12 Harsh Truths You Need To Accept To Live a Happy Life 

As an old woman I found everything in this video to be accurate to real life. One of the quickest way to become unhappy is looking for approval form others, it gives them a lot of control over your life.

1) Avoid bad people, doesn't matter what relationship they are to you.

I’m 47 and the best advice I’ve ever had is some people will bring out the best in you and some people will bring out the worst in you isolate the ones that bring out the worst in you

Chasing money, materialism, listening to others, not pursing your dreams, always following the crowd, obeying authority when you know it's wrong, close mindedness, scared of reality, not wanting to know the truth, living a life of illusions, afraid to leave your comfort zone to try new, something different, you know is much better, I could keep going, but won't, is a sure way to be unhappy, especially in your old age. When you look back, and think about what you could have done, could have been, having the opportunity to, and choosing not too!

Don't ever feel that "I'm too old to do that now..." where there's life there's hope...go find your dream no matter what stage of life you're at...

This is my own: "Even a little exercise is better than no exercise." On days when I'm not motivated, I remind myself every little bit adds up.

Being spiritually rich, having healthy habits, making enough money for basic needs (food/shelter), creating a routine, and having loved ones/non-toxic people around are key to happiness. Life is your choice (with limitations); be content, be happy.

Understanding you aren't a victim, and you have choices is empowering. ❤️

I am 53 and agree with this list 100%. Young people, listen to this video over and over, write down each item and think about them long and hard. It takes a lifetime to learn these things on your own. You'll save a lot of time just accepting them now and putting them into practice.

As a Loan Officer I can tell you that the people you're comparing yourself too are living beyond their means, BIG mortgages, car payments, credit card debt, I would never want to compare myself to those people. Remember, when you go by that McMansion with the sweet cars, those people have HUGE DEBT you wouldn't want. Looks pretty on the outside, neurotic hell on the inside.

My favorite feeling is being content and thankful. If my three children are well, that’s good enough for me

#1 and #7 were the toughest to realize. Les Brown summed up both in, "Eighty percent of people are indifferent about your success and twenty percent are pleased for your failure."

The biggest lesson I learned so late in life is that we can be happy from day one, if you can control your mind you can control your emotions and happiness, I reached that point with meditation, when you find the meditation that works for you you unlock the doors to a different life.

Another one to add (perhaps many more can be added) Accept that many relationships have a "lifespan" or "season" - many repationships will come and go / or fluctuate at least in depth or importance - its normal and often no ones fault. Enjoy a relationship while its in your life.

It's not often you find this much accurate life advice in a RU-vid video. I'm 52 and find almost all these assertions to be true. Kudos, Brainy Dose!

I definitely get the fear part. I realized my fears contributed to several anxieties, and I realized I was not progressing spiritually or socially. Life is out perception of it sometimes, and I need to face some fears to really live again

I think the things I've learned in life as I get older is that I don't worry what people have to say. I don't take compliments any more seriously than I do criticism. Wake up everyday and give it a 100% everytime. But no matter, there's always someone who'll say shit. And don't be afraid to fail. As long you keep trying you'll get there.

What works for me is keeping it simple. A-- attitude B-- behavior C-- change

Being a sensitive person and thinking about others more than myself really exhausted me and your vedios made me to realize the reality that nobody cares about your 99.9% perfectess but only cares about the remaining 0.1% imperfectness so thank you very much

The most important fact that so many people seems to constantly forget: LIFE IS NOT FAIR! The sooner you realize the sooner your life will get better.

Yes, as an older woman I found these to be true. In my mid forties I realized that my life was the result of MY choices. That’s when I realized I always have a choice. I may not like the choices but there’s always one that is better than the other choices. That was the beginning of my journey to learn these truths. So glad I embarked on this journey…no regrets and still traveling up this road.

The "your expectations are what cause disappointment" hit hard, cause of how true it is. I can't tell you how many times something didn't go my way and I become super depressed because of how high my expectations were set.

