16 Personalities Answer Questions About Their Dating Lives 

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XXFJs: "Love is everywhere." XXFPs: "Love can be anywhere." XXTJs: "Love serves a purpose." XXTPs: "What is love?"

"Love is dead and society killed it." Love the subtle Nietzsche reference.

As cold as an INTJ sounds, they have actually put a lot of thought into questions like these and grounded their expectations in reality

Kristin: "Are you dating at the moment?" INTP: "You mean carbon dating?"

As the barista leans in to pour the coffee, he throws a quick glance that clearly says: "I will do this for you for the rest of our lives".

INTP in the video seems pretty accurate, not quite as opposed as ISTPs or rejecting the concept of "love" like INTJs, but just going "huh, I guess that's a thing that exists".

The INTJ still hates TikTok, proving that the scene with the ESFP was from a simulation.

The INTJ’s theory on dating hit all the nails on the head: The dislike for shallow media, the phrase “emotions can’t be trusted”, which I have used many times verbatim, and the emphasis on shared values/goals rather than unreliable romantic attraction are a good summary of the approach. In my experience, the INTJ tends to view love more meaningfully as an action of thoughtful choice and dedication rather than a feeling.

"What do you look for in a partner?" Me, an INTP: "Congratulations on asking me the only question I've never given any thought."

The “are you dating at the moment” for ISTJ is so accurate, they always want to get married as soon as possible when they know they have a good relationship.

My ISTJ spouse hates it when I try to sing to her. I wrote a song for her once. Sang it, recorded it, playing all the instruments, then mixed it and gave her an mp3 of it as an anniversary present. She said she appreciated it. Then, when I hinted that I might do that for our next anniversary, she said: "You know, I don't think I'm the sort of person who really likes music." So, next anniversary, she got a waffle maker.

Man, gotta say, ENTJ was masterfully performed in this one. Everything, from the way that she carries herself, to the way she's dressed, the things she says and the way she says them. -ENTP

INTP here, and I agree only with INTJ's point. Hard to imagine an INTP who "never thought" about something. We have Fe, you know? We love to analyze everything, including emotions and feelings. It's just that feelings and emotions of others interest us more than our own, and mostly from afar, because we don't have desire nor energy to invest in relationships (caring about someone, actually do stuff you don't want just to please them, like turning on notifications to reply asap, etc). I'd rather analyze all love related stuff from a safe distance; books, games, manga, movies - they are great for that. And once you have enough data from your analysis of feelings and relationships, it's easy to come to INTJ's conclusion about it.

Put a like directly after INTJ said that being in love and finding someone are completely different things. That's what I always say, I mean, think. People wouldn't understand, no sense to waste my energy on explaining this.

I am an ISTP and well, I related to all the ISTP clips (it kinda surprised me) but I will say, when I have a crush on someone (which doesn't happen often at all) I transform. I internally become an INFP, but nobody would ever know. Just you. Person on the internet.

INTJ: I think the feeling of love does have something to do with it. Love and a partnership. Why would you want to be beholden to someone without affection? It would be a nightmare. You are never more alone than in a crowded room.

ESTP didn't even hesitate at admitting that she loved her car more than her own boyfriend! 🤣🚙

The INTJ one was so accurate. I've never met another INTJ in my life. It's nice to know that someone in this earth can understand me.

As an INFP, I don't actually fall in love that often at all. But when I do, I fall extremely hard to the point that it's an actual problem. I recently did, and it's kind of actual torture. I tried to call Amnesty about it, but they couldn't sanction my feelings in any way. Sigh.

"I don't look for a partner." ISTP, once again not mincing words, and telling it like it is! 😂🤣

I am an INTP by default, but I learned to play two modes when I feel too much pressed: ENTP and INTJ. I play ENTP when I feel somewhat comfortable, especially when my friends are pushing these kind of emotion-related questions. Not that I think any of it seriously it's just a bit more fun and not getting vulnerable. My other facade is INTJ, I use it when I need a bit more control of the situation, or in the very rare cases when I am actually angry at someone and need a vent.

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"Trust, loyalty and compassion... And they gotta fit into the box that I made for them" 💯% INFJ

You're getting really good at this. My only personal interjection is that when INFJs move on, they *really* move on. It's like a door slam on a two-year timer.

