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ENTP who doesn't want a second date: "So, want to do this again sometime?" ENFP who also doesn't want a second date: "you bet I do, you cheeky boi!" ENTP: 😏"Alright, sell me on it..." ENFP: *does* 🥴 End of the next date: ENTP: "Want to do this again sometime?" 🤦♂️ ENFP: "you bet I do, you cheeky boi!" 🤦♀️ A simple loop, but quite unbreakable.
@@lunanighter7289 Completely irrelevant but why do you think that RU-vid requested to translate your comment to me to English in my native language (Turkish) and translated as "success" when I clicked the button xD it's just ridiculous
I swear, your INTP bits are getting even better: the internal monologues, the thousand-yard stare, the desperate awkwardness, the way the INTPs brain and body seem to be entirely separate entities. I have a special response for when I want to turn people down without hurting their feelings, "I'll think about it", which I will. I mean, I spend 90% of my waking hours just thinking about things so I probably will think about it at some point. It's truthful, but let's the other person down reasonably gently... I think. Although, I've never actually been on a date in the first place, I imagine the principle is the same as turning down going to a party or some such, right?
Hey I'm "courting" an INTP girl. Give me some advice(how can I make her interested in me, she likes k-pop, loves cat's, I don't lol 😀😁😂). And she's exactly like this. She's an emotion less creature. Im ENTP btw. I'm more of a heavy metal guy. Its hard to read her. I dont know if she's...into me or not......
Samee !! Sometimes i lost and i can’t focus with what the person is saying .. specially when making eye contact i just keep think about how am i gonna keep eye contacting
To be honest, I have found the monologue to be a big reason social interactions aren't very natural. Not to say you can't think in conversation but focusing on how I act and what I say in the convo seems to be more detrimental than helpful. It's hard not to, though, when it's a habit.
@@silverrain530 yeah, honestly I mostly only have these monologues with xSxJs and ESxPs and ExxJs I tend to be more in a natural state around others I think I’m just too aware of how different I am from them
Agreed, maybe it's because I'm an introvert, but I'd find it very awkward to suddenly be the centre of attention in what I expected would be a quiet date night between two people.
The best is when you excuse your self to use the restroom and grab the wait staff and let her know it's their B-day. Hey, you don't remember when their B-day is, it's just as likely to be today as any other. -ENTP
@@sunchips18 Fellow INFJ here, and I too feel the same way. I don't mind singing Happy Birthday for someone, but if its my own birthday, that feels very awkward and uncomfortable to a certain degree 😅
I love how the INTP lives more in their thoughts, than in life. As an INTP myself, I believe Kristen does the best interpretations and sketches for the INTP. Frank James’ MBTI vids are good, but Kristen kills (“kills” in a good way, not literally, just clearing that up before I send the wrong message out) it with the accurate INTP sketches!
Yes. IMO, she captures the INTP better than Frank. He leans a little on the stereotypes, and I am much less likely to relate. Still enjoy his videos though.
There's also a RU-vidr called Lili Aqvq that does a lot of Intp sketches, but a lot of them are just focused around that one type than others, she's also pretty good IMO
As an INTP I would deny this. You don't wanna talk and you are generally curious. So ask the other person's question, and usually they are happy to talk about their thoughts and ideas. You know enough about the world to keep the conversation going. The trouble begins exactly when you have to talk about your feelings or your dreams--> Severe exeption error on XD06D3FA284B. 😏
After putting myself into a few bad situations, I learned to say straightforward that I don't want to date anyone. I just need to add that ISTP-turnaround, because when I stay they tend to not believe me for whatever reason. I mean, why the hell should I say that in the first place if I didn't mean it?!
My sister is an INFJ and that was too accurate. LOL. How many times have I watched her go through the dilemma of not wanting to "hurt someone's feelings"? She became stronger in her assertions when she got older, though.
