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Audience questions for episode 49 - Ask Kati Anything
1. Hi Kati, How can I stop avoiding life? I’ve finished university and have been struggling ever since. It took me so long to finish my degree and I don't even like anything about it. I´m scared of starting to take responsibility for myself and of failing in every aspect of my life, when I´m not even able to handle my depression right now. I put so much pressure on myself and I feel like I´m crumbling underneath it, so I just want to hide from...
2. Can you talk about the differences between panic attacks, anxiety attacks, meltdowns and just general overwhelm? I struggle to tell the difference and feel it might be easier to deal with...
3. Hi Kati! In a previous AKA, you mentioned giving yourself time once a week or so to just cry. But what if I can't? I've tried listening to sad music, watching sad videos or reading emotionally tugging stories. But later, I'll find myself bursting into tears at inappropriate moments (comment: How do i let myself cry/feel weak in front of my counsellor again? I could cry in front of...
4. Hey Kati, what can I do in and outside of therapy if I struggle with connecting? Sometimes I just feel out of touch with reality and out of touch with...
5. Hi Kati! Why do I struggle with not feeling sick enough because I’ve never had to be hospitalized for a...
6. Hey Kati, why would I find it hard to just share what's exactly in my mind with other people? I always feel like I can't find the 'right time' to talk about...
7. Hey Kati, I'm just wondering what counts as suicidal thoughts/ideation and when/if you should bring it up in therapy. I have thought about if I were to do it how would I do it, and ranking best to worst options. For example, taking pills, and the general idea of where I'd do it, but not figuring out how much of what...
8. Is there anything I can do to switch off that desire in my head to ‘want’ to look very thin? I’m 8 months in recovery, and I have a naturally athletic build. I’m getting my personal training certification, and the way I’m eating and working out, I have put on a lot of muscle. But while I look my fittest, I still wake up every morning thinking I should...
9. Hey Kati, hope you’re well. Are some people unhelpable? I know some of the things I need to work on, but they feel too big and entrenched to change. I don’t know where to start, or if...
10. Any tips for when searching for a therapist? I've been having a hard time finding one due to time (i can only do after office hours), cost, and poor administration staff. What can we do when things have gotten bad enough that we decided to seek...
11. Hi Kati, What if I'm the toxic one in relationships and friendships? I feel like I'm the person that self-help posts always tell people to cut out of their lives. I keep being too much, act needy, probably come across as jealous and clingy, and even...
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@toni2309 3 года назад

Kati: Do more of what you're good at. Me: *is good at overthinking*

@anniekate76 3 года назад

Sooooo... researcher? Think tank? :D

@lmoore149 3 года назад

Lol me to.

@toni2309 3 года назад

I'm also good at making jokes, I think, that's why I put this comment here. I tried to become a researcher, unfortunately my health currently isn't at a good enough state for that.

@haisesasaki3944 3 года назад

@@toni2309 I hope you get better. 💙

@itsgrahamslife 3 года назад

There’s something so incredible about this community and about Kati- too often I think of questions to submit only to chicken out for whatever reasons; it’s an old question that’s been answered before, I’m not phrasing it right, or whatever. Only to come and find out that someone else has asked the very question I’d been considering in their own way, or else Kati adds some other details I’d not previously considered but were really helpful! You’re all great! 😅

@elizabethbed649 3 года назад

I know, it’s happening for me in every single episode. It must be magic of this amazing community :) I absolutely love this podcast.

@hannahs128 3 года назад

hey Graham! I just wanted to say that I love what you (and other staff writers) add to OTDM

@itsgrahamslife 3 года назад

Oh thank you Hannah, you made my day! I’m still shy that people actually find what I have to say interested in my words but that’s so kind! :) It’s the best fake job I’ve ever had! 😂

@elizabethbed649 3 года назад

@@itsgrahamslife I love your input in OTDM too. It’s great. I’m looking forward for more stories from you :)

@anarcho-superwoman7063 3 года назад

My partner tested positive for covid yesterday and I am anxiously cleaning while listening to this. Thank you, Kati. These videos are my self care.

