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Thank you Dan for pointing out to everyone that a man acting like a puppy dog and wanting validation and praises for his behavior is NOT attractive to women! Thank you! I run into these men ALL the time and it’s so insincere. You know they want more than friendship and they are too coward to say what they are feeling. Too coward to move things forward into a relationship and end up wasting time. I’m holding out for a real man who isn’t afraid to make it clear how he feels and isn’t dependent on me to validate him or make him feel like he is doing everything right. Those men are out there!
Dan hits the nail on the head when he talks about why guys ask needy questions (or act in needy ways for that matter): they think they need her approval. In other words, they are not accepting of themselves. You see the real problem is NOT the woman rejecting you but you rejecting yourself. If you accept yourself you might want her but you won't need her.
Hey Dan, amazing video. I have a question though: 1. When is a rejection actually a rejection and what's an example of a rejection trick a woman plays, in other words, what signs do you have to see in a woman to say yep, she's testing me and nah, she's not interested? 2. What do you do if a woman who is attracted to you but hasn't had sex with you try asks for a favor? 3. What should you do when a woman has agreed to go on a date with you but then goes cold turkey on you at the last minute? And do you have to remind her about it on the D day or the day before?
all of these questions are basically the guy just trying to qualify himself to not "mess up" aka placing her on the pedestal and caring way too much about what she's gonna think of him
If a gorgeous woman who was my type asked me any of these questions, I would be turned off by the idea myself. I want a confident woman who can be secure with herself myself. Done with babysitting fr.
Seen this happen first hand great video so accurate also i met this really nice girl and ive been talking on messages and hanging with her 3 times now and her friend but i broke the rule on including her friend (was having such a good time with her) is there any way of correcting it winning the friend over, havent seen them in a week + now, they always roll together
Good video. How do you deal with your partner having ex's around...without being insecure etc. Personally I think they should delete them, put some distance etc..but this isn't always possible say for example its someone at a sports club or at work. Difficult to naviagate bcos I don't have anything to do with any ex.
Dan already play in my mind a series of question and try to be funny on how to ask them, but im totally on the first question type of guy. How do I fix this?
.... Question: i have a good buddy who LOVES to tell women "hi, Im yes trying to get to know you" as he first meets a lady and begins asking her questions. I tell him that i think thats the wrong thing to say at the very beginning. It telegraphs that hes really into a girl immediately. I think its a HUGE mistake, and im wondering if he should definitely refrain from this unnecessary comment? (He even tried that crap with me yesterday, and told a pretty lady I was having a cool conversation with, yeah my friend here is asking you a couple questions cuz I think he wants to get to know you. I told him to not say that again. Less is more! Grazie Dan!!)
It depends if he says that in a needy, desperate way or a confident, emotionally independent way. When you are truly confident and emotionally independent, you can say things like that and women will appreciate it. Yet, if they sense neediness or desperation, it turns them off. As for him saying something to a woman you were talking to - don't place any importance on that. If you do, the woman then senses that you aren't very confident in what you are presenting to her and are worried that she might believe what another guy says. You have to be emotionally independent.
It depends. Sometimes a woman can be feeling so attracted to you that she let's something like that slide and gives you a chance anyway. Alternatively, sometimes a woman can like it if a man is a little insecure (i.e. an unattractive woman, a manipulative, toxic woman who wants to control a guy). It really depends. I'd need more info to give you an accurate response.
Hey, Dan. What do you think the better approach is to get a girl in the same univeristy class as me? Should i be direct with it or should i find an opportunity to get to know her first?
Maybe observe her a bit, man. Like her character etc. And if ye are gonna go fer it, definitely go fer it. There's no point in waiting too much at all. If ye can make her want to talk to ye, then ye got the chance to know her in the process.
Stu from The Modern Man had loads of girls at university and he explains how to do it in 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend store.themodernman.com/21_great_ways_to_get_a_girlfriend.html BTW: You could use either approach, but if you're not being sexually attractive and don't know how to go from one step to the next, you will struggle to get anywhere. So, make sure you are certain about how to make women feel sexually attracted to you. A couple of videos from me: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-C1IjqT7PXjw.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-nKCp26OkiNg.html
Dan, you said a few times that you previously had up to 3-5 girlfirends at once and they were competing for your attention. Do you think this is still possible if I'm in a committed relationship already with one girlfriend and she lives with me? I told her I'd like a 3some or another girl in the relationship but my girlfriend refused. Maybe its because of the current dynamics? Would The Flow help with leaarning how to set the right dinamic? Also, did those other girlfriends you had see / date other men when they were dating you too (something I wouldn't agree to if I'd be able to establish this dinamic)? Btw I love the new video format with that background and you pausing sometimes when talking!
It's usually not possible if you're already in a relationship. I established it right away by saying what I share in this video ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-krJncM_mJMY.html Yes, they were usually dating other men at the same time, but not always. Some just tried to wait and hope I would stop seeing the other girls, but I wasn't ready to get into a serious relationship at that time. When I met my wife, I had 4 other women in my life at the same time. Got rid of them all right away and have been with her exclusively since. Wouldn't want to see other women now either, which is what happens when you find the one. Cheers, Dan 👍 P.S. No, The Flow wouldn't help with that situation. Also - cheers, glad you're enjoying the new videos.
Lucky me in that the woman I'm pursuing that I talk to quite a lot at work is always telling me her turn offs and things she looks for in a man. I literally have the list of what kind of man she would date in my brain so I'd never even have to ask LOL
If you don't have much experience with meeting a girlfriend's parents, it's natural to feel a little nervous. As long you have good intentions with their daughter and seem like a normal guy, they should like you and approve of you being with their daughter.
@@DanBacon_ yup because last week my girlfriend just took my hand and my girlfriend always smiles when she sees me and I asked my girlfriend are your parents looking forward to see me and my girlfriend said yes
What can we do when the women we keep meeting are taken? Life sucks. Had a great connection with a woman today only to find out she in a relationship. This is a an all too common scene.
There is this girl I like, she likes me also. We go out a lot and she’s always all over me. We have been like this for a year now. She comes to my my place to spend the night most of the time at my place. I never asked her out or had sex with her. But we cuddle all the time and we talk intimate about stuff. What do I do? Any ideas I do like this girl. And from the look of things she likes me also. I want to take her on a date for the first time. Dan any tips ? Should I ask her out or tell it to her that I am seriously interested in her ?
Dan. Does it come across as needy if she comes onto you before your certain where things are and you cut off sex and state its because you don't have sex with women that aren't exclusive? That's kind of a boundary I've mine to work on but I want to deliver that the best way possible.
It can be for many reasons. For example: Some women just don't want to have sex right away because they want the guy to truly appreciate them and be serious about committing. Alternatively, maybe she has a 'problem' down there and wants it to go away before she hooks up with you. Alternatively, she might just be playing with you and seeing how much you will put up with, just for the fun of it. The list goes on.
@@DanBacon_ thanks for your reply. She's said she wants to see how big my interest is actually for her. She's doesn't want to come as a easy target so that's a good thing I suppose . We will see eventually 😅
I don't identify as any kind of label. Also, there are a lot of different definitions of what a stoic is online. So, I'm not entirely sure what you are asking specifically.
@@DanBacon_ I guess just some of the stoic philosophy of mental toughness, mindset etc, ring familiar to me in some of your programs, just curious if you were familiar with stoicism. I am not personally I stoic, just familiar with it couldn’t give you a good definition lol.