I guess this is something that’s easier for INFJ guys. Since guys are traditionally expected to take the lead in this stuff, we’re a lot less likely to get asked out by someone that we aren’t interested in and have to do the whole rejecting thing. Maybe younger me might’ve struggled (idk, younger me never got asked out), but having had my fair amount of times being rejected, I always know that it’s best for everyone involved to be clear and straightforward. So, I’d like to think I wouldn’t have this issue. Haha
@@sunchips18 I guess guys have it better in that respect. But, I can imagine it would be tougher to be the one expected to approach someone and possibly get rejected. (traditionally speaking)
@@bekah888 There’s pros and cons. You have to deal with rejection a lot more, but the people that you do go out with are people that you genuinely want to go out with (like, you’re not just going on a date to be nice or something.) Both sides suck, and dating sucks, and it’d be better if we just knew who our ideal partner was and just married them without the hassle, but such is life. 🥲
This happened to me (ENFP) a few days ago: **This was TERRIBLE, don't tell him that you want a second date PLEASE!!** Him: This was fun! Me: YES, I had so much fun!! **Mhmokayy... Tell him that you'll TALK soon. You can text him that you're not interested.** Him: Bye then. Me: Yeah bye...............SEE YOU SOON!!!!
And then I unintentionally ghost them once they text me to arrange the second date because I feel bad and sit on it for few days until it’s been awkwardly too long to send a reply 😅
@@lastell631 Not only that, but because they are so nice and don't want to hurt people's feelings, they end up saying "yes" to everything even if they don't mean it. So because of that they sometimes end up not delivering and they may disappoint people. Yes, speaking from experience. If you're an ISFJ reading this - please feel free to say NO. It hurts less in the moment, than prolonging it or disappointing people. Not to mention that doing things you don't want to do will make you unhappy in the long run.
I have to say, if a guy said, "You bet I do, you cheeky boy!" in response to an invitation, it would probably make me laugh and want to get to know them haha. Keep being you. Oddities keep us interesting ☺ ~INFJ
ISTP is spot on. Two months ago my esfj friend invited me to a "pride and prejudice" themed party. I didn't came, because I thought i'd look ridiculous dressed like darcy and I didn't want to spend 200 € renting a disquise. When she asked me "are you coming ?" I just answered "sorry I'm not coming" without giving a reason. Last weekend she invited me to an amusement park. Of course I came. Then she asked me "why didn't you came to my party two months ago ?". I just answered "because I didn't want to". Hope I didn't hurt fer feelings, she's a really good friend.
My older son is ISTP, and to being honest, it makes me raging, that he doesn't want to explain or to excuse. I'm an INTP and my brain is rotating by thinking of an appropriate reply just If I wanna explain the general relativity theory. 😂
Maybe take her a small gift and just say, "I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Parties just aren't my thing", and leave it at that? It's a gesture that shows you value her, without having to compromise your own preferences. Just a thought.
As an INTP that has an ISTP brother who is in an amicable-ish position with his exes (and still can ask them favors???) I yearn for that smooth social-exit skill.
I think as INTPs we have quite a similar capability for being socially smooth. I think we take longer to get started, but once we do we can be smoother than our Ti Hero Brothers. They undoubtedly generally adapt faster to new unforseen situations, but once we've seen similar situations - wether in RL or in eg fiction - and took our lessons we're probably better at them.
INFJ, but I really felt the INTP xD I guess it depends on how socially drained I've been by the date. If I'm ok energy-wise, I'll probably do what the INFJ did, but if I'm tired/drained I'll go fully "alien robot pretending to be human" (aka INTP x).
@@atnoc8738 I feel like I've actually bowed before. 🤣 It's like, when I'm tired enough my brain is like "greetings? what are those? let's spin the wheel and see which one comes out!" I once said "Welcome" to a co-worker when I meant to say "good morning".
The brain.exe stopped working part is exactly how I feel in those situations. Thought it was INFJ as first but then when she decided in the skit to text them I thought 'well I'd love to do it, but I think I'll feel too bad about it' and then later the INFJ skit addressed this exact thing lmao
I think we ISTPs have a bad rep - while we're not all in our feelings, we can be cognitive of others - especially in a social construct like a date. Mind you, it takes effort, but we're not always rude, lol. We can be both straightforward/blunt and polite at the same time - if we remember to do so.
I agree with you that we can do it politely and mindfully but it takes work to do so. I believe this was a representation of our base instincts or the base instincts of all the types. Basically this is what ISTP would rather do instead of what we might actually do. In that case I fully relate to her skit haha
I completely agree. I’m very empathetic for an ISTP, though sure it is harder for me to show it, I know the appropriate times to use it. In almost all mbti videos like this, ISTPs are seen as heartless and rude and that’s a hard stereotype to get past.
