How to Be Ladylike... 

You should seriously teach a charm school for adults

“Step away from sloppy and lazy behavior.” Being a lady takes effort.

i am 13 years old. i have and am growing up without a motherly figure in my life. it really hurts because i know my family can’t relate to my problems. i don’t feel comfortable talking to my father about my issues, especially my girly ones.. nothing really fixes that problem, but just watching your videos and relating to a beautiful, proper woman gives me so much confidence and joy. you are my role model, and you inspire me to be more lady like, kind, grateful and happy. thank you for being there for girls like me. i hope one day i will be more like you. i’ll certainly try. thanks Mrs. Midwest ☺️💕

As a man who likes seeking his masculine side, I love watching your videos because as more feminine a woman is I want to be more masculine. Much respect for your channel. I wish more women followed your videos.

Please write a book! I’d read every page and make notes too!

As a man, there is nothing more attactive than a woman who embraces her femininity and stands by her values. I feel this is a rare thing these days.

You’re way in viewing femininity makes the idea appealing for us.Thank you

As a 70 year old lifetime homemaker, it is so encouraging to know there are young ladies who see value in managing a home, supporting her husband behind the scenes and embracing her femininity in a God honoring way. I have watched several of your videos and have noticed you sometimes refer to us older women as "old lady". Maybe just my personal pet peeve but to me I would find it much more feminine and lady like to refer to an older woman as "an older woman" or an "elderly woman: anything but "old lady" which sounds so undignified. May God bless you as you embrace your chosen path.

*A tip for any ladies who want to wear heels:* The wider the heel, the more comfortable the shoe! I worked with a Hollywood Costume Designer and she passed this tip down to me. FOR REAL. Don't get the shoes with the needle-like points. A wider support means more comfort and less hunching over out of pain at the end of the day! ♥

You are the only conservative woman I've seen who gives people an out in almost every video: if you don't want this, then it's not for you. Move on. That's very gracious and... ladylike!

All of these are such no brainers, yet it is so sad how many in our society have forgotten these tidbits

Being a lady is definitely a lost art into days world. Thank you, katlylin for bringing it back. I definitely try be kind and courteous to others. You're videos have been such a wonderful reminder to me!

I’m preparing to welcome my fourth daughter, and I am excited to implement the things that you teach. I was a home maker before I became a stay at home mom, and the things you share have always resonated with me. I always felt out of place with my desire to stay home. I’m grateful to you for creating this space.

You are just a really conventionally attractive woman. You manage to make every outfit you wear look dressed up. You could model.

"Its important not to stick your rear end in people's faces" yes ma'am! lol I agree!! 😄

I'm usually a silent viewer but I love how calming and relaxing your videos are, I feel so at peace when I watch your content. Sending love from the UK x

I also struggle because I think sometimes abusive people will take advantage of polite people as we are seen as passive and people pleasers. I notice acting rude can keep people away from me. I am trying to find the balance of being polite while also having firm boundaries so people do not try to walk all over me.

I learned a lot from Marie Kondo's books. I didn't implement 100% but for example, she said to take out everything from your bag every single day, and put the necessary things in it freshly every morning. I already kept few things in my bag because I dreaded my mom's heavy, impossibly bulky, funny smelling handbag (sorry mom, I love you, haha). But after this tip, my bag is flawless, and I carry very little=good posture, lighter image, etc.

She has the slight advantage of being gorgeous and charming.

You are a character developer i needed this so much. Thank you.

Awesome! Who else loves this?! This is such a important topic that nobody talks about! Love from a new channel💕

Our youngest daughter is the only girl among 3 older brothers and her tendency to go into "Cave-girl" mode has had our heads spinning. Then, yesterday I got a notion to search for videos on being "Lady-like" and found your videos. Thank GOD. We're less than 24 hours into introducing her to your work and the difference is noticeable! Thank you for finding your groove and making these videos. This work matters! Be blessed.

