I can't believe a woman is running a channel with these sorts of comments. Never seen anything like it. I've seen men bashing women, but a woman confronting women about their issues in marriage is wild.
The problem is you have to cheat or leave a women in order for her to get interested in why this happened. As a man, you have two choices cheat/leave or suffer.
Churches never talk about this topic. Interesting about how a wife negatively treats her husband is a reflection of herself. I have little use for people who withhold love sex and affection within a marriage. Went through that for years to keep it together for our kids. Destroys you inside.
They don’t want to disrupt the tithe. Woman are usually the ones going to church. I told a pastor recently that men submitted to woman due to “happy wife happy life” doctrine somehow extracted from the Bible is a rampant problem. He agreed that he saw it as an issue and proceeded to never address it because it wouldn’t preach well.
So true. Kind of reminds me of the sitcom Married with Children. Affection becomes a chore because it has been weaponized and no longer is something you want to experience.
My ex -wife described me a as psychopathic/narcissist. Everything you described so far is 100% her. When we finally got separated, she went fully lesbian with a new partner before there was even a divorce. Talked about mess up in the head. Now that we’ve been divorced after 15 years of marriage, I finally have peace and tranquility, it is priceless…
Knew a couple where the guy paid for his wife to go to college. She got a job, then six months later, when she felt secure in her job, she divorced him. Then became a lesbian.
That's what they do .. divorce 101 the playbook they play by.. poison the kids against dad try for restraining orders try to get everything.. while being a serial cheater my 30+ yrs she finally met mr right unemployed and since he was going to be around my son, which i despise i hired a private investigator and bingo 3yrs chino state for child abuse made my time with court mediator easy.. crazy that she thought bringing home this loser and wanting to have him play daddy to my son? uhhh hell no.. mediator wrote he could never be alone with my son.. I don't need help raising my son or want creeps to have any access to my son.. truth is stranger than fiction. Women do crazy stuff when lead by emotions and they never take responsibility or feel remorse but they murder your character and destroy all relationships on the way out..
@@davefarnsworth3020The state always names its operations opposite to what they actually do: justice system consistently denies justice because it was set up to perpetrate injustice. Governments are not the friend of the people: governments are the people’s enemy because they attack the people. Governments are Luciferian.
When dad told me we have to talk, then explained that he was divorcing my mom after 25 years. I said something like its about time. Its allready not a mariage as it stands. Mom whas always demeaning to dad behind his back, even though he worked 60 hours per week as an crane operator to keep things afloat. 4 siblings, we dont have contact with her. She wanted to move abroad after the divorce. Never accountable and always abusing us when dad wasnt around. She.. somehow has it in her head its all his fault. We dont contact her because of some reason, somehow that reason is dad.. its dads fault, we are betting on the wrong horse etc. Its been 15 years, still kinda wonder what got in his head when he married the witch, but glad to see dad married someone thats actually an normal person. You know, someone with a heart who cares, its the simple things really that make it work. Love your stuff, felt like sharing.
1. Controlling behaviour (e.g. checking phone/email) 2. Threaten safety, property or loved ones (threatening to take kids away) 3. Being demeaning, shaming etc 4. Jealousy 5. Withholding sex 6. Not allowing alone time 7. Hurting professional or personal goals 8. Instilling self doubt 9. Gaslighting 10.
On a good note, my wife doesn't do 1, 2, 4, 6 or 7. ... 3, 5, 9 ... She knows she does 5, but in the same breath thinks it happens at least once a week. She doesn't hear herself doing 3. She doesn't quite understand that she does 9.. There is this conundrum though. If I point out the demeaning aspect (which sometimes borders on gaslighting), I get blocked by the failure to remember what just happened. If I describe it, I am bringing up the past. Women have taught each other lots of ways to avoid things...