I thought the skit was a great representation of one of the istp's strengths--the ability to be direct without being rude or worrying about it. I often wish I could be more like that. What I would consider an extreme caricature of the istp would be the response, "I really would like to see you again even though most people would not consider you attractive," said with good.intentions and no thought that the other person might feel insulted.
@@rainbowdillard8581 There are many people that would consider both the reaction in the skit and your quote to be too harsh or even rude. Trust me, I live with this dilemma daily.
INFJ IS SO ACCURATE AHHHHH - It is sooooooo hard to say no and even harder to tell the person that you aren’t interested 4 dates later!! INFJs WE CAN DO THIS. SAY NO.😭
I knew the ENFP was coming at the psyching self up for no people pleasing, but I fell off my chair at “you cheeky boy” please stop filming my real life experiences Kristen, I BEG
I feel like the INTJ and ENTJ are reversed a bit? Maybe just me, but I would not elaborate on why they made it terrible and would just say no and walk away. I can see an ENTJ tearing the person a new one though. Also I thought the ISFP was going to be in a wedding dress xD
Same functions. Could be either one, an INTJ would only expend the energy if they were really irritated though, whereas an ENTJ would probably give feedback no matter what
As an INTJ, the quieter and less crowded a date location, the better. Some might find such conditions to be awkward, but if the date goes well, it will be sufficiently filled with intelligent conversation, or an intellectual activity, such as board game that requires strategy. Upon reflection, I realize that inviting someone on a date to a quiet secluded area might appear concerning, potentially even a red flag. I will consider this.
Ha! Yea. My ideal date is a long hike in the wilderness. It also just happens to be serial killers ideal date too. I will stick to a nice restaurant for the first few 😂
@@Benry1 perhaps a walk in an area with lots of people around could be a compromise? You are not wrong about that being a favoured date of a serial killer. And while I don’t recall the exact statistics, a decent amount of murders are committed by romantic partners. I imagine that if that is what you’re thinking of on the date, something isn’t quite going well.
@@failedsample-astra A fair point, but something like chess provides an activity that renders any awkward silences (should they arise) less awkward, and it allows for the a evaluation of someone’s strategic decision making process. Admittedly, eating, or walking also provide the former benefit, and both are much more common, and considered normal. The game would not be the focus of the interaction, merely a part, a compliment. Perhaps a game of backgammon during a picnic or something.
Walk in the park with a coffee and baked goods to go. People around, topics that come up while walking, possibly giant chess board, food as planned activity and icebreaker, Covid-restriction-friendly... buy broken peanuts as duck food to show how caring and environmentally friendly you are. Done deal.
@@thomasswrisky6734 Backgammon with a picnic sounds nice... checkers even. Strategy but easy mode for the first dates. It's good though to share that part of you (if you like board games). Then your date will be able to see your likes and interests.
As an ENFP I am not great at picking up on the signals that the other person doesn’t like it. Better to bruise my feelings then let me on- I’ll get over it in like an hour. Like I’ll be disappointed but appreciate the honesty. Also chances are I wouldn’t have even realised it’s a date 😂 I just like being friends with everyone. Like I started alevel at college on Monday and I’ve made friends in all of my classes so far. And like I didn’t realise how easily I actually do because it’s just gets easier the older you get. I feel like people either love us or really dislike us no in between. Also the talking yourself up in the bathroom or in your head having everything scripted so no mistakes are made. And then something totally different comes out your mouth 🤦🏻♀️
now i really want to see 16 personalities dating where each uses the main cognitive functions of the other one's shadow cognitive functions. eg- intj and entp lol, poor intp
Poor INTP is gonna get shredded. anything with those combos would be really interesting! as an INFJ I do want to relate to ENFPs, but boy oh boy are they ///exhausting///. I spend a lot of time doing social damage-control when we hang out.
@@ebwritesstuff2958 yeah intps taking one for the inxxs. yeah, i am sure it'd be interesting. even tho entps may seem exhausting, they are just really interesting to me. i enjoy talking to them. usually, they won't make me talk and they'd just go on and on about the most random things.
I have a tip for all of my fellow INTPs in this situation. Be noncommittal, and just never follow up. You might feel like a terrible person, but remember as INTPs we're not terrible people. We're terrible at being people.
My last ex is an INTP, and I thought how weird she acted was just how she is, and her social anxiety(I even wondered sometimes if she is on the spectrum), but the depictions of INTP in your videos are so much like how she is in social situations, it’s hilarious. INTP are so odd and awkward but it’s cute.
