10 Behaviors That Keep You Single 

Can you not call me out for one minute

Hi :)

When you’re broke 💀

They’re beautiful!!

@@echfx9201 Thank you!! :)

@@babylilylolxd6807 how's that a stereotype?

@@babylilylolxd6807 sexuality isn’t a choice lmao. usually i’d say this to a homophobe but you’re implying that anyone can just “switch” and go date someone of the same sex, even if they’re straight. you might not be straight but they are, doesn’t mean it’s a stereotype.

Don't blame yourself cuz there's a freaking pandemic out there.

@@babylilylolxd6807 It is his / her choice to be with the opposite sex. Most people are straight, that's a fact.

@@babylilylolxd6807 I know but since they said "opposite sex" I assume they are straight

Yesyesyesyes,finally someone understands. I thought I was weird bc I’ve never been in love in my life but would like to be in a relationship like wth

Peri Uluırmak not necessarily. I’ve never been in a relationship bc I see no point in on wir it’s not genuine

It's same to me

Yeah

Gosh me too

This looks definitely like a narc checklist for finding the next person to destroy.

All to new and familiar. I need more time to work on myself. I am getting better, though.

Thx you saved me 6 min

Sheesh each of these points felt like an arrow to the chest 😵

"too many dealbreakers" thats just called "having standards". Its WAY better to be single, than be with someone that doesnt make the cut.

I relate so much to this

Goddamm u wrote my situation down. Being scared of happines is soo fu*ked up....

No worries! We have just the right solution for you. Coming to you through app soon ;)

@@Psych2go what is that app

Same here man

Damn..

I’m avoiding it

I've never seen anyone else calling themself cringe lol

Same but without strict parents

Same

Basically me except for the strict parent

Pusheeennnnn

That depends on your "other", there is little you could ever do to influence that. People suck and will always let you down and prove your cynicism correct.

I'm hitting 30 year mark soon and I'm lonely too without any romantic relationship experience. Used to think about my misery while being addicted to different drugs past 10 years. But suddenly realised it so much easy to make a new contacts with anybody just being straight honest about yourself, joking about your flaws to make 'em your strenghts. Somehow I find myself really unintirested in finding that special one, because I feel independent and too much confident. Wanna be with someone, who's basically reflection of me. But there are some big fault. I'm introverted, and it seems I'm easy to go, but it takes a lot of energy to make it happen. Also I was scamming people, and find myself manipulative, which makes me weak geniunely. So I rather be single, because I won't harm anybody, who is pure and sincere, on the other hand, I demolish immature and weak people with honestly spoken word, and there were no one smarter than me to kick my ass for this. Maybe it happen sometime, but I can honestly say the devilish truth about myself without any doubt or fear. I'm way too much destructive typo, dunno what to do about this. And this is nasty. I don't feel shame or anger, I feel nothing, when somebody strong and good tries to hit me in weak spot. I'm ready to take the hit and absorb the damage. I'm who I am. Strong and confident of being such a bad human. I just never came over border of intimacy. Never feeling fear, only realizing I'm a dangerous one for someone purehearted.

I'm a 33 year old woman and had one relationship which was barely an experiment to experience things. And trust me, if it's not the right person, it's more of a liability than an achievement. The sexual things aren't worth it if you don't like them. You want to receive love but you also want to enjoy the company of the other one. It's no fun if it's one sided.

I feel that bro honestly I do. Be you and never change, know that you matter man. 🤛🏼

@@soil80 Ayo, you guys should hook up.

100% agreed. All that does is lead to inevitable failure down the road. You actually end up feeling more alone than you did when you were single.

>Be lonely >Don't look for a relationship anyway >Stay lonely

@@king_sombrero8193 you missed the entire point

@@king_sombrero8193 oh dw

Then how do you stop being lonely before you get into a relationship?

Me too

And I lived only one pandemic

😭

You guys have relationships?

@@johnbarney8748 I don't

Anyone who has been married knows the pain of this!

I think it was more like "it's better to be lonely by yourselves than being lonely in a relationship"

R.i.p. Robin Williams.