Exactly what I've had. It started the day we married as soon as we got home from the ceremony... I broke down after about 6 months. It was Christmas day and I'd just been hit with the usual put downs, hatred and vitriol for roughly 10 hours straight. It'd also been laid clear how I would never see my daughter again if there was a break. I'd left the house in my underwear (hadn't the opportunity or energy for that matter to dress). I ran in the snow and mud for a few miles to a bridge and as I was about to jump off... I chickened out when a mother and baby walked past because I thought of my daughter growing up alone after my suicide case sorry excuse for myself gave up. It's been over 5 years since now and it never gets better. The unhappy marriage is blamed on me, and my parents disowned me for it. Don't get yourselves into this crap guys, it ruins your life and future. You first give up all your dreams except a happy family, then your interests, then your personality and eventually you either self delete or die alone anyway because that happy family was never in the cards to start with.
This episode completely describes my ex wife to a tee. Divorced several years ago and I was finally able to bring myself to forgive her. Yet, no where am I required to forget all things that was done by her. Therefore I still never want her to be in my presence ever again. NEVER. It is better for my health this way.
Where is it written that you are required to forgive. It is not in the Bible unless you read yourself into someone else’s place. Jesus was not talking to you when it was recorded. Granted it is better to forgive but not a requirement from God. Read the words that paul wrote to the gentiles and I don’t think it’s in there.
It’s ok not to forgive, Dr Ramani a psychologist and narcissism expert, said in a podcast on RU-vid short that she never forgive any narcissist she encountered in her life and she sleeps well
@@AmberColeman-gq1wnyou are the exact woman she is describing in the video you are just a sad human being. Like literally go seek some help because it is so funny how you just disregarded everything this woman has said.
I just escaped a relationship like this. It was bizarre because I'm 41 and she's 27. I noticed little jabs and stuff and was like "This cannot be happening." I was just curious about it and got in SO deep that it got really bad and family/friends were telling me she was emotionally abusing me. It doesn't matter who you are and how confident you are, emotional abuse from women is VERY prevalent and even encouraged by society. Be very careful out there!
The threatening to take the kids away set the stage a long time ago. Brought this up recently as an unresolved pain and the response i got was "I was a different person back then." No apology, nothing but refusal to be accountable. Love all of your content, I have been binging my way through it. The sad part is the people who really need to see it probably won't, or would deny that this is their behavior regardless.
So true. When the kids are grown they lose that weapon. And when they cease to be attractive, not because they are physically unattractive but because the manipulation of it makes it unappealing. Eventually all the things they use become a numb spot in your soul and that's actually a good thing.
My ex after 30 yrs emotional mental abuse finally met mr right after many adulterous affairs and she went scortched earth weaponizing my 2 older kids against me.. pure evil..she cheats comes home late sometimes not at all but Mr faithful there being the responsible parent and she's the victim.. insanity my youngest isn't buying the lies..
Somebody like that won't apologize because they felt justified in saying what they did at the time, and admitting they were wrong would be catastrophic to their ego. Apologies mean different things between the sexes.
I'm taking everything & you'll never see your kids again. She never ran the house, always in that car, every weekend gone to her family, taking kids with her. I've since learned her mother would wachi them for hours while she went somewhere for many hours. She was cheating then I'm sure.
Experienced divorce lawyer here. I see this every day in divorce court. The only way to stay safe from this type of emotional abuse is to stay single (and preferably, not cohabitate). Otherwise the husband is at the mercy of his wife’s moods, changes in personality, and the draconian no fault divorce laws in many jurisdictions. As a man, you can still have terrific relationships without getting married. Stay safe out there. Stay single!
@@j.p.5716what does common law mean. Isn't cohabitation easier than marriage? To try to live together no? I've been with my girlfriend for a year and wanted to suggest her that live together after new years. But I don't have a place and her parents are very well off and she has her apartment. Will she abuse me?
@@w0lf503 - Laws vary by state and some state do not recognize "common Law" marriage at all. In general, in order to establish a common law marriage, several key elements must typically be present. These elements vary slightly from state to state but generally include the following: 1. Intent: Both parties must have the intention to be married and consider themselves as husband and wife. 2. Co-habitation: The couple must live together for a significant period of time, with some states requiring a few years while others may have no specific time requirement. Many of the states that do not recognize common law marriage DO recognize what is called a "Civil Union" and that can get you tied up so you have to know the laws about that also. The best thing to do is to check the laws in your state. Even if you do not have a house or savings for her to get, if she gets pregnant, (in some cases even if the kids is not yours), the state will stick you with child (and sometimes spousal) support. Even if you are not cohabitating, and she gets pregnant, you can get stuck with child support so be careful and take the contraception responsibility upon yourself. Being a wage slave until the kids (you will not get to raise) are 18 is just not worth it, IMO.