This reminds me of a convo with my dad and sis about the feeling of romantic love. I (INTJ) said, "I'll know I've found the one when the thought of being away from him makes me want to vomit blood." They didn't know how to respond.

The ISFP giving a random excuse to get out of an uncomfortable social situation is 100% something I would do and have done in the past.

Hmm, my two INTP friends tend to be really eloquent when they answer relationship questions. They tend to think deeply about ANY questions and usually have thought about the abstract questions I have. I think a better INTP representation would be, “Hm, interesting question. It depends on what you mean by love. If it is defined by xyz, then my answer to the question is…” (they usually break down the question and answer it with a carefully chosen diction). I also don’t understand why your INTP tends to wear geeky t-shirts because they tend to go for something safe (formal, plain, comfortable) or something their parents bought them, haha. One INTP I know in their late 30s usually wear a shirt and a suit for work and parties. His casual clothes are ALL plain and of usually of the same brand. The other one I know who’s in his early 20s tend to wear plain t-shirts, which I find interesting.

I loved the mood transitions, you nailed the triggered ESTJ (0:36) and ENTJ (6:14) :D

8:31 I legit said the same thing to my friends when asked what do I think of marrying someone. They cut me off before I could finish with 'love fades so don't rely too much on it' and called me childish/immature/heartless when I admitted that I'd marry someone who I didn't love. And sadly I took the criticism a bit too harshly, but I feel validated now. Thanks Kristin. Much love.

Me watching this and taking notes on how to attract the types and be in a relationship with them (and realising my chances are probably slim with XSTX’s which I knew anyways but still 😂) however I love ENTJ’s and the urge to meet one and breakdown their defences with my bubbliness and loving nature and overtime help them see they can love and that they are worthy of it and help them find it! The ENFP questioning what love is and that she needs to stop looking for her soulmate while still romanticising this idea of a soulmate is 100% relatable! Oh and the ISTJ “I probably love my husband” made me snort because I can just imagine my mum saying that. This is also a very nuanced presentation, and all the people in this video are very sweet and it’s just a very wholesome video! Also updates to the DKCU- the INFJ in this video who is waiting for her ex to get back to her is Becky and talking about Brad (the ESTP-you can see the start of this story line in the party video) who the ISFJ is dating! Loving this expansion to the lore lol

I am not an ENTJ, but I am sure that if I asked my two ENTJ friends these questions, their answers and their facial expressions and their tone would be EXACTLY as you've done them.

The "have you ever been in love?" ENFP is me. I'd actually would answer that! Spot on!

"Yeah, he/ she is with another one now, but he/ she will never love her/ him as much as I did....do" INFJ spot on

Yup. As an ENFJ I sort of dread people asking me what I look for in a partner because I end up talking their ear off because I feel the need to explain myself when really the girls I end up liking don't exactly fit that list 😅😂

The INTJ is filthy accurate here. I also feel like the INTP. Love, dating...how does that work exactly?

I'm an ESTP. I feel so called out. I broke up with my last boyfriend because I realized I loved my car more than I loved him.

2:49 "could you love an ant?" 🤣🤣

as an ENFP this video is a mix of a personal attack and a punch in the face LMAOOOOOOOOOOO. i'm a 23 year old that has never had a serious relationship 😂😂. it's concerning how accurate this video was.

Kristin just murdered all ENTPs (including me)! How do you know us so well? Kristin, how many ENTPs have you psychoanalysed to come up with those UK captions! I am too stunned to speak!

INTJ here. Your INTJ is so accurate. Love alone is not enough to build a family. I've chosen my husband in that way. I've been married for 10 years and I have no regrets.

THANK YOU! For iterating what I feel, there is such a thing as too mechanical. And dating-apps are the grinding millstone which destroys any organic love and mills it down to numbers and statistics about people. What about the chance meetings, the spontaneous connections, the joy from seeing someone you didn't expect walking around a corner? I also feel that I cannot properly convey emotion through text as I would through speaking to someone. I also heavily relate to having an absurd amount of thoughts and ideas for a perfect partner in my mind. But seeing you iterate the love I feel for all people I come across on the street, it just made my heart skip a beat and made me forget the rest of the world. *That*, that specific thing is exactly what I want from any partner. The ability to express their love for all things. You've made me honestly consider whether I should look for a fellow ENFJ to share our love. Holy smokes Kristin, you're out here sharing life-changing words with your audience.