@@piyushsharma3991 true

True

You won't know until you try, right? The best way to get over fears is to face them head-on. A healthy relationship is a union of two individuals growing together and sharing their lives. A lover should be an addition to your already established life. You can be independent and be committed to someone at the same time. Communicating with your partner what constitutes your independence will allow you to preserve it and help them respect it, or you'll realize you're incompatible and break it off before both of you get too invested in it. There is some degree compromise to this, if independence for you means I can do what I want whenever I want without any regard towards my partner's thoughts and feelings, then yeah you're gonna have to work on learning how to accomodate and balance your life so there is room for yourself and your desires as well as your partner's. But those compromises are usually pretty small in the grand scale of things. Your life shouldn't look much different from what it was when you were single. Usually, the biggest difference is that you willingly give up the freedom to mess around sexually and emotionally with other people. Those things are reserved for your partner.

I've been single all my life too, I just haven't fallen for anyone, nor has anyone fallen for me

I have been single all my life too. I would like to have someone but I like my life the way it is

Ive been single my entire life too, i had a huge crush on this girl for 5-6 years, the split second i even laid eyes on her in 2015 i feel in love, she was my first crush & my first time ever feeling that. I never made any moves on her as i knew i had no chance with her & i knew she would say no anyway. I lost that feeling in 20/21 anytime i see her now i dont feel anything & im like “whatever idc”. I wish i could get rid of that feeling of love toward people its an annoyance, no girl irl has even spoke to me within the last 4 years. I hate being with people i only want to be alone but for some reason i just want a relationship, i get the feeling usually when im super bored which is pretty much every second of the day

Your crush isn't ready and will never be too ?

Don't let these assholes sell the lie of self love. You have every right to have low self esteem. The world hurt you. Don't let those idiots gaslight you over your very real experiences that gave you your low self-esteem. It is the world that needs more love, and needs to give more love, you don't need to do crap that only enforces your feelings of inadequacy.

@@CowToes ur right, the world needs more love. But thats not an excuse not to work on yourself to try to overcome your insecurities and live a happy life. Ur telling him to be stuck on the past and not let go of it

@@pikachumbo5256 I get that.

being so open and bold about this is very opening is a highlight in personality and thought. whenevr you are today i hope it’s going well

1 - yep 2 - Been burned 4x after my divorce, two were her, two were me. Interestingly, my ex-wife and I remain good friends. Likely, during my self imposed exile and isolation, she’s prolly my best friend at the moment. Anyway, I very much want a loving, trusting relationship again.

same lmk if u find a solution for any of them

The implication you’ve been in a relationship already e.e

I completely understand reason number 4. Betrayal is a difficult thing to overcome when it happens more than once.

im always doing something outside, but alone, 50% of the time im on camps, the other 50% im eating at a food outlet. But staying home with a s/o is really amazing. Ive experienced it, and its great, but im single now, and food is bae 😂😂

Exactly me

this is outrageous, youtube

yEs

Indeed...

They known you better, than you think !

Everytime I need it, it pops up HAHAHAHA

Exactly

Welcome to the club, want some wine?

@@tomaskatinas1796 If it's white wine then yes, red wine gives me migraine.

It's not your imperfections. It's their legalism.

Lmao

no puls also works dear Fbi this is a joke

"I mean, they don't even need teeth. We smile from the heart"

My only standard: " loyalty loyalty loyalty"

My standards: 1. Is at least 18, mentally and physically 2. Is human The pulse is overrated.

Me

Me

"No no hes got a point"

I am the Cool Side Of The Pillow..yours very truly Alfonso Cantu

Me hahaha :(

Thank u so much!! I’m almost 17 and just can’t have a crush on anyone, I was kind of afraid that I would never love someone, but your comment cheered me on! Good luck with your guy😁

im you, but she doesnt like me back, is already in a relationship with someone who is just "enough" and.. she has way too much emotional baggage to deal with, we have chemistry i like her a lot and care more about her than she does for herself, we argue all the time because we're both stubborn

I am a guy who turned 22 just 4 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend before and its kinda bothering me a lot. I use dating apps but rarely get matches by some 18-23 age girls who ends up ghosting or unmatching me for no reason. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago. One was 19(20 now) and another was 20 or 21 and both rejected me. I do chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school and they are all 20-22 year olds. I am having a very good chat with a girl who was 2 years my junior in our school days. Now she is 20 and I had the best chat with her for the past 3 days compared to any other girl who lives in my city. But I also like another girl who was my childhood friend when we were in elementary school in 2008-2011. Now she is 21 and only 5-6 months younger than me but we hardly chat much on IG as she doesn't reply to my last message for a week or 2.