I’ve been rejected by my wife, and she’s with held intimacy so much; I just don’t care if she wants intimacy. I don’t think about wanting to be intimate with her, or any one else. When I do think about it, it seems more like a chore than something that should be enjoyable and a way to get closer to her.
I've seen just too many of women just ridicule their husbands or exposing his secrets in front of a bunch of people, their friends or family or the husbands subordinates even my mother. Not just husbands, this behavior is so common in women of all ages and doesn't have to be their husbands. Could be their boyfriends or brothers or any guy friends. I haven't seen many women do the same to other women. Just men they do this to with little to no consideration. And you know what? A lot of them aren't even true. All made up or exaggerated to an extreme, or only half the full story. No women can be trusted with secrets guys. Never tell women anything you don't want the public knowing.
Knowing secrets isn't the real threat. Having your weaknesses and vulnerabilities exploited is. Saying embarrassing things about you may be annoying. Being manipulated and knowing that's what's happening is far worse.
@@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor Are you a wmn? Oops wrong person. Well, giving away your secrets is giving away your weakness. Not all of it, but a big portion of it.
Absolutely correct, even if she is your wife of 50 years you do NOT tell her everything, only the bear minimum that should be known and that is it. Sadly, most men don’t learn this or learn it the hard way when it is too late. I keep my woman guessing all the time, it is my golden rule.
Women often form bonds by sharing each other's shameful secrets. They essentially give each other blackmailable evidence. That's why when and if they do share such incriminating information, they do so sotto voce
This should be followed up with the husband slowly standing up, smiling at the group, raising his hand to get their attention, and saying 'And this is why I am divorcing this demon.' Then follow through with the divorce. You don't need her consent. Break free.
I’m a lady subscriber and I love your content. I can't get enough for your hardline and truth telling style. I’m striving to be a good wife to my good man. Please keep up the excellent and necessary work!
That's fine. Men need to know they aren't as terrible as the women in their life say they are. If this channel helps prevent one suicide that would make it worth it. Good men are being abused on a large scale and that's why this channel resonates with so many.
Yes , so true Being dumped right now cause she unhappy Some of her complaints are genuine concerns I have been addressing Others are just B S hot air opinions, meaning that we have different ideas or view points on a particular subject Result is no sex for over a year Have had constant complaining and put downs for several years now Trust me , for wanting to learn new things, information, and ideas about life ... this channel would not be one of them
For 32 years she criticized every little thing that was less than acceptable about my body. She shut that crap up last year after I pointed out that I'd never talked trash about her body for the entirety of our marriage, which is significant because... On our wedding night when I saw her undressed for the first time, I had to promise God under my breath that I'd never speak a word about her body or let it affect how I loved her. I've been faithful to that promise ever since.
This was THE most accurate description of what I am faced up against right now as a husband in a marriage of 8 years with 2 little kids now. Met her overseas while I was in the USAF. I used to think everything you mentioned could only ever be a domestic person's problem, but... My wife is unrecognizable nowadays. My life is practically in shambles mentally and socially due to all this. She harbors past arguements, takes all my words in the worst way possible, and completely forgets all about the goods things we've had over time. We live in a new home, I have provided and protected, and made sure we're always healthy and safe even with these tough times we're in. All my simple and harmless hobbies are a complete insult to her on our days off because it takes me away from being a forced helicopter over the kids as she slowly does anything in the house, so now I rarely have any time to anything I once found therapeutic from the hard times we all face in society. I can't have friends come to me ever because having any kind of guest is such a burden to her, and I sincerely rather spare everyone such discomfort and awkwardness. I am a prisoner in my own home ever since we've had kids, but I would never blame them. She flat out said no to part-time daycare, even though I was able to get them approved for nearly full financial aid. All I try to focus on is positivity, keeping myself same enough to overcoming some challenges we face, setting family goals etc. She's in a completely different world though: harboring things she disagrees with from years ago, snapping at me (leading to horrific arguments) over how I misfolded a towel or used the wrong dish soap when I do all the dishes. If I don't help with something, to avoid her toxic scrutiny and rage, then that's a problem for her as well. My kids are too young, but one day they too will see the truth, she is severely unwell and in full denial. She was once the sweetest most caring woman, and of course now blames me for all of her quarrels and negative changes over time. We live too far from any family to ask for help. To prevent my poor children to have to suffer from a broken home, I have chosen to hang in there and endure it for now. I would never have imagined this was gonna be how my life turned, nor would ever wish this sorrow or hardship onto anyone..