@jolieedwards612 3 года назад

TIMESTAMPS: 2:23 How can I stop avoiding life? I’m scared to start taking responsibility for myself and failing in every aspect of my life. How can I start believing in myself? How can I find out what I truly want and not hide from everything? 15:50 What is the difference between panic attacks, anxiety attacks, meltdowns, and just generally overwhelm? 22:38 What do I do when I just can’t cry? I find myself bursting into tears at inappropriate times... 31:13 What can I do in and outside of therapy if I struggle with connecting? Sometimes I feel out of touch with people and reality. What can I do to help this? 36:32 Why do I struggle with not feeling sick enough because i’ve never had to be hospitalized for a suicide attempt? 40:53 Why do I find it hard to share what’s exactly on my mind with other people. I feel like I can never find the right time to talk to them. 46:44 What counts as suicidal thoughts or ideation, and when, or if, you should bring it up in therapy? 52:35 Is there anything I can do to switch of that desire in my head to want to look very thin? Will that obsessive thought ever go away? 57:51 Are some people un-help-able? I know some of the things I need to work on, but they feel too big and entrenched to change. I don’t know where to start. Am I too afraid to benefit from therapy? 1:01:55 Tips for finding a therapist? 1:08:33 What if I am the toxic one in my relationships and friendships? I feel like I am the person that self-help posts always tell people to cut out of their lives. I keep being too much, acts needy, probably come across as jealous and clingy, and even spot myself overstepping boundaries.

@LisArgollo 3 года назад

Thank you!!

@effingosprey9434 3 года назад

PIN plz

@Katimorton 3 года назад

Good morning everyone! Small ask of you... if you enjoy the podcast and you are on Apple Podcasts, could you leave the show a review? It helps us reach more people and let's Apple know that the show is important to the community. Thanks! xoxo Kati

@midhuntripuraneni1492 3 года назад

Hello Kati, I hope you are doing well, and holding up well, during this crazy time. I am so thankful for your shows and lectures. It helps me greatly in ways, that I would never have thought possible. You are such a big inspiration to me. I like the way that you bring up cbt therapy and other methods that you have seen effective for your clients. Some of your lectures are so moving and have already started helping me change the way that I am. It would be helpful to maybe do a lecture on driving and how that affects people and gives others nightmares

@elizabethbed649 3 года назад

I’ve tried to update my review, but I’m not sure if it’s going to work. My previous review was very short and not good enough. I hope it worked and I’ve made update. It’s quite difficult and confusing for me, but fingers crossed :) Xoxo I’ve managed to edit my review on OTDM. However, on AKA, I’ve messed up. I couldn’t edit it, so I’ve decided to delete old one and post new one. But for some weird reason, when I’m trying to leave review now, I just can’t type anything (keyboard not responding). That’s so frustrating :/

@puppys8998 3 года назад

Kati-maybe main channel or here, would love to see you go over DBT skills! I think they could be very helpful for our community. :) Be well!

@geckotime7552 3 года назад

As someone with ASD I would describe a meltdown as being so overwhelmed that you lose control. Like a shaken fizzy drink that explodes. For me it looks like being crawled up in a fetal position with my hands over my ears. Banging my head on the floor, crying and unable to take in anything that anybody says. I have to simply ride it out and its awful. It's generally followed by exhuastion and shame for days.

@beckyanne8852 3 года назад

I also have ASD and agree with meltdowns being linked to being overwhelmed. For me, I tend to go into shutdown more than meltdown but it’s generally due to sensory overload, if I’ve been masking for too long or if I’ve been in a social situation I’m not comfortable with (which is most of them).

@miamiggwilson4849 3 года назад

So excited for when you upload! Look forward to Thursdays because of this podcast!

@lmoore149 3 года назад

Me to it is everything.