@@filipesilva7581 I’m really sorry, I know what it’s like to have feelings for someone and them not feel the same, but a relationship should be fun and enjoyable! Sure you’ll have arguments but it should be a good balance between the two. Some people aren’t meant for each other and still fall in love. You’ll find someone that’s perfect for you one day, I promise :)

@@gillipoli5898 it’s so good it’s talked about! I felt so alone. Sometimes it just takes longer for other people to find their match, if I were you I wouldn’t worry, anyone would be lucky to have you as a partner 💪🏼 keep your head up

In the same boat brother

fr

Same

Fr

Yep

Lmao can relate 😂😂

That one was a real kick in the balls for me.

or celebrities

I want zero two to exist

100% of my crushes are celebrities two or three times my age 🥴

Mine died a long time ago and I keep it that way, it's better not caring about it.

I understand you, it’s really hard to let go of that, I’m still going through that process at this moment but one day, no matter how long you will love yourself :)) I know it’s a long process that seems to be not going nowhere but it will you just got to you trust yourself and be patient

I was thinking the same thing, even on real life a lot of people thought me that is basically my fault because I have low self-esteem. So basically the reason why i can't get a girlfriend it's because me as a human i have doubts and it's my fault because i need to be 100% confident on every things i do even if it's something that is gonna be dangerous or destroy my social reputation... We're not robots... We make mistakes and sometimes we keep remembering this mistakes and that's ok because we are not gonna make them again... Everytime someone says this to me i get really angry I'm not joking... I understand the point, part of get to know someone that you like is judging but again we are not robots...

I have low self esteem because I'm very skinny... Other guys always tell me to eat more and work out. Even tho I literally eat TONS and do as much martial art-training as I can, my body doesn't change. I'ts kinda unfair because I think I don't even look bad but others are ruining everything without even knowing it. And now my parents expect me to ask out a girl? I'm sorry what? If I asked out a girl she'd probably tell me she doesn't like skeletons or some shit 💀 My dad was mad af because I said I can't talk to girls...I'm just thinking even if I had high self esteem, that doesn't make me a bodybuilder. I'm still a skeleton, it is what it is :/ I feel sorry for disappointing my dad

​@@RL-DarkSpark Keep in mind your health is important so if you are skinny but you are very healthy it doesn't really matter...Keep in mind people are just gonna suggest... don't worry too much what they are gonna say...if someone catches your eyes but everyone else say that you are not worth it for her...well do it anyway prove them wrong , be yourself don't try anything crazy. I suggest if your parents are mad at you because you don't have a girlfriend to simply say the truth, explain yourself...i know it's crazy but maybe one day you're gonna meet someone you like and if your friends are not gonna help...well your parents will absolutely help by suggesting what to do.

then you have really low self esteem...

@@arthurmorgan2906 lol, that much I know for sure, but I have my reasons.

@@Barbar-barbaro I also have reasons for having low self esteem and in bad times I really do act like that. But usually I have rather healthy confidence... despite all the sh*t I've been through. What reasons you have btw?

You cannot learn without trying

go to a party drink a few beers talk to someone and boom thats if u just want to get the ykyk out the way

Same here

Not a reason, I am sure you arent ugly and love doesn't come from the outside, it's the inside which matters

Thank you for saying that

Not true, there are many things other than subjective beauty...you are probably poor, dumb and boring too! :D

U cute owo

Same 😭

I am wishing you and your anime boy a happy life together 🤣🤣🤣

I’m in this comment and I don’t like it

Ihu ! Lol

I felt this deeply 😭

Social distancing ever since. 😎

Sounds about right.

