking he was a pedophile now has to sleep with that guilt...and I sleep well because I did the right thing. Just keep yourself and your kids safe. Focus on your blessings and continue on your walk and continue in your purpose. God is still good, even in the trials and tribulations. Talking about it creates awareness and so it gets harder and harder for these people to hide. I wish you all the best!

Get a restraining order against him, dont allow him to keep doing that. He doesn't care about those kids he only cares about controlling u and draining. Document his abuse, record it, and put your phone on top of the frig and day by day record him. Take it to court and protect yourself, don't let the kids see that type of behavior. He doesn't care how that effects them, so you have to care.

​​@@carmolina.. Sis, we have the same story. Six years later, after me losing all assets ($$, furniture, clothes, family), after 4 eye repair surgeries from a diabolical narc discharge (they will try to kill you); I realize that yeah, God allowed it BUT it was MY choice to have this person in my life. We all have freedom of will. We willingly opened that door ( deceived) & let pure evil into our lives. In our blindness, thirstiness, arrogance etc. We skipped merrily into that devil's den. If you're honest with yourself, you'll remember MANY red flags that you choose to ignore or rationalize. If truly checking yourself, remember all The good advice given & you disregard cuz you thought ppl were jealous. All the signs were there. WE ignored them. We gotta own that. Then forgive ourselves. We were almost demolished mentally, spiritually & physically. But we were "praying" the whole time. Remember? God had to hear pur prayers because we escaped the madness alive, broken but alive. THANK GOD for answered prayers! My relationship with GOD is now stronger than ever. He literally delivered me from hands around my neck trying to kill me. Yeah.. was left with PTSD but it gets better each day, consistent healing. I just wanted to say... Don't blame GOD. Accept your role in the decisions you made. Don't ask us mortals "why" GOD does anything, ask GOD. Use the recovery time to build a closer relationship with your creator, who controls all. Ask him what you were suppose to learn, if you missed the red flags ask him to show you them ( he will). It took six years but I am finally strong enough to start divorce proceeding, will he come to finish me off? He'll probably try but his arms are too short to box with my GOD. We're survivors sis & walking testimonies. So let's help others be strong and confident in their GOD life/faith. Again, our jacked up stories aren't on GOD' , he's always faithful, true & loyal. Perhaps there was greater tragedy ahead for you that's now avoided. Staying with a narcissist is like playing a 24/7 game of Russian roulette. Cruelty. Maybe your current state is really more saved than condemned. PS.. everything I lost GOD gave me more & better!! Luv ya & stay prayed up.

Very true and very much needed

I pray God mends your broken heart and you find the power to forgive and move on with your life

You should watch Lee H. His channel is called Mental Healness... LIFE. CHANGING.!

There is no cure for narcissism.

@@reelfly Has this been clinically proven? What are the stats?

@@luzluna6808 It has, sadly.

He's not a narcissist, he has ptsd.

I know you feel good too!!!!

Same here. He hovered me a year ago acting all depressed and sad thinking I would cry and beg for him to come back BUT I didn’t. I was stronger and I sat there asking him about the woman he left me for and he denied he was with her. Wished him a good life and sent him away. He immediately started the smear campaign and played the victim. A week later his adult daughter told me she had picked him and his “girlfriend” up at a motel the day before he showed up at my house. SMH one lie after another! Free a year and a half and getting stronger everyday. Peace and happiness is everything!

Woooooow!!! Maaaaan, you had a classic one!!!! You got away, with all of your senses brother!!!! I’m happy for you!!! Geez!!!! What a lesson right?💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👊🏾👊🏾

@@leonrwalkerjr as hard as it is to admit sometimes, I’m grateful for it. It def has created a greater sense of self love and greater character

Narcissists go to extreme levels of deceit. Always will.

This was me too. That's exactly what happens.

What Soso said!!!

Thank you. It was hard when I first started, very hard. I walked in and out of therapy a few times until I got it together. Things are much better now. Thank you for that

That’s very true!!! I know it was an eye opener for you and liberating!!!!

She will NEVEr BE Normal.

If......lol but she isn't normal is she. Stay strong!

Thank you for those kind words. I truly appreciate this 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Very well said.

You’re welcome 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Do you tell them to look up covert narcissism on Google, or just be no contact with them too?

Thank you. I had to. It’s really not a good life and people think so. For many years I just went through life without a care in the world. I appreciate that

@@leonrwalkerjr Thank You for the Knowledge and Insight. It's very much Appreciated🙌🏽

@@B17ATURAL you’re welcome. Thank you for the comment too🙌🏾🙌🏾

​​@@leonrwalkerjrntil you almost die.

Oh Trust me he will get his Karma. It angers God immensely when wicked people mock him by using scripture. You can’t do God’s work with the Devil’s Tools, So when God strikes him down, it will be a Devastating blow. That Narcissist May lose his Job, His Home, his vision, his ability to walk, he may lose his health, his looks to a fire or car accident… It’s inevitable that they will Reap what they have sown.

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I’m my opinion a man has not changed until he is renewed by god.

Hes not changed nfs

@@lovelykiyah7415 …We’ll at least he is sharing his truth!🧐

@@beyoutifuljones3786 I honestly didn't know either until somebody told me... *God Capital G. (Not a lowercase g).

You’re welcome. Thank you as well. The discard had to happen to her and “for” you!!! Until she gets help, she won’t stop, sadly.

Thank you for that. I really appreciate you and your words. God jas given it to me, yes. Thank you!! I needed that 😊❤️🙌🏾🙏🏾