Thank you Karyn! One thing I am learning during conversations with my husband is to stop using the bull crap saying of well “I feel like”… or you make me feel, our feelings lie to us and there is no logical way to communicate when we are always “feeling”.
This is such a huge step towards selfawareness. I used to tell my partner: "your feelings aren't facts. At best, they are clues to something" and her response, usually shouted back as me was: "But they're MY feelings"
You deserve the Nobel peace prize! Dialogue like this coming out of the mouth of a grown woman is like discovering fire for me! Where have you been all my life….Thank you 🙏
17 years for me to finally recognize she did all of this, and to know that she could not see it or change. Now going through a difficult divorce, but happy I'm headed to being free of the abuse.
The standard go-to answer if I tell my wife she hurts me with her constant nagging, her belittling, her diminishing me in front of people who are precious to me, is: "That is not true at all!" Then she goes on exactly like before, and nothing changes. Oh, and the "I always show you how I love you, you just don´t see it!" in a demeaning tone! I asked her to take a marriage counseling, her reaction: "I see no need for that, everything is like it should be!"
Give her something she doesn't eat, like mustard or pickles. If she can say "I don't like that", then she can understand when you say "I don't like that". When she belittles you in front of someone, it's like mustard on your sandwich that you don't like. It doesn't matter if she likes it. You don't like it. If she cares about you, she'll stop. If you don't want to leave her, keep putting sardines in her food until she can act right. Why should you care what she likes, when she doesn't care what you like?
I saw an article that described abusive husbands like getting eaten by a t-rex. They're calm until they reach their breaking point and then explode. It described abusive wives like getting eaten by piranhas. They take little bites our of you everyday until there is nothing left of you.
Too true, but as a man I don't care about "emotional" abuse, it's more about the fact that I can't have the career I really want because it doesn't make "the money we need".
Yep. I agreed to change jobs for better pay while she stayed at home watching Dr Phil. She continually manipulated me to apply for jobs that I was qualified for but had absolutely no interest in working. That was a number of years ago. I don’t miss those days. Lol. Go MGTOW!
I’m a lesbian and all but one of my ex girlfriends engaged in these toxic behaviors. Women do this each other. 30% of lesbians have experienced domestic violence in relationships and that number hasn’t improved since the late 1980’s when the HRC started keeping track. Sadly, my experience is that 90% of modern women are undatable if you have self respect.
See "The Sex Diaries" by Bettina Arndt... That 90% number shows up in many many places.. "Lesbian Bed Death" is not a slam against women. It is pointing at the same thing the 9 in 10 women backing away from intimacy points at... Biologically there is something in play. There is a nurture side to it. NOT getting pregnant MIGHT be the simplest explanation... But is meant to just point at the drifting away and being something to grab onto for WHY...
I'm a straight white male. married 25 years... and I find it more than just a little ironic that you and I could probably have a few beers together and exchange horror stories and walk away feeling understood and feeling empathy for one another. You are likely the only woman on Earth that can actually understand the experiences of a husband like myself.
@@rougebaba3887 There are a few others (Karen Straughn, Suzanne Venker, Bettina Arndt, and Jennifer Moleski) that come to mind. Those women can point you to a couple of others...
Wow, all of these things happened to me in my marriage. She was, and is, never able to admit that any of the problems were her behavior. Rather she will get extremely defensive, highly argumentative, full of rage, and would blame me for things I never even did. The results of this sick behavior are so utterly destructive and evil. If I ever date again and my date does any of these things, I am ending that relationship on the spot. The worst part is that, as I go through our divorce, California family law doesn't protect me as a man, and is indifferent to the horrible personal harm I've experienced. My ex's goal was to ruin me, destroy my reputation, and leave me financially destitute. Narcissistic behavior is VERY destructive.