Not even after quarantine lmao

Go to coffee shops and parks. I’ve been meeting people through this

@@vassiliospavlou8571 my social skills aren't the greatest, i'll give it a try though

Thank you 💜

all check! :')

In short, that's entirely your fault.

5 and 9

Past Trauma, Trust issues, Im also kinda socially Dumb ._.

That’s really understandable but forcing love to come to you ends you up in a toxic situation, letting love come to you naturally is the best way to go, there’s definitely someone out there for you, there is for everyone! Just live everyday as it is and let things come towards you instead of pushing it to come to you.

:* here a kiss for you

Pfff... Get yourself a pet ball python. You will have all the hugs you can handle.

Children can offer that as well

@@deltaradiance9034 There is nearly nothing more irresponsible than to bring an intelligent being into existence just for the need of a hug -_-

@@stretopovermind9680 who said it's just for the Need of a Hug??? Check yourself in the mirror. He/She mentioned, to kiss, talk to, CARE ABOUT, be cute with... SMH

And the cycle goes on

SAmE

Love yourself first before loving others, that’s all i can say.

Sad highfive

@@Andrea-wq5xq if only it were that easy

Im very much used to the 69 curse. Every time something good is happening, Im expecting something bad to happen eventually to even things out. It never fails. Im not meant to have meaningfull life.

Damn. I feel called out with like half of this list...

Thank you

Thanks mate

Damn I’m really relating to 7 points

😂😂😂I do not learn from mistakes at all lmao

ayo samee

No one likes K-pop stans. Start there.

mood.

I know people in a relationship who don't have a good self-steem... And they seem pretty sad, even if they have a gf/bf

Love yourself

Not true.. Faith can be restored dog/human omeba (wuteva..)!! ✌

Don’t say that man. You have to be better than that!

@Humble Warrior My name is faith and i dont know how am i gonna react with that

Wow the truth in this

I am the dog

It's only slightly more difficult to figure out the difference between actual Love and a lustful crush. ;o)

Oh yea ur an kpop fan So u basically love in wrong ppl

@@yeetthephone2341 well Im not a kpop fan. How can u say that?

@@Jackgritty28 Worse still, they often prevent relationships from even getting off the ground. People meet and end up having such bad impressions of each other they cancel each other out immediately without having ever known who that person really is. Sometimes all it takes its just one small faux-pas and that's it. Game over.

ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HteuuKwcz34.html

My guy, you should probably speak in english because people rarely understand the language of facts.

4. Being able to see the problems in society only makes one unattractive to all those 99% of people unable to accept reality

The last one is so true! My classmate had already 6 or 7 boyfriends (and she wasn't that affected)

5. dating apps like tinder and bumble ruined the dating scene as women are always looking to job hop relationship once something better comes along.

Same

I definitely agree

@@Zipperskull_ Thank You

That happened to me

Yeah, I feel everyone should try to find happiness within themselves before anyone else. Not saying you have to be completely enlightened within yourself, but at least trying puts a better perspective on how a relationship may be; compared to a dependant relationship that has an unhealthy expectation one may have for their partner, I feel.

@@InVinoVeratas Yes. Absolutely

Let's talk

Dammit Ileana, you beat me to it

@@kw267 🤷

Yeahh me too. I’m also shy a lot of the time. I wonder what people think of shy people. Like I feel like they think we are just there sitting in the corner when in reality My brain is going at it and I’m just constantly thinking about stuff. I want to be more social and talk to people other then my little friends I have. Ahhh antisocial problems🤷‍♀️😔🤜🤛

Same bro, same!

@Mr Man probably because it's biologically necessary for our race and society to survive and have families which build sense of community. You are programmed to have something to fight for build for etc..if most of us were single it would be a very selfish society but I could be wrong

SavoryBaby No. It’s not necessary for humans to have families. It can be as simple as communities, but no *need* to be any more intimate. Yes, we are programmed to have something to fight for, it’s ourselves. We, *instinctively*, fight for our own selves. Ironically, overpopulation has become a global problem now. Too many people in this world wants to have a family and what does that lead to? Competition for limited resources. Don’t you think it’s selfish that one family’s happiness can be ruined (poverty) by another’s family in search of their own happiness? No?