My mother is 85. She still asks me what would people think all the time. I always say to her, do these “people” pay your mortgage or upkeep, if not why do you care what “they” think? Building confidence by congratulating self with every inroad, especially small victories (like cooking at home, having a budget, complete a 5k race etc.). Negative self talk is really damaging. My mother talks herself down often, telling me she’s stupid or a failure.

I like the statement “Be a better version of yourself”. It’s amazing how things will fall into place when you do that.

I m a college student. i was a kind of guy who is everyone’s good friend but no one’s best friend. Everyone liked me I wanted that way actually. After graduation, I had to answer something that changed my life. Question was “What makes you, you” Then I realized that I lost my true identity to please everyone. I was no longer my own life’s main character. So if you’re reading this, instead of trying to be liked everyone, its better to have few people around who can accept the way you are.

One of the best traits a happy person can have, is to not let anything get you down, or allow anybody to bring you down. Although this generally comes from experience, when you've been knocked down so many times in life, you learn to not get upset over it.

The first thing to understand is that there is no such thing as being happy all the time humans are blessed with a wide array of emotions get used to feeling them 👍😊

I'm only 30 and I'm happy that it's this early I understood this list is accurate. My ex had many of the shortcomings this list says, regardless of how many times I tried to get it through her thick skull that she's going wrong about many things, she wouldn't listen. I got miserable being with her because she was just never happy yet chose to not do anything about it. Being with her really taught me a lot of points in this video are very real.

4) Is so important....if things aren't going well, it is incumbent on us to make the changes we wish to see. So often we get paralyzed by fear.

He has it right. Listen to him. I'm old. 78. I have had a successful life financially. But that success came from loving my work. I'd have done it for free. That is where the joy came from. Love of occupation and family. Financial success does give you a more convenient life, but not necessarily a happy life.

I'd add #11: Life is about learning and growing and, after a certain age, growing becomes a choice - one that has to be made again and again. The most unhappy people who you will meet are stuck in a particular mindset based on what they thought they knew at the time. These people chose not to grow or fail to understand that they must chose to do it which is the same thing. It takes work and can be uncomfortable since you're frequently pushing yourself outside of your own comfort zone. But over time, it will become habit and the process of learning becomes easier. The more you learn and know, the more able you will be to chose the direction of your life, thinking about and reasoning your way through difficulties rather than just emotionally reacting to events that you don't really understand.

I would agree with all of those and add one. The more meaningful relationships you develop, the richer your life tends to be. These are the people in your life that pull you into things you wouldn't normally have done otherwise, only to find you enjoyed it, in spite of yourself. I've also found that the more people you care about, the more you tend to care about people in general.

I’ll add one of the most truthful, yet one of the most painful; Not everyone will “find love”. Dating, courtship, sex, marriage has ZERO obligations to hand to you. It’s far better to have the attitude of “Treat others the way you want to be treated” and hope for the best. But you cannot pick and choose and give the best treatment to the “hot and desirable” sets…you have to be consistent with everyone out there, North Pole to South Pole. Love is very, very much a lottery, and owes no one anything. Wise up.

One thing is for sure - don't trust everybody, and many ppl are nowdays being selfish and superficial, cruel.

Number eight, regarding there is never a right time to start doing something. I Would like to add my personal take on the matter and say that there is a right time to start doing something especially when it is something good and beneficial, the right time is the exact moment it popped into your mind and you think about it begin acting upon it immediately.❤

Two rules I live by: attitude is everything and peace lies within, not outside of you.

Try not to confuse happiness with money DIRECTLY, money and happiness are tied INDIRECTLY. One of the biggest advantages is offering freedom, time and peace of mind (it's not material things at all)

No matter how hard you portray yourself to be good in people's eyes there will always be someone that will look bad at you.. rest easy just so be yourself, trying to be someone your not will only exhaust you and end up doing the opposite.