@ellenrodrigues4154 3 года назад

I love your podcasts, I always watch it before sleeping, it’s calming and really soothing, keep doing this you are AMAZING

@ryannesumbry4130 3 года назад

Number #1!!! 🎉.. This weekly podcast makes my week no matter what! Good job 👏🏽 Kati

@aliceg2890 3 года назад

I clicked on this straight away! I LOVE these podcasts! Thank you for everything you do! 💜

@BeeBeeMacGee 3 года назад

My question got answered (#8), but now I have so many questions to ask myself. 🤔 Thanks Kati, and for the thumbs up and two people that responded, thank you as well.

@howtoaca7504 3 года назад

Great video, thank you so much Kati!🙂❤ AKA is one of my favorite podcasts!🙂❤ Much Love from Germany!

@102eustess6 3 года назад

I'm really trying to add just 5 minutes a day of conscious effort towards my mental health and your videos really help with that. I hope I can gain friends one day as down to earth as you. Thank you for your content Kati! You're so awesome

@ashley-8612 3 года назад

I’m oddly anxious to see your mom’s curtains which means this isolation has gone on entirely too long 😂 “Yaaay new backdrop! What an adventure woo!”

@anniekate76 3 года назад

Maybe they have flowers! Maybe they are blue! ANYTHING COULD HAPPEN!

@ashley-8612 3 года назад

@@anniekate76 THEY COULD EVEN BE BLINDS! OoOh plot twist!

@itsgrahamslife 3 года назад

It’s Quarantine Brain Syndrome, Sean was right all along! 😂

@ashley-8612 3 года назад

@@itsgrahamslife I’ve got a bad case of QBS

@AmethystWoman 3 года назад

I'm think as the pandemic goes on, we get to all re-evaluate what are our priorities in life. Makes sense esp for those in college. (I'm lucky I wanted to be a nurse from 3yo.) So, I turned 66 2 days ago. Officially retire in 2 months - so, what do I have time left to do in life? What about the book I wanted to write. Etc. It's a real thing at all ages. (I would still like to get masters...) Wow, I'm so early seeing this. Usually it's days later.

@snuffyscorner 3 года назад

I kept refreshing because I just love these podcasts!

@tamiward31 3 года назад

I freaking adore you! You get me through my days as a counselor in training!!!

@sarakjeldsen769 3 года назад

I like how you confirmed that diagnostically there's no difference between sociopaths and pyschopaths - they both fall under the same umbrella of antisocial personality disorder. I also LOVE that you pointed out that it's okay to not have everything figured out - I've found that I was much happier and freer when I rejected the "timeline" that society wants us to follow. I also know what you mean about how it's so easy for someone to post a blog about something, such as mental health, and they use the wrong terms - it can confuse people. It is better to stick to the agreed upon terms for clarity - just so that people know what we mean and get the right information. Hm ... I'm also thinking back to when I had to work really hard to be skinny (When I was modeling), the ability to stay skinny was mainly about control. Ironically, I'm naturally slim even when I'm not trying, but being very thin took a LOT of work and it was definitely about feeling in control when I felt out of control in other parts of my life.

@nicoleleeanartist5999 3 года назад

Your videos get me thru the week until my next therapy session. Thank you ❤️

@johnRpico 3 года назад

I love Kati.

@SusieQ78 3 года назад

I’m late.. but finally listened. Thanks again for what you do!!!

@beckyanne8852 3 года назад

With regards to question 2, meltdowns are often linked to people with ASD. I’m autistic and my meltdowns are more like shutdowns (inward rather than outward). I tend to go non-verbal, need lights off and to be somewhere quiet to recharge. While I do struggle with anxiety, in my experience meltdowns tend to happen when I’m in sensory overload or if I’ve been masking for too long.

@ThatHolisticMom 3 года назад

Great content, love your voice its very soothing and these are definatley improtant questions. Question 2 is the best as ive struggled with panic attacks for a while now and its hard to tell the differerence

@TM-rk5dj 3 года назад

A timely and incredibly informative episode 😊✌️🙏

@dotexe6415 3 года назад

I love that you swear on this channel, its so weird hearing you swear!