You bring so much joy! Thank you for the time you put into these amazing videos!

Interviewer: What do you look for in a partner? Me (an INTP): Umm... someone who's smart, has the same worldview as me - which she will do if she's actually smart. Interviewer: Is that all? Just smart and stuff? Me: *sighs* Honestly... I just want someone who wouldn't mind cuddling an overly sarcastic android. Interviewer: Have you ever been in love? Me: Yes. Interviewer: ...would you care to elaborate? Me: No (I cannot reveal my feelings to anyone but my girlfriend because I have a crippling fear of exposing my feelings). Interviewer: Are you dating at the moment? Me: I mean... I'm not sure if I'd call it "dating." Me and my ENTJ see each other every day and hang out all the time but, it's not really "dating," you know? We just kind of met and, after a few months, were like "so, we're in love aren't we?" Interviewer: You see each other every day but don't consider that dating? Me: So, seeing each other every day is "dating?" Does that mean I "dated" my best friend when I was a kid just because I went out to play with him every day? Interviewer: Why are you like this? Me: Why shouldn't I be? Interviewer: *throws microphone at me*

ISFJ IS DATING BRAD NOW??? THE KCU (Kerstin Cinematic Universe) IS EXPANDING GODDAMN

Kristin you are my favorite! Never been so seen as an ENFJ. Your videos, concepts, and execution are all fantastic, and you step into each of the 16 types flawlessly

This is genius level work! And so fun to watch 😄😄. I am waiting for the MBTI types through ISFP eyes.

this was a really fun video Kristin. i felt the energy you conveyed with your emotional range. you're so gifted! ❤

As an ENTP, I take offense with this video, I fall in love everytime... I look in the mirror. Ah, one thinks perfection can't be achieved until you meet me. But then again, you have met me, everything else falls short, so how can you not be in love? Just kidding, I rarely if ever have partners, I think what I would search is someone that is very intelligent, both capable giving interesting perspectives to things, is able to prove me wrong but is also openly emotional but stable. And more importantly, doesn't involve emotions to any discussion or exploration of ideas, but can be quite empathetic. I have never found that person. I have tried a few relationships, because I was curious... it is terrible. Specially since I was once with an emotionally chaotic person, it was the worst thing ever. I have been with emotionally cold and distant people, it is better, but at the end of the day, I have tert Fe and do have the need to connect with people emotionally. I have been with emotionally stable people, but the person had nothing to offer intelectually, Ne Ti is above Fe, so i got bored pretty quick. I can deal with emotions, quite easily frankly, I have tert Fe. But because of Fe, emotionally chaotic people might be the oly thing that ever get me stressed. Like I can deal with anything, but emotionally unstable people. I can help a friend once in a while, that is like that, but to have that 24/7 it is hell on Earth. So I have come to the conclussion, that is what I need, I am not much of a physical person so how the person looks doesn't bother me that much. Mostly care about their brain, but must have a bit of heart as well.

1:08 Couldn't be more accurate, nailed it! 3:38 Accurate again, I also love the Nietzsche reference 8:31 Accurate again

When the ENTP first came on screen, I thought it would have been ENFP! It’s fun to see ENTP’s more silly side, but still very ENTP and very accurate (especially the UK captions with the behind the scenes thoughts!) 😂😅 Truth be told though, I’d love to find a human, but I’m 20 and never even experienced ✨mutual affection✨ let alone been in any kind of relationship. Am I just that odd that no one’ll approach me? 😅 ~entp

This was so fun! Actually laughed out loud multiple times, especially when your ad cut into the ESTJ’s answer, not sure why that was so funny to me

I love and am invested in all the characters in both the regular storyline, and the bizarro one revealed in the UK captions.

(ISTP): I "fall in love" with sassy confidence. If they know what they're good at whilst being vulnerable with their feelings... Deadly combination. ---> FYI: It's mostly EJ's. ; )

I'm an asexual ISTP who runs away from commitment and values personal freedom, and dang you nailed this once again

“I don’t… look for a partner.” “What is-what… what does that mean?” “Nope. ….Is that all you’re going to ask me?” The most accurate representation of an istp and their “love life”. Thank you.

Is it just me or this video's vibeezz were just... different 😮? IN A GOOD WAY ofc, i loved it sm and you nailed each and every one of types as always

An INFJ-ESTP-ISFJ love triangle, a murder mystery and confirmation that Batman exists. The lore is expanding, someone create a dear kristin wiki!