I resigned from my Job yesterday Excellent salary but that is it I have been so low and miserable about it for months I am a little worried about how things will pan out but l feel as if a weight has been lifted from my being- take responsibility, it is fearful at times but life is short and we only get 1 go

As a man who has seen more decades go by than I care to say, these are all spot on. I have lived a happy life; it wasn’t all gumdrops and roses but happy overall. It took until I was around 25 before I gave up on what other people thought about me or said what I should do. I broke away from societal norms and started doing what I wanted to do. My philosophy is that all I asked of others is to leave me alone, I promise not to infringe on your rights as long as you don’t infringe on mine. If I determine that I need your help or advice, I will ask for it but don’t force it on me. Conversely if you ask for my advice or help, I will provide in kind. I have very few close friends, and many acquaintances…there is a difference. Friends I care about, acquaintances I care about as fellow human beings however I really don’t give a hoot about what they think about me, and vice versa. For example, I am an avid hunter and fisherman. I enjoy harvesting game for my family’s consumption. I have family members that think I’m a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal, but I don’t care. I hunt anyway because I enjoy being in the woods, and I enjoy an awesome source of the best protein available from Mother Nature. Another thing is about family. You can choose your spouse and your friends, but family not so much. Just because you share DNA with another individual doesn’t mean to have to like them, nor should you care about what they think or say about you. I get along with my siblings, however my wife has a couple rather vexatious and troublesome ones. They cause more anxiety than good to put it politely, so you need to cut them loose from your life. You can associate with them, communicate with them, but you need to let the cruel and hurtful things they say and do roll off you. Easier said than done I know, but I’ve learned to do this through years of practice. If there is some sort of family get-together that you don’t want to attend…then simply don’t go. Let them think what they want to think; they’re going to anyway, and you’re not going to change that. Many might think I’m a loner or an introvert, but I really don’t care…I’m happier that way.

1. Don't burden someone else with responsibility for your well being. If you're cannot find solitude alone, you are doomed. 2. Happiness means integrity between your actions and your genuine needs, not what society wants out of you. If you care about social pressures, others will eat you alive. 3. Only trust animals.

It took me 71 years to learn these! I wish that I had heard this way back in my 20’s. I could have saved myself some misery. Great ego check!

Here are a few things I have garnered over the years. "Wear life like a loose garment. Feelings aren't facts. We are responsible for our own happiness. Don't compare your insides with someone else's outsides. By helping others we can actually hep ourselves. I am not responsible for others' feelings. You spot it, you got it (it takes one to know one). If you want to get out of the hole you have dug, the first thing is to stop digging. Don't give up because one more effort (blow of the metaphoric hammer) could bring success. Another version of that last one is, don't give up before the miracle happens. Charity begins at home (deep one). The opinions of others, the people, the places, and the things in Life are like a Smorgasbord, you can pick and choose what you like, need or want, and leave the rest." Those are enough for now.

Looking in the mirror can be scary, there's the image we want to see, and then there's the reflection staring back at us that can't be denied. Excellent video!!!!

I disagree with the money part. Life was so hard when I was poor. Never had money to go to the doctor when I was sick or pay the standard bills like utilities . Now that I have some money life is great I wouldn't never want to go back to that life

Thank you! #13 When you are going down the road of life and you see the fork in the road of Gratefulness or Resentment choose the joyous route of Gratefulness over the angry, victim route of Resentment.

Yes the doormat resonated with me. I accept way too much as forgiveness but really it’s allowing others to treat me badly. Noted 👍

Yup my husband mentioned he always wanted to try cross country sking so I asked him why he never did. He said "Eh, I don't know. I just never got the opportunity." What? Really? I quickly taught him he needs to create his own opportunities. You work, your bills are paid, you have some money, you're going to the ski shop! And that was his Christmas gift to himself (and kind of from me) that year.

When someone is picking a fight with you stop reacting it’s what they want they might disappear if u don’t react . This is my new way of thinking ignore the negativity yes . I don’t compare myself to others can’t remember the last time I did this and it feels great . Great video

To be happy, just be yourself and don't compare with others as you are an unique person..