You are going to make such a wonderful mother one day, you’re only a few years older than me but I look up to you so much! 💛

Your advice has helped me attract my fiancé & once we are married, I will be his housewife ❤️❤️❤️

I was really skeptical of this video bc a lot of women who promote “ladylike” behavior look down and disapprove of others. But you didn’t do that and made sure you disclaimed you weren’t telling women to be like that, and you weren’t super extreme about it. Didn’t even finish the video and I subbed 😊

Thank you for being an incredible role model in this confusing world and especially on the internet. I love watching your videos and learning real life skills and tips.

Ok enough men commenting about how they wish more women were like this. Ladies, do this because you want to 😄 not cause of men 💃🏻💃🏻 Ps. I love men don’t get me wrong but it’s not always about you 😊

You are a breath of fresh air!! I am 66 years young, and through the decades, have ebbed and flowed with the times, although I’d like to think I always had manners and respect for others. My advice to young women, is to heed your lessons and try to incorporate them as best they can. “A lady is never lazy,” is something we should all strive for. I feel like with the advent of technology, we have become so distracted that we let our whole life pass us by as we stare at that little screen. I’m guilty of this also, but please, please, please young people, get off your phone and live your life! I was in the doctor’s office yesterday, and a beautiful young mother was there with her 3year old (I’m guessing at his age) son. He was beside himself with excitement as he watched the fish in the waiting room aquarium. He obviously had been well trained, because he was quiet as he tried desperately to get his mother’s attention. Unfortunately, she never looked up from her phone, and I can’t imagine those 10 minutes on her phone were more important than her son’s face, his eyes, his smile, as he watched something he probably rarely saw. I know it made MY day! I’m an observer of life. I was an international flight attendant for 40 years. I have a lot of life behind me, and your advice is wonderful to any young woman starting out in life, and will set her up for a beautiful life ahead! Bravo on your channel! You truly are a beauty, inside and out!

I love your butterfly comparison!!!! I have been always trying to find words to describe proper ladylike posture either to myself-fairly often🙈😅, or others.

I think all these recommendations apply for men or women. We all love a clean and kind man. Love your video!

Your point ‘using the restroom’ instead of ‘going to pee’ is sooo right. That’s how my mom raised me and I always find it strange when people aren’t doing the same...too many people unfortunately 😬

I stumbled upon your channel a few months ago and my life has changed. I love all your advice. Thank you so much. I don't feel alone anymore. Also I love your fashion sense.😁😁😁🙏

My fiancee must be taking tips from you. I've met one of a kind four years ago. She's such a beautiful lady with a kind soul & the warmest heart. We never argue, we always talk. I'm a very lucky man. Keep up the great content & tips. All the best from Canada.

I used to make eye contact in my younger 20’s and men would take it as a sign I was interested in them. It was weird and I (not so) subconsciously stopped so much eye contact and the people hitting on me lessened... I’ve been trying to get back in the habit of eye contact again. Love this video 💕

No matter how old you are, it’s about the way you carry yourself. I love what you said in this video!

Love this! Being ladylike is a sorely missed trait in today's society. I'd love a more in-depth video on being a great conversationalist. This is something I was not taught, and does not come naturally to me. I've noticed the same goes for many people I speak with. When neither of us are good conversationalist, it makes for an awkward chat! I get better with practice, but would love more tips on how to graciously offer small talk. I think that conversation is a way we can be hospitable to those around us.

I love that you have such an open world view. My views are different than your's on certain things but you are so warm and inviting and the majority of the views you hold, I hold as well! I also appreciate that you are faithful to your religion but you don't insist others be religious. Personally I grew up in a non religious family but I have never said never to faith!

You know a few years ago I wouldn't have think this was necessary. But the way the world is now we need people like you more than ever keep up the good work! And God bless

I appreciate it so much that you consider terms like "ladylike" and "elegant" as holistic and are about so much more than appearance. I love love your videos on topics like these! 💕

this was uploaded on my birthday, I believe it's a sign sent from above...

Eye contact is hard for me because it's not in my culture... but Wow... that's such a hard transition.. but I think I've kind of mastered it

In Russia they have Housewife schools. I saw a youtube documentary on it once and even picked up a few things.

A true lady never gossips. Little girls need to be taught this along with the reasons to be lady-like. Kindness, gentleness, politeness, truthfulness, diligent, responsible, helpful... sound like character qualities? Yep. If we want this country to be a better, safer place in which to live we need women and mothers who reflect the beauty of inner character which is, of course, being lady-like.