SavoryBaby You are wrong. 😂😂😂 Humans aren‘t „programmed“, we have feelings, desires...we are INDIVIDUALS first of all! ☝🏼

The point of the video is that we need to improve ourselves before we can be successful in relationships...I hope you understand that.

It has nothing to do with maturity. It has to do with allowing people to live their lives. Period.. it's their choice if they want to be in a relationship or not.

all of that is cope. Its all about your face

@@nogymforyourface49 There's a lot of both data and examples that disagree with that. Some people are mangled in accidents and still find love. If a bombastically hot guy asked me out but he had the list in the timestamps, I would turn him down.

I think I'm all of that. but I am working on myself

A true hero

Thank you brave soldier

How many behaviors did you relate to?

Psych2go knows our problems

@@Psych2go 4 maybe 5 😬

@Psych2Go Ehm 3 or 4.... enough to stay single probably :P

Same

Nuh uh

Real

Wow that’s kinda deep

*the more you know thing plays*

חחח חנקת😂😂

So.. are you a ghost then?

Yes it’s true

SAME 😢

If u have strict parents , it means you are young to live with your parents .... And that means that u r not old enough to get in a relationship which will matter

Same

X-PLAYER 59 true but I still think it’s possible for a kid/teen to find love. I mean I started developing strong feelings for people when I was 13. I felt like I was the only person in my class that actually understood people’s emotions and feelings. Most kids/teens aren’t ready for the responsibility though

@@danielh3677 yeah I know it is ... But not a long lasting one

Man what 🥺

I felt that on a spiritual level 😔

Same

Honestly

When women say "nobody asks me out," I look at who's asked them out and why they're labelled 'nobody'

@@RideAcrossTheRiver 😂🤭

No. You may be demisexual. Thats a sign. But demisexuals only fall in love or get attracted once they have a close bond or a emotional bond with someone. Meaning your really close to them and care about them before you start getting romantic feelings for them or wanting to go on a date.

@@okcook3724 sounds like you've never heard of a Weeb.

seek help

@@darkn4s weak sauce.

Little voice well crap I might be demisexual then

You rarely see this openness to own failures. Mostly it's ppl blaming their exes. You're doing great, maybe you don't know it yet. Just keep reflecting yourself. Wish you all the best luck.

Gosh, that hit hard. Bro, you describe pretty much exactly what I'm going through, too. You realise all you mistakes. But it's over and everything done is unfixable. As you said, you learn for your future, but this doesn't really help here. You destroyed not only your own happiness but also the life of one person you love(d). Is there anything you would tell your 7 months younger self now?

Either your spouse was a keeper, or you were suffering in ways that you were still not willing to admit because you thought too highly of them.

Bonus: And I liked my own comment

You are not alone

Same.

First of all, many people seem to think or feel they're ugly - whether they are or not. That feeling's there, but it doesn't necessarily speak truth. (and in before something in you says "But I'm really ugly, you don't understand" - yes that's what the feels say in everyone who feels ugly - you're not alone in that :) ). Also, it's my experience that how other people view you is more determined by your attitude and way of expressing than simple physical looks anyway =). "I hate everyone" . Don't know what that is based on, but if you start looking for it, most people have at least something positive about them and that includes yourself. Regardless of what you may feel. If you practice looking for it, you'll start to see it more and more, which makes it easier to make friends, too. Doesn't mean you need to trust strangers or acquaintances blindly with everything, but you can start to gradually grow in trust. Good luck finding happiness - everyone deserves that!

Beauty is subjective so you're not ugly

Mood-

i didnt asked to be called out like that-

Must be why I am

K-drama addict and want main lead of k-drama to exist in real life. Literally this is the main reason of my high standards

I just come back from reading a fanfiction on a fictional Character I feel called it

Same

Yup .it sucks being ugly

True

Same lmfao

same

Same tbh

Truth!

Preach

So true ❤️ what if I'm single because low self esteem isn't mine... It's also relevant to the other side...