3 harsh truths... Life can get shit, deal with it or yr live a hellish existence & every day of that is also a waste. Be nice to others & life will be so much better. Don’t feel you are being selfish by loving yourself in a caring way this is vital. Be free (that’s a given) 🙏🏼

Thank you so much for posting this video. I thought the rules were very wise. Not only am I going to have my children watch them, but I'm literally going to print them out hang them up and review them daily. Accepting these hearth truths in life, will truly probably make life better. Thanks again

“You live the life you create for yourself” Not always.

Man.....you got me crying. I am only 40 and have tried to share this to a certain person that has been in my life for years as I have been through hell and back in many ways and medical issues, I got a wake up call because of my past.....you are taking the words right out of my mouth. Thank you for making this.

It’s a choice to be offended or not. It’s a choice to be happy or sad.

When you have problems look toward yourself for the moment (s) your decisions contributed to it. The worst human flaw in my opinion is lying to ones self, we justify why we're right and someone else is wrong. Like the man said "Be accountable.) Accountability breeds maturity learned lessons and wisdom. Accountable humbles and strengthens emotional stability; it makes you able to handle things that in the past may have devastated you to some degree. The path inward shows you the road to success and happiness. It doesn't cure all as we all have challenges; it's part of life as well.

"You can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality." - Ayn Rand

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. You can do it.

As an old man, I found that it is helpful to become calm and deliberate in your approach to what is important to you. The stuff mentioned in this video, should be important to you. Being happy is a decision. Short-cuts, more often than not, result in false starts and frustration.

#1: So much for all that “you are all special“ rubbish they kept saying in school. And, btw, it especially applies to the internet. You may feel you have to defend your points, but, in two weeks, nobody is going to care. Oh, and don’t be offended on behalf of others, either. Thanks for the video!

Be true to yourself, don't be over-romantic about the things that important. Be yourself, that always works🍀

One of the best lesson I learned from my dad...life is not fair. At first I didn't understand, then the light bulb went on.

Speaking of "choice", I once told my kids that the only things we can't choose are our parents, where we are born, and when we were born. Almost everything else, we'll end up having some choice in. Especially once we become adults.

No 1 - make sure your happiness is not controlled by someone else, but is controlled by you !

I’m glad i found all of these methods through spirituality and maturing as a teen, life may not be where i want it to be but i’m happy every step of the way.

I found them easy truths to accept! - Many of these were a part of my Cognitive Behaviour Therapy program - and this broke a 15 year + period of anxiety depression. I felt like I was given a new start on life when I challenged my thoughts. I am a happy chappie now!!!

Expectations and Gratitude are 2 keys to happines. Be thankful and don't expect anything from anyone

This is so true. I had always wanted to be a writer. For years I had been putting off writing a novel about returning to try to win back my first love after eight years apart. I kept telling people about it and how one day I would do it. This continued until my little sister (who had been pushing me to do it) was killed. I saw that life was too short to be putting it off. So, four years of writing it on my iPhone, eight complete re-writes, 120 rejections from agents and publishers later, that book made me an award winning author.

There is No Perfect Time is GREAT to hear.... I have played with friends musically---and we were "never good enough" and had to wait til we were really good, in my opinion---but, just taking the show on the road was GREAT!!! It was fun an great to know that our adrenaline and the reality of the feedback was utterly real and brought out a different side of all of us performing!!! 🔥🔥🔥

I found one sentence in this video, which is beyond brilliant, it is genius! It is this one: "The perfect time does not exist". It's like a revelation. It's not necessarily something we don't know, but it's something we have to realize. Thank you very much!

"Few people attain a happy life." This is why I wonder why so many people have kids. At best, it's a coin flip whether or not they'll get through it happily.

I would also say if you find you have broken or are breaking any of these rules don't beat yourself up about it. Be kind to yourself and learn from your mistakes whilst realising that nobody gets it right all the time. Practice does not make perfect but it does lead to considerable improvement.

