In today's video and blog post, we are exploring the question...
How do you build a secure attachment style while being single?
There is no hard and fast rule about how you develop your boundaries and find a sense of security within yourself. It depends on your temperament, how well you can access Source energy, and how well you can identify your own boundaries, whether you are single or in a relationship.
I would recommend you think about the following areas….
What is a secure attachment style to you?
What do you value?
What were the points of contrast and contention in your past relationships?
What were the areas you found painful in your past relationships?
By asking yourself these questions, you are helping yourself to create boundaries. You are identifying and creating the vision of what it is you actually want.
Often times, the way we change is through something painfully catalytic, but it doesn’t have to be.
You can change from a place of inspiration vs from a place of fear, suffering or struggle. This can be equally as catalytic.
If you are able to move into a place where that is as stimulating for you as it was to wrestle with the pain and needing to earn things, then you will find a shift in your quality of life. I would also say you would probably find a deeper sense of faith in the Universe.
In another part of this member question, the word “triggered” gets mentioned.
Often times when people say the word “triggered,” they are really saying, “I’m having a feeling that’s hard and that I don’t want to feel it so I’m going to push it away again.” But the feeling doesn’t go away and then we become angry and frustrated and label it with the word “triggered.”
When you feel you are being “triggered,” you want to ask yourself….
Am I just avoiding my feelings?
Am I too afraid to lean into that feeling and to look at what that feeling is trying to communicate to me?
If there are intrusive thoughts about an ex, specifically critical thinking, then there may be apart of you that is asking you to look at this critical thinking that you have.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself...
Can you lean into the critical thinking?
Where is that critical thinking coming from?
What are you doing to pay attention to it?
Part of you lies beneath this layer of critical thinking and it’s saying, “Please look at me, and process this, so I can come out of hiding.” You need to acknowledge this critical thinking so that you are able to integrate it into you as a whole. Once you do that, you are able to step into a place where you are accepting all the critical thinking and feelings, so that they lose their “fuel” and don’t control you anymore.
Truly being triggered is when you’re being sent into a flashback and you are literally in that time and place from a past experience (sensorially and/or psychically, you believe, think and feel that you are there).
Unless you are truly having a flashback or being flooded (and if you are, that requires a deeper level of trauma work and intervention), when you want to say you are being “triggered,” you can ask yourself…
I’m wondering about this feeling…
Where is this feeling in my body?…
I’m curious about what this feeling is trying to tell me…
How has this feeling protecting me?...
Don’t try and move away and escape these feelings, try to lean into and look at what part of you is trying to be integrated.
If you are interested in learning more of what I have to say about that, check out the video!
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27 авг 2024