For improving posture, I’ve actually improved so much by sitting in an actual chair rather than laying in my bed all day. Making sure my back is rested against the back of the chair has translated to it being much straighter while standing and walking. It really helps. I got a nice, pretty antique chair from goodwill for about $10, and put it in my room to sit in. You can even bring in a chair from somewhere else in your house.

I needed this video so much!I love your feminine energy!❤

you're like my big sis, I'm 22 but after a ..."problem" I realized I wasn't accepting my feminity and I was behaving like a sloopy guy. I didn't like it anymore. Being a lady takes effort but is true it gives you more confidence (I even start to wear dresses) I also watch old makeup or etiquette tutorials and is really good. I think our moms didn't know these thing and I get it. Thanks for sharing. Now I'm suscribed :)

all of your videos are so helpful! ♡ really excited to watch this :)

Thank you for the kind inspiration! Ever since coming across your videos I have really been feeling so much calmer and I have gotten so much inspiration from you as I believe in all of the same things you do. Thank you so much Katlyn!

I love how you still embrace individuality and don't shame anyone for who they are or who they want to be. For example, in your video description you say how not everyone wants to be ladylike but this video is for the ones who want to. THIS is the true meaning of feminism. Nobody should be shamed for wanting to be feminine and vice versa. You simply show us a certain way of life without imposing it on anybody. It's absolutely so empowering and beautiful.

One thing I want to add. It's a mistake I have made and I didn't realize I was being inconsiderate... If someone has just lost someone it's important not to compare it someone you've lost. It's best to just comfort them and listen instead of trying to relate to their pain. I thought I was letting them know that I know how they feel but it really offended a friend of mine because she felt like I was competing.

I LOVE that you say that not all women want or need to be ladylike this is just for those who do ❤️❤️love

Watching your video I realize how much my mom taught me about manners and how to carry myself in public. I feel so grateful to her now although it wasn’t always easy as a child, and I definitely want to teach the same to my future children. Your channel really is one of my favorite! You have such a nice energy, it’s very refreshing❤️

I’m from Louisiana and i feel like this is “how to be southern” 💖

Really appreciate your view/outlook on small talk. I'm thinking of adopting this as my view

Geting in touch with my feminine side has helped me in so many ways. Thank you for teaching us abour our feminine power. I'm excited to learn more from you! You're a beautiful person inside and out btw! Your energy is contagious 🥰

i did not have a female role model growing up so i am so grateful there are kind, respectful ladies out there making helpful videos like this. dear mrs midwest, i hope you had a wonderful trip and i hope you make more videos.

Can you do a ‘things to look for in a boyfriend’ video? Like what will make a good husband/provider

You are truly a remarkable and unique lady! You always have solid and valuable advice and such a sweet aura about you! This will probably sound weird but you would make a great ,great mother!

Such an important topic in our society Caitlin, thank you for sharing with us ! Love from France ! 🌹🌺

Everytime i watch your videos i get super motivated to get things done!!

Thank you! thank you! thank you!Mrs. Midwest! It’s about time we see young women act, dress, walk and speak like ladies. Your a great role model. Keep up the great work!

Very well thought out video. I think elegance and being lady like is so attractive and hard to find in people anymore.

Wow!! You and @dailyconnoisseur would get along fabulously!❤

I really enjoy your channel, as a teen I was very punk rock (still am) lol, but I always try to carry myself as a lady and it's really taken me far in my life and career. Feminine energy really flows through us and I'm glad to have your reminders 🌻

I cant tell you how grateful I am for your channel. ♥️

My mom taught me all the things u said in this video, im so grateful for her Best mom ever

I’ve been doing college interviews this week and I was definitely thinking about all your advise! Can’t wait to use these tips tomorrow!

you were like made to do this channel in this day and age! amen!

Yay for more lady like videos! Virtual charm school anyone?