Have faith Have good character Have good work ethics Be kind,give ,..try to pay forward

Great lessons here, now consider living your life by doing the opposite of each of a few of these 12 truths for others: 1) help someone feel important to you, 2) show genuine likeness to others, 3) show others you like them for who they are and not for what they have, 4) don't try to show others that you do things better than they do.

I read a great quote. “ confidence isn’t, they will like me, confidence is, I’ll be ok if they don’t like me.

Why I keep quiet. I may be happy with my life, but I do not have the luxury to express it, because I have no doubt that someone or something will always try to make things harder for me for some selfish reason. I don't waste time teaching or providing helpful information, because too many people don't listen or they do not take the advise, and it is much easier to let them fail while I am silent and go on my way. Good Samaritans are often killed for simply being around.

My mistakes/hardships in life are all on me. I had a good childhood,chose the wrong path in early teens,but learned a bit later at 16 when I quit school,started working to support myself and later my family. Pretty happy with my life now,and have instilled my work ethics on my daughters. Sh@t happens,look towards yourself first to see if you did wrong,then correct the mistakes. Most times I was in the wrong,other times,not so much.

The first one, "You're not that important" is so correct. Once you get over how important you think you are or how important you want to become, then you can start living. Focus on being the best person you can be. No one knows why someone was born into a poor family and others into a rich one. A wealthy person is not the one that has the most, but the one that needs the least. Learn how to say NO. This is so important. When my friend came up to me and said, "My mom went shopping and left her cigarettes. Let's go smoke a few". I said NO. He said Why and I said that it was a stupid idea. A best friend is the one that says No to a stupid idea This also applies to doing drugs and alcohol. REMEMBER, no one ever picked up a bottle of alcohol for the first time and said, "I'm going to become an alcoholic" or for that case, a drug addict. If someone keeps insisting that you to do something stupid, they are not your friend. Say NO and walk away.

I’m 55 Brainy, this is one of the best slap face wake up, this is the real world platforms I have see. Spot on an nail on the head chats for future mum dad kids talks anyone’s put out there. Great job Thanks for sharing guys Paul 13.02 gmt Uk cheers

A spiteful colleague told me that I don't socialise with staff, I only have a few friends. I replied that I put quality above quantity, respect and value others as they are therefore have many acquaintances. That has shut her up for the rest of the time we have been forced to work together. Not everyone at work or even neighbours will "get you", it's like finding a diamond in the rough when you genuinely connect with someone so I value the few who I am blessed to have in my life. I have also promised myself that I will not lick the boot that kicks me - I am uniquely made and my life is too precious to be wasted on snakes in a pit!

Nicely done. And I especially like that you noted that once you accept these truths you will actually be much happier and less stressed. I would add: 1) There is no one true love out there for you or anyone else - just a percentage of people you may be compatible with. Once you accept this, you will never have a broken heart again. 2) Whoever is in the White House has very little if any impact on your personal success or failure. It's still a good thing to vote - but your life will not be saved or ruined either way. 3) Not everyone has the best of intentions. The next time someone gives you an exasperated "I am JUST trying to help you out!" - reply with a "Wonderful! You can start by helping someone else." The look on their face will be quite rewarding.

Thank you, I needed this reminders. Number 10 is my biggest hurdle since I get comfortable easy and fear the unknown, I hate that feeling, I wasn’t always like that.

This vid is so uplifting, I've been anxious and depress at my school,but then I watched this it's really helpful,I feel healed😊

0:35: I take a different spin on this. On one occasion I offered to take a grocery cart from someone who had just emptied it. I considered it a minor act of kindness (and convenient for me), but they told me they had had a very bad day, and my offer was a big boost to their morale. I would prefer to say that the importance of an event is different for each individual involved. You are not always the most minor (or major) player in an event.

Through up & down of life, you pick yourself up and strive to be the best person that you can be. Be happy for who you are & surround yourself with positive people & never be jealous of other people. Life is what you make of it and being kind to others is a great way to feel good.