Brutal honesty and willingness to confess weaknesses to each other AND each supporting and defending each other is a foundation of a strong relationship. Mutual compassion. But backstabbing, emasculating, humiliating, dominating and threats do the opposite. Honest people become wise over time. Petulant people refuse to change. Do not spend another minute with a destructive, tormenting spouse. You are free to divorce your nemesis. Free your life from your self made prison.
Indifference and leverage are typically the only 'weapons' a man has to open his wife's eyes to reality...aka facts, logic or reason. Sad times we're in. The next decade is gonna be interesting with women's mental health.
@@poopingwhilestanding5801 I predict bird adoptions will increase 400%. In all seriousness it will be interesting to see how women deal without male attention or investment. The government can only do so much. Men are already showing you what they’re doing to fill the void (smut and videogames).
I was married for 14 years. My X withheld one time early on. 😂😂 I have self respect. Refused to touch her for a year. The next time anyone withheld was me. She became pregnant and decided she couldn't be a mother. So disgusted I never touched her again. After a while of thinking about it, I decided if she can kill her own children she has the capacity to slip my throat in my sleep. I kicked her to the couch and would lock my bedroom door until I got ride of her. I was 37, focused on my career and rose thru the ranks quickly. 45 today and Im set to retire at 57. Suck it females no money for you. Go be independent. What is it I hear women say? Oh yeah, I don't need no man I can pay my bills, buy my own house, make my food, and f my self. 😂 Ditto. I also have the physical strength to fix, build, or maintain my things and protect myself. How about you females??? 😂😂😂😂 I hear your cats meowing for food ya better go.
These videos are bringing back all of those wonderful memories that I thought I’d forgotten - like when she took my phone (again!) and called everyone on the contact list after I left her.
I’m still trying to process how it’s possible that you as a woman are taking accountability and speaking truthfully with self-awareness. I did not think it was possible
This. When I was dating my wife it was blissful. Then the first 2 years of marriage was still blissful but with bumps in the road. Ever since we had our 1st kid she's an entirely different person and tbh I hate being around her. Our son is amazing and I love being his dad. But now I hate being her husband.
I think that you are right - in principle: Women should not withhold 'the cream' as leverage. But---I don't think women can deliver 'the cream' when their emotions have withdrawn from the man or she is angry. I remember that my ex-wife did have relations with me when she was in a bad mood (even though she did not say it) - but I could sense that she was angry, and withdrawn with from me. She was not invested in me AT ALL like I was with her during 'the act'. She just .... lay there like a piece of paper, totally detached. I just don't think women can 'fake it' when they are not into the man, because of their own internal anger, justified or not. I still remember that even though it has been over 10 years. It was so unlike her, and I think that telling women not to hold back the goods sounds good, but in practice it will never happen it. Withholding and withdrawing is their bargaining chip, partially because they are bargaining with their heart/emotions and that is too powerful/carnal a drive for them to resist.
When I married, I purposed myself to not deny my husband. And I had the same experience. Being angry or stressed just drains me, and I cannot give myself to him totally. I thought he didn't notice, but of course he did. First, he accused me of manipulation, but I told him I was trying my best, to no advantage to myself. How could it be manipulation? I asked him if he wanted my hugs when we are mad. He said, "no". I then said, "so how do you expect me to feel when what you are asking is so much more than a hug?" When he started to try his best and started to feed my emotional needs, things changed and it just became natural. I felt desire again. And he felt it. No, women should NEVER try to condition sex to a specific action, nor to push their men to buy them something, for example. We must make the effort to be happy and make our husband happy. But if there is an issue, withholding sex while actively working on a solution is not abuse.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 because I made a promise to take care of my marriage, and I figured that if he had needs, I had to respond, regardless of anything else. They are "needs", afterall. The thing I missed is that I can't take care of his physical and emotional needs if my own are not taken care of.