Ha. The INTJ is most similar to my thought process, but the INTP was my favorite. Btw, your timing with the editing of these interactions is impressive. Bravo!
You know i think that the intj, the ISTJ and even the ESTJ(only a bit) was the most romantic. In the same order. I really liked the intj and the istjs thoughts on the date.... for some reasons....😂😂. - ENTP.
You are doing the world a disservice by not putting a big "TURN CAPTIONS ON NOW" title at the beginning of the video. I laugh my BUTT off at the commentary in the captioning. Also, INFP would be accurate if I could ever find that way to being that articulate when turning someone down for a date. INTP has never been more #relatable, both to my INFJ partner and myself. Though when he saw INFJ he was like, "No, that's more accurate."
Oh, I love the choice of music for this one! Really adds to it! And thank you for making the INFP have some self-respect. 😭 Most MBTI videos might cast us as being so desperate to be in a relationship that we'll take anything, when that is not true. (And personally speaking, yeah, there's no way I'd continue to date someone who doesn't believe in climate change.) -INFP
ENFP here. I recently went on a date where I decided afterwards, I would gently say no if they asked me out again. They asked and I said yes because I panicked.... 😂
i kind of related to the INFP one and I was like "ah yes, lets not do the unhealthy thing which is get in a relationship with someone and try to change them, but lets try to change them outside of the relationship 👁️👄👁️", and then the ENFJ one comes up and it is exactly that lol
Got my INFJ sister called out so accurately 😂 And yes as an ENFJ we can be exquisitely cutting 😙👌🏻 luckily I’ve never had such a bad date as to warrant that type of response, more just a “sorry you’re lovely but I just wasn’t feeling it, I don’t think I’d like a second date”. I get a feel for someone really quickly so if I connect with someone well enough to make a second date, that’s a BIG deal. The first person with which I went past a first date was the first person I fell deeply in love with and thought was the one. So yeah I have a pretty fine mesh filter for dating but once I’ve found the person then my feelings snowball very quickly
Wow I relate to this a lot as an ENFJ, there is a thick filter but if someone can make it past the first few dates or rather the initial screening process, the snow balling happens fast haha.
The fewest productive times on the week watching YT is watching you Kristin , really , I struggle with the end of every video , and wait desperately for the next, thank you for your fantastic acting, fr ☺️
You nailed the INFJ! I was thinking what I would do before you played it out. I would not tell them face-to-face. I would just play it off and agree to it. But then I knew I would regret it. And I will definitely want to do it via text. Nailed it! Good job 👏
It's my birthday today, and yesterday someone got me a cake at the place I volunteer at... let me just say people singing happy birthday to me is one of the most embarrassing moments of the year for me. -INTJ
But seriously though, does ANYONE like it when people sing Happy Birthday to them? And more importantly, what is the socially correct/ acceptable response when they do that? just smile at them? Sway? It’s always such a deer-in-the-headlight-moment 😬
Yeah I even don't like that in my own house with only my family there. It's not that I don't like birthdays perse I just don't care for them and hate when people make a big deal out of it.
I'm an INTJ and to be honest I'd have to really like them to rant at them like that. Usually I just leave without saying why, change my phone number, delete social media (not that I use it anyway) and on one occasion moved countries. If they got me ranting it means deep down I still like them.
I love how you portrayed the ISFJ (me) and that it wasn't about cooking someone a meal. Often isfjs are shown to have very littoe personality in other videos:) you're amazing!
Lol, as an ENFP I can say this is accurate. Also, when a date goes really, really bad I will hide in the bathroom and talk to my ENFP mom on the phone so she can give me that exact pep talk. The good part is my date always finds me weird and won't ask me out again. Win, win.
i think part of it is due to the fact that we know we need more information.. it can be bad in that even though there are tell tale signs that someone is not trustworthy we would rather experience it for ourselves than think a few steps ahead, or simulate the rest of the story in our minds before ending up in dangerous territory. some people just know when they don’t like something while i need to give a person at least 8 to 800 chances before “getting” it. as an isfp it’s good to surround yourself with intuitives…
I was fully relating to the INTP until the bow happened... 😂 But Kristin, you definitely nailed it with the ISFP portrayal! My curiosity always gets the best of me when it comes to intriguing and unusual people! As long as they're genuine and kind, I'll overlook their shirt being only half tucked-in. 🙄🥴😜 (Spoiler alert: this ISFP married an INFJ and has zero regrets. Would highly recommend this type-match!!)