Wow this was hilarious. Also the first time I've really *seen* my sister in an MBTI sketch- thanks for doing more with the ISFP than portraying a walking aesthetic

I love the fact that you manage to make each one their own distinctive character. Hugely entertaining and a great acting reel.

Your filming struggles are plane to see.

My neighbors are an ISTJ and ENTJ couple. They met in college and married not long after. At "so I got one locked in early," I just about died. Yup. That right there. That's what they did.

1:19 ESFJ: kind, funny, that they somehow know my unvoiced expectations (& feelings). So true! If we're feeling sad we might act super happy/silly to cover it up, but we want you to notice and ask what's wrong. 😂

Feeling very seen, with my meaningful, emotive face. ❤️😊 Great job! -INFP

She puts so much work making these videos and working on this channel. Very talented, she should be famous

This is the video I can relate most as an INFJ. Seriously, was like watching myself in the mirror

INTJ is so accurate for me it's almost frightening. Nice. Love in a long term is just a deal. I care for you, you care for me. (and we try to take over the world together) When i was in love it didn't dampen my judgment but it was just second "false" judgment which was so irritating. xD I know it was wrong but it was there trying to blind me from flaws of another person.

I swear this channel is the only one where I watch the videos twice: first without subs to get the general feeling of the personalities, then the second time for the puns and/or explanatory subtext. This "alternative text" really is a clever gimmick to glue me to the videos, so good job, again! Can't comment on the actual topic, love life of any kind seems to elude me with all their force, so I gave up chasing it...

I love the waltz of the flowers playing in the background!

i'm an INFP who rarely ever falls in love, but my high ideals certainly do not help. when i fell in love with people in the past, did i just want to be their friend? i don't seem to fall in love much at all anymore, unless i'm already with the person... but i do get "friend crushes" all the time

As an INTJ, the first part about the INTJ’s absolute disgust for Tik Tok was incredibly accurate. I personally do not use much in the way of social media except for work, as I use other forms of divertissement such as reading, and frankly I think using social media overall tends to have a net negative effect on people. I particularly dislike the social medias that feature short 5-15 second clips, as it represents a lot of what is wrong with modern society. Not that I think people shouldn’t be allowed to enjoy such entertainment, but it’s indicative of a society in which gratification must be instant, and attention spans are non existant. It also encourages the unfortunate trend of “influencer” or “Tik Toker” being the most popular “careers” for young people, as opposed to something more productive and useful, like an engineer, or electrician. Don’t get me wrong, I think entertainment is important in the functioning of society, as without it, unfortunately a lot of people would be less productive, and turn to even worse forms of recreation simply in order to make their life worth living (modern society faces a crisis of meaning, and much of what’s filling the void is not healthy or sustainable). Ultimately, as a reasonable person, if a partner was ideal in all other ways, but simply happened to occasionally use Tik Tok, I would likely be able to overlook that. It’s what the use of Tik Tok is often indicative of that is the problem. Disclaimer, despite going through the process of creating a tier list of 30+ traits in a partner, and designing a multiphase guide on how to acquire a partner with another INTJ friend of mine, I have zero experience being in a relationship, as I have prioritized other things thus far.

Once again, very spot on INTJ. Also Kristin, I'm guessing the turning point that you speak of in the subtitles is either "What is love?BABY DON'T HURT ME" or the ESTJ preffering dominoes to Jenga blocks

INTP here: Look for in a partner: Chill, funny, outgoing but respecting my me-time and organized (like he organizes and/or doesn't get too upset when I don't) (Hmm looks like an ENTP would be nice) Fell in love: Lol no Seeing someone: Lol no

I love how the music shuts off for the Ti doms 😂

I love your ENTJ acting in here 😍 I really wish I could see you act in the big screens one day! 😊

Really appreciate all the entertainment of all your content - very enjoyable!

The are you dating at the moment question was relatable 😅 My bf (who got back together with me some months ago) is very concerned with being financially ready for marriage, which I do appreciate to a point (though he's an ISTJ not ESTJ). He doesn't mind poetry and music, which I'm glad about. 😊 -INFJ

I read an article once that listed the types of people each personality tends to date and the type they should date. For INTP, the type they date is whoever shows interest in them, and for INTJ it was no one. As a long time bachelor INTJ it sounded pretty accurate.