@@FilosParaSofia The only challenge is the 9 in 10 problem. 9 in 10 women are backing away from intimacy with their spouse about 5 years in. It does not matter what the husband does. It does not matter how much he listens to her. Bettina Arndt: "The Sex Diaries..."
This is your most concrete and succinct video yet. I hope this video gets a lot of likes and views, because I think it has the potential to help a lot of people.
I can't believe that a woman actually is giving some sort of attention to my feelings. I've learned to sort of cope in a way with these behaviors on my wife's part, and we have gotten older together. I gave up a long time ago, trying to be heard, or appreciated or respected. I try to enjoy the attention and appreciation other people sometimes give me to sort of compensate. There are people in business and the arts who seem to appreciate me and not emotionally abuse me, and I try to focus on them. But it would be nice to have a complete and fulfilling relationship with my own wife. Haha. When people suggest I go to her in conversation with these issues, it's just a joke. I tried that for years and it only led to defensivenss, fighting, sleepless nights. I was NEVER heard. My needs and feelings were absoultely, positively NEVER acknowledged. Instead I got an onslaught of criticism and anger. So I just shut up. There are women who find me attractive, and although I would never cheat, I do enjoy being spoken to with courtesy and a smile from women. Of course I have to be very careful so as to not trigger my wife's jealousy . Oh brother.!!!
Women are generally evil, selfish. Feminism has unleashed many monsters. What you describe is also alive and well in churchy women. Most women (men too) who say they are "christians" rarely (if ever ) read or know the Bible they purport to "believe in". If they actually KNEW the Bible and followed what it said, women would know that husbands are supposed to RULE OVER them, said God. GEn. 3:16. They would know that Paul said women are to OBEY their husbands in EVERYTHING as if he were in Christ's place. Men are in leadership in the homes. Eph. 5:22-24, 1 Cor. 11:3. Women are loose, and stats say that only 4% are virgins when they marry. Christ said this will result in such folks not entering the Kingdom. Rev. 21:8, Gal. 5:19-21. Oh well, who cares about the Bible, right? Certainly most "christians" don't.
I heard a woman admit that she instigates conflicts with her husband to see that they still care and they HATE it if you're even keeled and unflappable. She wanted her husband risable to know they cared still.
As a husband I threatened divorce thoughout the years. But I said those words in response to withholding sex and never a kind words or signs of appreciation. Lack of communication is what was missing
My wife never admitted to me she was wrong, even after learning so. My wife is so in control, never gets angry, she is a people person but not with me.
From the constants criticism, from the deliberate withholding of affection, sex, to the gaslighting... the demoralization, the lack of even asking the questions "how are you?" "How do you feel?" it's breaks you inside...With this said, I truly thank you for this cause seeing a women realize these things gives me hope
I finished quickly ONE time in 4 years. My then gf quoted something I said in confidence during that sexual encounter in front of all my guy friends. That was 10 years ago and to this day I've still never been that humiliated. I found a woman who builds me up instead and I've pledged my life to her.
So, what I often wonder after hearing people discuss these things is: why do women do this? Why is it that so many modern western women appear to gain joy from criticizing the little specifics of their husbands' personalities? Why is it that tearing people down has become the go-to pastime of 21st century women?
All human beings have aggression. Men display it in a physical way. However, women are encouraged to never display it. Of course, we must express aggression somehow, and since we are weaker physically, our aggression tends to be expressed as words. Usually, we aren't taught to control our aggression, since most people just pretend women are angels incapable of wrongdoing. An uncontrolled aggression is very dangerous. Worst yet, we tend to be more aggressive with those we trust because then there is no immediate consequence to that aggression, and we think nothing happened. The last straw is feminism, which just erased the inner reflection and blames everything on "patriarchy". My advice? Set boundaries early. Let her know you won't tolerate aggression, even if "it's just words", for words can be very damaging and stay with us for ever. Encourage her also to set her own boundaries and respect them. Talk often about said boundaries. Be prepared to walk away and let her know that you would expect her to also walk away if you don't respect her boundaries. This way, you level the power. I hope the best for you.