Mine too. I'm an accepting, secure, unconditional, non-measuring, non-judging and non-proving partner, but I keep picking partners who aren't. So, obviously, I still need to work on MY secure, self-love, self-valuing side. I'm a fixer, or enabler. I thought (and know) I was the right person, and I essentially am, though not perfect, but I kept picking partners who were not accepting; who were/are judging, blaming, shaming, emotional blackmailing, etc. Here's the catch-22 part: I was willing to accept all that in them, and work on that, together, and individually, but they weren't willing to do that with me. I did trust, and my ideal partner is independent, secure, empathetic, accepting, etc. I was never clingy or needy or jealous. Not in my nature. I had a relatively secure childhood. I am a committed partner. My partners would all agree with this, and even verbally acknowledged this to my face, but I picked partners for whom few measure up. For them, the grass is always greener. It doesn't matter how conscious, evolved, self-loving and self-valuing you are, with purpose and sense of self, if you pick the wrong partner...As Psych to Go says "Relationships take more than one person..." They also take an X-factor, otherwise known as luck. After 40 years in the trenches, I'm here to say that luck is HUGE. There are days when I am convinced it's 95% of whether or not we find/end up with the right partner. But that shouldn't keep us from waking up, being smarter, watching for red flags, asking the right questions, paying attention to their family and family history... I always love the quote from the movie "Good Will Hunting," that Robin Williams' character says: "You're not perfect, sport, and let me save you the suspense: this girl you've met, she's not perfect either. But the question is whether or not you're perfect for each other."

Given the state of the world, that's suppose to be the best thing we all do. Doesn't help any of our lonely asses.

i too was cursed with a too comfy butt..

@brown power ranger I'm sorry, but I can't take someone seriously when they forget to capitalize the first letter on their words after a period. Also, no reason to be rude like that.

@brown power ranger Has someone with a cartoon picture been mean to you on the internet?

I stopped trying because people are too complicated these days.

Gone,reduced to atoms

@Sultan Sahimbaev Chile man look at ur self ur also watching the video

Aww I'm sorry and I can relate to being bullied. I got bullied at school and it's one of the reasons I have suicidal thoughts.

Welp then I don't Have to comment this now

Truth! How is your day going?

Hang in their brother, there's someone out there for everyone with all kinds of looks.

Love will come to you verry soon you are so strong the right person is there you will see just ceap strong big hug

Damn. Felt that one

Cowboy Beebop i believe

Thank you. That is very true. _/\_

No, we cannot live alone. We need social interactions to retain our sanity.... Mine is long gone

Exactly. I find myself saner when alone in my thoughts than around Laura Bennie, my current girlfriend.

My favorite anime

Keep it that way. Not worth the hassle. If u get horny - use prostitutes. For everything else there is money too. So focus on what is Important to u.

afielsch Damn who hurt u??

Paola Elizabeth Morales he’s right my dude. Love, love is a myth.

@@paolaelizabethmorales8741 well, yes I got burnt more times than I care to admit. But it is a general problem imo. Ppl tend to fuck u over.

I had one and the mistake was I ever tried to date. It´s not worth the effort, it´s draining, time-consuming, complicated and potentialy dangerous.

oof

I can relate, except for that ugly part.

Keep your head up❤️💯

​@@hugolundblad6036 People like me are I think the biggest fighters because it's really hard to be ugly and stupid. Its not cool to live like that.

noneone has gave u the permission to talk about life

I'd rather have weed. It still cost less than dinner for two

ItIsFunnyDamnIt luckily, I can afford both

LoL 😅

😂😂😂👌🏼

Ayyy 😂😂

Wise decision! My parents have had a bad marriage for 42 yrs now ( physical, emotional, financial abuse).I wanted to have a loving family of my own.I did date same person for 5 yrs then married him for another 8.Spiralled into depressiom when it ended in divorce.Few patterns were repeated in the my marriage.Those patterns dint break my marriage but definitely played a part in me resenting the ex spouse.Hopefully you wont face the same shit but yep, lighten the baggage amd then form new relationship. Also remember,even in a marriage u can be alone emotionally.so choose wisely.no daddy issues.( I dint have that.I chose someone who was nothin like my orthodox patriarchal father) and yet it dint work out.Instead of looking for support outside,best to build resiliemce from within first.So that if someone leaves or chooses to stay, you still have you.Good luck.