As an INTP who's never been on a date, I don't have the experience to confirm this, but I can say I can 100% see this happening. Sometimes I used to do this after hanging out with friends (when I had friends). Except instead of the "bad date" vibes, it was more the regret of socializing. "Let's hang out again soon." **system crashes, dial up noises** 'They want to hang out with me MORE? This was my obligatory biannual social outing! I can't go out for another six months! How do I let them down easy without scaring them away? I like them, and I'm going to need them again in a few months.' "I will... text you... later? Yes. Yes, I will text you later." 'Why did I answer it like a question? What is wrong with me?' "O...kay? I don't have your phone number yet-" **But it's too late. My system has rebooted, forcing me to shamble back to the factory setting -- home**
INTJ sounded like an ENTJ on this one. We might think all of it, but we don't typically have the energy of the ENTJ to say it all. Our tone would be a little less harsh and more subtly sarcastic.
Kristin, you've done it again! Brilliant! The only thing is, the ENTJ would absolutely verbally include the "you fool" that you left out at the end of the captions. :P
I'm an INFP, but I'm more of a mix of the INTP (Which was hilarious *and* awkward at the same time) and INFJ (The overthinking was *spot-on)* in this TvT The ENFJ, I- ISTP was like, the least messy situation ;v;
As an INFP the idea of trying to convince another person to change their belief + spending time with someone I'm not interested in who might have romantic aspirations towards me = HELL NO, NO, never happening in a million years. I'd probably lie then ignore like the ISFP.
I 100 per cent agree I overthink and am awkward the whole time even on a good date. I literally am not a dating person. It is so awkward inauthentic and unnatural. ~infp
The real question is; Have Kristin ever been into a situation where she didn't know people were asking her on a date or didn't knew it was a date all along?
Entp values the experiences More than the person that Is involved sometimes. So i agree with the Sell it to me statement. If ITS fun AND you are paying i would go anywhere probably.
INTJ, I would say , I would actually say all that stuff but inside my mind to my self, I would never ever tell that in front of that person, that doesn't feel right but actually arrogant in terms of human nature. Edit: I think, that INTP one is little more accurate to me. Man that Bowing was so relatable :)
This ENFJ skit hit home 🙃 I've had some really bad dates and I don't ever say this stuff but it's what I'm thinking lol. I usually just say I don't think we made the kind of connection I'm looking for but I'm glad we had the chance to meet. I'm the queen of letting people down easy cause ENFJs aren't built to ghost people
Very true. I’ve never outright said it, but when I get contacted after a bad date, a huge part of me wants to talk to them about all the things they did wrong so that they won’t make those mistakes again
Sooo brilliantly done, it is traumatizing. And the INTJ is brutally accurate.. the skit and the actual thing the INTJ is saying.. nevah, evah do that.😎
“sell it to me!” hahahah I actually said this many times in real life when guys were asking me out.."imagine yourself as a product, now tell me why I should choose you"..and if an entp is interested in you, they'll be too busy convincing you to take them home("buy me!")
As An INTJ, I would probably think some of the things the INTJ said, though I’d probably never say them out loud lol. I’m also passionate about climate change, so I relate to the INFP. I might agree to a second date, which would give me time to plan out how to subtly steer the conversation towards climate change and change their mind. Then turn them down after that.
Ahhh Ni-Fi has me knowing if I want to date a person within an hour. So when a date goes on for 4 hours and I’m trying to go home, I eventually just outright have to say “I’m going home now” and get in my car and leave 😅😅
As an INTJ, I would think all of those things, but I wouldn't bother saying them-- sounds like an unnecessary and unproductive hassle that's likely to provoke an emotional response from the other person. ...Although the much bigger flaw in the portrayal here is the false assumption that an INTJ could or would go on any dates at all, bad or otherwise. I've got a 3.5 year streak going, myself.
INFJ here, spot on spot on... but I think I wouldnt even hv the gut to chase that person down but keep looping how horrible things could go over my head again and again and again till the end of time
Omg as an INTP this is spot on. I often can't hurt people face to face so I try to text them rather. Also I always bow a little bit to say hello or goodbye and some people make fun of it but I rather do this than shake their hand lmao