@Natasha-yq6df 3 года назад

I reacted to the wine bottle example - "you have wine bottles in your therapy room? Probably not!" Lol

@beccijayne 3 года назад

Thank you for adding an extra 11th question this week - i kept anxiously checking the page😅 The examples about being jealous you gave are embarrassingly spot on, will have a look at the books you suggested 😊 Thanks for answering, looking forward to your next video, & stay safe

@DeathAngleZoe 3 года назад

Love your videos! :)

@mimibelta259 3 года назад

Thanks Kati I look forward to this every week along with new music being released every Thursday at 9pm west coast time midnight east coast time and I been leaving the same comment in the last few weeks but never get enough votes to get it in

@mimibelta259 3 года назад

Here is the question I keep asking Hi Kati can you discus complicated grief and how the pandemic may cause that in same cases right now .I was wondering because my family just had my stepsister funeral the other day and some we had to wait a whole month to have it to know if the grief is now considered complicated grief because of how long it took to have the funeral because my stepsister actually passed away last December do to car accident?

@DrummerGrrrl 3 года назад

Last night was the WORST night for me since this entire shit show of a global pandemic started. I almost walked outside in sweatpants and no socks...I decided I was going to get dressed in the most minimal way and borrow a plastic chair from the smoking area outside my building. I was going to put the chair in the middle of the parking lot and sit in it until someone called 9-1-1 and if anybody asked me to move, I would calmly say, "No. I've given up." And, honestly, I just didn't give a shit anymore. Today, I'm okay. What happened was I ate way too much sugar, refused to inject my insulin, forgot to take my antidepressant for TWO days, found out my oldest sister is very sick from Covid-19, AND I hadn't slept for 38 hours! I had a fever and I just wanted to be dead. I have since taken my insulin, taken my antidepressant, gotten a little bit of sleep, rehydrated and eaten some food. I'm glad I'm not locked up in a mental ward now.

@DrummerGrrrl 3 года назад

My sister, unfortunately, is now in the I.C.U. with Covid-19 AND pneumonia. Yesterday she was admitted. She just turned 64.

@ebonypegasus9864 3 года назад

Hi Kati QUESTION: I have DID, professionally diagnosed and been in treatment for ... geeze cant' remember exact number but 10 years? Some of my family, particularly my Mom, and my older brother, can't really related to it, or don't believe it's real, or Mom will roll her eyes a bit when alters are brought up. She doesnt' look stuff up to get educated, she's accused us of "putting on an accent" when one of our USA alters is out, and she wont acknowledge alters by name. This means us alters, 'hide' and pretend to be the host to cope with visits and phone conversations with her. The silly thing is... the host in a sense. 'pretended' to be someone else to cope with trauma, now the alters have to 'pretend to be the host' (ie someone else) as life situations like this are traumatic to us. This is also true with friends who don't know we are DID. so 1. How do we deal with Mom who does know and 2. how do we deal with friends/relatives who don't even know as we are too scared to tell anyone, because we get accused of being fake? TY, Ebony.

@toni2309 3 года назад

I'm going to be honest here. I wrote the comment on the first question and this answer is making me feel so unseen. Idk if it's just me, but if I hear people say that "it's just your depression" I feel like they are disregarding the very real life circumstances that I'm in and that I was in and just putting all the blame on me and having some sort of illness or dark thinking or whatever and I just don't know what to do because I honestly think that my reactions and feelings are legitimate and that I'm not just overly negative. Goodness sake, I have been reaching out, but I haven't found a therapist that isn't doing things worse and is actually acessible for me at the current time.

@anano1015 3 года назад

I understand what you mean. Of course circumstances are rough and you are completely right to feel what you feel. I also had a therapist telling me it was my anxiety disorder making me think what i was thinking and it made me feel like i was crazy and not legitimate in my feelings! Now a few months later i kind of understand what he was saying which was maybe my life could have been better if i accepted earlier that yes i do have a higher anxiety or depression level than others and maybe medication or higher care could have given me a better life back then.