Love how the INTJ immediately defaults to what they DON'T want 🖤

The ENTP one is perfect!

Love the format of this video!!

ENTP here, never felt so represented and called out at the same time before...

Love *can* be an emotion, like most people assume it is, however I've noticed that the people who view love as a verb tend to have longer lasting and more meaningful relationships. My grandfather once told me; Love is 10% finding the right one, and 90% being the right one for them. - An INFJ.

As an aroace ISTJ who doesn't want to be in a relationship ever, I don't know what I was expecting before watching this but I definitely can see myself being like that if I did want to get married, the first person that is compatible with me is gonna be the person I stick with unless they don't want to, and I definitely agree with everything the INTJ said. Also I don't understand why would people get married before being financially stable. Great video as always!

2:26 I'm an ENFP but I have this reaction lol. I love people so much, but I've never been IN love with one. That concept completely flies over my head. I didn't realize people actually felt that way about others until like... 2 years ago 😅. I mean... what is marriage? Having a glorified, legally binding roommate? It took me a while to realize that I was one of those asexual/aromantic people because I didn't fit the stereotype of the touch-averse antisocial who has no emotion. Sure some people may relate to that description, but an absence of romantic/sexual attraction does not necessarily imply a complete lack/deficiency of love. In fact, I probably have TOO MUCH platonic love for my friends. I hug and squeeze them to death every chance I get, and I love to make memes out of them. You'd be surprised how many photoshop ideas and puns you can think of when you're determined to make a meme about someone. I love my friends so so so so so so much, but I do not want to be in a romantic relationship with them haha. Some of them have their own partners and I'm happy for them! They make each other better and it's wonderful to see your friends flourish. I can't wait to be everyone's bridesmaid lol

0:41 As an ISFJ, I approve this message

That camera is awesome! The video looked so bloody good!

I honestly think the STP types are avoiding the questions because they define love differently. More as an accumulated experience that deepens over time, so it's difficult to pin down and answer these kind of questions simply. ISTP is genuinely asking for a definition in order to answer the question, while ESTP is simply uncomfortable even trying to discuss it lol.

I am not an ISFJ, but " someone who chooses me... could be anyone " is just fantastic. Dunno if it was random but either way it perfectly describes the desperate Ne inferior in an ISFJ. They just need people to desire their Ne inferior with their Ni but people keep on rejecting them, almost just as often as they reject the immature INTP's Ne parent. Great interpretation there, wow

In love with ENFP's hair and also, wow it's been a long time since I watched a dear kristin video I'm hit with the awesomeness again

Now we even get caption outtakes 👀 you spoil us. “Not physically” aka “yes in that I’ve played out thousands of scenarios where we discover a mutual love for nearly everything I already love to do and hang out as friends which quickly grows into love and they are always there to listen and we’re just so perfectly in sync the whole time on nearly everything and we’re perfect soulmates for each other and we conquer evil together with the power of our love” aka “he took my order once and I said ‘you too’ and he giggled.”

This video is PERFECT, seriously!

The "have you ever been in love" for the ENFP hit too close to home, I have literally had that conversation with so many of my friends 🥺😭 I just fall in love way too quickly and way too hard, I kinda wish it'd just stop, it's getting so exhausting. Also, that paired with my inability to see if someone is being geniuine with me sets me up for desaster, fuuuck...

(INTJ) 1:07 Thank you, Kristin. It's an effective and immediate way to filter people.

Lol nice i enjoy your wit and humor! Keep up the good things!

I never thought about that either until someone asked me and I was like, "I don't know, I doubt I'll find anyone who will find my internal monologues interesting enough. Or that I'll be able to share them in a coherent manner in the first place, I don't know"

As an ESTJ - When the ESTJ said "How would I know that?": 10/10, very relatable and low key my response to any question about my feelings lol. Especially love (any flavour, not just romantic) is just super hard to grasp, how DO you know? Makes me insecure if I think about it for too long :D

I appreciate the soft blanket on INFP's shoulders & can relate to having an emotional attachment to certain trees hehe

Wow, spot on for the INTJ. Idk if other INTJs are the same way but "love has very little to do with it" is true for me. Id say why but that information can be used -INTJ

All of the ENFP answers are ON POINT ! 100% relatable