They should teach these truths to kids and save them alot of unhappiness, really accurate video, thanks!

I am 64 years old and have seen, been through much in my life. These 12 Truths are 100% Right on The Money! There is a saying I live by; "I decided long ago, to never walk in anyone's shadow, whether I fail or succeed, I live like “I BELIEVE” With Honor and Integrity. No matter what they try to take from me, they “Never” will take away my dignity. Because; I will always live my life with Honor and... INTEGRITY!!! Bottom-Line: "Get knocked down seven times, get up EIGHT!”

It's basically just common sense. If you have a major crisis and feel like killing yourself or falling to bits, think differently. Positively. Then, you find empowerment and better feelings. Thoughts do affect feelings.

Thank you for this Call to Action for a rich and fulfilling life. Sent your goals, take charge, level your expectations, and most importantly walk away from negative people. I wish I ran across these candid yet invaluable lessons early in my life, but it is never to late to embrace them.

I really appreciate these shorter videos. As I am able to remember all the points straight away. With your 10 minute+ videos I have to take notes, so many times I think I'll come back to this video when I have time to take notes. Then I forget, your shorter videos fit comfortably into my break times and the shorter videos are more motivating for me as they are straight to the point and shorter explanations. You are very gifted as it is very difficult to explain things so succinctly yet simply. Thank you. Look forward to more videos from you.

Avoid getting involved with people with problems or serious issues as these people can ruin your life.

Okay each of the points in this video takes years to fully understand and incorporate into your daily life. This video really nails the path towards happiness, bravo!

When I was a teenager, I wanted to make a lot of friends. I wanted everyone to like me. It took me a long time to realize that I had an unrealistic desire. I mean, some people are just going to take one look at me and hate me. That's life. I accept it now, and I'm also grateful for the few friendships I have.

I fully agree with all but one. The last one I partially agree with. You can't always create the life you want for yourself. I recommend trying, not making excuses, and going the extra mile. Just be prepared for things not always going your way.

This video is completely accurate on all 12 advice. I wish I would of known just half of these things when i was in my 20s. But as everything in life you live and learn. I guess that all goes with experiences. great video!

This may be true in normal situations, for 'normal' people, but when you're something society as a whole treats bad, then half of these points will just land flat. That is one harsh truth that has been forgotten here, that you don't have control in everything in your life. From some situations, you can't run from.

Thanks for this video. I need periodic reminding of these truths some of which I learned as a teen, but I lost sight of as the years and the bad stuff of life piled up on me. It’s great to find a place to see and hear these truths, harsh as they might seem at any age.

I finally realized the full meaning of taking ownership of my own life when I got laid off, and had a lot of time to think about what I really want to do in life. I said to myself, "Now that you finally have all the time in the world, and are finally able to take a break from life, what is it that you really want to do with all of your free time? You can literally do whatever you want, and you have the time to write cover letters and resumes, and go to interviews for any career you want (while remaining well rested). Since it had been a good 6 years before I had any kind of time off or holiday, I was screaming inside because I just really needed a break! And I have learned to listen to myself in what I want, instead of people telling me what I should be eating, telling me that I need to be more social (when I have never once complained about being by myself), and telling me what kind of career I want. My favorite phrase that I hear people say (after telling them what I want) is, "No, you don't want that; you want this" and saying things like, "You did this because you were feeling this or that" (after just telling what I was actually feeling). I hope and pray that I continue to take control of my life, and I hope for you all to do that too! If you have toxic people in your life, get away from that person; you don't need to spend another minute with them. Do what you know is best for you. If you don't feel good after doing something that somebody told you to do, you don't have to keep doing it. God bless 🙏.

Absolutely true all that he say. I would also add do not blame others for things that you have caused by your actions. Many people should realize that their actions and words lead other people to respond either negatively or positively and the words that come out of your mouth are either your greatest asset or your worst enemy!

Thank you for not drawing this out too long, while presenting very important truths. This really hits home!!