Borderline personality. I think they are afraid of loosing the guy to another woman so a good strategy is to make him undesirable to other women. However that also makes him less attractive to her. That's my guess. BPD can be summed up as "I hate you! Don't leave me!"
You are describing my wife. Everything you said is pointing to how she is treating me, not to mention she is also abusing me physically and verbally. I have been wanting to separate but we don't have divorce here in the Philippines. Not total peace of mind I may say.
My ex checks 90% of the boxes. She said. If you divorce me. A i quote. " I WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE " She's has effectively brainwashed our 3 boys against me. I can only hope after not having any relationship with our boys for 7+ years. They understand how much i miss and love them. And her evil ways will catch up with her. I hope karma pays a visit. SOON!
The ex-wife had a saying, “if mama isn’t happy, no one is happy.” She lived it and made our lives miserable. She left us atfter 10 years. Her affair guy was scum. She tried coming back two months later when she realized that her boyfriend is an alcoholic and had serious health issues. She wanted to negotiation her return, as if we couldn’t live without her. I said No. I thought her head was going to explode. I divorced her. I never did miss her.
I thank all the Gods in the universe for ladies like you. I hope your words and channel reach far and wide to all women. This has been going on for decades! I have all the gratitude that you’re here. God speed. Thank You thank you thank you. I hope all women someday see the light you’re shining.
I have learned not to overreact to teenagers' tantrums, realizing that they hate themselves as well. But I never realized that I reacted all wrong to the criticisms of me by my first wife. Thank you for that insight.
It’s eerie that I recognize about 95% of these behaviors in my (past) 6 year relationship. I have faults and flaws too, but it’s a relief and helps healing to hear these behaviors identified by a third party. Thanks for your videos.
My wife does not treat me very good. When I am talking, she often interupt or leave the room. She does not treat me like you treat someone you love. She has been withholding sex because she thaught I did not do enough in the kitchen. I am spending an hour a day helping her. Without my help, support and money her life would collapse in a mounth or two. It sucks to be judged only for the 3 things I dont do and not for the 20 I do.
I hope you find the right solutions. Before the wife left me, she told me that she hated me. For ten years she had dumped every chore and responsibility on me. I was exhausted all the time. I was working full time and taking care of our kids. She didn’t care. She abandoned us when she found an affair partner. I got the divorce done and got custody of our kids. She is a foolish woman and never appreciated anything.
Woman ordered her BF around in the middle of the party "I don't care" she said Her GFs said "But that is the way she is" Her BF was offended and left her within 6 months And she wonders why she is single (She is now old, no money, can't pay to get anything done in her house) This is an accurate video
I can relate to everything she pointed out. When through all the levels in my marriage. Mine actually tried to separate my family and friends from me so I was alone.
I am so happy to see a video that says out loud, "MEN ARE ABUSED" too. HUSBANDS ARE ABUSED too. Men, you are worthy of love and affection. You are worthy of being treated with respect.
When it comes to relationships i firmly believe in "They Golden Rule". If you want it to work you MUST treat your partner in the exact same way that you honestly want them to treat you. If you won't give them that then why should they give it to you?
This video is a tremendous guide to women. Men look to help their wives with this because it is obvious. But too many do not admit nor cooperate. The greatest love of all happens withon each and every one of us. No one other than God can love me more than I love muself.
i am married for almost 17 years, and my wife spends as little time with me as is possible. And when it comes to sex, she always has so excuse for withholding affection and sex. She has done this since the day we got married. I would have gotten a divorce, but all of my friends discuss the same exact problems in their marriage so why bother ???
I've simply been speaking to my wife about these things. She's been kicking and screaming but she's coming around just fine. Try to bring these things up in a way that is least likely to put her on the defence. She will have to know that her continuation of the behavior is a deal breaker now that you're aware.
@@thmooove If marriage was a one year contract it would work for both parties. But only then I feel would women step up to the plate and do what is right !!!
@@acohen3951 I see what you're saying. However I do feel my wife has stepped up once she realized I was actually ready to walk out if things didn't change.
Not only did the ex-wife withhold affection and sex, she refused to help me with our kids and the chores. I cooked all the time because our kids and me got hungry. I could not depend on her for anything. I would pray all the time, God, how long do I have to live like this? My answer to my prayers finally came at the 10 year mark. She finally left us.