Same here

Ohh, same in here... 😔

I relate to all except 4 and 6 as I've never even been in a relationship. I never go out of my way to meet new people unless circumstances force me to. I have no ability to flirt and am terrible at identifying if someone is flirting with me unless they're REALLY obvious about it, and even then, it can still take me a while to catch on.

As a 17 year old shy schoolboy, I haven't experienced having in relationship but I feel you and yes we are same situation right now

#6 🥺🥺🥺

first, second (mood wise), fourth, and the last one i can relate too a lot

I am the same way with guys I am romantically or sexually attracted to, shy, I just try to remember that guys aren't objects or beings to fear. I do have my issues too but even the guy next door does too.

Welcome to the club.

I’m in this comment and I don’t like it

I’m literally the same bro😭

Can you help me ? I (20m) had many crushes before ( it is/was easy for me) but I can not have a crush on a girl anymore, I mean I am attracted girls but I can not attracted romantically recently, I am in the first year of unıversity and I am attracted in the terms of appearance but I do not fall in love. I locked myself about having a crush a year ago because I had to study for an university exam. I feel strange by not having serious crush, I know that it is normal for me but I sometimes think that I have been single for so long ( I have not been loved once) that my brain totally gave up. İs it because I still have not found the true one or I question my sexuality for 2 months ? ( I m not sure İf I m bisexual or not, I love girls,tomboys and femboy(cute guys). help ?

@@abuzerklldozerv360 Maybe you're aromantic but you can be sexually attracted to people ? 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't really know I'm Not a professional, sorry

@@Lu_Tsuki Maybe I am aromantic. Perhaps, I havent found the one yet at college ?. Thanks

@@abuzerklldozerv360 I don't know. You're the only one who can find out what's your orientation

@@Lu_Tsuki yeah. It seems I am bisexual heteromantic ( even if I want to kiss a cute guy and cuddle with him) in denial.

I can't even imagine my future relationship or marriage and having a kids. I think I dont need love to live on life. And also I'm just too independent to dont need a partner. Is there anyone same as my thinking?

@Rollie55 hell same, I used to become "Lonely" but as time passed I realized that I grew up by being alone and I think that's what really the happiness I have

Owl Official I thought exactly like you when I was single. But it all changed rapidly when I‘ve met my boyfriend. It becomes so real. 🙃 And he is also the person where I can only imagine to marry and have children with him someday. I was also used to be alone before. Don‘t get me wrong I was completely fine with it. I could habe many guys before but I didn‘t want it, because it never felt right. Since the right one appeared, it‘s like the top cherry on a tasty cake. 😋 the life was nice as a single before and now he makes my life even better. 🙂

@@laluma6890 my friends also said that maybe my future soulmate can change my thinking. And also if I learned to release my bottled emotions I can experience what they call "Love" but Idk how. Probably, my self might change by time.

same here, except I’m also socially awkward and have social anxiety⚰️

They said that if someone loved you(friends or family),you will love yourself more Remember there is someone who will always love you

don't Thinklike that

neonappl3_ honestly that quote is bullshit bc that basically says that all bc you have low self esteem or hate yourself or have a mental illness that makes you hate yourself you don’t deserve to be in a relationship unless you get rid of that which is hard to get rid off. That quote does more harm than good

You can't love someone ekze if you don't love yourself first Me: Self Loathing Intesfies

Money will not leave you forever

Just be yourself all the way, and then you can have both authenticity and friendship.

You really are doing everything right. Just be kind and authentic, and anyone who is real and good, will come. And if no one comes, you are officially better than everyone else.

I checked all those off lol even after years of improving myself. Still too much to deal with.

@@myrkflinn4331 You can only control yourself the other person can always mess things up too though so don't be so harsh on yourself.

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@@myrkflinn4331 I think the most common one any intelligent man has is cynical views look at the type of dudes women go for..... try dressing in Capris below your ass crack and a sideways NY Hat you will pick up the hottest, naive little witches who think you're a dealer.

@@ichoosemysanity6467 it seems money does keep women around longer, but they'd still cheat I assume if you are at work half of your life

Ha!😄 you're funny

@@ramonita212 thank you!

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