@toni2309 3 года назад

@@anano1015 I personally just grieve that when I was admitted to psychiatry no one noticed that I was autistic and helped me get the care I need. I grieve that the things I struggled with and that I could have needed were never talked about so I had no idea how to talk about my struggles, and that no one else noticed and helped me out. I grieve that I have been waiting so long to get help, and then with the pandemic I had to wait half a year longer for an appointment for official diagnosis, which I was told I needed to access a certain kind of therapy.

@anano1015 3 года назад

@@toni2309 that must be tough im sorry that happened to you :(

@toni2309 3 года назад

@@anano1015 Thank you for having understanding. And I mean, if what your therapist said made sense for you in the end - like, that's good for you. I have an appointment now for offical diagnosis and I'm really hoping that it will go well and that I will be able to access therapy in one of the autism therapy centres afterwards and/or can somehow access a therapist that is trained in neurodiversity and trauma. I'm also hoping that I can find and access someone competent enough to give me some career advice that considers my limitations.

@anarcho-superwoman7063 3 года назад

You are so right that life is objectively tough right now, Toni. Rooting for you and that you find a compassionate therapist 🖤

@Weird_One_ 3 года назад

For me what I have found out from my research is Panic attacks tend to be really really strong panics where for me I think I'm going do die, I think something is coming after me, I feel a lot of chest and pain and pressure, hyperventilation, blurred vision and dizziness. And anxiety attack for me at least seems to be most of a focus on anxiety and not the panic, they tend to last longer, and there are some general physical sensations going on but not quite as bad as in a panic attack. So for at least me the term panic attack and anxiety attack aren't quite interchangeable. I agree that there should be a better set of guidelines that define one from the other, like you said before.

@bill88694 3 года назад

Hi Kati, How do you build up resilience? You mentioned different levels of resilience in the second question. Thks.

@davidwhitcher1972 3 года назад

i am in a CBT group for anxiety. Two of the others are so crippled by their anxiety that i feel like i shouldn't be there. Like i don't deserve the help because there are those that need it so much more.

@hannahheartsedward 3 года назад

You might find that getting help now prevents you from getting to the point where you are crippled by anxiety. The sooner we get help the better.

@davidwhitcher1972 3 года назад

@@hannahheartsedward I have been getting help for serveral years yet i still feel this guilt everytime i meet with the group.

@RaikenXion 3 года назад

I think i just alienate myself from people too much, i dont know how to like connect and show genuine like emotion properly. I let this woman down who i met at work like bk in 2019, i was really kind to her and she fell for me and when she said she L me, i could not tell her that word back. I said i really care for her and i want her to be happy and i truly do. But i felt ultimately i could not give her what she wanted, i dont think i was able to properly bond with her, but i did feel like genuine emotional connection to her. Does this mean im like truly scared to fully commit? Or have i got some serious like mental health issue!? My sister gets on my nerves sometimes cause she sometimes says like jokingly when are you going to meet someone and have babies so my kids have got some nieces and nephews? She just doesnt understand how i am at all, she thinks i can just meet someone like that, and it's really not easy for me!! Its alright for her shes been able to just get out there, meet people, make friends. It upsets and gets to me sometimes cause i really would like to meet someone and i just cant like open up and stuff. Its scary sometimes, i know i let that woman down too. Some guys who just are players and charisma naturally and all that shit, they fuckin piss me off! and its not because im jealous and that not like them and cant get with loads of women. Its cause they're not even honest, just use and manipulate women to get what they want, and fuckin fair enough! Some women are up for all that, fun and games, flings etc all that BS. But the guys who are like that, it's like they dont even realize (or just dont care), that if you can have a truly honest connection with someone, to get to know them so well that you can let down our guard and be really vulnerable with them, and trust them and they trust you, and theres some real genuine love, emotion and care there between you both. Thats all you need and you can then do anything in life, because you have that person there with you all the way, and you for them. I just wish a woman could be very patient with me, like just give me time maybe thats all i need? Time to learn how to let go and really trust in that person. Women just want to kind of lock you down like straight away, scared in case you're going to like take off, why cant people just really take time to friggin get to know eachother properly!? But then i think maybe it's like how much time exactly do you need, cause women's biological clock and all that stuff, maybe thats why they get like that and want to kind of tie you down kind of thing. Ahh relationships are too complicated i think. This why i really try to keep myself to myself and not wrap up with people too much, i dont want to get to know them. Trouble with work people get talking to you and stuff. I think i'm just meant to be on my own, it's alot like that story of Edward Scissorhands, people come into your life, they kind of descend on you, and for a time you like go with it, the risk is always that it can end badly and we get hurt.