I couldn't take the emotional (verbal and mental) abuse any longer, and had to get her to leave. It got so bad that I had to call the police to get her to calm down. While the police were there (asking *me* for help), she made an accusation against me and I was arrested. (The police dropped it after two months). I love her, we could have been so happy, but I couldn't take it any more.
Ty for talking me off the edge (not literally) You are so relationship smart. You have helped me understand my relationship and put things into perspective. I wish I could share you with her but that wouldn’t go well for me. Someday I’ll find a way. Her name also happens to be Karen. I know better but I still let the negativity affect me deeply. No matter how hard I try there’s always new creative ways to emotionally destroy me , effectively take away my self esteem and self worth. Before I met her I was extremely self confident and she’s effectively and systematically convinced me I’m worth less than nothing. She has no desire to change. She’s always right and won’t hear otherwise. The first thought that pops in her head is her truth and won’t take in anyone else’s perspective. She doesn’t care what the truth is she just needs to be right. It’s deeply frustrating and has amongst many other things caused deep wounds in our relationship. When she’s dark angry she’s so effectively emotionally damaging it’s almost impressive. There’s much more. Thank you for being you You’ve helped me so profoundly.
You could rename this "10 Thing My Wife Does Weekly". You did leave off her threatening to call the police and have me arrested for S/A when I try to hug her.
The refusal to accept any responsibility for her part is, by far, the worst. Men and women make mistakes every day. It is the refusal to acknowledge reality and accept that she has to change, that there is any need to change, that brigs about the depression the most.
This is true. But the truth is hard to handle. So the tussle continues. On a score basis, three or more of this is a serious threat to the retention of a relationship. Having worked professionally with addiction and codepedancy for 30 years, I can tell you have got it right. Thanks. Dr Shashi Menon.
You know what is most terrifying? Persentage of women who purposely want to mery him just for leverage of an abuse they can put on him afterwards and start braging about it to her besties pack....Because how much she hurts him is how much her community finds her strong...
You did your best and there was no appreciation. I lived it too. She walked out on the kids and me. I got the divorce done as quickly as possible. It is the gift that keeps on giving. I hope you doing well.
Yes you are 100% correct and after divorce I was surprised of the peace time despise I took care 50% of the kids . After that had few girlfriends but they where all the same it was looking like narcissistic behavior
Good stuff. The best piece of advice for a couple is to recognise that your partner is just as sensitive as you are. The advice about looking at yourself first is very sound
I wish you would do a video on Genesis 3:16 and it’s implications for both men and women. It is at the root of feminism and if not guarded against it will ruin one’s marriage. Women will always desire to control their husbands but they will never be successful. What does this mean for men? What does this mean for woman?
Ours was/has been a happy ending. Started VERY rocky with her mad most of the time and very disrespectful to me. She came from a home where her dad was loaded every night. Anyway, the good thing was she was dedicated to the marriage but felt like it was her job to make me perfect. After 3-4 months, we were at a basketball game one night and she said something very disrespectful to me in front of some friends. I got up and left. Drove home and about 45 minutes later she called in a panic because she went looking for me out in the concession area and everywhere she could think of. Said she was worried sick. I told her she was already sick and I was fine. I hung up the phone. The next 5 years were tough on both of us. Alcoholism scars the kids for life. But with work and a devout faith, many issues can be dealt with and have a happy marriage. It has been 43 years now. I wouldn't trade her for the world.
OMG, you just described my ex-wife - 4 years were okay then 5 years of this hell you are describing after she met another guy and started this behavior ... I would send it to her if I thought it would help but after 16 months away from her it would not be worth it.
The abuser always throw in the victim card of how their childhood or previous relationships were!! Free will does away with this nonsense everyone has the free will to accept or reject their toxic behavior...
While I didn’t expect what you say but I feel that when I’m questioning her motives I need to look in the mirror and do the same. Thanks for your commentary!
When my first son was 1 I would go out on scooter rides at midnight with a friend she told me I shouldn’t be doing that because I’m a father and I have responsibilities. Now we have 4 kids and my wife had girls weekends every weekend.