Thank you so much for everything in the video!!✨ The message conveyed is amazing, and extremely helpful for young girls like myself!😊 and I really appreciate the ending where you emphasized ‘ The core of being ladylike is all about being free and fun’, because I believe being ladylike is a deliberate choice to stride towards the brighter side, instead of feeling controlled or pressured.❤️ we need more RU-vidrs like this! Thank you so much for all the efforts going into this🙏

I'm so glad I found u on RU-vid. Your kind words and grace are so catching. I have a teenage daughter and trying to teach her to be more ladylike. You help me out in so many ways. Thank you!

You have already taught me so much, Caitlin! I really enjoyed the video (again). :) Could you make a video about how to find lady-like and beautiful clothes? I'm from Finland and the mainstream style for women here is kind of grungey tomboyish. :)

Thank you so much... You are right I faced so many problems in my life with my man bcoz I was not that much feminine because I don't have my mother to teach me those things but thanks to you I learn so many things from you. I really appreciate the way you explain things. 😍

You’ve help me grow my wardrobe, & feel comfortable, confident dressing modestly yet stylish. much love thank you 🙈❤️

You had to see my face when I just discovered your channel! Your channel is amazing. My dream channel! Thankyou so much! You have a new subscriber.

I'm only uncomfortable with small talk, but this video gave me the motivation to be better at it ! Haha thank you for your tips, I think you're my favourite RU-vidr now 🎀

Great video as always! Thank you so much! Excited for your video on how to not be sloppy or lazy with our physical appearance ❤️🤗

Oh my goodness! This video is a wake up call to me. I pride myself in being polite, considerate, and conscientious with other people. In fact, I put a lot of effort into reaching out to ppl with kindness and warmth. I have been wondering why lately some people don't always respect me and I realize there are many things in this video that I don't do, especially related to how I carry and groom myself. I will start by improving my posture tomorrow morning.

I’m rewatching this time with a journal and pen! This is so practical and helpful, I would love to see a series out of this if you want to make one💖

I really love your channel! Thank you for nurturing us with your knowledge ♥️

Hello from Austria! I'm so happy, that I came across your RU-vid channel! You are a true inspiration

This was so inspiring 💗 thank you so much for the tips!

Your videos and spirit are so welcoming! Love from England

Thank you so much for this video Caitlin and please make more in this series!

Yes, please make more videos relating to being Lady Like! Loved this!

You’re very articulate and always look on point. I’m an older feminine female yet enjoy learning from different types of women. I notice when I’m helpful that certain people take advantage of my kindness. Can you make a video on how to be assertive yet remain ladylike?

Hi Caitlin, fantastic video......I would love to hear more on this subject too.....keep up the excellent work, you are truly loved & respected by your followers, xxxx

I love this video so much ❤ I was brought up by my father and unfortunately never had a loving mother to teach me and I appreciate you for taking time out of your day for this video 🤗 just subscribed ❤

I really enjoyed this! It's quite true that most of us ladies were never taught to be ladylike, most of us were taught to be tough. I hope to see a twist away from that mindset in future generations.

I love the way you explain yourself about how to be lady like. I've referred you to my mom and sisters!!

I love these tips! I think many of them also depend on the context and company as well. They can be applied to different situations to varying degrees, which is lovely. 😌

Thankyou so much for your time to teach me this and your effort that you have put in ❤️ I will defenitely use your advice 🌸💗

You’re such a wonderful girl. I love your videos and I’m so happy I found you. You just have such a nice aura and soft voice that everything you say comes across as helpful. Thank you, here’s to being more ladylike! ♥️

I loved this video, so many good tips! I think some men as well as women could learn from these rules!

These things are so important! Thank you for teaching them, Caitlin! I'd love to see more videos on being ladylike and improving manners:)

I'm just 17 but i love all your videos and i love your style.

She has such a way with talking to us ❤️

i love you and your videos... plz try to do it every day... seeing you makes my day

Love love love your videos! This was so helpful!

I am really enjoying your videos! I have a very different lifestyle to you, I am building a business which I hope will be an international success (touchwood!), but I think there is nothing wrong with taking enjoyment in traditionally feminine activities. I have always enjoyed keeping a home and setting aside time to bake etc. It’s important that women (and men) have the choices available to live their life however they wish.