@ToEKnee213 3 года назад

Lol totally said "like Bono"

@jennyvaldez5746 3 года назад

#Katifaq Hi Kati I love watching all your videos. I have been in therapy in years ago. And a year ago I started going to therapy because of anxiety and depression. I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety. GAD. I’m going to be on anti depressants. I heard you were working on a another book. I would like for you to talk about more about different types of anxiety and symptoms and how will the medication help you better with anxiety and panic attacks and anxiety attacks and depression. Also the different types of medications and how will they help you psychically and mentally ? How therapy CBT helps to? Also what side effects?

@poohbear0320 3 года назад

can you give links to feelings charts you use with patients?

@pamelamadore6811 3 года назад

Hi Kati. I am 61, have a long history of traumas from childhood and long into my adult life. A few years ago I found a wonderful counselor and I got through some present stressful issues. Yeah me! But than he retired, Boo for me :( I have my past traumas that have kept me in a state of isolation for many years. I was only getting the courage to talk about them. So now I have a new counselor yeah me! :) But this is my problem: when I listen to him and yourself I get embarrassed because I look at my counselor and go geezz shouldn't I be over this? Or do I seem so dumb, because here I am having the same issue as a teen or young adult has. What can I do to help myself to not be so embarrassed because to talk about these old issues?

@uknow2908 3 года назад

Eleventh!

@jennyvaldez5746 3 года назад

#Katifaq Also I have therapy this weekend coming up and my mom and family have told me that I should talk about my moods. They think that sometimes I’m happy and other times I’m mad. But like I told my therapist sometimes things would remind me of something that happened or if someone says something that reminds me of someone else that has said that. I would be mad all day and won’t get over it. Other times I’m mad and I don’t know why or I’m sad. I know that depression can affect moods. But could there be a specific name for example if it’s a mood disorder ? I know Bipolar disorder and Borderline personality disorder but is there any other? Thank you Kati! Love your videos ❤️

@vegetator 3 года назад

I watch this to study English I am Korean

@tanhuang_nua 3 года назад

Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out for a long time but I'm afraid of trusting someone else and can't find any reason that reaching out will improve my conditions even a little.. Is it really worth it?

@AbbyJenna 3 года назад

Yes, it's really worth it.

@rinasoriano11 3 года назад

Does anyone know where we can submit questions anonymously? Thank you!

@aaronsc1936 3 года назад

You used to have a meditating frog in previous videos... do you sell it? Where can I find it? Tried amazon Anyway.... I’ve worse than ever but im watching your videos and they help... so, thanks 🙏🏼

@OTDM 3 года назад

Hmmm

@aaronsc1936 3 года назад

*ive been

@haisesasaki3944 3 года назад

I finally got my mid-year vacation and I had a shit of plans but I couldn't do a thing because I have pneumonia and I'm so fucking tired.

@kareywhitfield7050 3 года назад

If someone lies cheats .has lack of impulse part of depression

@mirandacharles8239 3 года назад

#katifaq I’m a new counseling intern and I find myself experiencing major imposter syndrome. After every session with a client, I find myself spiraling into this negative thinking loop leading me to thinking I’m horrible at this and shouldn’t be doing this. With that said, I know that I have the skills within me because that’s why I chose this field. Help!!!