1. Let go of hope 2. You haven't grieved enough 3. You were attached to them. 4. Attached to fantasy that what could have been 5. Being single is lonely. 6. You don't want to start over again. 7. You crave closeness with someone 8. You can't Stop thinking about all the good times 9. you don't know who you are apart from relationship 10. You haven't done the work if you were with an abuser or in general too
I will be playing this video over and over in the coming days. I need a huge reality check and stop living in the fantasy. Thank you for these posts ❤️
@@galaxie8000 yes! It sets you back and it's like living in your own made up world. I constantly reopen the wound over and over. I have to break this cycle of the what could have been and get a slap of reality.
@@crystinamarie1 it's not a made up world because it was real... you re-open that wound... because it feels good.... no shame in that. it's hard, grrrrl
Definitely was one of the most difficult person to let go. Hardest I have fallen for someone before. ( was even in a 7 year engagement) and this short term relationship was even a harder love then that was. But now seeing the reality of the situation, and seeing having someone show me that she is now having another dude staying over there, I am glad to say, the rest of the closure I needed is in motion! Yall beautiful people got this. Find your reasons why to not be with them or give them a chance. And it will help you move forward with healing. Like they say, Someone who loves you will work through the hard times as long as the non negotiables weren't hit. There will be someone else out there there will be just as, but most likely better then that person. There always will. But, the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Take it slow, heal and focus on yourself, get yourself out there, and you will forever prosper.
I was emotionally abused for years, he regularly told me things that meant I was worthless and a bad person, and there were quite many times when I almost killed myself. Like literally getting everything ready, but chickened out somehow. Thank god I chickened out, I didn't sacrifice my literal life to this horrible person! But it's been 1.5 years and I still feel anger, and I still fantasize about him paying for his "karma debt", I can't get over the unfairness, that all I remember is years of horror and being half way in the grave, but he is kind of nostalgic, as if we had such good times or whatever, and gets to move on with zero emotional damage, just to hurt a next woman. I just want to forget it all already.
I feel like you really understand. I know he wasn't good for me but i don't want to be with someone else either, i just don't:( And i also think i will never find that kind of deep connection him
It's only been 5 weeks and it's horrible. Some days I'm good some are so hard. I try to stay busy but as soon as I'm home alone for a lil all these emotions come down. Yes it wasn't the best relationship but getting someone to know me as good as she did took me years to find. Even talking about marriage couple of weeks before the break up. Break up was bad and way too emotional. Now with the holidays coming I am definitely not looking forward to them.
It could also be because you keep jumping from one relationship to the next without giving yourself a chance to grieve and work on yourself before being in another relationship
Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏻 You said some things that I thought were just me and that I‘m kinda doing something wrong. Realising now that it‘s just part of the process. Yes I‘d love a video about some tools 😊
Yes, please. Definitely need the tools. My therapist has not given them to me. At least not yet. Been a year and some months. All that’s happened in regards to [the tools] is she recently said something like I won’t let go. HOW? Where’s the button? What’s the passcode? Where’s the walkthrough magazine? Up up down down left right left right hold A start. Lol. Like🤷🏽♀️I would if I knew how.
